What would you do?

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   Moon Willow Lakeposted 12 years ago

   What would you do?
   
   If you were handling your own life circumstances which necessitated the loving support from others, but someone you were related to is depending on you to be their main support for a completely different set of circumstances at the same time, how would you handle it?

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   nancynurseposted 12 years ago

   I would try and do as much as I could for my family member. My sister recently lost her husband. I am busy too but I spend as much time as I can with her. I love her dearly.

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   snizinspiredbyGodposted 12 years ago

   Well, explain your own problem to them and do what you can for them. Possibly finding an alternate source of help. Sometimes focusing on others problems helps you with your own, shedding new perspective on your own issues.

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   onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

   It is my very nature to address the needs of others, before my own.
   
   
   Sometimes, my own needs are buried..........to the point that when I DO finally 'break'.........no one has a clue as to why.
   
   
   I can not recommend this as being either wise or healthy.........it is just the way that it is for me.

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   moonfairyposted 12 years ago

   I would try to give them all the support that they needed. I sometimes do what "onegoodwoman" does and give all of myself so that there's nothing left for me to give, but I now try to balance my own needs with the needs of others. It's a tightrope walk, for sure.

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   Cara.Rposted 12 years ago

   Without getting too analytical by reading too into your question.
   I think I understand. I have loving support from someone yet feel as though someone who is related to me depends on me, this is not a child though, which would make the answer more difficult.
   I handle it like a balancing act, I do the best I can. If I can't get something done or can't be there for the person, in the way they might need me, at a certain time. I tell them and why. I am honest with the person who needed me, if I have moments where I need some loving support. Sometimes I can put my problems aside and treat each of them individually. Sometimes I can't.   
   If a child were involved I would make sure I had time for myself in some way. I would need to be at my best to keep some sanity. Although I have no children that would be my plan.

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

   I think you have to decide if YOU can handle helping them. If you are so overburdened and stressed- you can't be of much help to anyone. Take a step back and evaluate who else may be able to help. If not so, try to think of other options. Weigh them out. With my elderly parent, I did help out quite a bit and was proud of myself for doing so, but I needed breaks and they had nurses and care.
   Perhaps balancing this will do you good. Be more specific thou
   
   good luck

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