Are you honest?

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  1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
    schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years ago

    I'll tell you if you're beautiful, and I'll also tell you if you're being a pain in the butt (in real life) ~that's just me-honest!!

    1. Alya rose profile image59
      Alya roseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Wow,that's pretty brave,I can only do that when I'm really angry^_^

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
        schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        big_smile I get angry alot lol

    2. Misha profile image64
      Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Are you for real?

    3. earnestshub profile image72
      earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Are you on the wrong thread? lol

      1. Pandoras Box profile image62
        Pandoras Boxposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Oh she's just one of those attention seeking types.

  2. Cagsil profile image71
    Cagsilposted 14 years ago

    I refuse to be anything but honest. I remain honest with myself, so that I may be honest with others.

    I leave no room with regards to feelings, because I'm straight to the point and blunt as possible. If the words that I say hurt, then self(yourself) re-evaluation is required.

    I see no reason to lie or present things, so as to protect others. It's dishonest and lacks integrity. smile

    1. elayne001 profile image83
      elayne001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, I know. Some times a little tact is a good thing. But I do admire your honesty.

      1. Cagsil profile image71
        Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Sometimes using tact is helpful, but diminishes the weight of the message. wink

        1. sofs profile image73
          sofsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Honesty is a must first with self,  I am not sure if we can really say that we are brutally honest with ourselves,  being tactful is not lying, i can only see it as giving others space to grow in a nurturing environment.

          1. Cagsil profile image71
            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            If you are not blunt with your own evaluation and critical to a fault, then you will find wiggle room to be dishonest with others.
            I didn't say tactful was lying. I said it diminishes the message. wink

        2. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
          schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I guess it depends on the situation
          Like if my niece has a pretty dress but there's one tiny thing I dont like about it~ I don't need to say it and hurt her feelings

          But if its someone who is doing something wrong or being too demanding of me~I would say to them to STOP!

          But in general~you'll find I'm very honest- down to earth, truthful as long as it's not being mean....my friends love it they tell me~they know where I stand and I would like that in someone too.
          big_smile

    2. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Most of my friends admire me for my honesty and I try to be assertve -not aggressive smile

    3. luvpassion profile image61
      luvpassionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm honest to people I interact with personally. I am whoever I choose to be online...and don't care. I say what I think...which may not always be the best thing, but that's just me.

      Teri

    4. megs78 profile image59
      megs78posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      hmm...being honest is important, but so is being tactful.  Bluntness certainly has a time and place, but is not always the best method.

      1. Cagsil profile image71
        Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Being tactful? As I said before, it diminishes the message. As for the "bluntness" has better effect and affect on people. Thus, doesn't need to be the best method. wink It's just a method. wink

        1. megs78 profile image59
          megs78posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I mean, here is a time when I am blunt:  my best friend keeps making the same stupid mistake over and over again and its not only affecting her life, but the life of her kids.  She comes to me everytime to cry on my shoulder.  Finally, I've had enough and tell her straight out "you need professional help, you are ruining your life, which is fine because its your choice, but now you are also ruining the lives of your children, which is not ok because they didn't choose this life and don't deserve it."  She is shocked at my bluntness, but needed to hear it straight.

          But when there are times that honesty can be employed with tactfulness, it is usually the best way to be sure not to unnecessarily hurt anyone. 

          I remember having a friend when I was little who was brutally honest.  I had a problem with my jaw and couldn't eat food without chewing side to side instead of up and down.  My friend didn't know I had a medical problem and outright told me that I chewed like a cow chewing his cud and that I should stop.  That comment affected me for the rest of my life.  I was always hyper conscious of the way I ate and embarrassed to eat in front of people.

          anyways, like I said, tact can go a long way in protecting people from getting their feelings hurt.

          1. Cagsil profile image71
            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I'm interested in relaying a message that needs to be made and the impact of said message needs to be understood. If someone get their feelings hurt by the "words", then they need to re-evaluate themselves. Nothing more, nothing less.

            If someone says some words, and you get hurt, then apparently you let those words hurt you. Again, nothing more and nothing less. wink

  3. iantoPF profile image80
    iantoPFposted 14 years ago

    In the words of lazarus Long; "Never let honesty get in the way of your better judgement."

  4. profile image0
    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    i'd be a liar if i said i was.

  5. Bill Manning profile image70
    Bill Manningposted 14 years ago

    Yes I'm very honest and hide nothing. My avatar is a picture of me, my handle is my real name. Lying always, always makes things worst and you always get found out, so why bother?

