Why don't kids respect parents anymore?
- Deborah Sextonposted 10 years ago
0Because not only don't parents raise their kids to respect them, but they show their kids no respect. Both parents in most middle class and lower families have to work so there is no time to give to their children and they are left alone or with friends most of the time.
Funny story -- I was in line at store the other day an a mother and her two children were in line ahead of me. The mother was on her cell phone and clearly angry with the person on the other end. At one point -- she told that person that he or she was never welcome in her home again. Upon ending the phone call, she called that person a jerk. She then realized that one of her kids had wandered a little. She yelled saying "Get over here and stay where I can see you." At that point, her other kid started started talking to another person in line. The mother scolded that child and said -- "what did I tell you about talking to strangers?" At that point, the mother turns to another person in line and says "Man, theses kids are a handful!" That person replied to the mother saying "You're a jerk." The mother replied "Funny, that's what I call my ex-husband."
their parents dont follow through with the dicipline... so they dont respect anyone.
Because that don't look up from their electronic devices and think that's their whole world
HI chaunatye! How's it going?
I see you asked this question three years ago. I don't know if you are still with HP, but since other people are still answering this question, I thought I take a shot.
Let me start by asking: Is it actually true that 'kids' 'don't' 'respect parents anymore'? Forgive me, but sometimes when we ask questions---which presume an underlying reality---we do well to ask ourselves if the underlying reality actually exists.
1. Is it really true that kids don't respect parents anymore?
2. Even if we could, somehow, determine that 'kids' really 'don't respect parents anymore,' I suppose it would follow that there was a time when kids did respect their parents to a suitable level, or at least 'more' then they do today.
3. Then the thing to do would be to make comparisons between 'that time past' and the current day, to see what we could pick out as factors relating to why there is a difference of respect levels of children toward their parents, 'then' and 'now.'
4. Let me close with this. Let's just keep to the United States. If we refer to U.S. history, one must always remember that the very concept of 'childhood,' as we know it today is still quite 'new,' dating back to, perhaps, the 1930s---(I'm talking about 'children' working 14-hour days, with no days off, in factories, coal mines, farms, and the like; it only came to an end during the Great Depression because men became so desperate for work that they were willing to work for 'children's' wages). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_labo … ted_States
5. My point, here, is simply that for most of our history, in the United States of America, those we, today, think of as 'children,'---being thought of as unlike they way we think of 'them' today---naturally related to adults differently than children of today relate to adults of today.
6. Maybe this 'respect' dynamic we speak of, is, like many human relations, something that is and must undergo constant examination and re-examination, negotiation and renegotiation.
Take it easy.This could really come across as complex. As complex as the word is. Life suffer's from it irregularities.
Life is like a distillery process. And in the human family our genetic disposition's, are always recognized in our offspring. When parents want reason for disrespect from their children. Alls they really have to do is recognize within themselves their level of respect for their child's individual life. Apart from their own and the family in a whole.
You have to separate the part's, and breakdown personal hippocracies, often unconscious in the understanding of one's self. Breaking down barrier's in a relationship is letting go of absolute's and beginning an open process of communication, without the complex of consequence constructing wall's and weapons to protect it Communication that builds and develops positive relationships is free flowing ability to recognize
and understand, the plight's and dreams of another.
Respect is like a plant and it begins with a seed, and a nurturing, with an understanding of your love for ( you child's) individual value.
Derive value in your child's individual and respect will distill from it's parts, a beautiful relationship. Like a beautiful flower in nature creation's.
No Individual is the property of another. Rather it is the property of a vast uncompromising; Universe.I dont think it is the kids that are the problem as much as the parents. Too many people don't realize the responsibility that comes with being a parent. Because of this, people who shouldnt be parents are parents, and they wind up being neglectful or harmful to the child.
Everything starts at home most of the time, when children to be disrespectful is because they learned it at home first or they learned it from another source like media or school but the parents did nothing to correct it. Sometimes it's the parents own disrespect for authority that sets the bad example for children.
For example a teacher may correct someone's child and provide non-physical discipline, and instead of the parent supporting the teacher they defend their child instead even if they know for a fact that their child was in the wrong. That type of environment breeds rebelliousness. If parents fail to show respect for authority how can they expect their children to feel respect towards them as an authority. It's a case of you reap what you sow.
