Why do some people find it so hard to say the word "Sorry" ?

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  1. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

    Why do some people find it so hard to say the word "Sorry" ?

    To me it seems like such a simple thing to do, to make up from a disagreement, but some I know some people who just can't say it, why is this?

  2. bayareagreatthing profile image62
    bayareagreatthingposted 9 years ago

    I can think of at least 3 things.

    The first is a misconception that all started with a silly line from a movie-
    "Love means never having to say your sorry".

    That is really not true.  If you love someone, you will need to say I am sorry a bazillion times in your relationship because you are going to do things that are hurtful.

    The second thing is pride.
    It is hard for us to admit when we are wrong.  Somehow we cling to our pride like a badge of honor.  My mother always told me it takes two to make a fight.  If you are one of the two, swallow your pride and admit your part in the wrong (sincerely).

    The third comes from being stubborn or arrogant.
    One of the worst things I hear people say is, " By god that is just how I  am and I aint gonna change.  If they don't like me the way I am they can just..."  Well, you get the idea.

    We NEED to change.  We start out life as a baby and we change and grow all the way into adulthood and then one day decide we are done.  Not true!!  It is as an adult that we can really learn to grow-- and grow well.

    Being stubborn and not being sorry because that is just how you are?? That may be how you are- but that really isn't such a great way to be.

    Swallow your pride, soften your stubborn heart and quit taking advice from movies (Hollywood is the last place to seek relationship advice).

    Just say I am sorry.

  3. NycoleCarter profile image59
    NycoleCarterposted 8 years ago

    Because it means I must have done something wrong! A lot of people do not want to admit fault. It is so much easier to come up with excuses and fault in someone else than to be sincere and acknowledge the wrong that they have done. It's sad really.

  4. THE LIP profile image59
    THE LIPposted 8 years ago

    Some Like Me Cecoz Sorry & Thank U Have become Hollow & Meaningless & Others Becoz of Their EgoesThat Holds Them Back Till it's 2 Late!!!

  5. PAPA-BEAR profile image61
    PAPA-BEARposted 8 years ago

    Some people have an EGO problem, sorry is not in their books of learning. They struggle to even mutter it, far too late.

  6. profile image0
    jasper420posted 8 years ago

    our pride keeps us from addmitting when we were wrong

  7. Maria Cecilia profile image72
    Maria Ceciliaposted 8 years ago

    maybe because of fear, fear of rejection that his apologies may not be accepted...

  8. Gayly profile image60
    Gaylyposted 8 years ago

    Because of pride and sometimes, they don't accept the fact that it's their fault. Sorry is just a short word but it's one of the hardest words to say.

  9. Shelvajay profile image59
    Shelvajayposted 8 years ago

    For some people, it is a Pride thing. But you know what else?  Some people use it so casually, the word "Sorry".  Like it is a Tic Tac or something that is going to help stop bad breath, for a minute!  I would rather you not even say it, if you don't mean it.  So that is a two sided issue to me, whether or not you say it, or if you say it, do you mean it?

  10. Chouji-Von-Lycan profile image61
    Chouji-Von-Lycanposted 7 years ago

    i'm going with the pride situation, no one wants to be wrong

  11. profile image0
    vinsanityposted 7 years ago

    Some people just don't want to be wrong. if you say sorry then you are admitting that you were wrong and that you're trying to make everything better.

  12. meantforsea profile image60
    meantforseaposted 7 years ago

    You dont say sorry to make up from a disagreement. You apologize when you feel you were wrong and feel that would help the situation. Saying sorry to smooth something over is fake and easily seen through. It's hard to say sorry when you know you're right and not apologetic.

    It has nothing to do with ego or your pride.

  13. nancyme profile image60
    nancymeposted 7 years ago

    Maybe because some people are so stuck up that they need to tear away from their rude snubness.

  14. nabeelplus profile image57
    nabeelplusposted 7 years ago

    because of EGO problem!!! i think its good if u admit ur mistake and say sorry


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