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Why don't Men Dance?

  1. Dame Scribe profile image61
    Dame Scribeposted 8 years ago

    Why don't Men Dance?

    Discuss the use of body language in dance between men and women.

  2. icewave5 profile image52
    icewave5posted 8 years ago

    Men usually dance, but if they don't they probaly too embarrassed.

  3. soni2006 profile image79
    soni2006posted 8 years ago

    Who says men don't dance. They dance and in fact love dancing. Actually things like dancing and singing depends on a person's nature. If a person is cool and confident, he/she will dance and if the person is rigid and stubborn, no one can move him/her for dancing.

    If we talk about body language in dance, I agree that men are strong muscularly and their body is rigid whereas in case of women, their bodies are flexible, so if a person is flexible, he/she will dance well than a person with rigid body.

    Besides these two points I have mentioned above, there are a lot of factors which influence this like mood, emotions, happiness, etc.

  4. RobertPalmer profile image55
    RobertPalmerposted 8 years ago

    I've seen plenty of men dance. 

    I don't. 

    Why?  Because I've never really learned.  I was socialized to think that men who dance too well are effeminate and vane whereas guys who maybe danced without knowing how where regular guys.  They could always blame their lack of coordination on the fact that their wife "dragged" them onto the dance floor.

    Also, I think when a man (speaking of a man who doesn't dance) is on the floor dancing with a woman (most of whom I've seen actually have some skill) the man feels like an idiot because the woman is showing him up even if all she is doing is swinging her hips to the beat.

    Men who don't dance tend to forget about the lower half of their bodies (except for the oddly inappropriate pelvic thrust.)  It's almost as if they feel all of the action must take place in their upper bodies or the world will end.

    In the end, it boils down to practice--just like anything else.  For a while I was taking line dancing lessons (my mother’s idea, not mine.)  I actually learned enough to do the Electric Slide without looking like a complete horses behind. 

    If you want to teach a man to dance, either take them someplace where there aren't any other men around or take them someplace where there are tons of men learning to dance.  In the first scenario they'll get loosened up and maybe try to dance because there isn't anyone around to make fun of them.  In the second, they'll see it's okay to look like an arthritic mannequin having a seizure as lopng as they are having fun and learning something.

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    mdawson17posted 8 years ago

    I can say for me (as a man) the reason why I do not dance I do not want to look like a fool! Let's put it like this ladies have class and can dance with class us men most of the time do not have class and grace (on a dance floor)!

  6. Pete Maida profile image61
    Pete Maidaposted 8 years ago

    I love to dance.  I met my wife on the dance floor.  As I remember the floor was rather crowded with other couples, men and women couples. Everytime we went dancing after that the dance floor contained men and women couples.  Not only do I dance I can to splits.
    Young men are a bit nervous about dancing I guess.  They just have to remember the old Billy Joel line from Keeping the Faith, "I learned I could dance and still look tough anyway."

  7. nightlymistress profile image60
    nightlymistressposted 8 years ago

    some men i guess are not comfortable moving around in that way.
    Whereas women can naturally just move because we are seductive creatures. Men are masculine. I guess they would feel rather silly.maybe they dont feel as if they have confidence or grace. I cant speak for the men, because i am a woman. With all my experiences, i can tell you that is the information i have gathered.

  8. BkCreative profile image71
    BkCreativeposted 8 years ago

    Hello Dame Scribe,

    Please see my article here on hub pages entitled "Why Won't Men Dance?" - it's getting a lot of fun responses.

    I think you might enjoy it. Please do leave a comment and tell me what you think,


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    onadateposted 8 years ago

    Men dance.  And the reason a man who dances is so hard to find is because a really lucky woman has found him and hidden him far away from all other women so she can keep him all to herself.  Just kidding. Men who dance are treasured.

