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Hey Ladies, Do You Prefer a Sissy Kinda Guy Or a Macho Dude?

  1. fierycj profile image77
    fierycjposted 8 years ago

    Ask a woman, what she wants in a man, and half the time she'll probably say, a sensitive, loving, warm guy and all that. But a lot of women still prefer the tough kinda dude, better. Some would like a fella who can pull both, that is a tough guy who can explore his feminity and all that crap. Ladies, who do you really prefer?

    1. Pearldiver profile image82
      Pearldiverposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Koh Nee Chee Waaaaa  What do you mean "explore his feminity and all that crap?" 

      I think lots of guys have absolutely no idea how to deal with modern women and their mothers.  Why would you need to ask such a question here? Why do guys always tend to generalise like you have here.  Times have changed alot in twenty years.. Put Your Club away man; it might indicate that you don't have a clue!

      The Two posts above this come from 2 x individual women.  When you get a response from another woman it will be different again.... Can you see a pattern in that?

      Sorry if I offend.... I was just exploring my 'feminity' smile

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        dennisemattposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Koh Nee Chee Waaaaa 
        my new favorite word!!!!!

      2. fierycj profile image77
        fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        dude, shush it. Ladies, keep going please. Anyone who ever said women are the same, should come view this thread.

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          Béla Mongyiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Women are the same, at least on a generic level. The rest is up to circumstances.

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            dennisemattposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            i beg to differ

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              Béla Mongyiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              I mean, of course there is a great exception.

        2. Pearldiver profile image82
          Pearldiverposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          "Dude Shush it?"  Interesting point being made here fella!!
          Why on earth would you ASSume that I am a Dude? My Avator perhaps?  Hahahaha!  You wouldn't know a good woman if you fell over her mate!!

          1. RKHenry profile image78
            RKHenryposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Now that's too funny!

            1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
              Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              He would know if he fell over me ( but he'd wished he hadnt) lol

              1. fierycj profile image77
                fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                Don't bet on it. You might wish just wish I had. Lol.

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            Béla Mongyiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Don't bug him. We don't know Nigerian conditions. smile

            1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
              Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              Oh , what are Nigerian conditions?

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                Béla Mongyiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                He'll come back to give a more competent answer than I ever could. smile

                1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
                  Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                  Oh thought you knew something about Nigerian conditions?

    2. My Inner Jew profile image68
      My Inner Jewposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      BOTH!!!! hahaha...one who can definitely be strong and protect me and who can also open up to his feelings...not all the time because i wouldn't be able to handle that...but when the occassion arises

    3. wychic profile image90
      wychicposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Neither, they're extremes on both sides of the scale. Personally, I think the whole idea of "macho" is completely outdated, immature, and microcephalic. Unfortunately, around here it seems that any males from high school through their 20s still think it's the way to go. Get a clue guys, most girls don't go for the bad hygiene, obsession with loud trucks and loud music, drinking, and short tempers. Yes, there are some out there, but they seem to be in the minority.

      Loving, warm, and sensitive do not denote a sissy. It's when it's taken to the extreme and you have a guy that can't handle the trials of daily life because it's too much for his fragile emotions (no, I don't think this is acceptable in females either) and he becomes overly clingy that's a problem.

      Personally, I found what is, in my opinion, the perfect balance. He's incredibly warm and affectionate, loves to cook, always takes out the trash and such without me ever having to ask. He does believe there is such a thing as "woman's work", in that women should only have to do the work they want to and should never have to handle disgusting stuff such as garbage or dirty toilets. He's not afraid to cry when he feels the need, though he doesn't make a habit of it, and always tries to identify emotions before expressing them (the typical "macho man" has difficulty with emotional honesty and is much more likely to express any negative emotion as anger). He keeps his temper in check and will do everything he can to avoid a fight and will be nice to anyone who lets him. On the other hand, he's perfectly capable of holding his own when the time for fighting comes.

