Will you accept your partner after cheating, if you really love him/her?

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   Hunbbel Meerposted 13 years ago

   Will you accept your partner after cheating, if you really love him/her?
   
   Let's make it a case. You catch your partner cheating on you. Either they say sorry to you, or they make up a story (probably a true one), although they still were lying to you, if not cheating. What will you do if they ask for a comeback being a 'sincere person from now on'. Remember that you truly love him/her.

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   Sam Dolloffposted 13 years ago

   I would not be able to trust Him again and without trust I do not see a very good future.  Possibly I would be able to trust again but not right away.  I have been cheated on and I just cannot understand it.  If you truly love someone cheating will not happen.  I think I build a brick wall around myself when something like that happens and therefore the love I feel for them would never be the same.

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   Deborah-Dianeposted 13 years ago

   No, I'm afraid our relationship would never be the same.  I would take his cheating as a sign that we both needed to move on ... and I've been married 40 years!

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   Sneha Sunnyposted 13 years ago

   I will give a second chance. If once this happens then I would doubt on him again and again, that's because of broken trust. But yes I would give him a second chance...but only a second chance, never a third one!!!

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   cmlindblomposted 13 years ago

   I would not. I have the once a cheater always a cheater mindset. You lose all trust from there and the relationship will be below par after that. If you have to cheat good luck with someone else. That's my motto

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   stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

   No I can't accept my partner again after cheating.  It has happened to me in the past and I have tried to forgive and forget but it just doesn't work for me, even if I am so in love.  It's a deal breaker.

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   Helena Rickettsposted 13 years ago

   I would still have to walk away from them.  I realize that sometimes people can change but that's a biggie and I know I'd never be able to trust him again.  Relationships can't last without trust and it would just become a miserable, mind game situation if I took back a cheating partner.  Doesn't matter what he tells me, if he's been gone for longer than I think he should be running an errand or doing anything, in my mind he would be doing it again.  I would just be miserable and no one is worth that no matter how much you truly love them.

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   Hunbbel Meerposted 13 years ago

   Actually, the case was a real one, and this was with me. I was cheated on, and then she asked for forgiveness, I do not know what I was thinking; or it was just a proof of how much I loved her. I hugged her while she was crying, and forgave her. What next?
   
   She never changed, she kept on hurting me; she kept on cheating me. I was such a fool to trust her again and forgive her again. Now the situation is that I can't even trust my family, I can't trust anyone in this world, I just hope I never get too rude to anybody, because I am simply unable to trust them. So my advice would be to just let it go in the first place

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   slafferyposted 13 years ago

   I believe the cheating is a symptom of a much larger problem and unless you are willing to work on what led up to the cheating there is no chance.  You have to fix the real issues.  So if my partner was cheating on me I would attempt to get to the root of the problem but it would take a long time to rebuild and learn how to trust again.

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    arksysposted 13 years ago

    If i really loved her and she lied to me ... it's over, there and then. I would continue the relationship if i really had to for one reason or another but I will never feel the same for her ever. Once the trust is broken it's broken.
    
    My experience in life has been - "if they do it once, they will do it again" ...

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    nightwork4posted 13 years ago

    not a chance. love is a two way street and if my lady cheated on me, it's over. no exceptions, no excuses.

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    whoisbidposted 13 years ago

    I would rather not know about it though because I don't think it would help our relationship. If my partner had cheated and still loved me I would rather she not tell me about it. It is a difficult question to answer and depends on many things. If people love each other they should try to find a way through the hurt if they can, especially if they have kids.

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