If your Boyfriend or Husband isn't affectionate to you anymore,what does that mean?
For example your husband or boyfriend would make up so many excuses to not be affectionate to you for 6 long years,what does that mean? is he cheating on me? bored with me or rather watch TV?
Maybe it's time for you to get affectionate with him. It's hard to tell because each individual case is different for a variety of reasons. He may be bored with you, you may have gained some weight, he is just not interested, it might have nothing to do with you, he is probably not even aware that he is less affectionate, he doesn't even realize there is a problem... Just try initiating some affection. Love works both ways. What drives me crazy is when people just jump to conclusions and run with them. Do you really want to know what's going on with him? Then talk to him about it!
Hey pajamazzon, how are you with him? How are your behaviours towards him right now? Have you, or anything else what you used to do, changed recently & he has picked up on this & maybe responding in the same way back to you.
Maybe there might be an issue whereas, HE doesn't trust you any more & this is how he is responding!
Well that's all about you, but maybe it is HE who is bored of routine, maybe he does have a problem, but never the less we all are affected by emotional mishaps in our time, especially in relationships that's just the way it is, so maybe there is now reason to blame yourself at all.
My advice if you don't mind listening: Don't jump to any more conclusions, until you both make the arrangement to sit down quietly & COMMUNICATE each & every single doubt on your mind, get it all out & find out what he now wan't as we all change being together & don't always grow towards the same direction. But first off. Look inside yourself & find out what YOU want!
You have to keep the relationship exciting and new. Familiarity breeds boredom. One must never take another for granted. You should try new lingerie, perfume, and maybe a weekend getaway to spice things up. Also be the new other woman in his life-that should keep his interest up.
Before jumping to conclusions of love lost I would make sure you both take responsibility for the lack of intimacy and try to rekindle the flame. If it seems to be only you trying then maybe sit down and discuss what deeper issues are occuring.
It can be anything but I think he is a little bored. Have you changed anything in your relationship? Did he say he wants kid and you said no? Don't always let the man do everything (romantic way). We men, want our girls to be creative sometimes. We don't usually talk a lot unless you ask. We usually keep things inside. Ask him. he will tell you what it is.
It could mean any number of things -- he's not happy with life, he's not happy with himself, he's preoccupied with something...the list goes on. I know most men don't want to talk about it, so that part can be extremely frustrating, but just know that it's most likely not you. Izettl wrote this hub on sexless marriages that may be informative -- I know sex is far from the only form of affection, but some of the reasons may be the same:
if your he hasn't been affectionate in 6 years, ya'll aren't really in a relationship. i'd call it quits. it means exactly what it is.
I certainly hope this has not happened to you. The bottom line is who can possibly know for sure? I do not know the man in question.
I would say (using generalities) that men are known for having a strong sex drive, as long as they are healthy.
Yes, he could be looking elsewhere for affection, but who can say for sure? I personally don't know any men that would be satisfied with a sexless existence.
I said all that to come to this: Something is probably afoot. There could be relational problems, career troubles, psychological impediments, physical ailments and the list can go on forever.
Please confront this issue with him in a loving and gentle way. He may want to address this issue as well, but may not know how to breach the subject.
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