men and women can indeed be friends. you can even be a little attracted to each other but out of respect for each other, and the friendship, you just don't go there. i have always gotten along better with men than women anyway...most women don't like me at first. they assume i am stuck up and snotty, and then after they get to know me they're all 'wow, you're so swweeeeet', who knew?'
Yes I think is't possible. I had a friend.. or thought I have a friend until I got married.
He's a christian and a divorcee who vows not to remarry or get in anymore relationship.. We used to see each other on the train in the morning and talk almost 3 times a day. When I told him I met someone.. he didn't know what to say.. "I didn't know he "really liked me.. he didn't show any interest. We still remain friends but ou calls are few and far between
I have traditionally worked in male dominated jobs and had many men friends who just stayed friends. Some have been very close friends over 15 years now. Even when we were both single we just kept to friendship.
I am also think it is possible. i have also some female friends they are also very good and close friends of mine but we both seems our-self as close friends. If you seems the relationship as cheap then god friendship gonna be broken...that is not the good sign for good people I think male and female also just be a good friends
Add this to the list of questions that may never truly be answered, "What came first, the chicken or the egg?; Why is the sky blue?; And can a man and woman truly be "just friends"?
I really believe that this question can only be answered from the perspective of the parties involved and not on an all encompassing scale.
Speaking strictly from a male point of view, men are typically only friends with women that they find attractive. And most men will respect the friendship label and boundaries associated with it as long as the "woman" wants to keep things on a platonic level. However, the minute she lets her guard down, all bets are off.
However, if a significant amount of time passes and both parties continue to enjoy the friendship (e.g. Jerry/Elaine from Seinfeld type of relationship) then it is possible. The trust will be there, the respect will be there, but unfortunately or fortunately the prospect of sex will always be there as well.
Good points very well put. I have male friends that I would never consider having sex with, although they have brought the subject up before (pun intended). And I have been in relationships with men who have had female friends that they "went there" with. When those "friendships" continue, it appears difficult to separate the sex from the friendship; one of them wants more. Although I believe that men and women can be friends without having sex, once the deed is done, everything changes.
Men and women can be just friends. After a while, even if there is an attraction if it is not acted on it will just be. I have a just friends friend, after a few years we tried the benefits thing and it didn't work. Was almost impossible. We are still friends and still an attraction but no action.
I think alot of the time there is an attraction there and competition is another thing that gets in the way. Although I have managed to keep a number of good female friends, its just the way humans are.. we have our instincts
Yes, and those instincts are put into practice I believe more often than not. Then the friendship gets creepy and weird and slowly dissolves. Unless of course you stay together as a couple but I don't see that too often, that's just me.
I don't think so, strictly speaking from a woman's point of view. When a woman discovers she has a special bond or relationship with her male friend then naturally she is going to grow feelings for him. In general in relationships the effort is never equal, there is usually someone who gives more than the other, feels more than the other, or wants more than the other. Often times, for the sake of the friendship it remains concealed. This is assuming a straight male and female relationship if you have a straight/gay relationship it is entirely a different ball park.
I think you can pretend you are friends. Talk like friends, act like friends, help each other, etc, BUT. Both think about "what if" (there may be exceptions - e.g. frigidity issues, etc). That "what if" sets all going, until even the air around starts vibrating - all you need is some possibility, an excuse to get closer, be it a bad day or too much wine (vulnerability). IF the other party then turns it down and refuses to get closer, you can pretend to be friends. Until the next time...
Trust me, yes. A woman can have male friends for years and it can only ever be that. It can be either (usually, in my experience), a guy who >may< be a little attracted to you and you have absolutely no interest in and never would have interest in, though you care about him as a person...like my friends J., H., B., and a few more... OR, there may be a slight attraction mutually (this is rarer), but not much, or they may be in another relationship, etc., and neither of you would ever act on it.
yes, but I don't know about if you've been in an intimate relationship with them first if it's really possible. the sexual tension is always there. I have tried, it doesn't seem to work.
I have male friends and we are able to talk about subjects of substance without a lot of judgments being made. I like a lot of guy stuff that my women friends aren't too interested in, like music, composing, artsy stuff, philosophical things...
I believe so. I've had many male friends that I used to hang out with, but had no intimate relationship. Why spoil a good friendship? Unless the chemistry is there for more, of course. As a matter of fact, my favorite male friend, Pat, died 3 years ago & I think about him every day. I regret that I didn't invite him over for dinner with me and spousey. Even spousey liked him & understood the friendship. He was no threat. So yes, male/female can be just friends.
I beg to differ. There is always an underlying sexula component in any relationship between a man and a woman...always! That doesn't mean that they can't be friends, but there is always that tension and if there is significan others involved, they can further complicate and make difficult a real friendship... sorry...but that's just the way it is.
Sure they can - as long as the guy is gay! lol. Just kidding. I've had close male friends for years, and sex is never even thought about. On the other hand, I have another male friend with whom there is a mutual sexual attraction. We tease about it a lot but have never acted on it, nor do I think we ever will.
We all experience different relationships I know,but maybe it's just me, I've always had close male friends and lost them after it got intimate on various levels. Doesn't have to be sex but most times it is.
Someone mentioned tension and it is that feeling I believe mostly overpowers the boundaries of strictly being friends :
I hate the word "Just"... often "just" friends is much deeper and dependable than what we would label a relation of marriage.
Sexual tension or attraction between "just" friends can exist, but first of all you don't have to act on any impulse (if you do it won't take long to find yourself behind bars) and secondly when "just" friends do figure out they want to be really involved with each other their love affair has the most solid ground I can think of.
So, when I marry I would like it to be with a "just" friend.... :-)
I get such conflicting feelings on this. Most of the men I know have been intimate with the person they tried to be friends with..and it ruined the friendship. And the ones that don't...it happens anyway down the line....
Can a man and a woman truly be just friendsI saw a video recently, where someone went out filming young men and women, asking this question. Without fail, all the girls answered yes and the boys answered no. However,...