What are the three most important ingredients for an enduring love?

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   gshillposted 13 years ago

   1.) dedication
   2.) trust
   3.) respect
   
   are three ingredients for an eduring love that I think are among the most important.

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   HERBERT ubaldoposted 13 years ago

   Number  one is unconditional love, Second is you must be faitful. Third is Bonding

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   mobiasposted 13 years ago

   Ingrediants:
   1) Suger
   2) Spice
   3) All things Nice....
   
   Oh seriously, of many things I am learning on my 6th year with my wife is:
   -Learn to COMPROMISE- Stop trying to win every battle, you are losing the war.
   -Take TIME to spend with your significant other- Love can waver, if not tended to.
   -PRAISE- Love the indivdual your partner is, their character, talents and habits, and tell them.
   
   Shake well, serve hot and enjoy! Serves 2 easily.
   (There are many more ingrediants)

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   nabeelplusposted 13 years ago

   The most important are Trust, compatibility  and honesty

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   BlueEyesCringposted 13 years ago

   1. Communcation
   
   2. respect
   
   3. Honesty

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   Olivia Youngposted 13 years ago

   I have been with the love of my life for 3 years. Love is tough, but along the way, we have learned the most important things that hold a relationship together.
   
   1- TRUST!! As cliche as it sounds, if there is no trust, the relationship will inevitably fall flat. With trust comes honesty - never ever EVER act deceitfully, not matter what the outcome. Your significant other will have far more respect for you in you are upfront and honest about everything, and honesty leads to trust. Trust leads to a happy relationship.
   
   2- Patience. Don't sweat the small stuff. As I have learned, you will have days where you are riverdancing on each other's last nerve. That's okay. If your "chi" is off-kilter, give each other some space, and try not to dwell on little jabs or rude comments your significant other may blurt out out of frustration. If it's not a relationship-altering offense, then just let it go, or it will snowball into a huge, dramatic argument. Be patient with each other when you are flustered, and remember that the small frustrations are miniscule in the grand scheme of things.
   
   3- Respect. If your jokes make him/her uncomfortable, censor your jokes. Be respectful of his/her feelings. If he/she is sensitive about something, it is your responsibility to help with the sensitivity or insecurity, not to make it worse. If he is uncoomfortable with you talking to your ex-boyfriend, take that into consideration, and work it out as a couple. DO NOT laugh it off and attribute it to him "just being insecure" - it will build resentment. Respect each other's feelings,
   
   Out of personal experience, these three things have held our relationship together. I hope someone will find this useful!

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   Cloverleafposted 13 years ago

   1) Common dreams and desires
   2) Understanding and compromise
   3) A passion to be together always

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   terrektwoposted 13 years ago

   Staying power, a willingness to work out your problems and loyalty. I think the majority of people today do not know what enduring love, they change partners like they change their clothing.

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   Arizona!posted 13 years ago

   Great question... I am by no means an expert here   this is my opinion
   
   Respect- We are all individuals, we have our own thoughts, ideas, hobbies, In the beginning stages of love you learn these about your mate. keep the love from dying, getting stagnant, and stale. Admire your mate for who they are, honor them, and appreciate them for all they do in the world, for you and others around them. Never tell them they are wrong for being who God intended them to be. Never speak badly about your mate in public, if you have an issue discuss when you are alone. Always, always treat them like they are the world to you...
   
   Patience- To endure above comment on respect. It is not always easy to sit back while your mate does the things that he/she needs to do daily, weekly, monthly (without disrespecting you) so they can be themselves. More often than not, people change because they are not respected  or cannot be themselves this will eventually cause the breakup of the relationship. I have seen this happen so many times.
   
   Selflessness- Do things for your mate without expecting something in return. If you are a woman, show your man, and the world just how much he means to you, If you do I can guarantee he will respect you for it. Have patience with him and yourself  and he will give himself selflessly back to you. If you are a man, do the same for your woman...
   
   To me, if you are with the right person,(and you need to be honest with yourself about this person) you will find all three of these to be the easiest thing in the world to do... well.... other than just settling........ and who just wants to settle?

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    famousneedyposted 13 years ago

    for me the 3 most important things is the Trust, Understanding and time. hehe this are the most important yet the most difficult to do

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    dipsmiposted 13 years ago

    trust,understanding and sacrifice...there are many other important ingrediants too..compatibility i believe is also another important factor..

