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Women feel old at 29, men at 58

  1. pisean282311 profile image52
    pisean282311posted 6 years ago

    "You are as old as you feel", goes an old saying. A study now says women consider themselves old at 29, half the age of men who feel old only at 58.

    A quarter of women say they feel old as soon as they spot their first grey hair. Men, however, tend to think the same only when they can no longer perform in the bedroom, according to the Daily Mail.

    The study by Avalon Funeral Plans found 10 percent of women say they feel old when they think their once-youthful skin has started to sag. A further 50 percent say they feel youthful until their "assets" start to droop - often caused by childbirth and breast feeding.

    Two-thirds of men feel old only when they could no longer perform in the bedroom. Around 22 percent admitted it was when they thought music had become too loud in bars.

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    what are your views on this survey?

    1. tsmog profile image83
      tsmogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Interesting. ngureco makes a good observation saying "on average, women live longer than men." This gives me cause to wonder maybe they deal with feeling old much sooner.

      1. rebekahELLE profile image87
        rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        A good observation on your part. I read recently that young teenage females in France are using anti-wrinkle creams, etc.

        I think many women tend to take better care of themselves than the average male. And now the older worker (male and female) has to deal with age discrimination, so it is becoming more popular for women to do what they can to look younger. I think this also depends on location and socioeconomic factors.

        1. tsmog profile image83
          tsmogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          There is a secret to aging rebekahelle , , ,shhhhhhhhhh, don't tell anyone , , , give this some thought. Pretend you were born on July 1st 1970 and a friends baby was born July 1st 2010. On July 1st 2011 you will be 41 and from July 1st 2010 through July 1st 2011 you lived 1/41 of a lifetime. However the baby lived one year and a whole lifetime in that same year. So, who has "aged" more? I know doesn't make sense or as we age the year of life experienced becomes shorter relational to a lifetime or time goes by faster. Remember the baby experienced a whole lifetime. Just a thought process , , ,

    2. Misha profile image73
      Mishaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      At 51, I am not there yet tongue

    3. Gordon Hamilton profile image96
      Gordon Hamiltonposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am an avid Daily Mail reader but don't recall the survey. I could write spiels on this subject but prefer not to.

      Will only say that I am approaching my 42nd birthday and have considered myself old for a long time...

      Remember: there are lies, there are damned lies...and then there are statistics... smile

    4. tigerman55 profile image60
      tigerman55posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am now 70 but I feel much younger and do more work than what many people younger than me cannot do. I definately think that your as old as you feel.

    5. Radical Rog profile image81
      Radical Rogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I disagree with the statement, you're as old as you feel. You're as old as the person your feeling.

    6. H.C Porter profile image77
      H.C Porterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That is funny!
      I think it may be true... I feel old (but it happened after my second child was born...although I am trying to convince myself and the world that 30 is the new 20)...
      I think that men don’t really feel old until they lose their stamina in the bedroom because other than that...I haven’t met one that has actually grown up? Maybe if they did... they would feel older and relieve some of our stress...so in return allowing us to feel younger? Maybe?
      smile

    7. David 470 profile image86
      David 470posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol interesting survey..

  2. dingdondingdon profile image58
    dingdondingdonposted 6 years ago

    The Daily Mail is a useless rag, but the statistics themselves sound true to life. It's sad, women are told they're washed out and worthless once they hit about 25 or 26.

    1. pisean282311 profile image52
      pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      hmmm

    2. relache profile image86
      relacheposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree with this statement up to the comma.  Then I disagree. 

      If you are willing to give up your sense of self-worth in your mid-twenties, that's your choice, no one is forcing you to feel that way. 

      I still don't feel old and I'm over 40.  Must be my purple hair keeping me young...

  3. ngureco profile image87
    ngurecoposted 6 years ago

    This is all about one's state of mind.

    On average, women live longer than men.

    1. pisean282311 profile image52
      pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      ya thats true

    2. simeonvisser profile image85
      simeonvisserposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      So they live longer and they feel old for most of their life (from age 29 on)?

