Would you remain friends with people who tried to sabotage your income & gossip

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   Express10posted 13 years ago

   Would you remain friends with people who tried to sabotage your income & gossip about you?
   
   If you are self employed and your so called friends tried to keep the client from choosing you over them by lying about your skills and talents and consistently gossip about you, would you remain friendly with them? What if they began sucking up to you when there was no question that your star is on the rise? Would you trust them on any level?

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   msorenssonposted 13 years ago

   Remain acquainted, perhaps. They were not your friends to begin with...

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   Seeker7posted 13 years ago

   If I had proof that this was the case I would dump them asap! If people act like this towards you then they are not friends at all and the only reason the are pretending to reman friends is so that they can keep an eye on what customers you have and what else you are up to so that they can get further opportunities to steal clients and gossip about you.
   
   Personally I would have it out with them. Tell them what you know and that the friendship is over.

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   taheruddinposted 13 years ago

   Everyone has his own strategy of earning. It can be legal, half legal or illegal. But all of them are parts of society. We have to exploit all of them. That is a challenge of living as human. My inside never say I could like such people of bad habit you mentioned. But, curbing my enthusiasm. Find out something that make them or reveals them stupid when they start speak about you.

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   MP50posted 13 years ago

   An old saying, never steal a Mans tools as this is how he earns his wages, in your case they stole your skills and talent, using it against you. Preventing you from earning your wages, no trust means no friendship press the delete button.

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   Kebennett1posted 13 years ago

   A "friend" by definition is,
   
   noun
   1.
   a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
   2.
   a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: friends of the Boston Symphony.
   3.
   a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile
   http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/friend
   
   If a person is trying to undermine you by "keeping the client from choosing you over them by lying about your skills and talents and consistently gossip about you," then by definition they are NOT a friend, so my answer is a NO. Having negative people in your life who bring you down or in this instance try to take you down is not healthy for you. You should always surround yourself with people who lift you up and inspire you. It is time to make a break with this person! Don't let their "sucking up" interfere with what needs to be done, it is obvious they are two faced. You need to be clear, concise and expedient!

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   kayyluhposted 13 years ago

   No because they weren't ever my friends to start with, if they did those mean things to me. I could put up with them but we would never be close.

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   lburmasterposted 13 years ago

   Nope. Piss me off and you're gone. If they don't show the effort, then kick 'em to the curb.

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   mattforteposted 13 years ago

   Umm, this question is a contradiction in itself. People who sabatoge your income and gossip about you are *enemies.* That is the clear opposite of friends.

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    alisha4uposted 13 years ago

    Yes, I guess ! Being in touch is never bad... I might not prefer talking to them so often though....

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    Express10posted 13 years ago

    I must clarify that I have never considered these types of people friends and I ask this question because I have a special person in my life who consistently forgives these same people to what I believe is his detriment. I see them as harmful, negative, draining, enemies who cannot be trusted. They continually hang around or worm their way in, trying to manipulate things and people to their benefit.

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    AnnaCiaposted 13 years ago

    If a person who used to be a friend begins sabotaging and gossiping, is not a friend anymore...well, has never been a friend, really. I do not have time for people like that.

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    Rastamermaidposted 13 years ago

    First and foremost as many have stated,that's not a friend,and probably never was.
    In business it's known that people build themselves up.In doing this,you should never put someone else down,that's bad business and unacceptable on any level.
    I would just stay clear of said person,if we happen to run in the same circles, I would be cordial,polite and that's it. No conversation what so ever.
    No,I wouldn't trust them far as I could smell them.

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    prism3xposted 13 years ago

    Friendship is based on trust and companionship.   Keep your friends close and your enemies closer....I believe is how it is said.  Keep the questionable ones on more of a social level.  I think your skills, talents and honesty will speak for itself over time.  As the so called friends are back stabbing you, they are also doing that to most people.  If you notice it--so will others.

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