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Update on Bill and hospital stuff...

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    pgrundyposted 8 years ago

    My partner Bill is still in the hospital. It's a week today. This is his third admission in five weeks, and I've spent about half of the last 5 weeks sleeping in a chair at the hospitals. 

    It turns out he had a serious bile leak after a botched gallbladder operation on October 12th. After a month of not diagnosing the real problem, the ER at the last hospital said they didn't know what was wrong with him, shot him full of morphine, and sent him home. Within hours he was immobile and in the worst pain of his life.

    I took him to the other big hospital in town, where they diagnosed the botched surgery and the serious leak, which was apparently ongoing through both of his previous hospitalizations. Monday they did exploratory surgery and removed liters and liters of bile from his abdominal cavity. The surgeon said he had never seen so much bile. It's a miracle he is alive.

    He has tubes coming out of everywhere but he's not in intensive care and he is slowly recovering (knock on wood...we've thought that before).

    We will be consulting an attorney if he ever does recover.

    What a nightmare.

    I'm home tonight. Started sleeping at home last night, as he is out of the woods and i was really a mess. Several nights no sleep at all and only an hour or two other nights this week.

    Best health care in the world my ass.

    1. rmcrayne profile image97
      rmcrayneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I hear ya pg.  My hospital used the slogan "Flagship of the..."  Like nails on a chalkboard to me.

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      C.J. Wrightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      P, Sorry to hear you and yours are having such a difficult time. Best wishes to you and Bill.

  2. frogdropping profile image83
    frogdroppingposted 8 years ago

    Absolutley my very best of wishes - for both Bill, you and yours. Be well Grundy Family smile

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      pgrundyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks frogdropping! This has been very scary. I have a sense our lives will change when he finally gets back home. I hope he does get back home. I will be worth spit without him.

      1. frogdropping profile image83
        frogdroppingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        That is oddly beautiful. Sincerely, I wish your Bill a speedy recovery and your man back at your side.

        Keep us posted - this clearly cannot be an easy time. Sometimes hospitals are scary places for the wrong reasons.

        And I hope the changes are better than you may be expecting smile

        *crossing fingers*

  3. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 8 years ago

    I've got some other horror stories like that - really am sending you my prayers for Bill, but also for yourself, hope you have others around you to give you some TLC - man, I know why I stay away from drs as much as poss.  really, take care of yourselves!

  4. KCC Big Country profile image88
    KCC Big Countryposted 8 years ago

    Thanks for the update Pgrundy! You've been in my thoughts.  Glad he's improving.  Please get some good rest and take care of yourself!

  5. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 8 years ago

    Hope he recovers soon ! smile

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    pgrundyposted 8 years ago

    Thanks everyone. I feel like we both aged 30 years this week.

    Thank you for your good wishes. smile

  7. wyanjen profile image81
    wyanjenposted 8 years ago

    Well, it sounds like you are on the "recovery" side of things now. That is great news. I've been stewing about this since I saw your previous post. I hate the helpless feeling people are left with in this type of situation.

    Take good care, please rest when you can.
    You are in my thoughts smile


  8. Flightkeeper profile image71
    Flightkeeperposted 8 years ago

    Hi pgrundy.  That's great news that finally Bill has been diagnosed correctly.  I wish him much strength during recovery and don't forget to take care of yourself as well.

  9. The Rope profile image55
    The Ropeposted 8 years ago

    pgrundy - I am so thrilled for you!  Your joy must be tremendous.  Hugs all 'round!

    (p.s.  Don't wait until he is out of the hospital, talk to an attorney NOW, find one who will take the case but if he's worth his salt, he'll/she'll propose to stay out of it until Bill is either released or sent to a third party rehab.  Laws differ from state to state but you only have a certain amount of time to file a suit and the attorney needs all the lead time he can get.)

    1. Marisa Wright profile image97
      Marisa Wrightposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Getting a lawyer now sounds like a good idea - I know it's tough with so much going on but you may be glad you did.

      I missed out on the early parts of this saga.  What an awful ordeal to go through - I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that it all ends well and that he's home soon, feeling better.

  10. Jane@CM profile image61
    Jane@CMposted 8 years ago

    Pam, I'm glad he finally got the correct diagnosis - what a nightmare for you both!

    Prayers all around, for both of you.

  11. thranax profile image51
    thranaxposted 8 years ago

    Best of wishes!


  12. Triplet Mom profile image77
    Triplet Momposted 8 years ago

    I am so sorry that you are going through this.  Having experienced botched operations with my husband, I would highly suggest documenting everything (even if you start writing it all out now).  I would also seek legal advice ASAP.  Take care of yourself and good luck to the two of you!

  13. Amanda Severn profile image97
    Amanda Severnposted 8 years ago

    Pam, what a nightmare! Poor Bill must have been in dreadful pain, and I'm so glad to hear that he is finally on the mend. Now rest up and get some sleep if you can. Take care. All my best wishes to you both.

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 8 years ago

    It sounds like you finally did find good medical care and that he is in very good hands. So he'll be getting better soon and you can get some badly needed rest yourself. I'm wishing him a speedy and complete recovery and from what you say it'a a pretty good bet. Hang in there and you'll be having a wonderful Holiday together soon.... and yeh, about finding a lawyer - good idea.

  15. bukan profile image61
    bukanposted 8 years ago

    I wish by-hearted  Get well soon Grundy Family smile

  16. Zsuzsy Bee profile image89
    Zsuzsy Beeposted 8 years ago

    Pam, so great to hear a bit of good news. Strength to you both. Take care.

  17. jayjay40 profile image81
    jayjay40posted 8 years ago

    I feel for you both, hope things get better now. God bless