      1. stclairjack profile image80
        stclairjackposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        yea,..... sounds depressing to me

  4. 2uesday profile image85
    2uesdayposted 6 years ago

    I am old enough not to take survey results seriously, especially if they are paid for by a company and find the concept/conclusion of this one amusing.

    Survey questions can be set up so that the choices of response you can give are limited.

    Not saying that someone selling funeral plans has a vested interest in when we start to feel old and might be willing to consider our eventual departure.

    Often people have the feeling that they are getting old in the year before they turn thirty or forty as they can see it as the end of an 'era'. However people tend to stay 'younger' for longer now than in the past.

    1. pisean282311 profile image52
      pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      "I am old enough not to take survey results seriously" lol fair enough

  5. WriteAngled profile image91
    WriteAngledposted 6 years ago

    What a lot of horse manure!

    I'm female, 57, and haven't felt old yet.

    I wonder how many people took the survey and whether they were representative of the general population.

    However, the Daily Mail would not worry about checking up on trivial matters like that before publishing something sensasionalist.

    1. IzzyM profile image88
      IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm going to disagree because I felt ancient at 35 when I found myself pregnant with twins, and all other other women were barely more than teenagers at the hospital. Then when I was 38 I had another baby when some of the mothers were only 14!
      Just today, I bought a new bike and it's the first time I've been on one for nigh on 40 years (I'm 53) and now I feel 150! There's is not a bit of me that is not aching! And I had to push the bike uphill because there was no way I had the strength to actually pedal.

      1. stclairjack profile image80
        stclairjackposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        get a bike with a motor,... you'll look great on it, and its more fun than pushing the pedal model.

        1. IzzyM profile image88
          IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          No I need the exercise. It'll maybe kill me but I am determined to get fit again. I'm newly diagnosed with osteo-arthritis and the weight has been piling on recently. This is exactly what I need (even if I did fall off TWICE today!)

          1. stclairjack profile image80
            stclairjackposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            the statement "maybe kill me but I am determined to get fit again."..... makes me laugh uncontrollably! but best of luck to you, may you have more luck and will power than i. ;-)

            1. IzzyM profile image88
              IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              LOL yes that's just one of the mad mental expressions from my neck of the woods and you're right, it is a bit daft to put it mildly smile
              I am dying to get back out on my bike again - it was wonderful on the downhill slopes today - the wind in my hair and the sun on my back - just struggled on the flats and actually had to get off and push to go uphill.
              I only fell off when my leg muscles seized up and wouldn't do anything - couldn't even put my feet out to prevent a fall! Quite possibly tomorrow I'll be even stiffer.
              I should have added that the shop is 20 kms away (about 15 miles) and I attempted to cycle home uphill most of the way. I managed about 1 mile before collapsing with exhaustion and sending for the cavalry.

              1. stclairjack profile image80
                stclairjackposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                i would say eat a lot of potasium rich foods such as bananas,.... but do yourself a favor and just take a potasium pill daily,.... if you eat enough bananas to get the equivelant, you'll have NEW problems that will undoubtedly affect your biking! ha! but the potasium should help a great deal with leg cramps. i used to load feed for a living and if i moved 6-8 ton in a day, my muscles would apreciate the small potasium pill.

                i personaly still advocate the motorized bike, .....faster, even the dorkest old wank looks cool on a bike!.... theres hope for me!

                1. IzzyM profile image88
                  IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Thanks for the potassium tips - great idea especially as this is a hot country and getting hotter as we go into spring.

                  It probably was salt depletion because I was sweating a lot. Yeah I really wanted a scooter but they cost about 10 times what the bike did!

                  1. stclairjack profile image80
                    stclairjackposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    well, look at it this way,.... i will look cool ON my bike,... but when my arthritic arse hobles off of it,.... you'll be getting off of your bicycle and well,... i may look cool on my bike,.... but you'll look great off of your bike!

