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Why are so many people miserable most of the time?

  1. i_am_monk profile image61
    i_am_monkposted 6 years ago

    Why are so many people miserable most of the time?

  2. jencooper profile image60
    jencooperposted 6 years ago

    Probably because we aren't doing the things that make us happy.  I guess the hardest part is figuring out what that is.  I know that when I start to get down all I need to do is change a few things and then it seems to get better.

  3. woodamarc profile image66
    woodamarcposted 6 years ago

    Because they don't know what their purpose, or direction in life is about.  Without purpose one's misery is expotential.  Great question and timely.  I wrote a hub the other day "Company Hates Misery."  It helps those that are miserable and those that are not understand how to deal with defeating a miserable situation.

  4. Attikos profile image79
    Attikosposted 6 years ago

    Happiness is a choice. You can't get it from other people or things on the outside of yourself. It comes from within, or you don't have it at all. I think most don't know that and keep looking for something to make them happy. Until they find it, something they never do because it isn't out there, they're miserable.

  5. JEDIJESSICUH profile image80
    JEDIJESSICUHposted 6 years ago

    I think it's because we spend our lives doing things that don't make us happy. We're all so focused on where we are going and how we're going to get there. We forget to take a moment to look around and enjoy where we are.

  6. ubanichijioke profile image78
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    Cos life is so so hard for humans. Things do not work out the way you WOULD WANT!

  7. shogan profile image86
    shoganposted 6 years ago

    In part, because you believe in them.  Stop expecting people to be miserable, and you'll be surprised how people live up to higher standards.

  8. AngelTrader profile image60
    AngelTraderposted 6 years ago

    Many people are miserable most of the time because they are constantly bombarded with negative, fear inducing news. Western mainstream media is forever pushing fear down our throats...be it the economy, jobs, the new bogey man, the new pandemic! This has a cumulative effect on our psyche lowering our resistance and vibration. Get out and notice nature, the world around you, and take no notice of the imagined terror lurking around the next corner.

    When you are out smile and say hello to people. Who knows you could be the first person that day to acknowledge them...brighten their day.

  9. mythicalstorm273 profile image77
    mythicalstorm273posted 6 years ago

    The fast pace lifestyles make people stressed and worried about everything.  They forget to take the time to enjoy their life and even when they have time they think about the stuff they do not have.  Like when somebody is worrying about making more money they forget about the great family they have.  Whereas somebody who is totally fake and has a lot of money feels like they can't be themselves because they have an image to keep.  There are people who can be happy about their situation, but most of the time everybody wants to be somebody else and until they become that other person they will be miserable most of the time... or until the decide they like their life and don't need to be somebody else.

  10. iloveglee83 profile image60
    iloveglee83posted 6 years ago

    I think its because people let themselves be miserable. If we would all just accept life as it comes, allow our selves a moment of a missery and then perk up. I would say the exception to the time frame would be if there was a death of a family member or close friend then the greiving period should be allowed. But other than that people need to try and remember that life is hard, and you cant always get what you want. except what you do have and be thankful for that because life can always be worse.

  11. Cutters profile image60
    Cuttersposted 6 years ago

    because life is not what we thought it was going to be. We had to make due with what we got and for me life sucks but I deal with it.

  12. Darrell Roberts profile image72
    Darrell Robertsposted 6 years ago

    People face anxiety most of the time because they tray to control what they cannot i.e. other people, nature, old age, and death. I am just happy being me, I accept my good and my bad and keep working on improvement.  I konw I will die one day, so I do as much good as I can and live in peace with myself and others to the best of my ability. 

    This physical world is a temporary place where beings like to fight like animals instead of using their intelligence to build a peaceful world.  Most people buy into trying to the drama instead of finding iner peace and choosing to be happy and accepting the truth that in the grand scheme of things human beings in a vast existence and this physical world is temporary.

    Best wishes

  13. slaffery profile image59
    slafferyposted 6 years ago

    Life is not what is was even 20, 30 or 50 years ago.  It's way more fast paced and the stress is more complicated. Our environment is more complicated.  We live in a world of technology which keeps us from getting enough exercise and movement.  That plays a big part on your mental status.  Food is more processed which puts more chemicals and hormones into our systems which in turn affect the seretonin levels in our brains.  We live in fear of our children being kidnapped or hurt or bullied so we don't let them out to burn off the excess energy. There are so many environmental factors that contribute. 

