What are the three most important ingredients for an enduring love?

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   michelemacwritesposted 14 years ago

   What are the three most important ingredients for an enduring love?
   
   

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   Ruchiraposted 14 years ago

   understanding, forgiveness and complete trust
   
   only then can "love grow with age"...

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   your cybersisterposted 14 years ago

   I'm thinking that for an enduring romantic type of love you need to have understanding, trust, and a sense of humor.  It think it also helps if you love, lust, and like your partner.

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   lovelife08posted 14 years ago

   Respect, trust, and communication.  No two can work without the third.

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   Ashantinaposted 14 years ago

   1 Respect (foundation of ALL relationships)
   2 Trust
   3 Friendship

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   Giselle Maineposted 14 years ago

   1. Respect, 2. Being a reasonable person (i.e. not freaking out over little things), 3. Genuine love and friendship toward each other in a 2-way street (i.e. both love each other equally much).

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   Bobri Dobriposted 14 years ago

   I think it is all about to allow person be himself. Not await that he/she will behave as you want, or as you think is rightly. Accept your partner without any requirements, controlling or teaching. Love him/her as he/she is.

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   sam3mposted 14 years ago

   my wife and i have been married for 49 years.  respect for each other and for other people, consideration for your spouse, and communication lines which are always open.
   each of these, i feel, must be present for love to persist over time.

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   workingmomwmposted 14 years ago

   1. communication
   2. occasional selflessness
   3. willingness to forgive

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    Clairepeekposted 14 years ago

    First, communication & understanding; second, trust & respect; third: be there for one another no matter what & love.
    That makes six, although none of these go without the other

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    jacqui2011posted 14 years ago

    For me, the 3 most important ingredients are:
    trust, honesty and understanding.

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    Ann810posted 14 years ago

    I think that may be Listening, Enjoying the Moment, and Being a True Friend as Lovers.

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    Guantaposted 14 years ago

    I'm not sure I can name three, but I can certainly  name one and that is mutual consideration between two people whether it be a spouse or friend.

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    uczenposted 14 years ago

    Appreciation... always and forever!
    We should not take things for guaranteed... never!

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    kennyslposted 14 years ago

    1. Humility - All problems in a relationship seem to stem from pride. It is either that one partner doesn't want to admit that they are wrong or they are not willing to forgive
    
    2. Goals - If both partners in a relationship have different goals then they will be ripped apart as they go separate directions. It gives them a common purpose to work towards.
    
    3. Communication - There can never be too much communication. Problems only emerge when there is a lack of communication.

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    Juan Mezaposted 14 years ago

    Since the question requests ingredients I think I hold the position that "love" as a "verb" requires just enough compassion, understanding and communication to endure forever. I may be off point but that is how I see it...married for 24 years now with my high school sweetheart...and still keeping the flame alive.

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    Stylinbikerchickposted 14 years ago

    The first and most important is patience. Secondly you gotta have trust...everybody needs some alone time and as long as your behaving you shouldn't have to account for every second of your day. Thirdly I say again patience.

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    Digsposted 14 years ago

    A willingness to give more often than you get; forgiveness and respect.

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    StayPosposted 14 years ago

    Very powerful question!
    
    Of course there are many different qualities in the ingredients of an enduring love.  However I would submit that from a physical or natural standpoint the three most important ones are the following:
    
    Communicating in the preferred form for your spouse or love one the signals, vibrations, chemistry and harmony of the intangible connection you had when you originally fell in love on a consistent basis.
    
    Making a preferential decision to give to one another rather than receive on a consistent basis. 
    
    Have faith in your relationship and each other as you grow and develope in your communicating and giving.
    
    Although this list seems quite basic, it is profound and self-generating. 
    
    When we fall in love these are typically the things we have in an abundance.  Our challenge and opportunity as time goes on is to continually replenish and refill these ingredients to their maximum capacity.
    
    Outside of these points, I truly believe that having the love of God through Jesus Christ in your heart is the single most important ingredient that ties everything together and gives the true foundation for enduring love.

