How to be the best girlfriend

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   Emily Sparksposted 12 years ago

   I would like some tips on how to be a good girlfriend.  Guys, how would you like your gf to treat you?  What things could I do?  Nothing sensual please.

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      calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Just be yourself, the guy should love you for being you not for being what they want you to be

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         Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Thankyou.....that means alot

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      Jonathan Jancoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Do nice things for him. Nothing completely bending over backwards or anything like that, just little things that come naturally everyday. Or something you take for granted in everyday life that he is absolutely inept with. Its these little things you can do for assisstance or efficiency that communicate you are serious about the partnership and how you compliment each other in this capacity helps you to see about your compatibility. Say, for instance, if he looks absolutely hideous when he irons his own shirts and you're really good at this, then offer to do it for him, but just once. Then see if there's a reaction of some sort. Of course, if he's REALLY a man, he'll ask you to teach him how to iron shirts, but he should nonetheless reward you in some way or another or he's not being a good boyfriend. Oh yeah, don't forget to care about yourself. If he's not a good boyfriend for you, you're not going to be a good girlfriend to him.

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      DrMikeFitzposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      since we all have our own individual needs everyone will be different. in the end, not matter what, YOU cannot "mess it up". there are 4 main ways people "feel loved". a guy came home one day and brought his wife a present thinking he'd get romance later only to find her crying in the bedroom-she said h never told her he loved her. same scenario-comes home and is all affectionate and loving and wants romance to find her crying and she said he never takes her anywhere or buys her anything, you can guess the rest of the scenarios-find what makes you and your partner feel loved and see if you both can attend to those items. it has kept serious sparks in my 22 year marriage

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   Anti-Valentineposted 12 years ago

   The fact that you actually care is a good start, Emily. A lot of people don't. They are themselves, and bring their bad habits with them.

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks, I really do care

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   Nell Roseposted 12 years ago

   Hi, I noticed you have already asked a similar question before. let me explain something. you and your boyfriend are equal. you do not need to be a 'good' girlfriend to him, he chose to go out with you because he likes you. if you don't like something tell him, and him you. never let him dictate to you, and never feel subservient to him. from your other post it sounds as if you are scared to put a foot wrong. this is not the way to go about having a relationship. being part of a couple means, love, laughter and feeling relaxed, if you don't feel these things, and in fact feel nervous or stressed, then this man is not the one for you, you will know the real one when you find him.

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I do not feel nervous or stressed.  I really do feel happy and relaxed woth him.  Honest.  I did not post these because I was having doubts or issues.  I am not scares to make a wrong move.  I simply want to be as good to him as he has been to me.  I want to show him how much I appreciate him and care for him.  I'm sorry if my question seemed to suggest something different.  We have love, laughter, and all those important things.  I am not doubting my relationship with him, I am trying to strenthen it.  He makes me feel special, cherished, loved, important, and he and no way puts me down or makes me feel below him.  He never "dictates" me.  He loves me, and I love him.  We are happy together:)

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   mega1posted 12 years ago

   Your words and actions show him how much you care.  The fact that you listen and respond and surprise him by hearing what he needs and making it happen.  I know what you mean - being the best is a goal.  Being the best YOU is the best you can possibly do.  I truly think it is the little attentions given to each other in a relationship of any kind, that make it work!  Laugh at his jokes!  but don't get all phoney- I've witnessed women who act all sweety sweet, but it just doesn't ring true!  I'm sure you'll know how to please him if you're paying attention at all.

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your input!

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   awareposted 12 years ago

   way to mans heart is thru  his stomach .

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      calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Its through his back with a pick axe lol only joking heheheheh

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         The Writers Dogposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      He actually told me that once!  He says he likes what I make!

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   Greek Oneposted 12 years ago

   speak only when you are spoken to, and lend me $100

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      calpol25posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Ummm.....I am afraid I don't have that on me, I'll have to get you later

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   timmathisenposted 12 years ago

   From the male perspective:
   
   Be yourself and the relationship will be based on equality.
   
   You'll respect him; he'll respect you.
   
   Being with women who just want to "do the right thing," "please," or provide "payback" are a turn-off for men.
   
   That said, if you do something for him, do it because you want to do it -- not because you feel obligated to do it.

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I do things because I want to, not out of obligation.  Thanks for your input!

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   The Writers Dogposted 12 years ago

   Living almost five hours away also helps. It means that he is more interested in being with you when you see each other than the football or V8s. And the perks of that!

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hahaha....well, we may part in the Fall when he goes away for school......so I may find out what that is like!

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   jirelposted 12 years ago

   If he loves you truly, you'd be his best girlfriend .Love him but give him some space too, be understanding and respect his feelings.In a relationship respecting each other is very important to continue the relationship.

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      Emily Sparksposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thankyou very much!  I know he truly loves me

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    pharuk temmy tposted 12 years ago

    I would not start by asking how sure you are if he is the right person for ... Obviously he is right for you, all you have to offer him is true love, care,tranparency faithfulness and never make him feel you would die if he leaves you, do make him feel you are what any good guy out there would be looking for.

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