In an argument

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   dipsmiposted 12 years ago

   In an argument
   
   if you are to choose between your father and your husband,whom will you chose when you think that both are right?

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   RachelNavalposted 12 years ago

   Well,it depends on the matter on which they had an argument.I don't take sides.I am the type of person who weigh things,decide and declare my stand regardless of the people affected.

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   nabeelplusposted 12 years ago

   it all depend what the argument is all about.....i will use my mind and wil support who is right

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   manisha2877posted 12 years ago

   Your question is quiet difficult to answer in a females life her father is the first person always but after marriage her husband plays the main role and females have the ability to cope with such difficulties keeping their in laws part safe they always try to become a strong bridge between father and husband and avoid such conflicts of thoughts giving rise to arguments but even then if any such situation arise females try to check out who is right who is wrong and when both are right try any third party opinion but a female has to choose her husband he is in the lead role after marriage

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   jacqui2011posted 12 years ago

   It would depend on what the argument was over. I tend to listen to both sides and try to choose who is right. Sometimes there are valid points that both may make and you could put it diplomatically that you agree with your husband but think that your dad has raised some good points. Good luck.

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   tsmogposted 12 years ago

   first "welcome" to hubpages dipsmi. What an unfair position to be in. Let me share a story. I was having an argumentative discussion with my mom on a topic once. We both were becoming slightly emotional about it. My dad, a very wise man many times, says "if you are going to talk then talk, but if you are going to argue then you should go home." Well being the 'son' I said, "it's my mom and it's our discussion." With a smile and finger pointed at me my dad replied sternly, "it may be your mom, but she is my "Wife!" Well, I got the message.
   
   Another something. My grandfather stopped my brother and I from arguing when we were young once. He asked "what is this all about." It turned into a "I'm right, No-I'm right" kinda' thing. He laughed at us, which made us madder. Then he said "It's not who is right or wrong, it's about what's left." Then he told me to go in the front yard and think about it while he sent my brother to the backyard to think about it. I finally got the message.
   
   I don't know your situation. But, I remember these often when I am in a situation as you described.

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   night-furryposted 12 years ago

   if the choice is between two good. the right choice is the greater good.

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   shampa sadhyaposted 12 years ago

   If I feel that both are right then I will definitely not take anyone's side. I will try to convince both of them to understand each others point and then leave it to them to come to a conclusion. It was their argument so they as matured beings must conclude with an understanding. For me my father and husband are equally important so there is no question of taking side especially when both of them are right.

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   R.S. Hutchinsonposted 12 years ago

   If they are both right, then why are they arguing to the point that you need to take sides? I dont get it.

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    dipsmiposted 12 years ago

    dear R.S Hutchinson,many problems have multiple solutions,the problem arises when each one thinks that his solution is the best!

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    Rastamermaidposted 12 years ago

    I wouldn't chose.
    
    If it's their argument and problem not pertaing to me, it would be just that their problem. I would explain I love you both and this is your problem to work out.
    
    Now if it's pertaining to me,it would depend on the issue.

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    iviskeiposted 12 years ago

    I guess it depends on what the fight is about. If they're both right, you might be better off being Switzerland. Sometimes it's best to let them figure it out for themselves. No reason to choose sides!

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    ArockDaNinjaposted 12 years ago

    You could not talk to either until they both decide and compromise. That's probably what I'd do.

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    arksysposted 12 years ago

    I would go with father....no the husband ... no the father ... no the husband... arrggh too difficult.
    
    refuse to choose... it's not a good position to be in.

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    cmlindblomposted 12 years ago

    Should be your husband. I would side with my wife. Once you get married I feel like thats the only person whos side you should be on. I can see dating taking you fathers side but you swore an oath to him.

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