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    Todd D. Schmidtposted 13 years ago

    1. Trust
    2. Mutual Understanding
    3. Confidence

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    noturningbackposted 13 years ago

    1) Affection
    2) Attention
    3) Appreciation

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    sexualharassmentposted 13 years ago

    For me it's TRUST, COMMITMENT and ROMANCE.
    
    Surely, this will endure everything.

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    stephwazereposted 13 years ago

    Trust, respect, communication and understanding.

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    missoliveposted 13 years ago

    First and foremeost RESPECT; Besides, its ok to disagree - compromise will be a volleyball as your marriage evolves.
    
    2nd - TRUST, always giving the benefit of the doubt until things can be discussed and sorted out. Marriages need teamwork and perspective - NOT pointing fingers. Remeber, there is ALWAYS more than one side to a story
    
    3rd - EMPATHY, yes, empathy for "better for worse" is a two way street - afterall, they have to put up with you
    
    and if I may add a fourth - A Sense of Humor is vital

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    rajan jollyposted 13 years ago

    Faith/Trust, Respect and Consideration not necessarily in this order.

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    catsimmonsposted 13 years ago

    Patience and understanding are the main ingredients. The ability to say sorry and discuss differences without becoming annoyed. Providing the other with a safe place to be themselves.

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    Kawaljit kaurposted 13 years ago

    As per my opinion, for a long lasting love, the most important ingredients are;
    
    1. Faith
    2. Care
    3. Respect

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    MickeySrposted 13 years ago

    3. life
    
    2. authentic love
    
    1. (sorry, but) my wife . . . if you have her, then authentic, enduring love is unavoidable.

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    Storiedicoachingposted 13 years ago

    Empathy, searching for solution, passion

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    reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

    Patience, Acceptance and Unconditional (blank) this can only work if exercised.....

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    mythicalstorm273posted 13 years ago

    If you want an enduring love you need many many things.  The three most important are communication, trust, and respect.  I sometimes want to add honesty in there, but if you really respect somebody and have open communication then honesty should just automatically be included.  I used to say with out trust there can be no relationship.  Communication is just as important though.  The three of these combined really perform something powerful.  If you respect somebody enough and communicate any and all problems a solution could be found and if you trust them enough to respect you back and to take the problems to heart together you form something very solid.

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    thelyricwriterposted 13 years ago

    Trust, understanding, and an attraction.

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    juiwei2000posted 13 years ago

    1. sexual attraction (Very important)
    
    2.  The two of you get along
    
    3.  There is something in her personality you like
    
    4. she is a good person
    
    5.. She is a good wife, good mother and good girl friend

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    Chasing Rileyposted 13 years ago

    Love, good communication and shared values. If you have different values, the love won't last.

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    JulieStrierposted 13 years ago

    This weekend marks my 6th wedding anniversary to a man I couldn't imagine living without (we've been together 8 years total). We've had some fantastic highs and trying lows, but through it all we've clung tight. I know our relationship wouldn't have lasted as long as it has without:
    
    1) Communication, both the ability to discuss anything (and everything), but also the ability to listen, and really hear what the other is saying and where they are coming from.
    
    2) Honesty about everything, but particularly the things that are the most difficult to discuss.
    
    3) Friendship and the ability to just enjoy spending time with one another, even when there's nothing but the routine of life going on. (Laughter is a big part of friendship too!)
    
    4) Commitment, not only to each other, but to the relationship as well. A commitment to work on the relationship, and not give up easily, is a must if it's going to last.

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    Ehnaira05posted 13 years ago

    For me there's nothing more important important ingredient for an enduring love than Loyalty, trust and love itself.

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    vyasposted 13 years ago

    1st is the Trust
    
    2nd one is care
    
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    3rd one is  less expectation from partner

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    gsweetsposted 13 years ago

    acceptance of your differences, patience when the other is going through a stressful time and a true liking of the other, not just love...you have to like the person that they really are.

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    vdelarosaposted 13 years ago

    In my opinion, there is only ONE component to any successful relationship, romantic or otherwise. And that is: you must fall, head-over-heels, in love with everything about yourself. You also must NEVER make your happiness any other person's responsibility. When you do that, you free both yourself and the significant other from ever disappointing you, causing everlasting happiness. (annnnnnnd, when you figure out how to do this without fail, tell me how! haha)

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    josiemasterposted 13 years ago

    Patience, Compromising, and for me have great tolerance for needy in-law.  Sorry to say, but sometimes all the compromising is only one way, so therefore all that important ingredients don't make sense.  I should know all about that.  I had a happy marriage until, my sister-in-law start having problems with her husband.  She start asking my husband to drop her kids to games, swim classes.  At first I thought nothing of it, I then started to realized that this woman is taking advantage of me and my family.  You know that men cannot say no their mothers and sisters.  I needed my husband to be there for me and our kids, so I start speaking out.  I was the bad guy, the worst.  But you know what I don't care I got mad and told her my husband cannot be a substituted for her husband.  He is her brother not her husband.  Love can be endure if both parties are enbrassing the endurance.

