Why are men so weird?

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   sassychicposted 15 years ago

   Um so yeah got any ideas on why men are so weird sometimes?
   I mean seriously some men really need to get a life. I went to the gas station this morning and a guys was starring at me in a rather odd matter (maybe provocatively?) Well lets just say at my "chest" I looked up from the pump and said good morning he realized that I looked up and his face turned beat red!
   I wasnt wearing a shirt that was showing any cleavage or anything. Sometimes I really wonder what runs through a guys mind.

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      Triplet Momposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Actually I think I rather not know what is running through their minds. lol! That might scare me even more than I am currently.  But it would be nice to see a movie reversal of What Women Want!! Not sure who should play the main characters though, having a woman being able to hear everything that a man was thinking might make her go crazy!!

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      Poppa Bluesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      The average guy thinks about sex every 20 seconds! You can bet at some point that's what he was thinking about with you. Understand that men's brains and they way they express their feelings is totally different than a woman. Woman express feelings on a more emotional level, and men on a more physical. So if he was looking at your breasts, he was probably imagining you naked (this is a compliment, in other words he finds you attractive and physically desirable). He probably imagined what it would be like to be able to express his attraction in a touch, caress or kiss, (it's a mans way of saying I love you). Now you might think this weird, but it's not as far as men are concerned!

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      Tracy Jposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think we are weird maybe just misunderstood. Have you ever been out on a walk and come across a beautiful flower with its radiant colors gleaming in the sun? You stop to look at the flower and next thing you know its beauty has you in a trance. Your just standing there staring. Your not even thinking all your doing is gazing at the beauty of the flower. Men a lot of times wont fall into a beauty trance over a flower but give us a woman, sports car  or even a big plasma screen HDTV to gaze upon and odds are we will just stand there in a speechless stare.

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         sassychicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Oh my god thats it! That makes the greatest sense! That is really an awesome comparison and really interesting way to put it! Tracy J that was a very creative response! that makes a ton of sense!

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      guidebabaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I am tall and handsome. I have observed girls starring at my bottom. What do they have in their minds ?
      
      

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      Nickny79posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe guys just like looking at boobs...?  His mistake was being embarassed about it.

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         sassychicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         You're really starting to crack me up!
         What does it take to have a guy actually be a sweetheart without hitting for it?
         Why is it that you meet the sweetest guys when your so far from home and then when you keep in touch it falls apart?

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      Rochelle Frankposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I'm an 'older' woman  and most of us know what goes through a guy's mind.
      
      I used to be  fairly cute, but  never had your specific problem as my atributes were not too obvious. I do remember once when I was sitting on a bus stop, that a guy stopped to offer me a ride.
      
      I stood up to reveal my full figure (8 1/2 month pregnant) and he suddenly and unexplainably  pulled away...
      
      I'd say if you don't want them to stare, wear a belly-pack,. Othrewise, find another way to brush them off.   Be picky.

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      C. C. Riterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Toes! Naked beautiful toes. Gorgeous toes
      Eat the toes. Lick the toes. Yum the toes.
      Where go the toes
      I goes.
      
      Answer yer question ;-) toes

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   foxilityposted 15 years ago

   Pappa Blues is right, but I think they think about sex every 7 seconds. Think of it as a compliment and just because you weren't showing cleavege doesn't mean a man is not going to imagine what's under your shirt.

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      Poppa Bluesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Well I'm a little older and a little slower, but back in my younger days sex was a constant on my brain! LOL!
      One other thing, if you are uncomfortable by the looks, then be honest and say something! That will disarm the situation most of the time.

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   LegendaryN8posted 15 years ago

   If he turned beat red it was because he didn't want you to see where he was looking (which, playing the odds game here) was probably your chest.
   
   I gotta tell ya though, some guys don't have the guts to approach a woman they find attractive in that situation and say "yeah, you caught me - my name is Nate.  It was a pleasure to meet your breasts."
   
   Well, not in those exact words, but I think coming up with something witty to cut the awkwardness and share a laugh usually scores big points with the ladies.  I think some ladies like it too if you are bold enough to "go there" without sounding perverted or creepy.

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   SweetiePieposted 15 years ago

   Not trying to rain on the parade, but sassychic might be a guy .

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      Princessaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      LOL
      BTW Poppa Blues it is not just men... it happens to women too (most of them are just too embarrased to admit it)

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      sassychicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      SweetyPie, For the Record Im not a guy, I know that more and more these days people's sexuality is questioned but Im a girl and yeah im not gay or anything.