    However I'm a bit too honest I think, to the point of being blunt and maybe too much for some. I notice I'm real good at killing threads here with my bluntness and honesty. lol

    1. elayne001 profile image83
      elayne001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah Cagsil - where is your real picture and your real name - you are lying - oh, not!!!!

      1. elayne001 profile image83
        elayne001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        I mean, oh, no!

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
          schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I agree, Cagsil is being dishonest w/ not putting up his picture. big_smile

          1. Cagsil profile image71
            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Actually, I have used a picture of myself in the past. Just because it isn't there now, does not mean I am being dishonest. wink

            1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
              schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

              Okay, it's good you put a smiley face smile
              I hate how you act in the R&B forums.

  6. Disturbia profile image59
    Disturbiaposted 14 years ago

    Honesty is very important to me.  Anyone who has read any of my hubs or poetry knows that I value it highly, especially in relationships.  There is nothing I dislike more than a liar or a cheat. I speak from the heart, openly and frankly to my family and friends and being a business woman, I deal honestly and fairly with both my employees and my customers.

    However, I must say that I draw the line at being "brutal" about anything. As a cancer survivor, I know something about being on the receiving end of brutal honesty and there were times when a little bit of sugar might have made the medicine go down a little smoother. I think there are times when a "little white lie" might be perfectly justified. One must decide for oneself which serves the greater good. 

    Not that I'm making a case for dishonesty, but things are not always either black or white and sometimes people can become a little bit self-righteous or even arrogant about certain virtues.

  7. leeberttea profile image56
    leebertteaposted 14 years ago

    I'd like to think so. but I do lie, in the technical sense. What's the point of telling the truth if all that's gained are hurt feelings?

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      good point! flattery is nice ;-)

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
        schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Although a cheating man is no man.........if it's about that LOL big_smile

  8. Rafini profile image82
    Rafiniposted 14 years ago

    I'm more honest than I'd like to be....hmm  Sometimes I'd really like to kick myself in the teeth for some of the things I say or admit to.  neutral

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ditto ;\

  9. profile image0
    klarawieckposted 14 years ago

    yes

  10. profile image0
    Lecieposted 14 years ago

    i love being honest but honestly i can't remember why. wink

  11. starme77 profile image77
    starme77posted 14 years ago

    WOW! really holy cow ... I'm actually working on a hub on honesty right now .so .this is a trip ......... anyway .my PHD Psychologist said I am the most Honest person she has ever met in her entire life! So, well, comming from a PHD......guess I'm one hell of a honest person smile

  12. LeanMan profile image73
    LeanManposted 14 years ago

    I am as honest as I need to be in a given situation....

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      sounds like a playa mentality?? yikes

  13. Chaotic Chica profile image61
    Chaotic Chicaposted 14 years ago

    My honesty in telling my ex's wife (who has left him already and contacted me asking questions) has led to a family uproar (the ex's family) and a court date.  They even want to fly me out to testify against statements she made in court that weren't completely honest.
    If they're paying for the flight, I'll go but I will not lie on that stand and they aren't going to like what I have to say about their precious, flawless son.  I don't want to get involved but both sides are demanding it.  I guess if the judge says I have to be there, I'll go.  The ex's ex has twisted some of what I told her and I don't mind straightening that out but in the process of doing so, I will be forced to reveal skeletons that they don't know about.
    I hate the situation I'm in right now but honesty got me there and I won't go back on it.

  14. habee profile image92
    habeeposted 14 years ago

    I'm very honest, but I'm also diplomatic and am concerned with the feelings of others. If a friend is wearing a shirt that doesn't look good on her, and she asks me how it looks on her, I would probably respond with something like, "I like your blue blouse much better."

    1. Disturbia profile image59
      Disturbiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Way to go habee.  I'm right there with you.  Why hurt someone's feelings if you don't have to.

    2. starme77 profile image77
      starme77posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Nice answer habee smile  no wonder your one of my faves here on hubs! smile

    3. charanjeet kaur profile image62
      charanjeet kaurposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You are one gem of a person Habee. Love you for that.

  15. habee profile image92
    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Good, Disturbia. I thought maybe it was just a Southern "thang." lol

    1. Chaotic Chica profile image61
      Chaotic Chicaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No, it's not just a southern thang.  Although I've noticed Southerners have a way of using that twang to make a snide comment sound sweet! LOL

  16. habee profile image92
    habeeposted 14 years ago

    CC, we Southern gals are supposed to be able to tell someone to go to hell in a way that will make them enjoy the trip!