The media does not help with the type of t.v shows, movies and music they expose the public too. "it's just a movie" or it's "just a song" but when you repeatedly watch or hear something you are teaching yourself wether the person is aware of it or not. This still leads back to the home of the child, because if you are allowing it in your home your in effect saying that what you are watching or hearing is ok.
Finally and most important it is a sign that we are living in the last days. The bible foretold that in the last days that children "...would be disobedient to parents, unthankful..." (2 Timothy 3:1-5) And so we see the realization of that prophecy today. However there is a solution to deal with it today and a permanent solution on the horizon.As far as I'm concerned though I don't have yet kids, The parents has the biggest attribute on a child's attitudes. When a child picks up something from the parents a good or bad thing thus it may result to good bad also depending on what they learned. Maybe the child who doesn't respect their parents didn't really see their parents respect others or others don't really respect their parents.
First off I would like to state that this is a very prominent question in today's discussions or small talks, I've been in a few myself about this topic. I feel that kids do not respect their parents because with today's political stance on some things, parents have to, as they say, "spare the rod". Now was/is it fun to get hit as a child, absolutely not, but it let us know that what we were doing was bad and most likely stopped us from doing it. What I find in today's society is that you cannot do this to your children anymore because all they have to do is call social services and your off the State Correctional Facility. I believe that it has most to do with the parents not parenting and also on the kids part, sometimes, no matter what, a kid is going to be bad, and that's just the way it's going to be. I hope this answered your question.
What many people think is respect is really fear and most children do not seem to fear their parents anymore. They have wised up to the fact that they have rights. Respect is a 2-way street and the only way to gain a person's respect is to respect them. Unfortunately many of our common parenting techniques are disrespectful.
Because this generation make them bad and the child cannot respect there parents
Let me give you an example. "Sally, you must share your things." So, guess what? Kids learn that if they want something and they ask for it, the other person must give it to them. Life is not like that. I having been fighting an extremely self-centered part of society in the area that now live in. The kids as a whole are uneducated (with a high school diploma many of them still cannot pass the ASVABS and get into the service or even go into community colleges without remedial work). They want to stay out all night and drink and smoke, then come home, sleep all day, and have mommy take them shopping. By buying into this whole "self-esteem" thing, parents have been utterly hoodwinked. We've created a society that only asks what's in it for them.
I think it is because of the unlimited freedom they are given now a days. Everything is perfect if it is in control.
- Lybrahposted 10 years ago0
They aren't taught to respect them. Parents are too busy trying to be friends with their children and thus let them walk all over them.
It's also pretty much against the law to discipline your child...people try to make deals with and negotiate with a five year old--not going to happen. Main reason is that,
Parents don't understand them and kids don't too,
Sometimes kids need few things in their life but parents are not willing to buy those things for them because of their financial conditions,
Parents restrict their kids with many conditions and do not wish to pursue what they wanted to do,
Parents are insisting their likes among their kids and kids have their own likes.Don't they? I see a lot of kids who do. And kids that don't often have parents or teachers who don't respect them and their feelings or fail to communicate that they do. Children learn from what they experience around them.
Discipline isn't applied the same as it uswd to be, especially in the UK.
Maybe due to the change in laws regarding how you touch a child. In my day you would get slapped by your Auntie and them again by your mother.I would say for this kind of situation most of the cases parents are responsible. Now a days child are liking to live their life how they want but parents don't let them to do so may be it's for their kids boon but kids take it in wrong meaning therefore kids gradually starting disobeying their parents. As a example suppose a kid like to play cricket but his parent don't want him to play cricket, they want something different then the kid get angry with his parent and started disrespecting.