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         SweetiePieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I was just joking about that really .  It is just your picture looks like a celebrity, so I was not sure if maybe you were a man.  Several male Indian hubbers have female celebrity avatars .  Sorry to have upset you.

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            sassychicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            No its cool dont worry about it. I just thought it was obvious, but I guess its my minor mistake Im not sweaten anything, no wrinkles. jk.
            Man my boyfriend is a heartbreaker, (he lives 4 hours south, and the heart breaker comes from that!)

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            Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            SweetiePie, I'd actually say the same thing.  I think you can acquire a sense for this verbally when you are very word oriented--and I think you are...  There are people writing under kinda 'troll' accounts and comments from the outside.  To me, that reads like a man's conception of a female voice and what the whole thing would be like.
            
            Sex is frickin' normal.  When I was really young, guys staring at your boobs and stuff like that used to bother me.  Now I just handle it mentally and socially....
            
            What makes me freaked is older ladies, and stuffy types staring at your cleavage or what you look like in pants and making you feel like you're a slut or 'improper' just because you aren't wearing a burka or an ugly hide-everything sweater like some of them are want to wear.  The guilt trip just ain't necessary. 

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               SweetiePieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               I very much agree about the stuffy older ladies making one feel uncomfortable.  Back in the eighties when I was in second grade I had a teacher scold me for wearing jewelry and bangles.  She insisted I was trying to flirt with boys by doing that, but I was just a second grader!

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   Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

   I was dragged off to a bar with 2 other women. I wasn't even dressed for going out. I was wearing tattery baggy jeans, big clumpy boots (winter) and baggy sweatshirt, no makeup. The other 2 women were dressed to the nines..just off work (office jobs) yet...I was the one who had drinks bought for me and smiles from the guys. The other 2 women weren't ugly. I don't know what happened but maybe because I was the shy quiet one of the bunch trying hard not to be noticed, lol. I have no idea what the difference was but it can be flattering.

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      SweetiePieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I think many men actually prefer women without makeup on.  One guy I dated has always told me to this day he finds me very attractive because I do not pile on the makeup like his ex.  Also, I think men appreciate a woman who is natural and herself.

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      pgrundyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      That's the aroma of "I don't want you." Guys love that. Trying too hard is a real guy repellent. That's why women never meet men when they want to, only when they don't.

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         Christoph Reillyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         There is truth to what you say, Pam.  Also, it probably gives off an aura of self-confidence:  You didn't have to doll yourself up, slather on the make-up, etc., to feel comfortable with yourself.  I'm not knocking make-up either, but too much is kind of scary.  But some women look lots better with some, and for some women it seems extraneous.  As Hamlet said to Ophelia, "God hath given you one face and you paint yourselves to make yourself a new one," or something like that.

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   SirDentposted 15 years ago

   The guys who are really good know how to use a newspaper or magazine to hide themselves when staring. Of course, I have never done it myself.

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      guidebabaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Are you sure?

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   SirDentposted 15 years ago

   A man's eyes will usually go to the most prominent feature on a woman. Whatever sticks out the most, is where the eyes go. Be it breasts, a smile, eyes, hair, etc. . . It's just how it is.

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   Mighty Momposted 15 years ago

   Men who pose as women -- now THAT's weird:-)!!!
   I think it's kinda cute that the guy blushed. Much better than being a total pig about it. But yeah, men will look even if you don't think you've done anything to draw attention to yourself. Consider the alternative: How would you feel if guys DIDN'T stare? Exactly. Enjoy it while you can! MM

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   Mighty Momposted 15 years ago

   SweetiePie, Lita -- this is an interesting "side topic." Women making other women/girls feel uncomfortable about their looks. Anyone care to write a hub about it???

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      SweetiePieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I think this would make a very good hub request.

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    AEvansposted 15 years ago

    This topic is quite interesting and also hilarious, it is amazing that men choose to look at the breasts etc., however ladies we as well glance for a moment or two or three ourselves, simple human nature when we like something that we see , so it isn't always the men.
    How many love a man's tush or his hard body? Raise your hands if you do.

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    sassychicposted 15 years ago

    Dont worry about it. I just thought she looked cool. I was slightly jealous about how she  looked! JK! Anyway thanks for all of your guy's comments! Hey check out my hubs! please comment! Any comment is welcome!

