When do you think a parent should allow their children to make their own conscio

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  1. Adamowen profile image68
    Adamowenposted 11 years ago

    When do you think a parent should allow their children to make their own conscious decisions?

  2. James-wolve profile image75
    James-wolveposted 11 years ago

    When they hang out together for shopping and choosing friends.

  3. jose7polanco profile image78
    jose7polancoposted 11 years ago

    starting at age 7, one can recognize solutions, understand problems, and appreciate consequences.
    Here in California most children aged 7 are allowed to take the stand after they pass the witness test, understand that lies are bad, keep a conversation about a topic, and ability to recall events.
    Had never been a parent, but at age 7 they seem most likely to decide for themselves.

  4. iamageniuster profile image61
    iamageniusterposted 11 years ago

    That really depends on the kid and the parents as well. Some kids may be able to do it at age 5, while others not until 25.

  5. Kimberly Vaughn profile image70
    Kimberly Vaughnposted 11 years ago

    I think that depends on what the decision is and what the possible outcomes may be. As my son gets older he gradually gets to make more and more decisions for himself.

    1. aethelthryth profile image87
      aethelthrythposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It does depend on the decision.  I am in favor of children making conscious decisions to use the potty, long before age 5!

  6. qeyler profile image63
    qeylerposted 11 years ago

    Depends on the decision.  If a child wants to taker her Teddy Bear to school, or wants to try out for football, there's no barrier. 

    It depends on the child, the maturity, the judgement, and the facts.  One can't be hard and fast.

  7. Doc Snow profile image86
    Doc Snowposted 11 years ago

    I'm suppressing quips about conscious versus unconscious decisions!

    But I think kids need to practice decision making, just as they practice other skills.  The decisions need to be age-appropriate; for instance, a two or three year old can be asked, "Do you want a red popsicle or an orange one?"  (Or maybe something healthier?  Well, you get the point.)  As they mature, the decisions should get bigger, too.

  8. ReverieMarie profile image85
    ReverieMarieposted 11 years ago

    Their own conscious decisions should come whenever they are capable of fully understanding the choices and the consequences. Also, at age 18, I believe all parents should step back and let their child make all decisions for him/herself with nothing more than guidance/advice when asked.

  9. profile image0
    thegeckoposted 11 years ago

    I believe they start doing that on their own. No parent intervention necessary!

  10. taburkett profile image58
    taburkettposted 11 years ago

    I believe children should be permitted to make conscious decisions as soon as they recognize that they have a choice.
    Skill training in positive logical and moral thinking begins as soon as the child recognizes that they have a choice.
    I believe that my children began making decisions as soon as they were born. 
    Some of their choices were correct and those that weren't were used as a training position.

  11. Beata Stasak profile image76
    Beata Stasakposted 11 years ago

    When your child is born you surround him or her with everything that will be needed for the rest of his/her life: LOVE, COMFORT, TRUST, BASIC NEEDS and lots of interactions for development of all senses, later you add good solid boundaries and learning of cause/effect and responsibility for his or her own action...

    ...when the child is ready let to make his or her own decisions, if the child has good solid base, the child can only benefit from this experience....

  12. DDE profile image44
    DDEposted 11 years ago

    I think once a child show responsibility then decisions can be made if it is a difficult on then there can  it can be discussed before the final thought. It also depends on how capable the child is going along with  decisions

  13. Wesman Todd Shaw profile image82
    Wesman Todd Shawposted 11 years ago

    How can they stop them?  Children start making their own decisions about the time they are born.

  14. profile image51
    lilacsnowfireposted 11 years ago

    I personally believe that a parent should allow their children to make their own conscious decisions around the age of 12. It is around that age that drama is frequent in their life, so if they know and understand that what they are doing isn't going to be shunned, they wouldn't feel bad talking to you about it. So, 12 is my answer. I hope that helps!

  15. Express10 profile image77
    Express10posted 11 years ago

    It depends on the maturity level of the child and each situation. There is no set age at which children are to be trusted with all decisions. Some children are just instinctively more mature and think out the consequences to certain things and others remember past experiences which help them to make better choices. However, many kids haven't developed in these areas, (they are children) and they leave the thinking and worrying to those around them.

    For example, I have a niece who was corralling and correcting other children when she was just five years old. She is well known for telling other children to stop crying because they were acting like babies. If they were too loud or rowdy, she took on a motherly, guardian type role and made them act civilized without anyone prompting her to do so. She has been very mature from an extremely young age. I've not seen anyone like her before or since.

    1. peta4ever profile image61
      peta4everposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I dont think parents or anyone has any control over that. It's the individual who has to decide. We can give them advice, and hope that they'll make the right decision.

  16. Missy Mac profile image69
    Missy Macposted 11 years ago

    Parents can begin allowing a child to make decisions as a toddler.  Effective parents want a child to develop sound reasoning and critical thinking skills.  Of course, a toddler's decisions may encompass a favorite toy, playing a game, choosing colors for painting or coloring, or reading a particular story.  During this period, parents can provide guidance by teaching appropriate ethical and moral decisions making such as, honesty, fairness, time management.  Each child is different, but parents can play a large role in helping a child to make beneficial independent chooses or preferences.  This skill will prove to help a child  socially, emotionally, intellectually, and transferable to the working world. (Good questions, I enjoy answering your questions.)


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