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No revenge. No hate, this woman is my hero!

  1. earnestshub profile image87
    earnestshubposted 8 years ago

    Today in Australia a woman who lost her daughter to a car accident did not want jail for the defendant in the case, she wanted him at home with his family, as she could see no point in hurting his family too. I am so proud of her! That is the action of someone who understands how life really works.

    1. manlypoetryman profile image65
      manlypoetrymanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      A lesson in true forgiveness...don't think I could have been that free with my forgiveness in same situation.

    2. tksensei profile image61
      tksenseiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      It would depend on what caused the accident. If it were a no-fault accident then the man probably wouldn't have been prosecuted. If the man had been driving recklessly or something then by her actions she might very well be putting other families in danger of suffering the same pain she is experiencing. That would be far from 'heroic.'

    3. viryabo profile image86
      viryaboposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      My heart goes out to her. She must definitely be a very 'deep' woman, who understands that life is full of twists, turns and tragedies. She knows it could NEVER have been intentional and the thought of him killing, albeit mistakenly, another persons little girl, is enough to cause him everlasting grief. Why make it worse by wanting his head?
      I pray for her, for God to give her the fortitude to bear such a painful and irreparable loss. And i pray for the man, to find it in his heart to forgive himself.

      1. tksensei profile image61
        tksenseiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        People intentionally kill other people all the time.

        1. viryabo profile image86
          viryaboposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          I really doubt that in this case, it was intentional. Read earnest's post again.
          Here in my country a long time ago, a trailer driver CRUSHED a pedestrian who was trying to cross the road. What did he do? He got down, screaming and crying bitterly, went to the mangled guy's body, and started rolling in the bloody mush, weeping uncontrollably. Everyone around felt soooo sad and sorry for him. Heard he went cuckoo shortly after. He was never prosecuted cause his grief was almost unbearable.
          Now tell me...does that sound intentional?

          1. tksensei profile image61
            tksenseiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Do you know all the details of the incident? THIS incident, not a completely unrelated one you heard about 'a long time ago.'


            And of course intent is not required for someone to be legally liable.

            1. viryabo profile image86
              viryaboposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              Dont need to know all the details. From the tiny bit i read, for the woman to feel that way, there must be a very good reason. Perhaps she sensed his remorse? Perhaps the milk of human kindness?

              1. tksensei profile image61
                tksenseiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                Your feelings about this seem to be based on a lot of assumptions.

                1. viryabo profile image86
                  viryaboposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                  Just my Opinion.

                  1. tksensei profile image61
                    tksenseiposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                    Fair enough then

  2. Mrvoodoo profile image60
    Mrvoodooposted 8 years ago

    Hey Earnest, I can see why you admire her, I would not be as strong as her.

    However, I can't help but feel that if people aren't punished in any way than there's nothing to deter others.  People drink driving and killing children all over the place.

    But yes she definitely seems enlightened, but perhaps she's still in shock.

    1. earnestshub profile image87
      earnestshubposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I did not think she was in shock, the accident happend some time back, but she saw the circumstances and used her big heart. He still went to jail, but she tried.

  3. BODYandSOUL profile image58
    BODYandSOULposted 8 years ago

    Tragic but heartwarming!

  4. Uninvited Writer profile image82
    Uninvited Writerposted 8 years ago

    Well, I keep hearing everywhere that forgiveness is for yourself. It is what helps you to go on. Seeking revenge will not make you feel better or bring the other person back.

    1. anjalichugh profile image82
      anjalichughposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely right but...easier said than done. Not many people can show such magnanimity.

  5. Ladybird33 profile image48
    Ladybird33posted 8 years ago

    I believe you are measured by how much you give.  In today's society stories of heart, giving and most of all forgiving, is wonderful to hear.

  6. Lady_E profile image83
    Lady_Eposted 8 years ago

    Wow, she certainly has a heart of Gold.

  7. Ron Montgomery profile image60
    Ron Montgomeryposted 8 years ago

    We had a similar incident in this country.  A group of Amish kids were killed by a gunman who then shot himself.  The Amish families immediately embraced the family of the shooter, seeing that they had also suffered.  There was no thought of blame or revenge, only forgiveness.