      Overall, I suppose my preference leans more toward the sensitive type than to the macho, because I really despise the macho posturing and self-centeredness. However, my ideal man is certainly not a sissy, though he loves nothing more than to cook me gourmet meals and hold me for hours on end.

  2. Lisa HW profile image77
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    A gentleman, which means neither a "sissy" nor a "macho dude".

  3. Jewels profile image84
    Jewelsposted 8 years ago

    I like a guy who can go the distance in the bedroom. Is a little sensitive, but not too much that he can't handle Lillith. He has to match her intensity but know when to get out of the house when she's about to blow her top and needs space.  He has to pay most of the time. He has to know how to dance - waltz preferably.  He has to want to take out the garbage and mow the lawns and do odd jobs around the house.  He has to be half intelligent but not a know it all.  He has to be witty but not a smart ass sarcastic twit.  He must be able to be dominated in the bedroom as well as being tied to the bed posts.  He also has to be able to tie me to the bedposts - but geez it better be worth it!  I'm sure there's more, I'll have to come back to you later on this.

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      badcompany99posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Damn I was getting ready to be tied to the bed until I read the "not a smart ass sarcastic twit" bit, oh well there goes my night smile

  4. Ladybird33 profile image47
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    Neither...smart, funny, a gentlemen, kind hearted, tough when needs to be and a great kisser.

  5. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    Sissy or macho, only two choices? well presumming neither one
    of them is gay ,heres my idea ofchoice(s)

    A Hunter ,gatherer,courier,partenar,

    carpentar,mechanic,
    plumber,business man ,cowboy

    displaying emotions of honesty,integrity sensitivety ,fun and kindness to the elderly ,babies and animals.

    I dont want much at all   lol  lol

    oh and yes I forgot to add ,when the woman says do these jeans make me look fat , lie guys , lie through your teeth!

    1. Ivorwen profile image75
      Ivorwenposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds good to me!

  6. Ivorwen profile image75
    Ivorwenposted 8 years ago

    I like my guy to be a REAL MAN! 

    -A real man has a strong work ethic and desire to take care of his family.  It is not 'beneath him' to do what needs to be done.

    -A real man is honest and willing to keep his word, even when it is not to his liking.  He keeps his commitments.

    -A real man knows when to stop.  Likewise, he knows when he needs to leave, so as not to lose control.

    -A real man can hold his temper, but also knows when to fight.

    -A real man loves deeply and wholeheartedly.

    -A real man does not take advantage of another.

    -A real man is an awesome lover, because he looks out for someone besides himself!

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
      Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      a real man is unselfish and that makes him sexy !

    2. Laughing Mom profile image58
      Laughing Momposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yep.  That one.

    3. Enelle Lamb profile image86
      Enelle Lambposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I think you got this right on the button...I couldn't have said it better

  7. jasongifford83 profile image49
    jasongifford83posted 8 years ago

    who cares? unfortunately for us humans addicted to stereotyping and categorizing, all kinds of guys get all kinds of girls... Its not about appealing to everyone of the opposite sex just the kind that will make you happiest.

    Same with business. If your market is everyone your market is really no one. You've got to find your niche. Once you do that you'll start making a profit wink

    1. fierycj profile image77
      fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      all your hubs are probably all based on business and market.

    2. Jewels profile image84
      Jewelsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Did you have to go and get all practical!

  8. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    cj..I might have wished you had fallen over me   lol you need to read my hub on luuurve...concentrated love

    1. fierycj profile image77
      fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You've got a great sense of humour, kiwi. I like that.

    2. fierycj profile image77
      fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You've got a great sense of humour, kiwi. I like that.

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
        Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        well with some guys ya damn need a sense of humor lol
        what did ya think of my hub ,cuz I missed your comment cj?

        1. fierycj profile image77
          fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          I done better - just joined your fan club. I'm sure I'll enjoy your hubs. As for my comments...just you wait...(sinister laughter echoes)

  9. DonnaCSmith profile image89
    DonnaCSmithposted 8 years ago

    Neither. I admire a man of honor and faith, one who is creative, and compassionate, and can fix things;o)

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 8 years ago

    Fierycj.... shame I have a man already, as I think you would be perfect for me, always out there trying your best, despite rude people....... I love your hubs on Africa, make me wanna come and visit.....

