Why is true love, so very elusive?

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  1. flashmakeit profile image60
    flashmakeitposted 9 years ago

    Why is true love, so very elusive?

  2. msorensson profile image74
    msorenssonposted 9 years ago

    It is not elusive...one simply has to recognize it and know that all the descriptions we read about are other people's not ours..and we define them ourselves.

    It is not the absence but the recognition of its presence that is the challenge. I wish you would find it..recognize it, I mean..and I wish you to be happy.

    As long as you view it from the filter of the ego, then there will be disappointments.  But where there are no expectations of the other person, then there is only the bliss of feeling it, and the joyful memory of having felt it..if only momentary and you can call it to the present at will.

    There are no regrets, only gratitude.

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you!

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I loved your answer! If everyone thought this way, we really would have, and enjoy love that much more. Take it for what it is, for the moment, enjoy it...if it doesn't last, that's fine too, don't do anything you would ever regret. Learn from it.

  3. Deborah Brooks profile image60
    Deborah Brooksposted 9 years ago

    Sometimes it is hard to find. Especially when you are looking too hard. then sometimes you think you found it and then they go away. don't give up, just keeping trying and maybe don't try so hard. I agree I want you to be happy
    Debbie

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I appreciate your answer.

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You are right, sometimes we find things we really want when we are not looking for it.

  4. Rosana Modugno profile image71
    Rosana Modugnoposted 9 years ago

    I don't think it's elusive at all.  I think it just takes different forms, some more recognizable than others, and sometimes you just don't see it because you aren't ready.  Sometimes your heart is closed off for whatever reason, and true love can't fit inside.  Perhaps your heart is full of someone else?  Aaaahhh...see?  lol  I'm better than Cleo.  I'll send you my bill.  smile

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      An awesome opinion.

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      When it comes to true love, you are right, you feel it or you don't. If you're not ready to commit you won't see it.

    3. profile image0
      CJ Sledgehammerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think most people have the capacity to give true love or receive it. Most people are vessels that are filled with so many holes, and carry so much baggage, that their vessel is taking on unhealthy levels of water and is in danger of sinking.

  5. Lisa HW profile image65
    Lisa HWposted 9 years ago

    If it were more common than it really is, it wouldn't be anything special.  It would instead be "kind of like", "care about a lot", "am attracted to", "really like" and/or any number of other incomplete forms of affection/attraction.

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That was a thoughtful answer.

  6. profile image0
    CJ Sledgehammerposted 9 years ago

    True love is so very elusive, because hearts that are true are hard to find. :0)

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That is a good answer.

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, this is very rare, but it does happen.

  7. Mazzy Bolero profile image67
    Mazzy Boleroposted 9 years ago

    I think it can be elusive because people often get married/have kids without it.  They get to the age where everyone is pairing up and if someone reasonably attractive shows an interest in them, they go for it.  I was once in hospital and the young woman in the bed opposite was 21 years old and had 4 kids already. Her young husband came to visit her every evening, but after maximum 2 minutes, they ran out of things to say. He would spend the rest of the hour surreptitiously glancing at the clock on the wall, while she looked miserable as sin.  How long would that marriage last once the kids weren't babies?  On the other hand, I know a couple who have been married over 40 years and are still really happy - they went out together for several years before they got married. You need to be careful when you choose your partner.

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That is a very insightful answer

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Good stuff, Mazzy, thank you. :0)

  8. chef-de-jour profile image98
    chef-de-jourposted 9 years ago

    Yes, true love is elusive because that is how it should be and probably how it always will be and always has been. True love is an ideal in a poet's soul and can never be attained, even when we think and feel that we have true love this is only an illusion.

    Human psychology being what it is we seem to have a need for 'perfect' scenarios  in life so we can strive towards fulfilment. True love might fall into this category.
    We try very very hard to set the scene for true love - we make ourselves beautiful, we change our habits, we bring gifts, we sing songs, write poems...... we'll go to crazy lengths to fulfil a dream because the need is there for true love. But.....

    ...I don't believe it can be measured in chocolate boxes or botox injections or sexual appetite. Or new houses, or money, or environments or religions. True love in my opinion should remain elusive. Or perhaps, like Orpheus and Eurydice in the Greek myth, we should only catch a glimpse of it in a life time.

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Some very interesting thoughts.

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Anybody would be so lucky, even as you say "to catch a glimpse" of love, because some may never truly  experience it in their lifetime.

  9. Tonipet profile image82
    Tonipetposted 9 years ago

    True love seems so very elusive because we never know which one is real and we never know who will love us true. The feeling of always wishing for true love makes us desire for it with so much excitement only to get disappointed at how hard it is to find one. I wish you one true love flashmakeit :smile

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I am honored by you truthfulness.

  10. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

    In world with 7 Billion people on it the main reason we often don't find love is because of our human tendency to (exclude) rather than (include) potential mates. We do this in a number of ways. If I say "the one" must be of my same race, that emliminates billions of people right off the bat. The same goes for religious beliefs. Then we say he/she must live in my country, state, or town...etc This is all without meeting one person! It's also before we get to height, weight, education, career, so forth. Lastly we say he or she must be liked by my friends and family and vice versa! Is it any wonder why it's such a challenge to find that special person? I wrote about this awhile back. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … venbillion

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I will read your article.  Thank you!

    2. lupine profile image73
      lupineposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio - you make a lot of sense. In order to find love, all those requirements need to be put aside and be open to all possibilities. The important things in finding true love are the ones that can't really be seen or measured, only felt.

  11. lupine profile image73
    lupineposted 9 years ago

    Flashmarket - No one knows why...as people we can be very complicated and it takes very special people to become one. It is possible thought. Usually there are too many reasons why love is not attained, as commented here by dashingscorpio, we need to put our egos aside, all requirements , what other people think, and freely look at all possibilities..you may be overlooking the person  that's right for you. (Please see comments I have left here with some answers submitted)

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Lupine your considerate comments where impressive! I thank you for adding your wise opinions on so many well written replies to this question. Your effort is appreciated!

  12. edhan profile image41
    edhanposted 9 years ago

    True love is giving without asking.

    I fell in love with my wife after knowing her for 1 week and got married in 3 weeks later. Love is always such a mysterious thing and when it comes, you will feel it.

    For me, it is not elusive as when you have the true understanding the true meaning of love. I do things for my love without her asking as if I read her mind. Same goes with her to me.

    1. flashmakeit profile image60
      flashmakeitposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I am happy for you and I hope that love last forever!

 
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