How do you decide about something where you do not know what is the right thing

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  1. EinsFloW profile image65
    EinsFloWposted 13 years ago

    How do you decide about something where you do not know what is the right thing to do?

  2. vaguesan profile image70
    vaguesanposted 13 years ago

    Flip a coin ...........................................

  3. Beege215e profile image58
    Beege215eposted 13 years ago

    Phone a friend. Call a cop. Plea for a parent. Ask Us. we seem to know everything.  Or search your own soul. You have a sense of right and wrong, think things over, possible consequences, possible reactions; Go over the pros and cons in your own mind.  You may have the right answer, but it may be difficult to make the decision for some other reasons, like you dont want anyone getting hurt by that decision.  But you don't want to make the wrong decision for the wrong reason. Just think it over carefully.

  4. QudsiaP1 profile image59
    QudsiaP1posted 13 years ago

    For me, it usually is a mind versus heart versus gut situation.

  5. Kimberly Bunch profile image60
    Kimberly Bunchposted 13 years ago

    Then do nothing if there is a fork in the road. Wait and it will all play itself out. Or sleep on it. If you go to sleep with a clear statement on your mind as to what you want to know the answer will come to you. Give it three nights of clear intention statements and by the third not you should have the answer if not the first night.

    Don't forget to use your gut feeling. wink

    "Knock and the door shall be open to you. Ask and you shall receive."

    Words by Jesus.

  6. John B Badd profile image60
    John B Baddposted 13 years ago

    Ask yourself: If I have to think of this every day for the next eighty years what do I want to remember having done in this situation?  Once you know how you want to look back on the situation for the rest of your life you will know what to do.

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    Butch Newsposted 13 years ago

    It's always wise to know you aren't smart enough to know everything and there is no shame in seeking counsel from those who are more experienced and, hopefully, wiser.

    So ask others for their opinion.  You don't have to take it but it gives a different perspective and take on the situation.

    When there is no one to consult, if you are absolutely alone, flipping a coin or going on your gut feeling is, at least,, 50% possibly the right thing to do.

    You aren't alone in this world... ask others their opinion.  If it is too embarrassing to ask a friend there are many help lines out there and there are always priests (I'm not religious at all) who are often not bad at being impartial decision makers.

    Schools often have counselors who are mostly impartial and experienced in problem solving.

    You don't have to accept anyone's opinion but it will give you a view from someone else and that can't hurt.

  8. bogerk profile image70
    bogerkposted 13 years ago

    I think most of the time if not always you know what the "right" thing to do is in any situation. The question is whether or not that is the easy thing to do.

    The harder it is, usually means the more "right" it is.

    Good luck in your decision!

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    WildIrisposted 13 years ago

    Truthfully, you do know the right thing to do, but you're just not too thrilled with the answer so you say,"I don't know."  When faced with a difficult choice ponder the future. Some doors will close and new doors will open. Can you live with your choice?

  10. onegoodwoman profile image67
    onegoodwomanposted 13 years ago

    What is the least harm that I can cause?  What is the most harm that I can answer for in good conscience?

  11. Extinct Soul profile image60
    Extinct Soulposted 13 years ago

    I tossed coin too or sometimes I ask for signs. But if it's a major decision, I put it into details, I list down the reasons 1.) why do I have to that thing and 2.) why do I don't have to do it, the one with the longest list will win my decision.

  12. fucsia profile image59
    fucsiaposted 13 years ago

    Often there is not the right thing: every decision have its negative and positive sides. For example: it is right for me change work?
    I usually choose the change.
    Then there are other type of decisions: it is right stay with my spouse? In cases like this the answer is not difficult: is in your heart, just look inside of you.

  13. Guy Foxe profile image59
    Guy Foxeposted 13 years ago

    Sometimes the reason we don't know what to do is because we don't fully understand the situation.  Try to make sure that you know not only what you know, but that you know what you don't know.  (Apologies if I sound like Donald Rumsfeld.)

    In the end, however, in most situations, the truth is that the right thing is fairly clear but we just don't want to go through the pain of doing it. Rarely is the right decision so obscured that we don't really see it.

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    reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

    Decisions, choices, what is right what is wrong, there is so much that is expected of us.  The key to making good choices stem from a place that we as individuals discern from.  It involves honesty, decency, respect,  self respect, integrity, the list can go on, but you know what I'm talking about.  When you practice certain behaviors you will always know the right decision you need to make for you.  Even when you are confused.  The confusion comes in when you are fighting to lose rather than to win because you so want to go against the grain of what you know you should be doing vs what you want to do.

  15. Jaymeyaroch profile image61
    Jaymeyarochposted 13 years ago

    What is the best possible solution for everyone?

    If that gives you no answer, do what is best for you.

  16. Iontach profile image68
    Iontachposted 13 years ago

    If you honestly don't know what the right thing to do is, then think again and find out which is the right one. List the pros and cons and whichever one has more pros then pick that one.
    Also if you make the wrong choice in the end, don't worry as it will be a mistake that you will learn from and not make again. There's always a lesson to be learned.

  17. Wesman Todd Shaw profile image83
    Wesman Todd Shawposted 13 years ago

    From the amount of good feedback that you've gotten here; I'd say that you now know where to ask such a question!  I'm impressed by the responses here, folks must love you, dude; and that's no small thing!

  18. Darknlovely3436 profile image72
    Darknlovely3436posted 13 years ago

    Be true to yourself.... its always in front of you....

  19. pisethz profile image60
    pisethzposted 13 years ago

    For anything that I don't know usually I do research first for clarity before making the decision to take it and I'm happy to find out those information. Anything that was not clear and appear to be untrusted then I don't choose it but anything that having a good credibility then i choose to do so.

  20. Rob Hanlon profile image59
    Rob Hanlonposted 13 years ago

    Who decides what is the 'right thing' for you ?
    Whatever you decide may be the 'right thing' for you, but may be viewed as the 'wrong thing' by anyone else.
    I would just follow my instincts in most cases. If I was really unsure about 'something' then I would seek advice on that 'something'.
    Good luck with life's decisions.

  21. Darrell Roberts profile image72
    Darrell Robertsposted 12 years ago

    First gather all the facts that you can. Then see if you could find some one you trust that may have had to make a similiar decision and ask them whet they wuold reccommend.  What ever you do, just make sure that you could live with the decision.


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