    1. Chaotic Chica profile image61
      Chaotic Chicaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      LOL And y'all do, too! I actually find it quite amusing!

  17. Arthur Fontes profile image68
    Arthur Fontesposted 14 years ago

    I am always honest.  What I have learned from this is that people can get quite angry when confronted with the truth.

  18. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    There can be a world of difference between the words “honest” and “ethical”.

    Edit: This statement was just a general observation and does not relate to the OP.

    1. Arthur Fontes profile image68
      Arthur Fontesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes but honesty and honor are similar.

      1. paradigmsearch profile image62
        paradigmsearchposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Honor is more closely related to the word “ethical” than to the word “honest”, imho.

        1. Arthur Fontes profile image68
          Arthur Fontesposted 14 years agoin reply to this



          Ethics are subjective.

          Honesty is objective.

          1. paradigmsearch profile image62
            paradigmsearchposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Agreed!

            Edit:

            Honesty is easy to do without thought to consequences.

            Ethics (of which honesty is a component) is one heck of a lot of work.

  19. bojanglesk8 profile image60
    bojanglesk8posted 14 years ago

    Sometimes...

    1. Dave Barnett profile image57
      Dave Barnettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      honesty is usually the best policy, but, total honesty would bring the world to a halt, if not send it down in flames. Besides, if our politicos were totally honest, they wouldn't be able to get elected

  20. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    As relates to OP’S situation:

    An initial response of “No Comment!” would have maintained both honesty and ethics. Unfortunately, under stress, mistakes seem to be the norm with our species.

    As to what to do going forward; I have not a clue.

  21. Gypsy48 profile image59
    Gypsy48posted 14 years ago

    I am very blunt and honest. If my friends want an honest answer about something they know who to go to.

  22. IntimatEvolution profile image74
    IntimatEvolutionposted 14 years ago

    I'm honest to a fault.

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I've noticed sad     !!!

  23. wildorangeflower profile image60
    wildorangeflowerposted 14 years ago

    I am honest, but I tell it in a nice way!

  24. William R. Wilson profile image61
    William R. Wilsonposted 14 years ago

    If I say I am honest, but I'm really a liar, then I'm not really honest, right? 

    So you'll have to decide for yourself if I'm honest or not.  smile

    1. profile image0
      Wife Who Savesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Compared to those in Washington, we are all honest.

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image77
        schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        big_smile big_smile big_smile

  25. Flightkeeper profile image67
    Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

    No.

  26. profile image0
    DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years ago

    what if someone lies about being honest?

  27. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    I have decided to post a real picture of myself.

  28. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    A sigh of excitement ripples across HP.

    1. profile image0
      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      smile

  29. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    Give me about 5 min.

  30. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    Good for today, or whenever I get around to changing it.
    .
    http://s4.hubimg.com/u/3619627_f520.jpg

  31. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    Profile change in 2 min.

    Edit: Done, obviously.

    1. profile image0
      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      hey.....you look alot like somebody else I know.

  32. paradigmsearch profile image62
    paradigmsearchposted 14 years ago

    If traffic goes up, it stays.

    If traffic goes down, it is gone.

  33. SteveoMc profile image72
    SteveoMcposted 14 years ago

    I'm only honest because I am paranoid.  I would very much rather be dishonest, but it is just too complicated for me. I can barely remember the truth, let alone make something up.

    I do however, try to tell my wife what I think she wants to hear rather than what I think as this is probably better for my health, and she might win the lotto someday and I would rather have some of that than tell the truth.


    When she asks me if her new outfit makes her look fat, I answer, "No.  Not at all."   But I leave the rest out:  "It is not your outfit that makes you look fat, it is your fat behind and your sagging arms and protruding belly that makes you look fat."

    Do you think this color looks good on me?   "Yes it does dear."  But then again it would look good on the side of a barn.

    Do you think I have used too much make-up?  "No dear, not at all."
    You wouldn't be using too much if you added two more pounds of the stuff.

    Would it be okay if I went to visit my sister for a few days?  "Of course, dear.  Here's a couple hundred bucks, enjoy yourself."
    Maybe you could stay about 6 months, you and that old bat could maybe could walk around the city and scare children with  your horrible faces.

    1. Pandoras Box profile image62
      Pandoras Boxposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Wow. Holy shit.

      Okay I just decided. I'm not getting old. Screw that.

 
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