  11. goldentoad profile image59
    goldentoadposted 8 years ago

    I like my men to be like Christoph Reilly.

  12. viryabo profile image87
    viryaboposted 8 years ago

    I love men in uniforms. Pilots, Policemen, Firemen, Doctors. They always seem in control and look LIKE MEN!!

  13. blondepoet profile image73
    blondepoetposted 8 years ago

    One about 6ft tall, not hairy, nice teeth, cute buttocks, piercing eyes,in a Navy uniform, so next time it floods here he can come rescue me in style, bad, but not to me, sissy when I ask him for something.

  14. fierycj profile image77
    fierycjposted 8 years ago

    I'm flattered, Bren. You're so Sweet. Your hubby is definitely a lucky sonofagun, no doubt.

  15. belief713 profile image80
    belief713posted 8 years ago

    I like a challenge. I don't want a super sweet sensitive guy or someone who agrees with everything I say, but it's nice to be caring and considerate (and all that other sweet stuff most guys try to hide) ... very important - respectful. I'm also with Ivorwen on the real man stuff listed. I think some women are attracted to the macho tough guys because they feel protected with them. It really depends on the woman as we are all created unique.

  16. viryabo profile image87
    viryaboposted 8 years ago

    In the Army, in the Navy, in the AirForce. YES!
    And Cowboys. Yes, i'm ancient.

  17. Inspirepub profile image81
    Inspirepubposted 8 years ago

    My experience shows me that bi guys are the best of both worlds.

    1. They can talk about their feelings - and they like to.
    2. They like to listen to me talk about my feelings.
    3. They are both manly and sensitive.
    4. They make EXCELLENT lovers - in part because of the good emotional connection, in part because of their sensitivity, and in part because to come out as bi you have to be comfortable with your sexuality.
    5. They don't have stereotyped role expectations.
    6. They kiss other guys in front of me (now THAT was an unexpected pleasure - who would have thought that was so hot?)
    7. It's like being able to have hot sex with your gay best friend.
    8. They are not all competitive and testosterone-driven around other men, the way straight guys can be, especially the "macho" ones.
    9. They remember your birthday, your anniversary, where you met, what you were wearing, what colours you like, and whether you get on with your sister's husband.
    10. They are great with kids, even if they have never been around them and don't think they "get" kids.

    Of course, bi guys in many parts of the world are in denial, because of homophobia, and identify as straight, in which case some of these points won't apply.

    But the out bi guys - they are the ones to go for, girls!

    Jenny

    1. kblover profile image91
      kbloverposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Hmm...

      1, 2 I can do

      3 - I don't know what either of those adjectives means, if they even have a set definition, so I don't know if I'm either/both.

      4 - Um...I just like the lady to enjoy herself - if that's "great" then it's me I guess.

      5 - Check. There's no role - it's just get done what needs to get done.

      6 - Well - I'm out.

      7 - No idea.

      8 - If I am playing a game, I play to win, even if it's for fun. If that makes me competitive-driven, I don't know, but if I'm playing Spades or such, I'm sure my partner doesn't want me to play to lose because "it's just a game".

      9 - Yeah, just part of getting to know the lady, imo.

      10 - I think kids are fascinating.


      Does this mean I'm a bi-guy in denial? big_smile

      Dang it - I'm all confused again. LOL. At least I know it's cool to be able to cook (though, that was on no-one's lists. Ut oh...) smile

  18. Lisa HW profile image77
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    I'm sorry...  I want to know the guy is more selective than that.  I wouldn't be ok with the "visual images" a bi-guy would conjur up for me; and I need to know that it is only my "feminine appeal" to which he was attracted.   I think bi people need other bi people, and everyone else needs someone who has "chosen a side".    smile

  19. Research Analyst profile image81
    Research Analystposted 8 years ago

    Sissy guys over macho any day!

