Hey Ladies, Do You Prefer a Sissy Kinda Guy Or a Macho Dude?

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   fierycjposted 15 years ago

   Ask a woman, what she wants in a man, and half the time she'll probably say, a sensitive, loving, warm guy and all that. But a lot of women still prefer the tough kinda dude, better. Some would like a fella who can pull both, that is a tough guy who can explore his feminity and all that crap. Ladies, who do you really prefer?

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      Pearldiverposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Koh Nee Chee Waaaaa  What do you mean "explore his feminity and all that crap?" 
      
      I think lots of guys have absolutely no idea how to deal with modern women and their mothers.  Why would you need to ask such a question here? Why do guys always tend to generalise like you have here.  Times have changed alot in twenty years.. Put Your Club away man; it might indicate that you don't have a clue!
      
      The Two posts above this come from 2 x individual women.  When you get a response from another woman it will be different again.... Can you see a pattern in that?
      
      Sorry if I offend.... I was just exploring my 'feminity'

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         dennisemattposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Koh Nee Chee Waaaaa 
         my new favorite word!!!!!

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         fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         dude, shush it. Ladies, keep going please. Anyone who ever said women are the same, should come view this thread.

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            Béla Mongyiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Women are the same, at least on a generic level. The rest is up to circumstances.

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               dennisemattposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               i beg to differ

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                  Béla Mongyiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  I mean, of course there is a great exception.

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            Pearldiverposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            "Dude Shush it?"  Interesting point being made here fella!!
            Why on earth would you ASSume that I am a Dude? My Avator perhaps?  Hahahaha!  You wouldn't know a good woman if you fell over her mate!!

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               RKHenryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               Now that's too funny!

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                  Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  He would know if he fell over me ( but he'd wished he hadnt) lol

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                     fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                     Don't bet on it. You might wish just wish I had. Lol.

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               Béla Mongyiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               Don't bug him. We don't know Nigerian conditions.

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                  Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  Oh , what are Nigerian conditions?

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                     Béla Mongyiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                     He'll come back to give a more competent answer than I ever could.

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                        Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                        Oh thought you knew something about Nigerian conditions?

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      My Inner Jewposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      BOTH!!!! hahaha...one who can definitely be strong and protect me and who can also open up to his feelings...not all the time because i wouldn't be able to handle that...but when the occassion arises

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      wychicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Neither, they're extremes on both sides of the scale. Personally, I think the whole idea of "macho" is completely outdated, immature, and microcephalic. Unfortunately, around here it seems that any males from high school through their 20s still think it's the way to go. Get a clue guys, most girls don't go for the bad hygiene, obsession with loud trucks and loud music, drinking, and short tempers. Yes, there are some out there, but they seem to be in the minority.
      
      Loving, warm, and sensitive do not denote a sissy. It's when it's taken to the extreme and you have a guy that can't handle the trials of daily life because it's too much for his fragile emotions (no, I don't think this is acceptable in females either) and he becomes overly clingy that's a problem.
      
      Personally, I found what is, in my opinion, the perfect balance. He's incredibly warm and affectionate, loves to cook, always takes out the trash and such without me ever having to ask. He does believe there is such a thing as "woman's work", in that women should only have to do the work they want to and should never have to handle disgusting stuff such as garbage or dirty toilets. He's not afraid to cry when he feels the need, though he doesn't make a habit of it, and always tries to identify emotions before expressing them (the typical "macho man" has difficulty with emotional honesty and is much more likely to express any negative emotion as anger). He keeps his temper in check and will do everything he can to avoid a fight and will be nice to anyone who lets him. On the other hand, he's perfectly capable of holding his own when the time for fighting comes.
      
      Overall, I suppose my preference leans more toward the sensitive type than to the macho, because I really despise the macho posturing and self-centeredness. However, my ideal man is certainly not a sissy, though he loves nothing more than to cook me gourmet meals and hold me for hours on end.

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   Lisa HWposted 15 years ago

   A gentleman, which means neither a "sissy" nor a "macho dude".

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   Jewelsposted 15 years ago

   I like a guy who can go the distance in the bedroom. Is a little sensitive, but not too much that he can't handle Lillith. He has to match her intensity but know when to get out of the house when she's about to blow her top and needs space.  He has to pay most of the time. He has to know how to dance - waltz preferably.  He has to want to take out the garbage and mow the lawns and do odd jobs around the house.  He has to be half intelligent but not a know it all.  He has to be witty but not a smart ass sarcastic twit.  He must be able to be dominated in the bedroom as well as being tied to the bed posts.  He also has to be able to tie me to the bedposts - but geez it better be worth it!  I'm sure there's more, I'll have to come back to you later on this.