    2. cheaptrick profile image74
      cheaptrickposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I couldn't agree more.I'll be sixty in September and I felt old at the age of twenty.It is a state of mind cause when I get senile[coming soon smile]I'll feel Young again!It's all in your head unless your out of your head,in which case you won't know it anyway.
      Can ya see that Alzheimer's creeping up on me...or am I just paranoid...Hmmm

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
        schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        no you didn't. smile your attitude makes me feel your young wink

  6. profile image65
    logic,commonsenseposted 6 years ago

    Sounds like the New York Times! smile

  7. Mikeydoes profile image76
    Mikeydoesposted 6 years ago

    I'm 24 and I think music in bars is way too loud. And when sports are on they aren't loud enough.

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      LOL!

  8. Christene profile image79
    Christeneposted 6 years ago

    I joke that I'm old, but I really don't think of myself as that old. At 34 I look at least 10 years younger and can keep up with the teens in my hip hop class. wink

  9. wychic profile image78
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    I've always thought music was too loud in bars, and my husband agrees on that one big_smile. That said, my husband is 51 and has been complaining that he's old since he was 49 -- and much more since he found out I was pregnant with our now 4-month-old daughter.

    Me -- I'll be 25 in three weeks, and I have a feeling it's going to be a LONG time before I feel old. If the feeling ever starts creeping up on me, I'll just look at my husband and feel very young again tongue.

    1. IzzyM profile image88
      IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      You are Christene are just babies yourselves smile
      Honestly, enjoy yourself...you are only young once, but it really does last a long time!

  10. thehemu profile image40
    thehemuposted 6 years ago

    thats pretty amazing

  11. stclairjack profile image80
    stclairjackposted 6 years ago

    i remember feeling very much older than i should have felt when i was 14,... and for the most part age has always been between the ears,... some days i'm 21,.. and some days i'm 120.

  12. Ivorwen profile image78
    Ivorwenposted 6 years ago

    Hmmm... I don't feel old.  Of course, I didn't think of myself as more than a girl until some time after the age of 27.

  13. superwags profile image78
    superwagsposted 6 years ago

    I feel old now and I'm only 26. How depressing. Not as depressing as surveys carried out in the Daily Mail though.

  14. Eaglekiwi profile image71
    Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago

    Crap no wonder I feel half dead then lol


    Something sweet makes me feel 21  again smile

    1. pisean282311 profile image52
      pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol....ya but i always thought you are 21 ...

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
        Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Beauty is in the mind of the beholder wink

        I prefer to say Im 21 with years of experience! lol

        1. pisean282311 profile image52
          pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          quite right ...

  15. BRIAN SLATER profile image86
    BRIAN SLATERposted 6 years ago

    I have the Daily Mail delivered every day and didn't see this survey, but I can vouch that this newspaper if you can call it that is only good for one thing, wrapping fish and chips in.smile

    1. IzzyM profile image88
      IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I miss the old fish suppers wrapped in newspaper! It's all polystyrene containers and white paper nowadays. Boring. Fish and chips taste great out of a newspaper.
      Showing my age now but I don't care smile

      1. BRIAN SLATER profile image86
        BRIAN SLATERposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Izzy, when your ready to trade in your comfy bike seat for a nice pointy one, that doesn't let you sit down for more than 10 seconds I will point you to my hub on them. smile

        1. IzzyM profile image88
          IzzyMposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          LOL, that'll be never then!
          I did come across your hub earlier and I'm sure it'll be great for the professionals.
          The Spanish version of the 'Tour De France' goes by my door every year with the accompanying police and helicopters and I can usually give a wave to the TV cameras (it goes out live)smile

          1. BRIAN SLATER profile image86
            BRIAN SLATERposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            hey, that's great Izzy, do you rent out rooms?? I went to the Pyrenees 3 years ago to see the French tour and loved it. Those boys certainly move fast. Good luck to you on your bike. I'll look out for the spanish one when its on.