  20. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    A Man in Uniform I see...not a trash collector or Construction worker but a uniform of some authority , like an Officer , Law Enforcement, Pilot,Lawyer ....so to summize

    A Man Wwho Knows what The Hell He's Doing and Not Afraid to Ask for Directions  lol

    1. moposan profile image50
      moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      "not a trash collector or Construction worker" Such a degrading attitude toward manual workers.Well that is not your fault .you are just a trashy product of current culture.

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
        Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Ouch!!
        I take it that was a little close to the bone ,perhaps

        1. moposan profile image50
          moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          That was close to the prevailing attitude in society.You are just a conformist-mob.

  21. Inspirepub profile image81
    Inspirepubposted 8 years ago

    You want a man who will ASK FOR DIRECTIONS?

    You be single long time, girlfriend ... even my bi guys don't do THAT!

    Jenny

    1. Jewels profile image84
      Jewelsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      So are you saying the guys you no don't like being given instructions?  Isn't their main aim to please a woman anyway?  Or do they think they know what to do and won't be told otherwise?

      Lets get this out in the open. This is for scientific research of course. smile

      1. Inspirepub profile image81
        Inspirepubposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Oh, feedback in the bedroom, sure - I thought you meant "directions", you know, when you are driving somewhere you haven't been before ...

        Jenny

        1. Jewels profile image84
          Jewelsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Well not to get toooo personal in the love nest, I was in one of those amazing experiences where I was about to go to the moon and the goof just couldn't control the launch pad, if you know what I mean.  So it's important to be able to take direction from time to time.

          1. fierycj profile image77
            fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Very well put.

    2. Ivorwen profile image75
      Ivorwenposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      My man will.  big_smile

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
        Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Yes Ma'am smile

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      Leta Sposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Wow.  Jenny has had 'bi guys?' I never had that!  wink

      1. Inspirepub profile image81
        Inspirepubposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        At least five so far, that I know of - I haven't asked absolutely everyone their orientation, because I only cottoned on to the correlation after a while.

        Jenny

  22. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    probably that is why we have underpaid professions and vanishing middle class.

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    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Really none of the above.  Attractive, intelligent, confident, 'nice' build--athletic--would describe it.  'Sensitive' sounds skinny and given to fits of the 'vapors,' lol, or something, and 'macho' sounds like a wife-beater from a South American country (from the term 'machismo').  smile

  24. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    Actually Im laughing my head off ...
    An Intelligent Man is truly attractive, not to be confused with an educated man , they are not necessarily the same.

    ( the labourer guy could always swap his neon safety vest for a officers uniform ,when he gets home)..lol

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      Leta Sposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Very true on the education/intelligence dichotomy, eaglekiwi.  smile

      My dad was a laborer-guy for much of his life--always an intelligent man, too.

      (Don't worry--that person follows everyone making disparaging remarks.)

      1. moposan profile image50
        moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Don't worry I didn't forget about you and your disparaging behaviour.wink

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          Leta Sposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          That's ridiculous.  And not that intelligent, or manipulative, either wink

          BTW, as intelligence rises, the need to manipulate goes down.  People on an equal playing field don't need games (except the intriguing, fun ones).  wink

          1. moposan profile image50
            moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this
    2. moposan profile image50
      moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      agreed.well probably shouldnt have blamed your sexual preferences. Just felt a bit upset for the labourers as I think there is no bad work-that is all in our mind.you some how reminded me of general degrading attitude towards manual work.By the way I have noticed in Australia such work is quite appreciated what about NZ?
        And yes intelligence is sexy for intelligent.

  25. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    Eaglekiwi
    But would you handle a guy too intelligent to manipulate?wink

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
      Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Hard to say , I havent met one yet lol

      1. moposan profile image50
        moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I suppose your husband is just intelligent enough for you to be aroused.wink

  26. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    Agreed.no psychological games between people=mature relationship.

  27. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    And by intriguing ,did you mean sexual or jealousy games?