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      badcompany99posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Damn I was getting ready to be tied to the bed until I read the "not a smart ass sarcastic twit" bit, oh well there goes my night

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   Ladybird33posted 15 years ago

   Neither...smart, funny, a gentlemen, kind hearted, tough when needs to be and a great kisser.

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   Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

   Sissy or macho, only two choices? well presumming neither one
   of them is gay ,heres my idea ofchoice(s)
   
   A Hunter ,gatherer,courier,partenar,
   
   carpentar,mechanic,
   plumber,business man ,cowboy
   
   displaying emotions of honesty,integrity sensitivety ,fun and kindness to the elderly ,babies and animals.
   
   I dont want much at all    
   
   oh and yes I forgot to add ,when the woman says do these jeans make me look fat , lie guys , lie through your teeth!

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      Ivorwenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds good to me!

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   Ivorwenposted 15 years ago

   I like my guy to be a REAL MAN! 
   
   -A real man has a strong work ethic and desire to take care of his family.  It is not 'beneath him' to do what needs to be done.
   
   -A real man is honest and willing to keep his word, even when it is not to his liking.  He keeps his commitments.
   
   -A real man knows when to stop.  Likewise, he knows when he needs to leave, so as not to lose control.
   
   -A real man can hold his temper, but also knows when to fight.
   
   -A real man loves deeply and wholeheartedly.
   
   -A real man does not take advantage of another.
   
   -A real man is an awesome lover, because he looks out for someone besides himself!

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      Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      a real man is unselfish and that makes him sexy !

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      Laughing Momposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Yep.  That one.

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      Enelle Lambposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I think you got this right on the button...I couldn't have said it better

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   jasongifford83posted 15 years ago

   who cares? unfortunately for us humans addicted to stereotyping and categorizing, all kinds of guys get all kinds of girls... Its not about appealing to everyone of the opposite sex just the kind that will make you happiest.
   
   Same with business. If your market is everyone your market is really no one. You've got to find your niche. Once you do that you'll start making a profit

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      fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      all your hubs are probably all based on business and market.

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      Jewelsposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Did you have to go and get all practical!

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   Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

   cj..I might have wished you had fallen over me    you need to read my hub on luuurve...concentrated love

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      fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      You've got a great sense of humour, kiwi. I like that.

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      fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      You've got a great sense of humour, kiwi. I like that.

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         Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         well with some guys ya damn need a sense of humor
         what did ya think of my hub ,cuz I missed your comment cj?

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            fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            I done better - just joined your fan club. I'm sure I'll enjoy your hubs. As for my comments...just you wait...(sinister laughter echoes)

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   DonnaCSmithposted 15 years ago

   Neither. I admire a man of honor and faith, one who is creative, and compassionate, and can fix things;o)

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 15 years ago

    Fierycj.... shame I have a man already, as I think you would be perfect for me, always out there trying your best, despite rude people....... I love your hubs on Africa, make me wanna come and visit.....

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    goldentoadposted 15 years ago

    I like my men to be like Christoph Reilly.

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    viryaboposted 15 years ago

    I love men in uniforms. Pilots, Policemen, Firemen, Doctors. They always seem in control and look LIKE MEN!!

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    blondepoetposted 15 years ago

    One about 6ft tall, not hairy, nice teeth, cute buttocks, piercing eyes,in a Navy uniform, so next time it floods here he can come rescue me in style, bad, but not to me, sissy when I ask him for something.

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    fierycjposted 15 years ago

    I'm flattered, Bren. You're so Sweet. Your hubby is definitely a lucky sonofagun, no doubt.

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    belief713posted 15 years ago

    I like a challenge. I don't want a super sweet sensitive guy or someone who agrees with everything I say, but it's nice to be caring and considerate (and all that other sweet stuff most guys try to hide) ... very important - respectful. I'm also with Ivorwen on the real man stuff listed. I think some women are attracted to the macho tough guys because they feel protected with them. It really depends on the woman as we are all created unique.

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    viryaboposted 15 years ago

    In the Army, in the Navy, in the AirForce. YES!
    And Cowboys. Yes, i'm ancient.

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    Inspirepubposted 15 years ago

    My experience shows me that bi guys are the best of both worlds.
    
