Terrible accident! What do U say to them before they die?

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   gonzo62003posted 13 years ago

   Don't you die on me, Don't you die! Hold on man helps coming, but it was to late...As I watched this young man die I realized we are only here for a season.  God did promise us eternal life with Him but just not here...

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well, of course this is not eternal life! You die, don't you?
      what I don't get is this, you, being a believer, didn't know that  ? You have to see a man die to realize it ? what's your point ?

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         gonzo62003posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Tantrum my friend of course I know now. At that junction in my life I wasn't a believer, and even so, certainly did not want him to die.

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      Lady_Eposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      This is one of life's situations whereby you don't know what to say until you are IN the moment yourself.  Natural instincts would be to comfort them...

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      sandra rinckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That is sad.   Sorry for you loss.  What do you say to someone before they die? 
      
      I guess I would say, I love you and will miss you and don't be afraid.

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         Scott.Lifeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I held is gloved hand in mine, looked into his eyes and told him, I would tell his wife he loved her. his parents he was sorry, and that he had died doing his best and serving his country. I didn't know what to say so I just thought it best to make sure he knew he was not alone and surrounded by his brothers and fellow Marines even though we were far from home. Then i watched the life drain from his face as he went still and took his last breath, then his grip went slack and we stood there for a second not saying anything then remembered there were bullets zinging by, and did the best we could to fight off the ambush and drive them back so we could get a helicopter in to pick him up and carry him home.
         
         Death is constant and when it comes it does, and there is nothing to be done but handle it the best you can and be as strong as you can. Afterward do what the dead can not and live your life. That is the best thing you can do.

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            Crazdwriterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Oh Scott that is so sad but I am glad that you had been there for the guy. One of my fears is dying alone. You and the others definitely helped him not be scared of death. Its just so sad when anyone has to die even though yes it is a part of life.

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               Scott.Lifeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I have witnessed more often that those that die in Combat are not so much scared as disappointed that they could not say goodbye to the ones they loved, I also feel like they think they somehow messed up or made a mistake and that by dying they have let their squad and platoon mates down, when often times the reverse is true and they have saved lives... It's a strange world occupied by the crazy brave.

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                  manlypoetrymanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  !!!

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            dutchman1951posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Well done marine, well done Scott...enough said
            
            Jon in nashville

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               rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               that is very beautiful. it must have been hard.

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      wow.
      
      if i came upon a stranger who was in a horrible accident, i would try to hold their hand and reassure them that help was coming. if it was a loved one, i would just tell them i loved them and that it was ok.

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         gonzo62003posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Your comment reflects the face on you picture...Have a grr8 day and LORD bless you for keeping it real.

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            cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            thank you.
            
            i just think about what i would want to hear...especially if i couldn't move or talk...i'd want to be reassured and comforted.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry, If I knew it was his time I would hold his hand and recite the lords prayer.

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      rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      it's a journey, death is a passage, hold their hand, be soft and peaceful, these are his last moments here.
      
      I was with my mom when she passed from this life and it was perhaps the most sacred, peaceful moments I've ever experienced.
      It changed me as a woman and how I perceive death.

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      mohitmisraposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Try comforting them , tell them they are going to the Light, god or home a place which is full of bliss.

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   relacheposted 13 years ago

   My own spiritual background and beliefs would not have me saying things like that to someone who was so injured it was clear they were not going to survive. 
   
   I'd be very careful what I said to a dying person as I believe in honoring a person's individual beliefs at such a moment, and not trying to impose my own on them, an approach which many people unfortunately don't think about.

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      gonzo62003posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      There will always be different circumstances my friend some we deal with right then and some we deal with for a long time.  I pray you never have go through this ordeal... Have a grr8 day! and God bless.

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   TMinutposted 13 years ago

   "Hold on, help's coming" is really about all you can say. You're talking about someone you don't know, right? If nothing else, they may feel they have a chance, a little bit of peace knowing they may be okay soon even if they won't which we don't know for sure until it happens.

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   TMinutposted 13 years ago

   tantrum have you ever watched someone die without being able to do anything about it? Sounds like he's processing the reality and 'right now-ness' of it. Very different from just intellectual understanding.

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      gonzo62003posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You have alot of understanding and wisdom my friend...which only comes from much pain and sorrow. Have a grr8 day! Smiles

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         tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well ,much pain and sorrow is not good for your soul. Wisdom comes from accepting the facts of life, not from crying over them. MHO.

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Yes ;but being an sceptic I don't see death as something terrible. Just a fact of life. the ultimate fact.We  are all going to be there.

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   vanderhavenposted 13 years ago

   I feel like what I say to them doesn't really matter anyway. They are in shock or something because of course, they are dying. They are going to be scared or hurt or whatever. What I would do though is pray for them earnestly and silently in my own heart and mind. Pray that they will be in God's will and his care and His will be done. Mostly , audibly, I would probably try with what I could to comfort them and soothe them and maybe ask them if there was someone (a relative, etc.) they'd like me to contact, etc.
   I did have a pretty close encounter like this in real life but the person did not die. She was just injured in an accident. It happened right in front of us and she flew out of her window and hit the pavement right in front of us. We got over to her as fast as we could and she was still awake and just trying to move a bit, I ran to her and without thinking anything at all, except being in shock at what I just witnessed, I ran and got to her and I remember that all I did was say, "I'm here , can I pray for you?"  I am not a "fanatical" Christian  and yet at that moment the only thing I came up with was thinking this woman was dying and she needed prayer.
   Her answer to me was..." Don't call the police! I was drinking!!"  Thankfully, she didn't die and I hope later on as she remembers that time that she somehow knew that God had sent someone at that time to pray for her.  Maybe it made a difference or something. I am not sure. The Police did come and she was taken in an ambulance and I never heard another thing about that .

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   R.Edwardsposted 13 years ago

   .....
   "I'll see you later on_(name), everything will be fine....shhh, shhhhhh, shhhhhhhhh."
   
   
   "One day in Heaven is like 1000 years on earth"....in essence, you'll see that person later that day.

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   Cranooposted 13 years ago

   Am I in your will? LOLL

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   myownworldposted 13 years ago

   just hold them close to you....and soflty sing to them....or maybe, just let there be silence. sometimes, a silent look or a simple touch can convey the deepest of feelings...

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      gonzo62003posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I have to agree that sometimes a simple touch can convey the deepest feelings especially when you only have a few seconds to convey it. Have a super day! Thanks for your thoughts.

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   salebyownerposted 13 years ago

   I would ask them if I could pray for them and then go from there. If they don't want me to pray for them at such a time, I'm not sure there is any chance of them accepting Christ before they die. If they don't want me to pray for them I'd pray for them anyway.

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    awareposted 13 years ago

    i think that if death is certainty. meaning they are surely gona die. i think id ask to whom and what they'd like me to say to any loved ones they'd being leaving behind . and id assure them that id pass on their dieing words to them.

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    Cagsilposted 13 years ago

    I would think that the liklihood that you would happen to come along someone who was in an accident and be put into that position. Are very slim.
    
    However, with that said, it is most likely that you would be in the accident with them, either in the same car or a separate car, but in the same accident.
    
    If you were okay(defined as being alive), the liklihood you would be able to do anything, would depend completely on your own injuries, if you had any.
    
    If you were not conscious, then obviously you wouldn't be doing much of anything, much less listen to what someone else has to say.
    
    On a side note, the thought of you being that kind, is very comforting to know. It shows that there really is civilized people out there, who don't only think of themselves, but cherishes other people's life.
    
    Thanks great posts.

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