I haven't had this problem because I don't generally write on contentious issues. If someone simply had a contrary opinion and expressed it forcefully, I'd leave it in the spirit of free speech. If I decided to reply and the exchange degenerated into a slanging match, I'd delete the whole exchange.
Seriously though, I agree with most of what Marisa said. It's about free speech. I don't even care if it's rude or profane since you can really only say so much in HP. I have had a couple people reply with their first reactions and kiss and make up with me in e-mails but I still keep their initial negative comment published. Luckily, the negative vibes in all but one case were a result of something that had nothing to do with me when all was said and done.
Being of a closely watched and "demeaned" religion I am prodded quite often both on the internet as well as out in the real world. First thing to remember is discipline. You must have enough integrity and discipline to not write or post anything on the internet that you truly don't believe or cannot back up. This is your defense. If you have a deep testimony or belief in what you are writing you will know how to handle the crap that will be handed you.
For me I suppress the rhetoric with kindness. Contention only breeds contention. If I get a nasty note, which I just did on another thread, I reply with kindness and never respond to that person again on that topic.
Thanks for the comment! It can be very difficult not to reply with the same force as was shown to you. However, we must remember that one of man's most cherished downfall is pride. It is pride that wants us to defend against words of others with contention. Words will never hurt us as long as we don't let them.
However, if you are an extremely sensitive type just forget forums, keep hubbing and disable the comments capsule. I've got faith in you though.
Here! Here! It's also about the value of the statement to the hub - if it adds value, even if it is another opinion, leave it. Remember that even negative or contentious statements can have value in the overall read, your job is to go beyond or above them, don't take the bait - be the grown up. Your reputation will benefit in the long run. I've had spam which I deleted of course and a negative or two but those I always leave. I have faith in my fellow readers - they'll see it for what it is.
I have gotten very upset over it before, now I simply ignore it... I would not make fun of others, and do not ever think anyine should make fun of me... "Treat others only how you want to be treated"
I stay away from the chiches now and things have been bettter for me..I have been having some personal issues outside of hubpageres and got some pretty horible comments when I tried to talk about it, so I only post on threads that are now harmless and keep my issues that do not matter to hubpages to myself..
yet I will always try to help another with my knowledge or feelings when they are hurting or in need.
Funny thing is for all the time I've been here I did not really have too aggressive commenters. Like bark a bit in comments and go away, nothing major.
But lately I got to see something extraordinaire.
The guy appeared on one of my hubs a few days ago. He picked up a line from one of my comments on that hub that did not have much relevance to the hub topic, put this line totally out of context and promptly proceeded to fight a straw man he just created.
We exchanged a couple of more comments - of course I was making fun out of him - and then he disappeared. I already forgot about the incident, but yesterday I stumbled upon a hub of him, specifically created to fight this straw man, and to bash me personally. Seriously, I did not see that much of venom spitted on me since the infamous hub titled "Mark and Misha are condescending vaginas".
I would say it would be an extreme case of aggressive commenter. But Tammy, you just left a comment on that guy's hub, saying you agree to every word this guy said. Isn't it a bit hypocritical? Just a tiny bit?
I just got my first one today..I deleted it and forgot about it untill now..I remember the name they used, and I tried my best to see if it was a hubber and the name did not even register..left a very nasty comment on my paranormal site, saying if I believed in the paranormal I was crazy and needed help and it was all a bunch of Bu$$sh$$ to them..
probly was just someone who did it to others with paranormal sites and did not even stick around to do any hubbing , etc. as far as I can tell..
does not matter, we know we all write decent hubs...
Dang good answer. As I right so many hubs on politics I get alot of very long winded comments trying to convince me I've lost my mind. The irritating thing to me is that facts usually don't bother them too much. I might have 3 comments from 3 different hubbers that say the same thing almost to a word. Damn near spam. I delete them usually.
me too. i refuse to let people leave graffiti on my hubs. i will go head to head in the forums sometimes, but usually if someone is just poking me for their own stupid purposes, i ignore them like the plague that they are. i'm not afraid to defend my position in the forums, but i refuse to argue pointlessly with people who enjoy arguing for the sake of arguing. but my hus are different because i work hard on those and i won't allow anyone to besmirch them.
Trolls and spammers I delete. I also delete haters, bigots and fight-mongers. Sensible, responsible objections to my writings I allow. I think it's pretty obvious about the intentions some commenters have, and I just deal with it accordingly.
Marissa, wsp2469, I don't write anything that I can't back up. I was just curious. How others handled these situations. This person was angry he thought I called his comment spam so he had to attack...so I deleted. It was rather comical really. Some people take themselves too seriously. The link the guy posted was to his website selling stuff.....so it was spam. LOL
I'd have said you should keep your aggressiveness for the forums . And even then, try to be tongue-in-cheek where you can. If you are going to challenge someone on their own hub, you should try to be polite, show some respect, and probably end with a pleasant greeting.
You are not obligated to accept comments, or to justify your decision if you deny the comment. There is nothing wrong with denying and ignoring. It's your hub, you are in control of it - do what you think it right for you.
Personally I have never denied a comment apart from bizarre spam that doesn't even include my keyword.
Frankly, it is the negative comments that I like the best They strengthen my own argument in most cases.
I write on very sensitive/controversial issues, so I have to deal with all kinds of feedback, esp. outside hubpages. It's the 'tone' of the comment that decides it for me. If it's an objection to what I write about, if said in a civil enough manner, I publish the comment. And then personally email the sender and explain.
But if someone is just being rude or insulting without contributing anything other than a personal attack, i draw the line. e.g. on of one my hubs on immigrants, I got a comment saying, 'go back to your country ..blah blah we hate you!'....I just deleted it and moved on.
I am so glad to know that a lot of you just delete. I was hoping I wasn't alone. Great advice everyone. I haven't gotten any rude attacks from hubbers...the community here has been nothing but supportive.
I've never received a negative or confrontational comment. It depends what it would say and how it would affect the page. It's our page, we can do whatever we want with it, within TOS.
I see no reason to attack someone who has left a message in comments that you leave open to anyone. and anyone who writes something that could be controversial should be ready for any and all kinds of comments. if they attack the author, like mow said, I would delete it also. no reason to go down to their level.
I think sometimes hubbers forget that this site is open to the world.
The thing with writing for money is that criticism is very much a part of the game. I can't think of a single major author that doesn't come under fire from the uber-religious nut jobs who try to ban their books right on down to critics who clearly only skimmed the book and therefore make irrelevant comments about the story.
If you can't handle a few negative remarks on Hubpages from people you will likely never meet in person, then how will you ever handle the hordes of critics who come to meet you at your book signings, or your convention booths, or what have you?
I have said that I wouldn't care to come back to the forums for a while but someone has convinced me otherwise. Forgive me for waffling. I needed some time to think about things. HubPages is a great place and wonderful opportunities have opened up for me here. Thank you to all the people who have good hearts and good heads.
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