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    margareteposted 8 years ago

    Most men are shy to dance in open , their bedrooms are their ballrooms

  11. DanceSport Place profile image57
    DanceSport Placeposted 8 years ago

    Men do enjoy dancing, but often what holds them back is their fear of looking bad. Men know that most women are impressed by a guy who can dance, and many women share the fantasy of having a wonderful partner whisk them around the floor. So, when the average guy who has not danced before encounters an opportunity to dance, he wants to do it well!
    As the leader, the man has a lot of the responsibility to make the woman, as well as himself, look good. Many men who are getting their feet wet on the dance floor are turned off to continuing if their partner becomes impatient and starts to lead. If a lady wants her man to learn to dance, she must be patient, encouraging and above all, support his role as the leader by letting him learn to do it.
    For all the guys out there who are self conscious about dancing, keep in mind that dance is a physical activity that requires balance, timing, and coordination. If a man has done sports before, relating dancing to his previous athletic experience will help him achieve progress faster and realize that the movement in dance is something he has the capacity to do.
    Once a man breaks through the initial fears of dancing, he'll find that the male dancer is strong, athletic, popular and having a great time!

  12. Krisy Kay profile image61
    Krisy Kayposted 8 years ago

    I think you should rephrase the question, "Why don't men that I know dance?" There are plenty of girls and guys out there who like to dance.

  13. R P Chapman profile image60
    R P Chapmanposted 8 years ago

    I dance all the time, love to get lost in the music. I'm sure it's either hilarious or grotesque to look at depending on whether you find such abhorations funny or not!

  14. DatingDragons profile image52
    DatingDragonsposted 8 years ago

    in my experience it is largely to do with their fear of embarrassment.  unlike us girls men rarely dance in the presence of their bedroom or with their friends.

  15. carolina muscle profile image75
    carolina muscleposted 8 years ago

    I dunno why other men don't, but I don't because when I dance I move like a wounded duck.   quack.

  16. Sue Adams profile image97
    Sue Adamsposted 7 years ago

    In southern countries in europe men do dance. In colder climates they have to get drunk before losing their inhibitions.

  17. outdoorsguy profile image55
    outdoorsguyposted 7 years ago

    till I moved out past the sticks and into the forest.  I used to go dancing at least three times a week.. Tango's, salsa, jitterbug, waltzing, Two stepping.  I even learned Irish Jigs.  LOL. 

    its a joy when you reach a point where you movements flow with the music, and your partner reads you so well she can follow you with ease.

    it even helped me with martial arts LOL.    guys that dont dance are missing out on a great exercise and a great way to get to know some one.

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    a_wondererposted 7 years ago

    I will not speak for others, my reasons are simple:

    1. I hate not knowing what I'm doing. That other people may be     watching is irrelevant, I'm my own judge and  I'm harsh. Getting onto a dance floor ranks very high on my list of frightening experiences. Before you ask, that is just below actual life threatening events.

    2. I cannot hear rhythm.  So don't tell me to "let the music move you."

  19. dabeaner profile image55
    dabeanerposted 7 years ago

    Many men prefer to do their sweating playing basketball, football, etc., with their buds, or in the weight room -- or in the bedroom (horizontal tango).

    That being said, it can be enjoyable if with GOOD partners, AND if they know what they are doing, which requires lessons.

    Most women seem to have this romanticized view from old Fred Astaire Ginger Rogers movies, or old John Travolta or Patrick Swazey movies.

  20. puebloman profile image60
    pueblomanposted 7 years ago

    what a ridiculous question! Everybody dances! What sort of men do you hang out with?

  21. Kevin Peter profile image71
    Kevin Peterposted 7 years ago

    who said men don’t dance, he does dance in varieties of music

  22. The Academy profile image60
    The Academyposted 7 years ago

    Because when we do, this happens: http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/839843/

  23. rockcitydance profile image61
    rockcitydanceposted 5 years ago

    Men do dance. We have two All Boys Hip Hop Dance classes that are VERY popular.