    1. They can talk about their feelings - and they like to.
    2. They like to listen to me talk about my feelings.
    3. They are both manly and sensitive.
    4. They make EXCELLENT lovers - in part because of the good emotional connection, in part because of their sensitivity, and in part because to come out as bi you have to be comfortable with your sexuality.
    5. They don't have stereotyped role expectations.
    6. They kiss other guys in front of me (now THAT was an unexpected pleasure - who would have thought that was so hot?)
    7. It's like being able to have hot sex with your gay best friend.
    8. They are not all competitive and testosterone-driven around other men, the way straight guys can be, especially the "macho" ones.
    9. They remember your birthday, your anniversary, where you met, what you were wearing, what colours you like, and whether you get on with your sister's husband.
    10. They are great with kids, even if they have never been around them and don't think they "get" kids.
    
    Of course, bi guys in many parts of the world are in denial, because of homophobia, and identify as straight, in which case some of these points won't apply.
    
    But the out bi guys - they are the ones to go for, girls!
    
    Jenny

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       kbloverposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Hmm...
       
       1, 2 I can do
       
       3 - I don't know what either of those adjectives means, if they even have a set definition, so I don't know if I'm either/both.
       
       4 - Um...I just like the lady to enjoy herself - if that's "great" then it's me I guess.
       
       5 - Check. There's no role - it's just get done what needs to get done.
       
       6 - Well - I'm out.
       
       7 - No idea.
       
       8 - If I am playing a game, I play to win, even if it's for fun. If that makes me competitive-driven, I don't know, but if I'm playing Spades or such, I'm sure my partner doesn't want me to play to lose because "it's just a game".
       
       9 - Yeah, just part of getting to know the lady, imo.
       
       10 - I think kids are fascinating.
       
       
       Does this mean I'm a bi-guy in denial?
       
       Dang it - I'm all confused again. LOL. At least I know it's cool to be able to cook (though, that was on no-one's lists. Ut oh...)

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    Lisa HWposted 15 years ago

    I'm sorry...  I want to know the guy is more selective than that.  I wouldn't be ok with the "visual images" a bi-guy would conjur up for me; and I need to know that it is only my "feminine appeal" to which he was attracted.   I think bi people need other bi people, and everyone else needs someone who has "chosen a side".   

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    Research Analystposted 15 years ago

    Sissy guys over macho any day!

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    A Man in Uniform I see...not a trash collector or Construction worker but a uniform of some authority , like an Officer , Law Enforcement, Pilot,Lawyer ....so to summize
    
    A Man Wwho Knows what The Hell He's Doing and Not Afraid to Ask for Directions 

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       moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       "not a trash collector or Construction worker" Such a degrading attitude toward manual workers.Well that is not your fault .you are just a trashy product of current culture.

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          Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Ouch!!
          I take it that was a little close to the bone ,perhaps

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             moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             That was close to the prevailing attitude in society.You are just a conformist-mob.

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    Inspirepubposted 15 years ago

    You want a man who will ASK FOR DIRECTIONS?
    
    You be single long time, girlfriend ... even my bi guys don't do THAT!
    
    Jenny

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       Jewelsposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       So are you saying the guys you no don't like being given instructions?  Isn't their main aim to please a woman anyway?  Or do they think they know what to do and won't be told otherwise?
       
       Lets get this out in the open. This is for scientific research of course.

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          Inspirepubposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Oh, feedback in the bedroom, sure - I thought you meant "directions", you know, when you are driving somewhere you haven't been before ...
          
          Jenny

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             Jewelsposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Well not to get toooo personal in the love nest, I was in one of those amazing experiences where I was about to go to the moon and the goof just couldn't control the launch pad, if you know what I mean.  So it's important to be able to take direction from time to time.

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                fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Very well put.

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       Ivorwenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       My man will. 

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          Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Yes Ma'am

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       Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Wow.  Jenny has had 'bi guys?' I never had that! 

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          Inspirepubposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          At least five so far, that I know of - I haven't asked absolutely everyone their orientation, because I only cottoned on to the correlation after a while.
          
          Jenny

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    probably that is why we have underpaid professions and vanishing middle class.

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Really none of the above.  Attractive, intelligent, confident, 'nice' build--athletic--would describe it.  'Sensitive' sounds skinny and given to fits of the 'vapors,' lol, or something, and 'macho' sounds like a wife-beater from a South American country (from the term 'machismo'). 

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    Actually Im laughing my head off ...
    An Intelligent Man is truly attractive, not to be confused with an educated man , they are not necessarily the same.
    
    ( the labourer guy could always swap his neon safety vest for a officers uniform ,when he gets home)..