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    Anna Marie Bowmanposted 15 years ago

    I totally love this topic!!!  I really want to go write something about it.  Not sure what yet, but I will come up with something!!
    
    As for guys, yeah, they are wierd, but not for staring at women.  That's just human nature.  Men (and women, too) seek out what they find desireable, and if they find it, why wouldn't they look?  I admit, I have looked (and maybe even stared, discretely) at a guy I found particularly attractive.  I won't deny it, and I am not ashamed.

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       Christoph Reillyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Anna Marie Bowman!  You bum looker!  Good luck with your Jeopardy quiz tonight!

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          Anna Marie Bowmanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks, Chris!!  Good luck to you, too.  I took it on Tuesday, and I guess you took it last night!  It was a lot harder than I thought it would be!!  OMG!!!  I hate that they don't tell you how many you got right.  And yes, I am a bum looker!

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    sassychicposted 15 years ago

    Thanks guys this is cracken me up! Truly funny! Anyway its entertaining as well.

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    sassychicposted 15 years ago

    Okay so new topic! I apparently have a secret admirer! So I came home from work and I found a vase of a dozen red roses already placed in it. I found a card on the counter that said "DINNER?" in fancy writing and Fudge. There was also a letter asking me to dinner and how the guy wanted me to respond ASAP. hmmmm. . . . . . .Im trying to think of who would do that, that knows me well enough or I know him, and he wants to take me out to dinner on Valentine's Day. hmmmmm. . . . .who could teh misterious dude be?.......

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    gamergirlposted 15 years ago

    What will your long distance boyfriend think?!

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    sassychicposted 15 years ago

    I dont know who it is. If it is someone I know then Im going to simply say Im sorry and either say I will go as friends or not go at all. I smell a fish. I am curious to know if it is actually my ex-boyfriend. He's been around more lately. Hopefully its not him. I would be really mad.

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    Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

    somebody put roses in your house?! while you were gone? .... ths jus creepy, lol

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    sassychicposted 15 years ago

    Ooopss! I ddint explain what happened very well. The flowers were brought to the door apparently by a delievery person. Not the guy. My mother brought them in and put them in a vace. My mother wasnt home when I came home from work. She left me a note explaining that they were delievered to our house.
    Hey gamegirl and Dame Scribe I got an email from Luke (my long distance boyfriend) The roses and stuff were from him for valentine's day. His dad is coming up to visit friends and so Luke said that he was going to be around and thought that he would surprise me! So now I dont have to worry about some stupid ex boyfriend or weirdo sending me flowers and not being able to figure out who he is!
    I sent my mother an email explaining about the flowers and such. Little did I know that it turns out that she knew all along about Luke coming up to MN and everything.

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    webjunkieposted 15 years ago

    Dame Scribe posted
    
    "I was dragged off to a bar with 2 other women. I wasn't even dressed for going out. I was wearing tattery baggy jeans, big clumpy boots (winter) and baggy sweatshirt, no makeup. The other 2 women were dressed to the nines..just off work (office jobs) yet...I was the one who had drinks bought for me and smiles from the guys. The other 2 women weren't ugly. I don't know what happened but maybe because I was the shy quiet one of the bunch trying hard not to be noticed, lol. I have no idea what the difference was but it can be flattering"
    
    Not all men want the the plastic fake bodies or the one "dressed to the nines" in fact for me it brings to mine  the  rich snobby models stereo type. While it has been many a year since I ventured in to the Social scene I know I would rather talk to a real person then someone that is trying ti look like a pin up model. The very few of those type of girls I have met in my very limited experience where not what I was looking for in Friends or relationships. So if you are on the market next time you run into the one that seem to want to chat with you in your real life  maybe you should consider it. The typical stereo type says that all men want girls that look like Paris Hilton, Jessica Simpson or Britney Spears for me personally I could care less about any one of these 3 people and would not even try to approach them given the chance unless maybe there where in dire danger or need help form a   car wreck or something I would try to avoid them

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    sassychicposted 15 years ago

    okay. . . .Thats interesting thing to think about.
    Luke left me a message! He said happy early Valentine's Day! I was so flattered that he took the time to call even if it was a message and talk to me! It felt really good inside!
    Luke's a true sweetheart! I havent been able to talk to him for a while and emails have been about all or the occasional texts or mesages. We sometimes plan a few "webcam date" when it works out.

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