Have you ever been told something in confidence that you could not keep secret?

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  1. pstraubie48 profile image85
    pstraubie48posted 6 years ago

    Have you ever been told something in confidence that you could not keep secret?

    A conflict of conscience can be troubling. Sometimes decisons to go back on your word can prevent something devastating from happening. Has someone sworn you to secrecy and then revealed something to you that you must tell someone else in order to prevent a tragedy?


  2. profile image0
    Larry Wallposted 6 years ago

    I was a news reporter for 16 years if something was told to me off the record, and i agreed to it, it stayed off the record. If someone asks to tell me something in confidence, it will stay that way, unless it has an impact on the health of safety of someone.

  3. passthejelly profile image76
    passthejellyposted 6 years ago

    No. But I have told people something in confidence that they told others.  Unless it is life threatening I would never reveal something someone told you in confidence.  I will never be able to trust my brother with any secret or situation because he told people something I told him in confidence.  When someone is telling you something like that it means that they trust you and respect you enough to hold a secret.  Breaking that trust creates problems and a lack of trust.

  4. Xenonlit profile image61
    Xenonlitposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely, and both times involved issues where the person was either going to be harmed or was going to cause harm.

    I did not have much use for those two relationships after the persons got enraged at me. I learned that they were serial train wrecks who only wanted attention for themselves and enabling for their destructive lifestyles. I learned that I could choose my friends based on their character!

    All the other confidences were important acts of friendship and trust, so I took them seriously and did not violate them. It is amazing how many people will run off to start blabbing and betraying. Then they wonder why people don't want to have much to do with them.

    This is a great question.

  5. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    I am good in keeping secrets.

    Remember the time I was told to keep secrets between two friends and I am still keeping it though it had been more than 20 years already.

    Secret is meant to keep otherwise it will not be secret anymore.

  6. breathe2travel profile image80
    breathe2travelposted 6 years ago

    Yes. A friend from high school who was four year younger than me confided in me that (he was still in high school and I was in college) my former English teacher had solicited him for sex, asking him to meet him at specific places.  His solicitations had come more than once, and grew increasingly bolder.

    My friend was scared. I told him I could not keep it a secret, but that I was going to call the authorities as well as talk to his parents about it.  He was too afraid to go to his parents, but was in agreement to me talking with his mother.

    The man was arrested after the police recorded phone calls,  He lost his long-time career.  It was truly sad, because he had been a favorite teacher of many.

    I normally keep a secret, unless I know that the secret would harm someone.

  7. Brandon Martin profile image75
    Brandon Martinposted 6 years ago

    Yes. Someone was thinking of moving and I wasn't supposed to say anything. I felt bad at first, but I found out it was a good thing I did mention it. There are a few other times...

  8. jolinabetts profile image79
    jolinabettsposted 6 years ago


    Back in 1997,i went to our yearly family reunion, my cousin brought his mistress and flaunt her in front of my small cousins and to my aunts and Uncles. His wife was struggling to work in a different country  to support their family because he is lazy and couldn't keep a good job to himself.

    His wife is very close to me and she is aware that her husband is cheating on her, my relatives won't tell her and everyone thinks she's overreacting and everything are just lies. I told her the truth. It's better to tell her that this is what's happening, your husband is parading his mistress in front of our family, they tolerate it, i'm disgusted by the whole thing, i told her absolutely everything. My family hated me for doing so but why tolerate such a bad thing??

    My family didn't like what i've done, i couldn't care less. I know that i should not get involve but this is just too much. For me, seeing that poor lady working so hard as a nurse in England and him spending her hard earned money to his mistress for so long and leaving little for their 3 young son to fend for themselves.

    She deserves better, she left him and brought the kids with her. She's now married with a nice man who takes care of her.

    It's better to leave a clear conscience than seeing a loveone suffer from lies and deceit.

    1. breathe2travel profile image80
      breathe2travelposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I'm sure that was hard for you to do, but I believe you chose rightly.

  9. daskittlez69 profile image74
    daskittlez69posted 6 years ago

    No, if someone tells me to keep something secret, then I do.

  10. Anjili profile image81
    Anjiliposted 6 years ago

    No. I would feel terrible if I let out a secret I swore to keep. Trust compels us to confide in other people. Breach of trust is totally unacceptable. It therefore makes you untrustworthy.


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