Seriously, I have some food for thought, my younger sisters are twins, they have been identical since birth and we always assumed their metabolisms were also. They loved the same things, though varied their hair length often to confuse people, their voices were so similar they could even fool us...sisters, grandma, sometimes mom or dad. Once they turned 30, something changed, they each had two babies, one had a boy + a girl, the other 2 girls. As big sis, I knew one always got her way with her husband(spoiled), and they had a active sex live, my other sister was busy, busy busy all the time and we had too really make an effort to track her down all the time. Her husband was not my favorite, aloof, superior to women, bad attitude and my sister cried because he just didn't appear interested or affectionate anymore. Once she confided they seldom had sex more than 2-3 times a year! They actually went over two years after their second child was born....and she is 35 lbs over weight and can't lose an ounce, she is distressed because her twin is thin and tanned and her health is much better also. Does this speak anything to the benefits of marrying a man who adores you and...to the men...tending to your "gardens" even when you don't "feel" like it....or you'll be up the same creek! I think one of the reasons why women start giving up is because they aren't getting the positive feedback they need to thrive.