Life is hard, isn't it?
Love should be give and take policy. Not expect and give. In your case you expect love from others. It should be in other way. You should love others unconditionally. Even you should love your enemy like the same way you love yourselves. If do mistake for you, don't you forgive yourselves. Same way you treat your friend. Try to talk , find out the solution for the problems around you. This is best way to move forward.
Life is a how you choose it to be. You have all the power in your hands to make it good, positive or sad and negative. It's a light switch. Turn it on and make it better -- let the sunshine in. Or keep it turned off and grow like a mushroom in the dark.
Growing apart is a fact of life. In a relationship, when one party remains the same and doesn't change while their friend or partner changes will only result in the two growing apart. Changes in people will happen -- in ourselves as well in those people who we are our friends. When one friend walks out in our life, there are many others who will step forward to fill that space. But we have to give them the chance to do so. The only way is to let the past go and be in the present.
Smile. Do something that will make you happy -- something that is for you. Life will look better and it will be better.I agree with Beth100 that generally in life, people change. There are very few people who remain constant and not change or grow in varied areas of their life. May I encourage you to embrace changes, step out and really experience life as it is. Meanwhile, think positive and stay positive. Your thoughts are what make you as a person. Control your thoughts to only thinking happy and positive things. Keep smiling
- ahorsebackposted 13 years ago
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Friends come and go. Enemies accumulate.Friends change, as we all do. Try to keep them but if you just don't have much in common anymore best to cut them loose.
As for love, I hate those old sayings about "love finds you when your not looking" or "don't try so hard and it will find you".
That's all a big pile of bull! Every time in my life I have dated is when I got tired of waiting around, went out there and got someone!
Nobody is going to find you in your house, they are not going to knock on your door. You have to get out there and be looking and doing, be approachable.
I'm single right now and it's all my own fault. I work at home, hardly go anywhere and don't say much to people.
When I get tired of being alone I will get out there and find someone, they sure as hell are not going to climb out of my closet!!
Good luck,,,, and get out there!lol...Sorry, Bill, I had to laugh when I read your response because I've said those things to people so many times through the years.
When I say those things, I don't mean to just sit around and wait...I always meant just quit trying so hard, just go out and have fun with friends--enjoy yourself, and who knows what could happen!
I say this because this is how I meant my husband--we both had reached the point of just giving up on finding anyone to be happy with, so we had made the decision to just get out to have fun. Not long afterwards-we met each other, and after dating two months, got married...that was almost 23 years ago now.
As far as the drifting apart from friends, I agree with everyone--sometimes that just happens...I know it has with me. After I met my husband, my life started revolving around us more than my friends. It didn't mean I quit caring for them--it's just I had new priorities.
Family comes first if you want a happy and successful relationship, in my experience!Think about it like it is a phase in your life. Like winter. Winter of your discontent. It will pass. Life never stands still. It moves even if you don't feel like it, but you will change, you are changing with every second of your life, changes are subtle but they are happening. And people are changing too. That's why it is not a good idea to cry about something or somebody for too long, because you never know what awaits you behind the corner. Shake yourself like a dog after a swim and go on with your life. To go somewhere else to live is a good idea too - lots of new adventures, no time to cry.
Well, I see what you mean, but there are others besides friends to do things with, too--when I met my husband, Tom, I was out with my cousin...and he was out with his brother-in-law, lol. Neither one of us had "tons" of friends--we each had one or two good ones, but that was it. We weren't party animals with 10 friends calling us everyday, so I do understand the point that kath was making about feeling lonely.
Bill admitted that he hardly went out and so if he wanted to find someone, he knew he had to just get out there and do it...just like others are recommending!
I only wanted to encourage her to at least try to enjoy life the way we all should try--not worry about finding love or new friends, just try to appreciate what you DO have, and the rest very well might just fall into place...You all have good advice and it's really all anyone can do, just give your thoughts on it. I know I'm going to spend more time at the theme parks and getting out there.
That's actually part of my job, seeing how I run an Orlando tourist site! I have met several ladies while in the single rider line at theme parks.
In fact I once spent two days with a girl I met at a park who did not even speak my language. Some things are universal,,,,,,
- ahorsebackposted 13 years ago0
- china manposted 13 years ago0
OP is long gone...
- china manposted 13 years ago0
The OP is long gone - take all your good advice and sympathy to the Katrina thread where it will be more use
Hi
Can I recommend a really good book I think would help. By Charles L Whitfield it's called A Gift to Myself.
This book helped me to completely move on from similar feelings of rejection which in my case were compounded by events way back in my childhood.
In essence it helped give me a strategy which meant that I developed a deep love for myself. I now feel fairly sympathetic for people who chose to push me aside, and I recognise that they themselves have issues.
I am surrounded by abundance and friendship, and I also adore my own company.
Believe in yourself, you are amazing and you will move on.
Good luck!
with love
SarahYep, Sometimes....
- errandsinnigeriaposted 13 years ago0
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