Why is it when you provide an act of kindness to someone they'll try to run you over with their car? If everyone, each day, made one person laugh, and then that person made someone laugh, it would be such a better world. Besides, it's takes less muscles to smile than to frown. Or maybe we can just pass out Prozac to everyone so they'll be in a better mood.
I agree with you here. I got shouted at by an old man the other day because I was driving and had something on my mind. I did nothing wrong but did'nt move forward for a couple of seconds and he shouted to me to use my brain next time. I was upset because my son was at the hospital having come crashed his scramble bike, and ended up with a broken wrist. If some people took the time to wonder why someone may not be on the ball they might come to realise that the whole world does not revolve around them. Sometimes people have hidden issues and we should give each other a little break.
I agree 100% as long as it doesn't involve make-up or the cell phone!
Oh my, older people can be the biggest grumps! We have a Senior Citizens Day at our grocery store (where seniors get 10% off) and they will RUN YOU DOWN with their carts if you get into their way! ha ha
Im your fan now
I promise to never try to run you over, Ive been hit so many times, and it hurts...
Just keep smiling and hope that it's contagious. If not maybe they will wonder what has you so happy. I think everyone should smile. It's healthy for you. Your right about the muscles and I for one don't want to look like a sour face. Thanks for making me smile.
I agree with frog on this Sarra, there are usually some serious underlying issues for those people who can't seem to find it in their heart to treat others kindly.
However, I've reached a point in my life where I won't allow those people to ruin my day...so whenever someone says, or does, something mean, I just smile and tell them to have a nice day. It works for me!
Lol some people really do need their happy drug! Or coffee. I'm a big grump without coffee. But I only snap at my boyfriend cuz I know he can handle it and he can get me out of the "funk". So I guess everybody else is in the safe zone! And yes, I do agree. People need to be a lot nicer nowadays! And if you can't be nice, then don't make an effort to be mean! Just...walk away. Hypocritical of me huh? I only get fussy with him...not actually mean mean...lol. And he knows I love him!
Mean people often have issues Sarra - I wouldn't let it get you down. And I agree, the world would be a better place if we were all more friendly but, you know ... that's life. Just keep on smiling - most folks smile right back
Love Your Driver's Licence Photo Misha
But have you always been X eyed?
Thanks Pearldiver, love yours, too.
And yeah, I have, as much as you've been close eyed.
What if they really work hard at perfecting their skills as a mean person so they can be the best mean person?
Several reasons why they turn on you. First, they cannot look at themselves for who they are because your act of kindness reminds them of who they should be. Second, they have had a terrible event in their life that has left them believing and feeling that they do not deserve any kindness. Third, they are jealous. They wish that they could be as kind as you are. Fourth, they are just angry (for their own reasons) and you're the last to do anything for them. As a rule, the last one that touches is the responsible one. And, their anger comes out at the person who is most likely not to hurt back. Kinda long explanations (which you already probably know.
Don't let one person prevent you from being kind to others becasuse there are more people who would appreciate your kindness than those who don't. It's their issue, not yours.
I used to have a sticker on the bumper of my car. It read...
Mean people suck, nice people swallow. makes me smile to think of it that way.
LOL I'll have to try thinking of that bumper sticker. Got any extras?
I wish I did but it went with the car when I sold it, lol. Might try a novelty store. We have a Spencers at the mall that sells unique bumper stickers like this. LOL
Sadly I haven't seen that one in years at Spencers. Maybe they have a stash somewhere lol
I've seen that bumper sticker and like it a lot...but I'm also thinking it's a lot "safer" to have on your vehicle if you're female. Seems to me the guys who slap that one on their pickup trucks are just begging to get tagged as being one short hop away from a Registered Sex Offender.
Oh, they do, they do. Mean people suck the (Stephen King expression) "old hairy root"!
My poor sister gets greeted by patrons at the library with "Yo b***h". People are often impatient, rude and entirely focussed on their own concerns to the exclusion of other people's. They don't mind letting out every little piece of mean-minded viciousness.
I say to her, "How can you stand that?"
She says to me, "There are more than enough good people in the world to make up for it."
In my experience there really are very few mean people. Sure there are those who just wake up every morning and decide they dont care and they are going to go out of their way to be mean.
However I think in most cases mean people are just having a bad day which could very well happen to any of us.
There's alot of really crap people in this world.
For instance the other day a noob asked for tips on succeeding in hubpages, so I offered him to check out my profile as I have written numerous hubs on the subject and some waister threatend to flag me, because I was helping someone. In future I won't help noobs because of her!