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    seriousnutsposted 14 years ago

    1. Communication - Your partner is your best friend, so sharing ideas and communicating your feelings is essential. Of course, you should observe proper communication. Merely talking won't do any good. Listen with your heart as well.
    2. Respect - It's hard to imagine a relationship without respect. More so, how could a relationship even last without respect? Let your partner know how much you respect him/her. Avoid harsh words especially when angry. Make your lover know how much you love me by showing your respect.
    3. Compatibility - While some differences might be tolerable, but I believe it is best if you share the same values and views in life. Areas that are important in life should be compatible with your partner.

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    Savvycruzrposted 13 years ago

    The 3 most important enduring love ingredients to me are:
    
    1. Love YOURSELF through self-acceptance. If YOU don't love yourself, YOU CAN'T love others.
    
    2. Effective communication - through attentive listening before giving a clear response to your friend, spouse, or loved ones.
    
    3. Well - last but NOT least is the issue of finance - it helps to constantly massage your love - through the process of giving and receiving. Without finance, love alone won't feed your family or put meals on the table. :-)   
    
    True love is the ability to give and receive love in return!

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    ligiaoglposted 13 years ago

    Love, patience and understanding. Those are the things that you gotta have to make it work!

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    Stephilibooposted 13 years ago

    Well that's just it... There isn't any secret or method that you have to have in order to have an enduring love! When someone means more to you than anything in this world and you know the two of you are strong, devoted, and unconditional; no matter what comes your way you both push through it and love eachother more at the end of it all. An enduring love is exactly that, enduring.

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    JulieKleinXpressposted 13 years ago

    I believe that what makes love last is friendship, respect, and trust.

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    mayemeraldposted 13 years ago

    For me, it's:
    -both of you should have,fear in God
    -faith in each other/unbreakable trust
    -pure and loyal love for each other

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    xXSweetiXxposted 13 years ago

    Honesty, Faith and Integrity in yourself and others speaks volumes to any relationship. Whether in Marriage, Family or Friendship

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    Megan Coxeposted 13 years ago

    I would say respect, trust and honesty, but these are also general rules for all good relationships, including the non-romantic ones. Thought-provoking question!

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    Kamalesh050posted 13 years ago

    The three most important ingredients are :-
    1. Trust
    2. Respect
    3. Honesty

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    JasonStrothposted 13 years ago

    communications...
    selflessness...
    trust...

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    Finn mac Faelanposted 13 years ago

    Friendship, Trust, Respect. And throw in a regular pinch of romance.

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    Dave Mathewsposted 13 years ago

    For me they would be:  a man, a woman, and, a desire of love.

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    suzettenaplesposted 13 years ago

    I don't know, as I've never had an enduring love, but my thoughts tell me:
    
    Listening(Communication)
    
    Trust(Respect)
    
    Forgiveness

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    The Blagsmithposted 13 years ago

    Well besides love and faith, I think the other is space. And that is why my wife is special as she has never infringed upon it and she can be sitting next to me.

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    novel-expposted 13 years ago

    1.communication gives both partners a view of the others expectations and creates room for agreements and disagreements.This also involves both being good listeners.       2. Respect for each other gives them a sense of total acceptance by the other,thus there is no need to keep up appearances.It even makes them open up more to the other.           3.Choosing to let go most of the time and not trying to prove your right always.

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    SubmissionWorkposted 13 years ago

    1) Fath on each other
    2) Respect each other
    3) Patience

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    Devika12posted 13 years ago

    1. Respect for each other
    2. trust
    3. Immense Love

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    Honest Realityposted 13 years ago

    I think they would be patience, quality time, and understanding.

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    mvillecatposted 13 years ago

    Having respect, making a deep commitment to the relationship and doing activities together that you both enjoy. I will be married 18 years this year and that is what works for us.

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    chasemillisposted 13 years ago

    the love of God, as for human qualities - honesty, selflessness, and loyalty (if I can break it down to JUST three)

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    greenvilleposted 13 years ago

    1. God's help
    2. Communication
    3. An unselfish spirit
    
    I would also add...
    
    4. Be best friends
    5. Spend much time together
    6. Forgive before it is asked

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    RavenBikerposted 13 years ago

    Blameless fights
    
    Same sense of humor (gotta laugh about it later)
    
    Respect of the concept that they (and you) are still individuals

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    ilovetrashposted 13 years ago

    • the most important thing is to make sure -in advance- the person w/ whom you want to have an enduring love -also- wants to have an enduring love. making sure this is also something of serious worth to yr partner is, by far, the most crucial thing you can do.
    