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       Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Very true on the education/intelligence dichotomy, eaglekiwi. 
       
       My dad was a laborer-guy for much of his life--always an intelligent man, too.
       
       (Don't worry--that person follows everyone making disparaging remarks.)

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          moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Don't worry I didn't forget about you and your disparaging behaviour.

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             Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             That's ridiculous.  And not that intelligent, or manipulative, either . 
             
             BTW, as intelligence rises, the need to manipulate goes down.  People on an equal playing field don't need games (except the intriguing, fun ones). 

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                moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

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       moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       agreed.well probably shouldnt have blamed your sexual preferences. Just felt a bit upset for the labourers as I think there is no bad work-that is all in our mind.you some how reminded me of general degrading attitude towards manual work.By the way I have noticed in Australia such work is quite appreciated what about NZ?
         And yes intelligence is sexy for intelligent.

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    Eaglekiwi
    But would you handle a guy too intelligent to manipulate?

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       Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Hard to say , I havent met one yet

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          moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          I suppose your husband is just intelligent enough for you to be aroused.

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    Agreed.no psychological games between people=mature relationship.

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    And by intriguing ,did you mean sexual or jealousy games?

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       Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I not into disruptive, negative jealousy, .  (Although recognizing a little jealousy surrounding your mate--when understood for what it is--is actually flattering--even, , intriguing.)

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          moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          So I guess you do play jealousy games to make your guy  appreciate you more?

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             Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Nope.  Don't need to 'play games.'
             
             What I'm saying is that is a natural thing to be a little jealous--for BOTH partners.  If you realize it's part of a certain reaction, it can even be a little sexy--making it attractive...
             (I don't usually spell sex stuff out sooo much, cuz its better to be a little more subtle, but since you ask and assume things as usual--there ya go, )
             
             So, to turn it around with the semi-rude questions--  Do you have issues with women?

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                moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                All you are saying about jealousy is well understood.All I wanted as usually is answer, but you, as usually, made another well performed self psycho-analysis;)I appreciate your aspiration for self-knowledge.Perceive others through yourself.
                Issues?- Not more than with any other gender.

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                   Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   So, you're saying you don't know your questions are rude?

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    I think it is all about balance.
    
    Protective but not crazy jealous and controlling & kind and sweet but not a pussy
    
    Basically respectful.

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    and if so that is pure manipulation.

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    You're supposed to get a little jealous, otherwise you just don't care. It is manipulation on either part, it is just human emotion.

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    well in context of the topic and even out of it I don't consider my questions to be rude

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    moposanposted 15 years ago

    Lita- If it is not rude to ask, why did you move from NYC?

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       nyliramposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Is this from old fashioned picture I liked the mustache. But I probably have spelt wrong. I have been in an old Homestead and there were many people and their photos all look like you Avator shot. Maybe just Mustache.

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          moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Is it chilly in winter(in our summer) in NZ?

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             nyliramposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Yes it cold at moment, but today have been rain after rain.

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Oh, no--do I know you from a former life?
    
    Lost my job in the 9/11 economic aftermath and felt it would not get better. Also felt the guy I was with at the time would be better off for his medical career elsewhere...
    
    And if it is not rude to ask, , are you foreign born?

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       fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       He's probably stalking you, Lita. Watch it. Lol. (evil theme song plays in the background)

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    Once knew a Macho dude
    Too afraid afraid to try new food
    He looked all manly and talked ruf ruf
    But secretly underneath he wanted mothers love

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       fierycjposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       That sounds like most macho dudes, if you ask me.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    Being Winter in the Southern Hemisphere right now, I can assume its chilly now in NZ.

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       moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       You assume?I thought u lived there so u should know exactly how it is ,preferably in details;)

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          Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          No it you who assumed I lived there (you know what they say about assume?)
          I was born there and 100% Kiwi ,but I am not living there ,hence my statement
          In fact it was 91F here today ,hot n humid

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             moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             humid is not a good part.Any big water near by to have a swim?

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                Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Im not sure where the nearest lakes or rivers are yet , but chances are it will be a bit further than I am prepared to walk.

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                   moposanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   In my vision  kiwi people are supposed to like living as close to the ocean as possible.

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                      Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      You have remarkable vision I concede, this Kiwi also is patient good things come to those who wait ,even marine babies.

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       nyliramposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Eag it is totally freezing in the land of the long white cloud. But my burkah is keeping me  warm.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    And that concludes the weather report

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    Burwoodposted 15 years ago

    they prefer me

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       Ivorwenposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       

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