In my experience there are loads of mean people, so many in the UK they don't have enough prison space for them. People have got way meaner and selfish over the last 20 years, yes there are mean people that are just ok peeps having a bad day. But in general you only have to listen to the news, look at a newspaper or peoplewatch to see how mean they are.
Am I being mean for saying that ?
And gun control hasn't helped.
"Gun crimes in England have almost doubled since 1997, when a ban on firearms began."
http://newsmax.com/insidecover/guns_eng … 27556.html
This is true, but not because we have a lot of mean people! Its simply because our prisons are full of imigrants or people seeking Asylum.
The meanest people in the UK are not in prison, they reside at another place beginning with P.
If you Really want to Get One Back on Mean People.......
I've found that the best way is:
Follow them home and when they go inside... pooh on their doormat
Old People Are Not Mean!
When you're old you will know that Running Down People with a shopping cart is Great Fun!
Merely an affectionate way of saying "I hate that you are young!"
We took my husband's granny (she is 94) to Sam's Club once and let her drive the motorized shopping carts. She said it was the highlight of her visit with us! She was laughing so hard because she wanted to go in reverse and couldn't figure it out. She nearly ran over us a few times!
Old people are not necessarily mean; but one day I was walking up the street, minding my business, on a windy and cold day. I don't know what kind of "face I had on" in the cold, wind; but some old man walked straight up to me and said, "It wouldn't kill you to smile for God's sake! THAT is the GROUCHIEST face I've ever seen!" His tone was disgusted and mean! (It was, as far as I knew, my "regular" face. ) I didn't know what to say, so I just kept walking (continuing on with my apparently "grouchy" ways). "Good Lord," I thought, "What on Earth did I do to bring THAT on? What an old JERK!"
That is one of the most common Pick-Up lines in Bumble Town Lisa.... And more so; if he didn't take his teeth out!
Well, it's "lovely". It certainly would be appealing if someone were interested in meeting an aggressive, insane, old guy.
i consider myself a really happy person. i am also serious and think a lot, and i get this too...men come up to me and go 'SMILE! IF YOU DON'T YOUR FACE IS GONNA GET ALL WRINKLY!' or some other comment...they are usually older gentlemen...i'm like 'sure, whatever'.
I have a large smiley face on the back of my ute. I get a lot of real smiley faces from people when they pass me.
What's the saying? "No good deed goes unpunished" or something like that. Yeah, I agree. Mean people suck!
Don't get me started on mean people. They start young & generally take after one or both parents. Ever seen the movie Mean Girls, do you know how many girls in middle school and high school know the movie line for line & use it well? I could write a hub on this - but it makes me angry just thinking about it.
That's why we have karma, it bites the mean people when they least expect it.
I have come to the belief that actually there are not that many “mean” people out there. It is more the fact of people being self adsorbed and self centered, the me, myself, and I generation and have not been taught or practice the proper respect for others. They are for the most part in their own little world and cannot see or care for the kindness of others, or they have this notion that you owe them something. As a guy, age 52, I still find it appropriate to open doors for ladies or anyone for that fact and when I do 90% of them will not say thank you. I am not looking for a thank you, but they want even acknowledge you. I have personally had women come to the door and slide through trying to cut me off as I am trying to open the door for them. Please understand I am not knocking women, men are just as bad. We as a society have lost our courtesy for other. We have become a “me first society” and “I don’t care unless it directly effects me” society. Oh, and yes I still say yes sir and yes mama to everyone for proper respect too.
Cosette, Maybe some of those older guys need to take a refresher course in starting conversation with women. (What ever happened to, "Nice day.... " ? )
i usually have men ask me how to do stuff like 'what's the best spice for this recipe' or 'hey can you look at my tag (collar) - i forgot what size shirt i wear'...oh boy.
Men (not all, certainly) are just nasty to women. It's a lesson we learn day in, day out. If it isn't whistles, its some sort of harassment, or some imagined privilege. Sometimes it still surprises me...or rather, shocks me.
That's why it is nice to be a featureless heavenly body here, . Relief!
Could saying mean people suck in turn, give the mean people a reason to be mean back to you every time because of what you said?
When a stranger smiles @ me or says hi, I blush n want to hide but will say hi others...well...is their loss
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In my case, the nicer I am to people, the more they walk over me and hurt to me to an extent that is beyond endurance! Why?!! I have never been able to answer this question. Can you?
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