    Life is so fast paced that we forget to slow down and enjoy the things we have and things around us.  Enjoy the people in our lives.  There are so many negative, outside influences such as the media that contribute as well.  Family structure plays into this as well as spiritual connections.  We have more freedoms because we feel we are entitled to everything.  Respect is a thing of the past and in it's place is entitlement.  We need to slow down and look around to the important people and things in our life and retrain ourselves to be more positive.

  14. ginjill ashberry profile image78
    ginjill ashberryposted 6 years ago

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  15. onegoodwoman profile image76
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    What is this thing that you charge me with knowing?   

    Should, I , also, be miserable to know that there is misery among us?

    I  can not speak for those who will not speak for themselves.

    I will not deny that some are miserable.........I will answer their call, but I will not be made to be miserable.

    Should I give up hope, gaiety, to  address that some of us are miseralble?

    Should I fret tears that are not mine?

    Or should, I rather, stand up and give voice to the tears that are worthy of naming?

    In my own personal experience.........some people are not happy, unless they have something to bitch about.............those who need help, have a "quieter" presence..........

    There is pride, and there is expectation and need.

    We need to look between the lines.

  16. GilbertStuart profile image53
    GilbertStuartposted 6 years ago

    Maybe because they do not have enough courage to take risk and try to get the things that can make them truly happy. The are afraid to fail. They just watch as opportunity passes their way and regret later why they let it that way.

  17. sexualharassment profile image56
    sexualharassmentposted 6 years ago

    They are having hard time accepting the reality.

  18. VENZKHVAM profile image62
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

    POOR analysis of the situation and impulsive actions ends up in committing the mistakes and then they will  be miserable , trying to find out how to come out?

  19. thoughts220 profile image61
    thoughts220posted 6 years ago

    I think because everyone has a certain level of expectations from their lives and when those desires and wishes are left unfulfilled, it contributes to the state of being 'miserable'. But if someone has the courage or the ability to do so, one can as much as 'choose' how to feel and react to a situation. Just something i read..somewhere.

  20. stayingalivemoma profile image84
    stayingalivemomaposted 6 years ago

    I was reading some of the comments to your question. I disagree with some of them. For one thing, happiness is not always a choice. I struggle with depression and anxiety disorder as I am sure millions of other people do. Do I want to be happy? Yes. And I really do try to push back feelings of despair and gloom. But it is not always that easy.

    I think I speak for a lot of people with mental conditions when I say that it is not always in black and white. There is a grey area and I am right smack in the middle of it. For those of us who do not suffer from depression, bipolar or anxiety disorders, then I would assume there are many factors as to why they might "seem" miserable: financial problems, relationship problems, economy worries, loss of job, loss of life, I could go on.
    Here are the links to some blogs written by people with depression, it will probably be an eye opener for most and others may recognize these symptoms even in themselves...
    http://stayingalivemoma.wordpress.com/2 … your-life/
    http://funnyinthehead.wordpress.com/201 … the-trees/

  21. anupma profile image79
    anupmaposted 6 years ago

    Actually some people always make mountain from a dot. They always take smallest problem as a big one. That's why they always remain miserable. It is our attitude that enable us to tackle problems. if we think it is the toughest, then it will be. And is we believe that we can solve it, it will be solve.
    So it is our attitude that makes difference.

  22. Victoria Lynn profile image91
    Victoria Lynnposted 6 years ago

    Amen! It's not a matter of just choosing to be more positive. I have struggled with depression and anxiety quite a bit, too. I'm actually almost finished with a hub about it.

  23. terrektwo profile image83
    terrektwoposted 6 years ago

    I think it really depends on the person, people need to be more thankful for what they have, not miserable over what could be.

  24. chezka mae profile image57
    chezka maeposted 6 years ago

    people are miserable if he could not handle his/her own self  strong to stand against the world..... If we put ourselves to feel helpless..If we always not make our goals success..
    If we hate ourselves and the people around us ... Most of all the living God in our hearts is the most perfect shield against our our trials...We must be faithful to him and believe that everyday is a new hope ...