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Why do women stay with men that are not on the same intellect level as themselve

  1. SapphireGreen93 profile image61
    SapphireGreen93posted 5 years ago

    Why do women stay with men that are not on the same intellect level as themselves?

  2. Credence2 profile image81
    Credence2posted 5 years ago

    Perhaps the compatibility between two people is based upon more than just  intellectual parity

  3. terrektwo profile image83
    terrektwoposted 5 years ago

    There could be many reasons, possibly they have a good ability to provide for a family, maybe the woman has low self esteem, maybe the guy treats her very well, possibly if she is basing it on looks he could be very attractive? Many possibilities exist, depends on the two people.

  4. zzron profile image57
    zzronposted 5 years ago


    It could be that some of these women enjoy feeling superior to they're man giving them more power over them. Or that they feel they have more control over the relationship.

  5. Borsia profile image46
    Borsiaposted 5 years ago

    I suppose it is for the same reasons that the reverse is true.
    There is much more to relations than intellect, even more true if you are talking about the levels of education.
    Everyone brings things to the relationship and it is the sum of the whole rather than the parts that really matter.

  6. onegoodwoman profile image75
    onegoodwomanposted 5 years ago

    Women are wired to nurturing, growing, developing the species.

    Perhaps, some of us, think, that by changing " our man", we change
    the world.   

    What we fail to do..........is to  first change us and our expectations.

    In my 20's..........I worshipped my man
    In my 30's........I worked beside him
    In my 40's..........I accepted his faults
    In my 50's...........I ask..................why do I even need you?

    What MOST of us fail to realize...........this world is NOT about man vs women.........it is about

    partnership, trusted friends, family and any people who support our worth and growth...............if your partner does not meet these needs..............

    then he or she does not.

    It is now the time, that you ask yourself, the hard questions.

    Am I the supporting partner?........AM I?

    Dismiss the clutter............and keep the sacred.

    At the end of the day.....someone is more emotional........someone is a better finacier, someone is better with the children.......someone is a better mechanic or plumber...........

    each of us has a skill...........but do not dismiss the skill of your partner.

  7. sun of zym profile image61
    sun of zymposted 5 years ago

    why do women stay with men that abuse them until they get so use to it that they submit after years of extreme mental cruelty, emotional torment with the assist of other women who hold high positions who think that "clickship" in the workplace is the same thing as "we are a family", while violating civil right laws and corrupt certain kinds of agencies in order to hide their own corruptions, and yet someone who has nothing to do with it is gossiped about and accused of being the source of their lack of integrity?  It seems to me that a far worse thing than being intellectually inadequate should arouse more concern, even though I tend to agree with you on your question,  the love between two should not be based on fear, on force, on complacent, jealousy, lies, for once these things run their course, what will pride and vanity leave behind.  Will two uneven intellects last?  Is one emotionally insecure, or pose a danger to the other in a physical manner? Is the concept of what they have too strange for them to handle, or is it to the witness?  Why would anyone force another to become nothing, to destroy their self worth in order to have them?  Why do women stay with men that are not on the same intellect level as themselves?  What is the difference between one kind of "love", and real love?  What determines love?

  8. hillymillydee profile image60
    hillymillydeeposted 5 years ago

    I will make a hub out of it

  9. cat on a soapbox profile image97
    cat on a soapboxposted 5 years ago

    Women may marry men below their intellectual levels for a few reasons such as comfort w/o competition,  commonalities in other areas of interest, and true love. Some women lack confidence and marry men who expect less or make them feel superior.

  10. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Most people are not all that interested in one another's IQ Scores when searching for love.  Personality and chemistry are more important than GPAs to most people. In fact we live in times where there are high school and college drop-outs making millions/billions of dollars and some people who have Master degrees and  PHds are flat broke. Probably the best way to measure intelligence is in a person's ability to "find a way" to get the things (they) truly want and need.

  11. ChristinS profile image94
    ChristinSposted 5 years ago

    There are also different kinds of "smart".  I am more of a book nerd than my partner, however he is very good at solving problems mechanically.  He builds stuff and I write things lol.  It works for us - we are both smart, but in different ways.  He is also compassionate, respectful, strong and my rock.  My life is better because he's in it - who has the higher IQ score doesn't matter.  We share the same values and goals and in some ways he's smarter than I am and in other ways I am smarter than he is - but isn't that true for everyone?

  12. That Grrl profile image58
    That Grrlposted 5 years ago

    Why not date a smarter guy? As long as he has a sense of humour to go along with his smart ways.

  13. Insane Mundane profile image59
    Insane Mundaneposted 5 years ago

    It depends on the situation...  Many of us would like to think that it is for those fun, primitive reasons and compatibility.  Although, often times, it is more about security and family-based establishments.  Plus, body chemistry doesn't always involve intellect, now does it?

  14. Made profile image62
    Madeposted 5 years ago

    Do they? What is intellect level? Is it measured as IQ or EQ or something else? I probably had better grades in school than my man, but I could never do things he can, like build the house we are going to live in.

  15. IJR112 profile image61
    IJR112posted 5 years ago

    Emotional intelligence is probably more important to them than IQ.

  16. xethonxq profile image65
    xethonxqposted 5 years ago

    Could be love...or power and control...or they just don't care about that difference.

  17. feenix profile image59
    feenixposted 5 years ago

    And why do men stay with women who are not on the same "intellect level" as they are?

    I will just say the following:

    I have never fallen for a woman because of her mind, but I sure have flipped for a lot of them because of their bodies.

    Seriously, a woman doesn't have to be star to be in my show.

    Whenever I hook up with a woman, it is simply because she likes me and I like her.