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    Sunilkathposted 13 years ago

    For me  Understanding, Trust,  Respect these are important

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    Lorenzo27posted 13 years ago

    1. Pure love. 2. Sincerity and honesty. 3. A little bit of luck.

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    attorneyblogposted 13 years ago

    1. Faith in God
    2. Respect
    3. Honesty
    
    For me these will stand out.

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    manisha2877posted 13 years ago

    i think trust loyalty and respect between two individuals with unconditional care are the three important ingredients for enduring love

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    tata22posted 13 years ago

    This is on my list:
    
    1. Contentment.  "Where there is contentment there is happiness" cliché as it may sound but it's true.  I think contentment is the root of loyalty and commitment.
    
    2. Sacrifice.  Life is full of choices and oftentimes, we are held to choose between options. There is love when we sacrifice our happiness for the person we truly love.  Sacrifice is the fruit of Selflessness.
    
    3. Acceptance. Acceptance due to differences.  Differences not because of gender, but because we are individuals with different personalities, culture, and histories. It's only through acceptance that we can truly say "yes" to everlasting love.
    
    I'm still young and the above statements aren't based on experience but merely on recognizing of what's really essential to have enduring love.

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    geebee090posted 13 years ago

    Tolerance: on the long run some views, attitudes orsimply thinking speed may differ.
    Tolerance and mutual respect.

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    ithabiseposted 13 years ago

    God, who is love. Trust, that bonds. Adventure, to keep you discovering more about yourself and your partner.

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    Caerleonposted 13 years ago

    Combination of:
    
    1.  Trust
    2.  Passion
    3.  Humor

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    Phoebe Pikeposted 13 years ago

    Each relationship is different, but the three big ones are these;
    
    1. A love that will grow and develop to meet the needs of the other lover.
    2. Understanding the partner and being able to use that understanding to love them still.
    3. Mutual commitment. If one loves and the other does not, the love will not endure the relationship for long.

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    Michael Gravesposted 13 years ago

    The three most important elements are patience, forgiveness, and acceptance. There are many others that go into making a great love, but these are the three elements you must have for love to endure: patience with your lover's foibles, forgiveness for the hurts they may give you without meaning to, and acceptance of them for who they are, not who you wish they were.

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    Lastheartposted 13 years ago

    For me the most important ingredients for an enduring love are:
    1-God in the center
    2-Compromise
    3-Honesty

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    delaneyworldposted 13 years ago

    I would say the three most important are:  Trust, Communication, & Humor

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    samtenabrayposted 13 years ago

    Communication is a big factor, but trust has got to be the main one that sticks out for me. Although there is a lot of things that are needed to create a fantastic relationship and everything should be taken into consideration.

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    Tips Thoughtsposted 13 years ago

    1)  FRIENDSHIP - you've got to not only love the person you are with, but you've got to LIKE being with them as well.  Is this someone that you want to speak with on a daily basis?  Is that person someone you would seek out otherwise at a party or a gathering?
    2)  TRUST - if you cannot trust that person 100%, then love will die.  You have to know that, no matter what comes, you can trust that individual with your heart and all that goes along with it.
    3)  HUMOR -  laughter IS the best medicine!  If you can smile and laugh, even through the darkest of moments - love will grow and flourish.  Laughter through tears forms a bond that is hard to break.

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    lorenmurciaposted 13 years ago

    deep love and utmost respect will go a long way for a love to endure. You will notice that I had descriptive words before love and respect, because I believe that plainly loving and respecting someone can stumble in the long run, so to speak.

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    Faceless39posted 13 years ago

    COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, and COMMUNICATION.  The rest will fall into place.

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    icountthetimesposted 13 years ago

    Trust and understanding. Without those love won't stand the test of time.

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    moiragallagaposted 13 years ago

    It's hard to figure the 3 most important ingredients for an enduring love because people are so diverse and varied in terms of character and personality. But, to take a crack at it, I'll go with respect, understanding and commitment.

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