  16. LeanMan profile image82
    LeanManposted 6 years ago

    I feel old for today at 45, just spent 5 days partying in the Island of Boracay in the Philippines.. out every night with girls less than half my age, dancing and drinking until 5am when all the bars finally shut.. then partying on wherever we could... but after a solid five days my legs now ache and I need a rest... lol

    But the girls all gave up after one day and we had to find new ones... hehehehe

  17. Lisa HW profile image83
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I've seen my 50th birthday, and I still feel the same ("young-wise") now as I did when I was 20/25 (or even, in ways, when I was 6 or 14).  I don't feel the same "care-free-wise" as then, because in those years there have been the usual sadnesses, like loss of parents (and others); but there's a difference between feeling young and feeling care-free.  In ways, though, I'm happier, surer, and a lot of burdened (in other ways) than I was when I was a lot younger.

    There's a lot of baloney out there (by people selling stuff) about aging, and a lot of people believe it. Most of the women I know showed very few (if any) signs of aging on their faces until at least late 40's (even without the magic, melon, extract, from France  hmm ).  I had none until my 50th birthday (and then 3 weeks later a bunch of fine lines set in  roll).  Some stuff people associate with aging is really associated with something else, like not being fit enough or like getting so much sun they've weathered up their complexion and made aging that wouldn't have otherwise taken place.  Like WriteAngled, I have a feeling not enough people took that survey.

    At this point, I don't have to use a magnifying glass to see the fine lines under my eyes, so I see the aging there (although I still don't have crow's feet hmm)/  So, unlike when I was in my 40's and didn't look or feel the least bit middle-aged/old, I now have the fine lines that changed my face looks (and I'm none-too-pleased, to see them there and none-too-adjusted-to-it, either  hmm).  Still, I do the same fitness videos everyone else can do, and I can walk miles effortlessly.  Being fortunate enough to keep good (or reasonably good) health makes the difference, I think.  (It sure appears to me that being dragged through the emotional ringer over an adult lifetime doesn't do much to age a person any earlier.  lol)   Of course, in all seriousness, today's young girls start living some pretty grown-up lives far, far, sooner than kids of my generation did.  Maybe a lot of them do have "higher mileage" (of one sort or another) on them at 29.

  18. waynet profile image47
    waynetposted 6 years ago

    I felt old at 22 and still feel old! will get my pipe and slippers out and have a moan!

    1. Lisa HW profile image83
      Lisa HWposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      ..so now you, and all of us women who didn't feel old at 29, have proven that study to be baloney.  smile   Now, let's all go find another study to prove wrong.  (There are tons of  baloney-studies out there, so we have our work cut out for us.  smile  )

    2. profile image0
      BunuBobuposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I felt old at 15!
      I constantly moan about aches and pains.
      Spend weekends in slippers and PJs talking about the good old days big_smile

  19. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    ...29?...wonder how large the sample was and where it was taken  tongue

    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      ...i like 'you're as young as you feel' better.....

  20. profile image0
    Sophia Angeliqueposted 6 years ago

    Obviously, I'm a man.

    1. pisean282311 profile image52
      pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol

  21. Greek One profile image77
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    you are only as old as the women you feel

    1. pisean282311 profile image52
      pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol lol lol lol lol

    2. profile image0
      Sophia Angeliqueposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      smile

    3. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
      schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol

  22. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    Talk about psychology!  How can a survey know what all women are feeling once they have reached 29.  Lol this is hilarious, so I'm gathering I must feel old and decrepit!

    Vonda G. Nelson

  23. Stacie L profile image88
    Stacie Lposted 6 years ago

    society makes a big issue of age..I think most of it comes from the beauty companies and the media carries it out there..
    women may feel old due to the attitudes of men and other women.
    40 used to be old and now it's 29.
    next it will be 14..roll

  24. Neil Sperling profile image86
    Neil Sperlingposted 6 years ago

    Well I'm 55 and love life. Still young enough to go the bars on weekends and enjoy every minute. One night recently a chap about my age looked around and said "makes ya feel old when you look around and see we are the oldest here" -- I replied - " if you feel old here I recommend going to the senior lodge on bingo night and stop hangin out here with us youngsters" ... LOL - He left shortly!

  25. dutchman1951 profile image59
    dutchman1951posted 6 years ago

    I think there is more to that syaing than what is considerd here. At 61 I can say if you feel inside like you can not go anymore, if you feel out paced, then yes the feelings of I'm Old hit and that can be at any age not just 29 or 58.