Because in todays world parents dont give them something to respect. Kids are spoiled now and are not taught proper communication. It seems as though there is a new way of thought today about how people should raise there kids. Its not my place to say how someones choices in raising there child is wrong after all I am not the one who has to deal with them later, however allot of parents seem to be taking the softer approach the I want to be your best freind over your parent thats all fine and good if you want to raise a child that has no respect as children it is law that we respect our parents as parents its law that we give our children something to respect its a careful balancing act it goes both ways. That is just my opinion.
it's because some parents over pampering their kids, even if their kid abuses to someone, they take it as a compliment about how our son/daughter is progressing and growing. Just to have that fun or proud, they don't scold them. I give you one example. In my neighbourhood there is one family. When their son was 3-4 years old, he was very mischievios, not respecting anyone. Once i was teasing him to make him laugh, he got angry and said GET LOST YOU. I immediately asked his father to make him talk in manners, not like a layman. Now see what his father teaches, he said SON,HE'S ELDER THAN YOU, YOU SHOULD SAY PLEASE LEAVE THE PREMISE OR I WONT LIKE IT. Now tell me the impact over son. Today the boy grown up and turned 14. He's still the same and so his father. Boy doesn't respect even his parents. I hope you're getting my point. When the plant is in infant stage, it can be shaped up, bend as we want, and it grows up that way but once it turns a tree, it's almost impossible to bend.
kid's do not respect paresnts, because kid's have no knowledge compare to young person. Kid's gain lot of love own parents. kid's are naughty but they have true heart, .
I suggest your question but finally do not suggest a correct answer. please suggeste me. I desire you that's you suggest me with correct answer.- JThomp42posted 10 years ago0
Nurturing. Kids need to understand that there is a consequence for every bad decision they make from an early age. If there are no consequences? If they do not respect their parents... they will not respect anyone.. including themselves.
Because parents don't command respect; they're too concerned about being their kids' friends to actually parent. Parents should set boundaries, have consequences they stick to, and encourage hard work, all in a loving environment.
I don't think it's possible to determine that kids don't respect their parents anymore. What is this based on? Your observations? You weren't able to observe how previous generations of children interacted with their parents, so I'm not sure how you could determine that kids not respecting their parents is a new thing.
I also am not sure what you consider respect and that would presumably vary greatly depending on the age of the child.
Ultimately, I think this is probably a question that every generation asks. Probably due to a bit of selective memory. We all like to think that things were better back in 'our day' or that we were better behaved, but I do wonder if it's simply just having a different perspective that makes it feel that way.
I think that kids in general might not respect their parents because their parents don't show them respect. Modelling is the most effective way to teach behaviour. Show your kids respect and they will likely show respect back.
Permissive parenting gets a lot of flack, but authoritarian parenting is just as damaging. I think it's hard for a lot of people to strike a balance between hearing what their kids have to say and enforcing boundaries. People say the lack of physical punishment in the recent years is a problem, but I'd argue that the problem is people not seeking alternative forms of discipline. Spanking/hitting was widely accepted for a long time and now that it's not, people just don't bother to find a more constructive way to deal with unfavourable behaviour.The trend is disturbing. But it's by design. The Lords of Selfishness, the Rockefellers, Rothschilds and their ilk have put into place public policies and corporate behavior that were meant to divide the family and to make the child more dependent upon the state.
Nick Rockefeller said as much to the late Aaron Russo (see Alex Jones interview of Russo on YouTube). Women's Lib was not so altruistic as some might believe. It was meant to double the tax coffers at the private Federal Reserve bank, making the Rockefellers and friends twice as rich. It was also meant to take the mother out of the home to weaken the values of the kids. State (through schools) control of kids will supplant the family unit. That is their desire for world domination and a New World Order.
But behind it all, the real culprit is Ego. We're all born with it. We're all born in this sin of separateness and self-concern. Love is the only solution -- non-self-concerned, altruistic giving (including forgiving).
http://perceivingreality.comTwo things, one is young parents. If you haven't learned how to be an adult yet then you can't possibly teach a child to become one.
two. no more hitting kids, let my clarify. Child abuse is wrong, I know. We should however still be allowed to spank our kids. I have watched kids yell and curse and scream at their parents in the middle of the store, with the parent not knowing what to do. I promise you one sold hit on the butt, that kid will stop. They are not afraid of parents because they no longer have a reason to be. If I was a kid and my mom grounded me I wouldn't just yell at her, I would do what I was told, because if i didn't i would get beat. I love my mom for being hard on me. I may not have liked it, but looking back, the fear of getting hit kept me out of a lot of trouble.Societal values and virtues has diminish and available knowledge for Kids on social media,most are embarrassing thereby starving them of respect for elders.most importantly child raising in some homes is satanic and lots more.
I would say that respect is one of the many manifestations of discipline. So maybe you should rephrase your question - why don't parents discipline their children anymore?
