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Should we try to help when a couple friends break up or shouldn't we meddle?

  1. algarveview profile image88
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    Should we try to help when a couple friends break up or shouldn't we meddle?

  2. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    I don't think I would meddle. I would just be their friends and listen to what each have to say. They are going to need an ear. If they tell you something they cannot tell their significant other because of ego, I may mention it.

  3. tirelesstraveler profile image79
    tirelesstravelerposted 5 years ago

    Listen to them, but don't take sides.  If you take sides you will be the next one attacked.  Friends of ours are in the middle of a split. I am going to have to continue interaction with the one I think is wrong.  My lips are sealed.  Listen and love on both of them.

  4. CrazyGata profile image75
    CrazyGataposted 5 years ago

    I meddled, she thanked me for it. They got back two years later.

  5. lburmaster profile image81
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Don't meddle. If they can last with you meddling what will happen when you aren't there? See if they can work it out on their own. Their relationship is between each other. They don't need you as an extra wheel.

  6. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    I'm with JThom42, I would be a friend, listen and support them.  If they need help, they will ask for it.  Otherwise, I would not meddle.

  7. freefogging profile image76
    freefoggingposted 5 years ago

    I had a couple of friends who just divorced after 18 years of marriage. They were both really great friends. It was a nasty, 7 month long divorce. My advice...be there for whoever needs you...don't take sides...be truthful when asked...remain friends with both and don't take sides. They are still both great friends, it's just a different dynamic now.

    1. viveresperando profile image75
      viveresperandoposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I got a divorce, friends meddled, made accusations, after they realized it was lies the accusations were already made.  Not that I don't forgive, I just don't trust and life is too short to surround yourself with people that you do not trust.

    2. algarveview profile image88
      algarveviewposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      It's actually very hard, because for one, one of them is always talking about it, he goes on and on about it, then because the dynamic is very different as you say and I'm a bit lost on how to handle that...

  8. Rosana Modugno profile image85
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    What a couple share between themselves is nobody's business but their own, whether it's what they do or don't do in their bedroom and if they stay together or break up.

  9. Debarshi Dutta profile image72
    Debarshi Duttaposted 5 years ago

    If they are going to break up,they definitely would..eventually.

    If they are not sure they would definitely seek help from friends.

    In such a circumstance, with the help of friends some may postpone breaking up for a while or for a long time or may not break up at all.

    But if and when a couple or any couple do not communicate well.,do not behave properly or adequately with each other and continuously fall short of each others' expectations and never acknowledge their own shortcomings to one another... such a relationship lacks goodwill and effort.

    Such a relationship is already ill and diagnosed to die out...or suffer survival in ill-health.

    As such by meddling as much as one can or could or by not meddling at all,even the best of friends and relatives cannot dispel the doom.

  10. rajan jolly profile image89
    rajan jollyposted 5 years ago

    That depends how much leeway you are being given and how close are to them. Hear them out and if asked for an advice do the best to be impartial and give a truthful assessment. That's about all I'd do and let it rest at that.

  11. Gary Holdaway profile image82
    Gary Holdawayposted 5 years ago

    I think it's a good idea to show support to both of your friends during a breakup, but also make it clear that you will not be taking sides and aren't interested in negative gossip. Try to help keep each person calm towards each other and sort out their problems like adults.

  12. jodeci profile image60
    jodeciposted 5 years ago

    I don't think anyone should meddle with couple friends break up. I think you should offer support by listening to them, but encourage the couple either talk with each other or find a professional that can help them solve their relationship problems.

 
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