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Would you marry someone 20 years older than you?

  1. jpcmc profile image90
    jpcmcposted 5 years ago

    Would you marry someone 20 years older than you?

  2. securityproducts3 profile image39
    securityproducts3posted 5 years ago

    Let's see, Jennifer Aniston is in her 40's and I'm in my 20's. Yes.

  3. Mom Kat profile image80
    Mom Katposted 5 years ago

    No. Women in my family outlive men anyway by over 20 years so that would be like asking to live without that special person for 40 years - at least!  No thank you.  I'd rather grow old together, not watch the one I love die & then soldier on for nearly 1/2 a century without them.

    I know you can't predict when it's anyone's "time", I'm saying, if there are no "accidents" and we both live a standard life.

    I should be married to someone 10 years younger... lol

  4. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    Heck no, I'm 61 - that would put them very close to the grave!  When I was a young woman it would not have been such a big deal.

  5. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    No. I have a rule. I don't date or get into a relationship with anyone who I could be their kid.

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    matama ellieposted 5 years ago

    Not likely. I always say that as long as the difference in age between me and the man i choose to marry is less than that between him and my mom then i guess it is okay.That would make the maximum age difference for me as 13 years and not a day more.

  7. GiblinGirl profile image86
    GiblinGirlposted 5 years ago

    I'm already married - my husband is a few months older than me.  I think "to each his own" though.  If you find love with someone who is 20 years older than you, then more power to you.

    1. kyawnaing profile image54
      kyawnaingposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Great !  I agree with you

  8. brakel2 profile image79
    brakel2posted 5 years ago

    It depends on age. At age 25, it's reasonable. I know a man 76 with teenagers. He gets Social Security for them. He was in his 60s and married a 40 yr old. For him, it now has financial advantages. I hope he lived to be 90 for sake of family.

  9. Peter Morra profile image60
    Peter Morraposted 5 years ago

    Honestly ?
    If she has a lot of money and her health is not so good, yes I do.

    1. kyawnaing profile image54
      kyawnaingposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      ha ha ha >>

  10. kyawnaing profile image54
    kyawnaingposted 5 years ago

    For me , honestly , i will if she rich , to understand me and she allow to support my parent , I also can promise to divorce anymore and stay with her forever as she can live .

    1. landofkirk profile image61
      landofkirkposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Money is never worth sacrificing your happiness.

    2. Peter Morra profile image60
      Peter Morraposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, but sometime without money it doesn't exist happiness

  11. StandingJaguar profile image78
    StandingJaguarposted 5 years ago

    If you find someone you deeply care for, then age should not stop you. Someone answered "it depends on what age you are now"; No it doesn't, 20 years is 20 years, if you're young now, you'll be older one day. Anyway, people seem to be forgetting that one's age is NO guarantee for how long you will live, or whether you will live longer than the other person. You could marry someone your same age and they still die decades before you! You could marry someone 20 years your senior and YOU die first! We don't like to think about it but old age is not the only cause of death.

    If you love someone and are willing to respect the differences that come with difference in age, than live your life together joyfully while you can. Marrying someone your own age is no guarantee of a long and happy life together.

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      matama ellieposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      20 years is not just 20 years. A 14 year old  girl with a 24 year old man is a bid no-no, simply because defilement is a valid charge at this time.10 years down the line, this particular person at 24 years old can marry the now 34 year old guy.

  12. Goody5 profile image70
    Goody5posted 5 years ago

    It's not a problem as long as you don't mind changing their diaper years down the road, and I'm not trying to be funny here. Keep on hubbing  smile

  13. sugz profile image71
    sugzposted 5 years ago

    not likely.. or 20yrs younger.. that would be too much like your mother/ father or a child.. gross!

  14. IDONO profile image82
    IDONOposted 5 years ago

    Well duh! Of course. I'm 58. If I marry a woman 78, she kicks it, and leaves her assets to me, I'm still young enough, and now wealthy enough to attract a woman 20 years younger than me. Pretty clever, hey? Are there any men out there in there 70s? Listen up! Go for Betty White!!!!!!

    1. landofkirk profile image61
      landofkirkposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Who let the children in here?

    2. IDONO profile image82
      IDONOposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      The people with a sense of humor. Next time I need permission, I'll look you up, somber- take life too serious one.

  15. TNSabrina profile image60
    TNSabrinaposted 5 years ago

    If I wasn't already married, then yes; however, I am older. I don't think a 18 year old should marry someone that much older. I guess it would depend on the ages.

  16. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 5 years ago

    jpcmc....A much discussed topic of conversation, but an interesting one.  I would have been comfortable 20 years ago to marry a man that much older than I.   I think it has much to do with what particular age you are at the time the opportunity presents itself.....When both individuals are between 40 and 60, I see no serious concerns with marriage to one another in these decades of life.
    One the other hand, a woman in her 20's or 30's, probably wouldn't be making a realistic decision to marry a man in his 40's or 50's.  I suspect you follow my reasoning.
    I am married so I needn't wonder about this....but hypothetically, at my age now...I wouldn't even think of marrying someone 20 years older than I am.......Simply because I do not have a license in Geriatric nursing............lol