To me, it's simply because parents don't demand it or they don't or are inconsistent with disciplining. I've also seen the opposite - over demanding/disciplining can achieve the same results. You may ask "how do you know if you're doing too much or too little?" When they're being respectful, you're doing it right :-)
Also, it is necessary to be respectful towards others so that your kids emulate your behavior. It's difficult to be respectful if there's no example to follow.Many parents no longer bestow or emphasize moral values and do not raise their kids to respect others (including them). Respect isn't some genetic trait that people either have or do not, but a value that is acquired through teaching and demonstration. We can blame societal influences, but at the end of the day, you're responsible for passing on what was expected of us when we were children. Sadly many parents allow social media or TV to babysit and teach their children what's acceptable in society. I think we're now beginning to see the consequences.
In my opinion, kids don't respect their parents because of their parents. That didn't make sense, lets talk specifics. My cousin used to be super nice and carring for her parents. Many say, that the reason she has been so mean to them its because they're always fighting in her presence. If parents dont pay much attention to their childs life, there will be no communication/relationship between them. Mothers and Fathers always need a healthy realionship with their kids, no matter if divorced or still married. Alot of parents dont even pay attention to their kids and more to their love life when divorced. And, they're some other parents that act life teenagers and stare at their phones instead of their kids faces and emotions. In conclusion, its not kids fault, adults have a problem here aswell. As my mother always says "If kids have no say on parental disorder, than we adults have to be the babies in this era".
Child rearing is very difficult. This was describe in one of my hubs. Though, parents nurtured and guided their children well, some kids turned to be the unexpected. We have to put in mind that the environment plus the factors such as media and peers affect their personality and attitude. To anticipate on the effects of the external factors is our great challenge.
- MrDanielAbramposted 10 years ago0
Some kids respect parents. It depends what kids we are talking about here.
Many of my friends have very respectful kids. I guess it depends on many factors, but mostly it's the parent(s). It's not always their fault either. Maybe they have to work all of the time or some other situation that has them constantly occupied. It takes quite a bit to raise a kid.
Parents need to raise their children with love, boundaries, patience and consistency. Without rules and boundaries and consistency, then children will act out. Children need rules to feel safe. They need to understand that you are there for them to guide them and they need to fully understand what is acceptable behavior and what is not. Disrespecting parents is a true sign that parents are failing to provide the guidance that that child needs.
Sometimes it depends on a lot of factors. Media affects us so much even without us noticing it. Watching shows where children disrespect their parents, talk back, shouts and curses at their mom and dad add to the factors why kids don't respect their parents. Sometimes it's because of their parents, how they discipline or even talk to their kids. Some children don't think or consider their parents worthy of their respect. I believe that Respect should be earned. The mind of a child is like a sponge they absorb, absorb, absorb when they see their mother or father disrespecting one another or even their neighbors or family members what do you think is the implication on their young minds? We shouldn't blame it all on the child...just saying.
Children need a sense of stability. Parents have to deliver on what we promise- whether the promise be for a necessity, a reward, or a punishment. Kids need to know that they can count on parents to be adult, responsible, consistent, and fair. They need to understand that the set of rules we apply to them has a basis in common sense, and is not the result of our whims (to be safe, you can not run into street; to be acceptable company, you can not hit others) plus reasonable, just consequences when rules are broken. If there is no consistency in a child's upbringing, no rhyme or reason to the rules imposed upon them. no fairness in punishments, then a child's respect can be lost to disappointment, insecurity, confusion, and pain.
Respect is a touchy issues. This generation no nothing about values, norms and ethics. Respect has to be taught, if a kid is not respecting his/her parents that's the failure of the parents. In most cases, it's because the parents haven't earned their respect. Parents can't just get respect through harsh means if they want to get respect they need to earn it.
Parents do not raise their children with love, standards, rules, and with the expectation of respect. Too many parents want to be best friends when your role is to lead, guide, and parent. All this bargaining, time out, and having a child tell you how life is going to operate is not right. Not only does the child not respect their parents, they won't respect any authority or rules of society. This is the basis of raising a menace to society.