    But, if you believe in putting zen in your life, approach it with a curiosity and facination and enjoyment for it, and not let others steel your energy, then...you are young. The Mind leads, the body follows

    Keep yourself as well as possible, keep good mental health and you have it. At least thats what I have found so far.
    Stress and devious mind games destroy. Keep it simple and be decisive about who surrounds you. Stress and depression kills, and depression hits in many subtile forms. Stay well smile

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
      Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Sound advice indeed smile

  26. RalphGreene profile image57
    RalphGreeneposted 6 years ago

    Yes. I've heard a lot of women that they are feeling old at 29.

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
      Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Usually they have 3 children under 5.
      Most men would crack under that strain lol

      But feelings change -like the wind and women merge stronger and youthful in their 30's,40's 50's (IMO) smile

      1. Pearldiver profile image87
        Pearldiverposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Oh C'mon... roll  Let's be Honest here EK yikes

        I've been out there shopping by myself... I've seen those endless supermarket shelves with rows and rows of 29 year old prunes, all pleading "Pick Me.. Pick Me!"

        I've had them follow me home and tell me to soak them before they work again!
        Tell the Truth EK! big_smile
        PLEASE... Before I get to 58 and give up on prunes!! yikes  big_smile

        1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
          Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          lol  lol


          Ill have you know those prunes are the new Cougars ,petal!

          And unlike the fluff n frills of unsatisfied kitty kats,Cougars know exactly what they want,how often,and swinging from a real chandilier(sp) ,not a fake one ,thankyou very much lol

          PD Havent you seen that T.V Programme "Housewives in Tuatapere"  yet tongue

          1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
            Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            http://s3.hubimg.com/u/1232926.jpg

          2. Pearldiver profile image87
            Pearldiverposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            EK... You MUST Stop Telling Porkies on the Net!! sad

            You KNOW that both those two housewives left in Tuatapere must actually be men in drag yikes

            I mean... I have NEVER met a woman who so badly needs to raise her bikini line above her knees as much as those two! And the size of their feet whooooooa size 16 Freezing Works Gumboots? C'mon EK.. Surely you don't want unsuspecting tourists to be conned into thinking that our Fluff looks like them? roll

            Natural Beauty NEEDS to be promoted by more than a Saggy pair of Speedos, with a snorkel attached!  tongue

            1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
              Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              I forgot about this thread and only now saw your reply:

              lol lol PD  You are so damn naughty lol  lol

              Oh the visuals,like a jolt back in time,shakes head and wakes up.

              As graphic as those ahem ladies were in the buzzy,titalating South,trust me much more down to earth (oh yes earthy hmm) than the new modern line-up at the local check-out via USA.

              Ohhhh lawdy,it could be like a reality show missing cousins..hehe

              Hi Welcome to Walmart


              http://s3.hubimg.com/u/4859650_f248.jpg

              1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
                prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                why????the red shirt man was definitely puzzled..LOL

              2. Pearldiver profile image87
                Pearldiverposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Yep... See what I mean about Snorkels? big_smile

                That is sooooo gross EK! sad

              3. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
                SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                ...ha ha....someone emailed me new 'walmart pics'...the one above was included....ouch!....must be really hot outside where ever the pic was taken  lol

                1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
                  Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Ya meant the weather right ?  lol

      2. weseppers profile image59
        weseppersposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        perhaps.

  27. hackcounter profile image59
    hackcounterposted 6 years ago

    Really interesting....

  28. schoolgirlforreal profile image72
    schoolgirlforrealposted 6 years ago

    I think it's true but you can regain your youth by exercising and being healthy, being a like a hippie having fun, dying your hair pink is what i mean, stuff like that. You can be young all over again f*** who cares! smile
    you ARE as young as you feel, so ladies over 29+ paint those nails green/blue, get a piercing, tatoo, jump from a plane, whatever.

  29. waynet profile image47
    waynetposted 6 years ago

    I feel old now at 32....the wrinkles on my party sausage are beginning to show! lol!

  30. rebekahELLE profile image87
    rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago

    that's a sad pic, Eaglekiwi. yikes:

 
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