Is it better to set them free?

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  1. Darknlovely3436 profile image81
    Darknlovely3436posted 7 years ago

    Is it better to set them free?

    Is it true if you love someone, it's better to set them free, especially if they are not happy with you?

  2. Majesty_James profile image61
    Majesty_Jamesposted 7 years ago

    If you know the person you care for is unhappy, but for whatever reason can't bring themselves to admit it, then yes, it falls to you.  Because eventually, that sourness in the relationship with infect you as well.  You might as well end as friends than be joined as enemies.

  3. Barbara Kay profile image91
    Barbara Kayposted 7 years ago

    Yes, because a caged bird always wants to fly away. It depends on if that is what they really want and not just what your think they want.

    You can't make someone love you and often if they are away for awhile, they realize that they do love you.

    I believe in keeping marriages together though if possible.

  4. jacqui2011 profile image83
    jacqui2011posted 7 years ago

    If they dont feel the same way as you do, I think it is better to set them free. Although this may be painful and heart breaking to start with, I dont think it would be true happiness. I do believe there is someone out there for everyone and everyone deserves to love and be loved back in the same way. If someone is not happy with you, then I dont think there could be a happy ending. I may be wrong but if I didn't feel that the other person was totally happy, I would always worry that one day he would end the relationship.

  5. theseus profile image79
    theseusposted 7 years ago

    Yes, I believe so. I did.
    Reason? He would be happier with with someone else. I loved him enough to let him be happy with whoever makes him happy.

  6. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 7 years ago

    It takes 2 hands to clap. So, if one is not happy then it will be best for both to be apart. I always believe that it is pointless to cling onto something that you do not have love in return.

    Love is strange to many people. Sometimes, we love someone but it is one sided. So, if the person you love does not return your love then it is better to move on and find another person that you can share your love.

    It maybe sad for that moment but in a long term, you will realize that it is best for both of you. To love someone and leave this person to find his/her own love will be great.

  7. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    It really isn't your job to set anyone free.  Set yourself FrEE!  Why would you want to be around someone who doesn't like you neither is "happy" with you.  You're better off setting yours self free from what you have attached yourself to.  It will be painful, but I think you'd prefer temporary pain over long term insults! 

    I have to comment on the if you love someone its better to set them free thingy.....If you love someone, you'll let them be!  Let them be themselves, let them spread their wings and Fly.  Once they do not disrespect you in any way, you're Good!  There is no reason to let them go.  Why are you letting them go... have they transformed into a beast?  The most amazing thing is watching and experiencing their transformation from all of the unconditional love you have given.  Don't be a door mat for anyone, as well as don't believe the hype!

    Vonda G. Nelson

  8. Daffy Duck profile image60
    Daffy Duckposted 7 years ago

    You can't force someone to be happy with you.  If you truly love them you would want them to be happy in life.

    I had to do it and it hurt badly.  It still hurts, but that person has her own life to live.

    To deny someone seperation is to imprison them.  I would rather be hurt then to make her constantly unhappy.

  9. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    Yes, you can't make someone love you.  Even if they do love you, if you try and control them and keep them from doing things out in the world, their love may die. 

    Let them go, they will be with you if they want to--you just can't force it.

  10. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 7 years ago

    yes it is. love is about giving, not just recieving and if you love someone who doesn't want to be with you, then letting them go is the right thing to do.

  11. akuigla profile image60
    akuiglaposted 7 years ago

    Yes, of course.
    Let them spread the wings and fly away.
    You can not force love...

  12. tsmog profile image82
    tsmogposted 7 years ago

    Wow! Tough question. Good answers here too. I was going to give a witty answer with a web reference, but gazillions of poems and short stories exist with that metaphor, simile,or analogy.

    Personally If someone set me free I would like to know who it is or maybe I am just lost - LOL. Then, again that may only apply to dove since they  mate for life.

    What a great hub idea. Birds, mating habits, bird characteristics, and love.


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