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      Leta Sposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I not into disruptive, negative jealousy, wink.  (Although recognizing a little jealousy surrounding your mate--when understood for what it is--is actually flattering--even, wink, intriguing.)

      1. moposan profile image50
        moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        So I guess you do play jealousy games to make your guy  appreciate you more?

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          Leta Sposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Nope.  Don't need to 'play games.'

          What I'm saying is that is a natural thing to be a little jealous--for BOTH partners.  If you realize it's part of a certain reaction, it can even be a little sexy--making it attractive...
          (I don't usually spell sex stuff out sooo much, cuz its better to be a little more subtle, but since you ask and assume things as usual--there ya go, smile)

          So, to turn it around with the semi-rude questions--  Do you have issues with women?

          1. moposan profile image50
            moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            All you are saying about jealousy is well understood.All I wanted as usually is answer, but you, as usually, made another well performed self psycho-analysis;)I appreciate your aspiration for self-knowledge.Perceive others through yourself.
            Issues?- Not more than with any other gender.

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              Leta Sposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              wink So, you're saying you don't know your questions are rude?

  28. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 8 years ago

    I think it is all about balance.

    Protective but not crazy jealous and controlling & kind and sweet but not a pussy

    Basically respectful.

  29. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    and if so that is pure manipulation.

  30. Colebabie profile image60
    Colebabieposted 8 years ago

    You're supposed to get a little jealous, otherwise you just don't care. It is manipulation on either part, it is just human emotion.

  31. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    well in context of the topic and even out of it I don't consider my questions to be rude

  32. moposan profile image50
    moposanposted 8 years ago

    Lita- If it is not rude to ask, why did you move from NYC?

    1. nyliram profile image55
      nyliramposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Is this from old fashioned picture I liked the mustache. But I probably have spelt wrong. I have been in an old Homestead and there were many people and their photos all look like you Avator shot. Maybe just Mustache.

      1. moposan profile image50
        moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Is it chilly in winter(in our summer) in NZ?

        1. nyliram profile image55
          nyliramposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Yes it cold at moment, but today have been rain after rain.

  33. profile image0
    Leta Sposted 8 years ago

    Oh, no--do I know you from a former life? wink

    Lost my job in the 9/11 economic aftermath and felt it would not get better. Also felt the guy I was with at the time would be better off for his medical career elsewhere...

    And if it is not rude to ask, smile, are you foreign born?

    1. fierycj profile image77
      fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      He's probably stalking you, Lita. Watch it. Lol. (evil theme song plays in the background)

  34. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    Once knew a Macho dude
    Too afraid afraid to try new food
    He looked all manly and talked ruf ruf
    But secretly underneath he wanted mothers love smile

    1. fierycj profile image77
      fierycjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That sounds like most macho dudes, if you ask me.

  35. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    Being Winter in the Southern Hemisphere right now, I can assume its chilly now in NZ.

    1. moposan profile image50
      moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You assume?I thought u lived there so u should know exactly how it is ,preferably in details;)

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
        Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        No it you who assumed I lived there (you know what they say about assume?)
        I was born there and 100% Kiwi ,but I am not living there ,hence my statement smile
        In fact it was 91F here today ,hot n humid

        1. moposan profile image50
          moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          humid is not a good part.Any big water near by to have a swim?

          1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
            Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Im not sure where the nearest lakes or rivers are yet , but chances are it will be a bit further than I am prepared to walk. smile

            1. moposan profile image50
              moposanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              In my vision  kiwi people are supposed to like living as close to the ocean as possible.

              1. Eaglekiwi profile image79
                Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                You have remarkable vision I concede, this Kiwi also is patient smile good things come to those who wait ,even marine babies.

    2. nyliram profile image55
      nyliramposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Eag it is totally freezing in the land of the long white cloud. But my burkah is keeping me  warm.

  36. Eaglekiwi profile image79
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    And that concludes the weather report smile

  37. Burwood profile image55
    Burwoodposted 8 years ago

    they prefer me

    1. Ivorwen profile image75
      Ivorwenposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      smile

 
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