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Women Do Not Fall In Love As Easily As Men

Updated on December 28, 2008

Men Are Romantics

Men are romantics and will fall in love quickly than women who will focus on practical considerations in choosing a partner.

Can I Count on This Man?

Ideally, women are looking for long term qualities in a partner. Unlike men, women do allow their heads to control their love hearts. In evaluating a new man in their lives, women may ache for love, but at the back of their minds is a recurrent question asking if she can count on this man.

Men: Lengthen Your Timetables

If you are a man who wants to sweep that woman off her feet, then you better lengthen your timetable. The man should pay much attention to characteristics such as being kind, forgiving and dependable just like you do it to your hair, clothes and looks. 

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Engagement ring: Beautiful Women Do Not Fall In Love As Easily As Men
Engagement ring: Beautiful Women Do Not Fall In Love As Easily As Men

Visualize How Your Wife will Look like in Future

The reality is: beauty is bound to fade with years just like flowers will wither. This reduction in beauty is one thing a man in love fails to visualize. And as years’ passes, a man will start seeing a completely different woman from the one he had fallen in love at first. If you are a man and would want to visualize how your wife will look like ten years from now, just look at her mother because that’s how your darling will look like. If you like the looks of her mother, then that will save you many regrets in the future. And to ladies, when you dress up beautifully, throw a few of those resources to your mothers because the beauty of your mother can count.

 

Days of the Cinderella

Feminism has been there for decades but despite than women still believes that it pays to be beautiful just as the days of the Cinderella. There usually is too much pressure on a woman to look young and attractive. And even the most beautiful women feel that they come up short and will go to considerable length to reduce the few pounds of weight gained or to mask wrinkles that may have appeared.

Her Wedding Day

That woman who married five years ago may gaze with nostalgia at pictures of her wedding, and what she sees is a slim young woman in love. Now when she looks in the mirror, she sees an overweight mother of one child. Her dress is actually only one size larger than it was on her wedding day, but she sees herself as fat with protruding belly.

A Woman Wants a Specific Compliment

It is usually very difficult for a man to understand why a woman does not think she is pretty when she looks perfectly fine to him. This thinking is not what your wife think. A woman needs assurance that she is still attractive to her husband. Telling your wife she is beautiful in a vague way may not help much. A woman wants a specific compliment. Compliments like, “hi sweet, I like that hair style” or “you look beautiful in that dress.”

Beauty of Your Mother Can Count

But the reality is: beauty is bound to fade with years just like flowers will wither. This reduction in beauty is one thing a man in love fails to visualize. And as years passes a man will start seeing a completely different woman from the one he had fallen in love at first. If you are a man and would want to visualize how your wife will look like ten years from now, just look at her mother because that’s how your darling will look like. If you like the looks of her mother, then that will save you many regrets in the future. And to ladies, when you dress up beautifully, throw a few of those resources to your mothers because the beauty of your mother can count.

Keep the Romance Alive

With years passing by, answering such questions as “do I look fat?” or “do I look old?” from your wife with complete honesty may only give rise to unnecessary and exaggerated anxiety on her part. Such questions should be answered with love. If she is making effort to diet, exercise, or better her appearance, support her with positive feedback on what these are doing to her appearance. That way you will notice that such support will give her incentive to dress up, to take care of herself and ultimately, this will keep the romance alive for both of you.

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      Barbara 8 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      I think one of the most reliable indicators of whether a man will stay committed to you is the state of his parent's marriage and of his mother's commitment to her son's being and remaining married.  If his parents and especially his mother is supportive of working things out and hasn't taken the easy route of divorce-- easy meaning for reasons that don't involve affairs, addictions, abuse or attempted suicide-- in other words, because they fall "out of love" which is a normal part of a relationship.  What do you think?

      I like this list of conscious loving:

      Characteristics of a conscious marriage by Harville Hendricks

      1. You realize that your love relationship has a hidden purpose-the healing of childhood wounds

      2. You create a more accurate image of your partner

      3. You take responsibilty for communicating your needs 4. You become more intentional in your interactions

      5. You learn to value your partner's needs and wishes as highly as your own

      6. You embrace the dark side of your personality ( your shadow)

      7. You learn new techniques to satisfy your basic needs and desires

      8. You search within yourself for the strengths and abilities you are lacking

      9. You become more aware of your drive to be loving and whole and united with the universe.

      10.You accept the difficulty of creating a good marriage 

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      ngureco 8 years ago

      Thank you, Storyteller.

      Ladies will have to watch out for these signs outlined by Storyteller here. Find out if your mother in-law can be committed to her son's being and remaining married to you.

      You may find out that your mother in-law considers you to be her daughter and want you to abide by her terms. Her friends should be your friends and her enemies should be your enemies. Sometimes this may not work and may cause of all the problems.

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      deestew 8 years ago from Kentucky

      Wow, this has lots of good information in it. I will have to refer back to it sometimes.

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      1964human 8 years ago from Smallville Kansas

      Finding your post is almost erie. I have a male friend who is in serious need of this insight. You can be sure, the instant I finish this comment and add myself as a fan, I will be forwarding the link. The article as well as the timing, was PERFECT.

      Thank you so much for the post!

      Bo

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      Millionheir 7 years ago

      you're absolutely right about the mom in law thing..now that i'm newly single the next guy i'm serious with his mom needs to love me 2 it just makes things easier

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