  8. Misha profile image77
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    Wow Earnest, not sure I would be able to behave like her, but such state of mind is something to try to achieve. It's good to know that there are people out there who managed already.

    1. candice5 profile image61
      candice5posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      No I definitely would not behave like that. I would expect a punishment.

  9. profile image0
    dennisemattposted 8 years ago

    Im not sure I would be able to do that, if it were my child. but it does depend on the situation. accident? or...drunk?...my brother in law was in an accident that took a persons life. I can tell you, no jail, no revenge, nothing can make what he goes thru every single day any worse. He knows what he did, and he has to live with that. He is paying, and I am sure this other person is too.

    1. alekhouse profile image83
      alekhouseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      This is a good response, I tend to go along with this. We cannot make assumtions about how or why the accident happened. And we need to know all of the details, before making a judgment. we certainly can't read the woman's mind, so how could we possibly  know why she made this decision.

  10. mattressnextday profile image49
    mattressnextdayposted 8 years ago

    Yea, that is the true humanity if that was accident and he was not drunk. Accident may happen to anybody, and we dont know when it will happen. Simply be aware.. RIP her daughter.

  11. Greek One profile image76
    Greek Oneposted 8 years ago

    Clearly, she is a far better person than I would be...

    I would only want them out of jail so that I could try to run them down with my own car

  12. Eaglekiwi profile image73
    Eaglekiwiposted 8 years ago

    Hard to know how each of would re-act ,but yep are some great examples to inspire thats for real..

    1. Vee Rose profile image59
      Vee Roseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That is the act of forgiveness at its finest.

  13. RooBee profile image82
    RooBeeposted 8 years ago

    Wow. That is a state to aspire to! There was a similar case where I live. A man lost his wife and two of his children on Christmas eve a couple of years ago when a drunk driver ran a light and slammed into their family car. He went to the other driver's trial and pleaded for leniency for him, saying "hasn't there been enough suffering?" So amazing and exemplary.

  14. CarolanRoss profile image76
    CarolanRossposted 8 years ago

    Stories like this of folks willing to forgive in the face of such tragedy are truly inspiring.  To hold on to resentment is to wish for negativity in one's OWN life, while forgiveness can set you free.

    "The difficulties in life are there to make us better, not bitter."

  15. Pamda Man profile image53
    Pamda Manposted 8 years ago

    Loss of daughter - Tragic
    Welcoming of killer - Nice, rare, but tragic
    Woman - Very nice, but tragic

  16. tksensei profile image61
    tksenseiposted 8 years ago

    It would depend on what caused the accident. If it were a no-fault accident then the man probably wouldn't have been prosecuted. If the man had been driving recklessly or something then by her actions she might very well be putting other families in danger of suffering the same pain she is experiencing. That would be far from 'heroic.'

    1. candice5 profile image61
      candice5posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      No Fault accidents are entirely diff, anyone could do that, that is exactly what it is an accident. and that is tragic, for all parties. My comments relate to the countless drunks that take to the roads everyday right accross the World, and amazingly usually survive themselves.

  17. Davinagirl3 profile image60
    Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago

    Everyone has their own karma.  She knows the circumstances surrounding the accident, but if he was drunk driving, he deserves some kind of punishment.  She can forgive and forget, but the universe doesn't.  If he was just being negligent, then he will get off easy, anyway.  In America, he would be prosecuted for his negligence regardless of whether the mother pressed charges, or not.  I admire the mother's strength, and I think she will be blessed for her selflessness, but the perpetrator will pay for what he's done...  I know a guy who killed a girl while drunk driving and he only recieved a 6 month jail sentence.  The family forgave him, too, but he still hasn't forgiven himself.  He hasn't driven, at all, in over 20 years.

    1. candice5 profile image61
      candice5posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Actually some do not, I know of a repeat drink driver, twice he has done this, he is still drinking and driving. All Drunks, wether alcoholics or not are still the same, in fact I have more respect for someone, that admits he did it, does  his lag, and doesn't cry.

 
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