    • being willing to see the other person's point of view, being able to see his or her needs & bending to meet him or her halfway,
    
    • but not bending so much that you break. cos if you dont do what matters to you as well, you will not be able to even -be there- to make things work.
    
    hope it helps.

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    saudevidaeamorposted 13 years ago

    He should not be critical and she should should not complain
    evaluate themselves and always seek to improve
    To know again, if there are errors.
    Always seek to be gentle at the time of the conquest of dating ...
    Keep the flame alive through love, affection
    Find nearby even after some discussion
    Ahh .. Fighting for this to be the greatest dream of consumption and fight to achieve it through the delicate ...
    I believe that a lasting marriage, or in a relationship with true love is achieved with a strong faith and a humility to remember that the other is human. You have to want to hit. You need to want to stay together ... You need to love.

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    rikabothraposted 13 years ago

    It is very difficult to sum it up in just three attributes, but according to me the most important would be:
    
    Trust/Understanding
    
    Good communication
    
    Equal effort (from both partners)

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    PoliCommandmentsposted 13 years ago

    Affection, compromise, and trust.  Without affection, love is hidden; without compromise, one only loves himself/herself; and without trust,  jealousy can become a burden on a relationship.

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    K9keystrokesposted 13 years ago

    (Love goes without syaing), but trust, loyalty, and honesty. Without any one of these the relationship is at risk of failure.

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    vitalesweetsposted 13 years ago

    Communication. Laughter. Passion. .. I think if you have these 3 things everything else just falls into place.

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    Erin Rooneyposted 13 years ago

    I like your question, but I wonder why you chose "the three most important ingredients."
    
    I think that there are tons of ingredients that change in importance everyday. While communication is always important, other ingredients like selflessness, honesty, or friendship may fluctuate in their importance. For example, there may be a time when one of the members of the relationship needs to be selfish. When they need to take time for themselves and take care of their own body, mind, soul, emotions, etc. On the other hand, there may be a time when selflessness is imperative. When one partner needs the other to give everything they have without hesitation.
    
    So as far as the three most important ingredients, I would say a desire to maintain the relationship, a willingness to grow and change together, and the ability to trust which inevitably leads to good communication are ingredients that a healthy relationship cannot function without. But they will not always be the most important.

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    J Yoderposted 13 years ago

    1. Commitment
    2. Communication
    3. Compassion
    
    If you have a commitment to the relationship, you will stand by that person even if you don't "feel" like it in the tough times. If you communicate well, there will be a lot less frustration and misunderstandings. But you need compassion to really understand where your partner is coming from or communication will mean nothing. Compassion will help you put up with those mistakes of your partner, because you know you have made some of the same mistakes or worse. It will help you respect that person for who he or she is.

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    SHARONGAIL1posted 13 years ago

    I believe the three most important ingredients for enduring love are trust, respect and good communication.  All of these are necessary to get through the trials and tribulations of a loving relationship.
    
    Trust is essential because without it, we would live in a state of worry and doubt all the time  We would  constantly question if our partner is longing to be with someone other than us.  A firm basis of trust will make us feel confident that we are the one and only love in our partner's life.
    
    Respect follows trust since we need to honor the person we love by giving them every reason to trust us and not doing anything to compromise that trust.  We want to speak kindly, do thoughtful things such as bring flowers or gifts home "just because" and not forget any special occasions that are important.  Respect to me is also allowing the person to become the best of who he or she can be.  Encouraging him or her to succeed and cheering them on for every success and picking them up when they fall.  Honoring the whole person and not picking and choosing which parts we like is part and parcel of a successful relationship.
    
    Last, but  not least, is good communication.  Couples should be able to talk openly about what is on their minds without fear of ridicule.  Offering your partner a listening and non-judgmental ear is one of the best aspects of a relationship.  Being able to unburden yourself without necessarily seeking any advice is one of the benefits of a good relationship.
    
    I have offered three elements of a successful relationship, but additional ingredients such as a sense of humor, passion and shared interests would add even more flavor and enhance the above recipe for an enduring and loving relationshhip.

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