I met this guy online and we both go to the same school..we share the same interests and I felt that we are alike. After a month we met and he was shaking I guess he was nervous and he said we'll meet again, but then when I talked to him online he told me he has a busy week and will talk to me later.. I don't know if it's true or maybe he doesn't want to talk to me..i'm pretty but I'm not skinny and not fat but I need to work more on my body..do you think he didnâ��t like me because of my body? ..i really like him ,so I don't know what to do..the week didn't end yet but we used to chat daily and now it's been almost a week! 
what should i do? should i talk to him again?
plz help

lost_destiny:

I think you misunderstand the point of these forums.  These forums are meant as a community interaction tool for people who use the HubPages, not necessarily as a place to get advice on personal problems.

Leave the guys.Start writing some hubs(articles) if you have come here,earn money give it to that poor guy who doesnot know how troubled you are and make him happy.

No prob, don't worry  I m here  to help u. Mail me we can talk about that totally

You know what? You need to be sure of yourself. You can be a whale for all I care, but if you're confident, and have a good attitude, I'd choose you over some hot chick that gets on my nerves. So be yourself!

Get the book "he's just not into you" perhaps you'll find some clues to his behavior. Personally, if I was interested, you bet I would be chatting every day, just my 2 cents.

lost_destiny--

Hon--take it from someone who has seen a lot over the years --there's more than one guy out there in the world!  If this one doesn't know a good thing when he sees it that's his tough luck and not yours!  If he's not that interested in you that he can't consider what you may be feeling, he's not worth losing any sleep over or shedding any tears over either!  Move on to the next one and don't look back!  It's his loss!


Maddie--sorry to say this, but your reply to someone who was reaching out for help and advice was cold.  I thought we were supposed to be a close community, here to help each other with problems.  If some of those problems are of a personal nature, so be it.  A little compassion for your fellow Hubber's moment of need doesn't cost you anything but the few seconds it takes to type a couple of lines of sympathy or advice.

The shy guys if you can get them to get out of their shell can be great.  Just be friends with him and get to know him in person.  Invite him to go out with you "as friends".   

Most men have a really hard time turning down an interesting suitor.  Coming at it from the friend angle takes the pressure off the shy guy.

If he is really shy you will have to make the first move most of the time.  Build his confidence.  Go slow, guys are not used to being chased. 


He is probably nervous that he screwed everything up at the first meeting.  Contact him now just like everything is fine...  No big pressure just keep contact like you were making last week.

Make it easy for him.  The hurdles a shy guy has trouble getting over.   

1.  Should I ask her out.

solve that invite him for a coke between class or ....

2. Should I touch her

After spending some time touch him, get close to him.  That is why movies are great.  Physical contact.  Put your head on his shoulder and relax.  If you are tense then he will be too.

There is probably a free educational movie at the school one night this week.


3.  When should I hug her?
After the next meet slide in and give him a hug...  break the ice for the guy.

2.  Should I kiss her

If he is still really moving slow
Cure that.  After spending some time take things in your own hands....  Slide in there when he isn't quite expecting it.

Good luck

Miss Ruud
I think you are wrong---It is an open Forum---I believe it is you that is out of line.

Hub Pages isn't all money and business.

My two cents

Bike Web Guy wrote:

Miss Ruud
I think you are wrong---It is an open Forum---I believe it is you that is out of line.

Hub Pages isn't all money and business.

My two cents

Mr Bike Web Guy
I think you are wrong---I believe it is you that is out of line.

I think you misunderstood Maddie. She was just pointing out that registering to the site and asking total strangers usually is not the best way to get a personal advice

Umm.. let's get back to the topic. Lol.

Well, maybe you need to give him some time. He might be too nervous. Maybe his parents is controlling him and don't encourage him to think about committing into a serious relationship right now. Who knows..

Btw, if he don't like you, maybe he's not the one. Someone else will come.

You deserve someone better

How about a simple chat message, Are you on holidays or something!. I am missing our chats.

RUTHIE17 wrote:

Maddie--sorry to say this, but your reply to someone who was reaching out for help and advice was cold.  I thought we were supposed to be a close community, here to help each other with problems. ..A little compassion for your fellow Hubber's moment of need doesn't cost you anything but the few seconds it takes to type a couple of lines of sympathy or advice.

Sorry if it sounds cold, Ruthie, but I agree with Maddie.  If this was a genuine Hubber - someone who had posted even one Hub - I'm sure the community would rally round and be supportive.  But this person - and others like her, recently - seem to be arriving at the forums purely to post about their "relationship problems".   In some cases, it's turned out that it's someone attention-seeking rather than a genuine cry for help.

There are plenty of forums about relationships where these people can go, or they could try Yahoo Answers - places designed for people to ask questions and get answers.

Honestly, I don't see what the fuss is about, if someone wants relationship advice, go for it, there are many people out there that would love to give some.  I was even thinking about sharing some of my online dating experiences over the last eight years! lolol...

Kinda jerk-ish sounding, yes, but Maddie is a moderator and a highly respected and respectable individual.  I'm all for challenging authority in the pursuit of better interaction and all, but not in this case -

Hubpages is not technically an "open forum" in the sense that, in order to post, one has to register to the site.  Registering to a site for the express purpose of finding relationship tips is something you do on Yahoo Answers.

lost_destiny wrote:

I met this guy online and we both go to the same school..we share the same interests and I felt that we are alike. After a month we met and he was shaking I guess he was nervous and he said we'll meet again, but then when I talked to him online he told me he has a busy week and will talk to me later.. I don't know if it's true or maybe he doesn't want to talk to me..i'm pretty but I'm not skinny and not fat but I need to work more on my body..do you think he didnâ��t like me because of my body? ..i really like him ,so I don't know what to do..the week didn't end yet but we used to chat daily and now it's been almost a week! 
what should i do? should i talk to him again?
plz help

Have you tried the Atkins Diet? 

Mark Knowles wrote:

lost_destiny wrote:

I met this guy online and we both go to the same school..we share the same interests and I felt that we are alike. After a month we met and he was shaking I guess he was nervous and he said we'll meet again, but then when I talked to him online he told me he has a busy week and will talk to me later.. I don't know if it's true or maybe he doesn't want to talk to me..i'm pretty but I'm not skinny and not fat but I need to work more on my body..do you think he didnâ��t like me because of my body? ..i really like him ,so I don't know what to do..the week didn't end yet but we used to chat daily and now it's been almost a week! 
what should i do? should i talk to him again?
plz help

Have you tried the Atkins Diet? 

South Beach is good too:-) Maddie is right BTW

Just another reason I love this community!  You guys rock!  Thanks to Maddie for keeping us all on target and thanks to the rest of you for helping newbies feel comfortable in this fun community!  Catherine

Dear despite all the negativity you got here, stick to the topic, I believe this guy is either insecure or not into you.  If he really likes you, he will contact you, if not, forget about him and move on.  Also, if he didn't like you, so what.  I am certain that you have much to offer and trust me, there is someone there that would like and appreciate you for what you look like and who you are, so don't lose any sleep over this guy.  Good luck to you,
Walter

firetown wrote:

You know what? You need to be sure of yourself. You can be a whale for all I care, but if you're confident, and have a good attitude, I'd choose you over some hot chick that gets on my nerves. So be yourself!

I agree totally! Hot chicks do get on your nerves most of the times ...hehehehee