I Think it depends on your raising If you give them some respect they will be kinder, more Polite And listening to you
Parents alone are liable .. parents give a lot of love and affection to their children in an exaggerated manner and then the kids get used to this kind of emotions. Always there must be a balance in the relationship and feelings going overboard in everything backfire. And must always taking into consideration the extent of their friends and their influence on their personality.
They do. You just remember it differently. To believe kids are less well behaved now than before would mean you believe you're a horrible parent compared to your parents.
The problem with authority is no authority uses their power to empower. Children are subject to extreme oppression where they are unequal to all. This leads to a few possibilities one they become extremely narsasistic to compensate for loss of power. Or they can become very submissive and may eventually lash out (with good reason). As parents it is your job to teach kids to think for themselves and not just believe whatever they are told. If you are a parent and if you ever say "because I said so" that should be nipped in the bud. This is not to say that this is always the case but most children go through intense conditioning in order the fit the bill of society (and their parents idea of what their child should do). It is this conditioning that strips them of their individuality and creativity. What most authority does is limit the amount of accepted action/opinion and allows lots of speculation within this narrow spectrum of acceptedness to synthesize the idea that freethinking is going on (rephrased Burtrand Russell quote). So to answer your question as to why kids don't listen to their parents its because of their lack of freedom. Please please don't let this continue on.
Thats is easy life is getting boring to them they came to learn the the universal language metaphysics, astrology, numerology, n the 4 elements teach them then they will look at u as the goddess that u are they are advance souls dont bs with teach them truth but make fun n watch the illuminate like the stars they are trust i know.
A lack of communication between parents and children if not a total avoidance of their children leaving them to do anything they want. Maybe it's not respect that's the problem, and it does come down to the parents. The kids might be acting out because they want their parents to pay attention for once, and yes everyone gets the blue ribbon nowadays. Every child is considered to be "special" and "gifted" ,which is probably why the "look at me" generation has gotten so self-absorbed and into themselves without doing anything of value.
I'd say it's a combination of those two factors but it really does start with the parents, which then gets passed down to our current social media culture and that molds children further into less respectful individuals.I think, parents should take care more to their children, So that the kids are always obey to their parents. They should become hard sometimes to create Discipline.
You honestly CANNOT be upset at the generation of kids for a lack of respect. First of all, it all depends on how you define respect, which is different for everyone, thus this question is somewhat invalid. Either way, it is ALWAYS the fault of a parent for misbehaving kids. This does not mean bad parenting; it just means the parent had an effect (ie, parents get divorced, kid acts out). Some may blame "misbehavior" of children on the age of technology, but that simply just means the PARENTS are the ones affected by technology in the way they raised their children. This question is very vague as well, in what areas of respect do you think current children lack that they didn't in the 80's? Or the 50's? Or the 1720's for that matter?
Now days, if your child were to tell someone of a higher authority of you that you spanked them, or washed their mouth out with soap, you would get in trouble for child abuse. Even saying "NO" to them and the child takes it aggressively-- verbal abuse. Kids walk all over their parents, because of movies, television, and the internet. They find no respect anymore and would honestly care more about their phone dying rather than their grandparent dying. Honestly though, parents have taken it to a liking to just let their children do whatever they want because they are too lazy to care to parent the correct way--- which is leading to selfishness and disobedience.
I'd say it's probably because most parents aren't parents. They have kids, then send them to daycare while they work all day long. They see their kids for a combined total of 3-5 hours a day, and in that time are too tired or distracted from work and poor lifestyles that they do almost no parenting or spend no time actually bonding with their kids. So their kids develop as islands or become adopted by their friends at school/daycare. They grow up to resent the parents that weren't there for them, and suffer lifelong separation anxiety and depression. They go into the world lacking many basic social and other life skills, so they retreat into things like video games and drugs and other escape behaviors. And then they're called entitled or lazy because they aren't succeeding and don't respect their "parents." And sub-par parents further deflect the blame by placing it on media or peer groups. This isn't to say that parents don't love their kids. They work all the time precisely because they want to provide for their kids, but they foolishly think that that's what makes a good parent. It's not. Time spent with the child, enjoying life together and teaching them how life as a human being works is what makes a good parent. Kids can't emotionally understand the sacrifices that working parents have made for them. All they know at their core is that their parents barely spent any time with them or spoke with them about anything important. They interpret that as rejection and lack of love and that is why you have so many people disrespecting their parents.
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