Who can answer honestly.....

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   bellawritter23posted 13 years ago

   Who can answer honestly.....
   
   if you have thought about hurting someone mentally, physically or emotionally??
   I have! I tend to express myself in writing form and comit the crime mentally then I ask for forgiveness. It may sound weird but it helps with whatever it is I am dealing with....

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   HattieMattieMaeposted 13 years ago

   hmm well I would say that when someone makes me angry it is a natural process to get even, but I don't form scenarios in my head I just understand they are not aware of what they are doing in their actions, behaviors, and words. I understand they are just not educated, or ignorant sometimes not even by their own choice, so revenge is not the answer. I also understand what I put into the world is what I get back. Whether you call it karma, or reap what you sow in biblical terms If I have a negative intention, I get one right back vs. if I have a positive one i get positive back. It is a two way street and have experienced enough to know what I do affects other people. I have had to learn over time to do what is harmless over what is harmful.  Was it an easy taske know. It was a challenge, but in all honesty, to become a pure person with pure unconditional love I challenge myself to do what most people don't do which is study a lot of different things, put myself in different social groups, understand where they are at, observe why they act, and take what lessons I can to become a better person. Whether other people do this or not, really doesn't matter to me. I just strive to be the best person I can be in our society. So to be honest is really shedding all the layers of negativity people program in you about beliefs, prejudices, discriminations,political, religous, psychological, socialogical view and finding out the truth rather than taking someone elses words and views and going along with them.

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   Matt in Jaxposted 13 years ago

   I have most definitely thought about hurting someone physically! Very few people deserve it, but some need a swift kick to the shin. Lol.

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   aslanlightposted 13 years ago

   I used to until I realised that by having those negative thoughts I was only hurting myself.

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   EltMrxposted 13 years ago

   That's a pretty immature way to react to someone. Especially physically hurting someone... How do you get to that point?
   
   It's hard not to want to "get someone back" when they hurt you but you have to understand your feelings and deal with them appropriately. If you find yourself wanting to do this over and over with the same person then you are probably in a toxic relationship that could use some space.
   
   And if you feel like this with everyone you should look into yourself and search for the root of all this anger.
   
   -EltMrx

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   larry1987posted 13 years ago

   hmm everyone can answer your question honestly if you use your heart to listen to them

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   Tamila Robertsposted 13 years ago

   That's called ruminating from the inside. It's really bad for your heart on the long-term. Anger and hatred are very powerful emotions. Try to improve your diet with the correct nutrition to grow taller. It's Ok to have certain deceptions in life.Try weight or strength training. By changing your fitness habits you can develop a better mental health state.

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   chitrarekhaposted 13 years ago

   No I never think in that way as I feel its like putting the house on fire to get rid of the rat.

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   chspublishposted 12 years ago

   I know what you mean about unresolved feelings of anger and irritation towards someone.
   I generally challenge myself to be very creative and create a character in a story or play, based on the feelings of anger etc and allow characters in the play to become aspects of my being and I'm ususally surprised by the outcome. Like you, I can find that the aggrieved character will 'forgive' and let go and this is surprising to find the forgiveness. Also it helps me to see the funny side and the trouble I have to go to, to find the forgiveness.
   Interesting question, thanks.

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    Dave Mathewsposted 12 years ago

    For me to deliberately contiously willingly think to harm someone mentally physically or emotionally or even financially I could not do, but for me to ask God to deal with the person as He sees fit, yes I could.

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    daydreamer13posted 12 years ago

    Writing is definetely a good way to express feelings. Just be sure it stays on the page and doesn't become your reality. The human mind is a powerful thing.

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    lambservantposted 12 years ago

    I think just about everyone has had those feelings at least once in their life. Asking for forgiveness is good, but if you have the thoughts, and enterain them deliberately with the idea that this is okay, cuz i can ask for forgiveness when I'm done, then that is not healthy. To ask for forgivenss means you intend to stop that behavior. If you know it's wrong, but you want to do it anyway, then asking forgiveness might make you feel better, but God desires that you are truly sorry enough to stop the behavior and seek his help with your unhealthy thoughts and desires.

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    Jennuhleeposted 12 years ago

    ALL THE TIME! Though usually the people I am mentally decapitating trigger these thoughts with their stupidity. Everyone has thoughts. No reason to feel ashamed ro ask for forgiveness for them as logn as we don't act upon them that is.

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    sunbeamsposted 12 years ago

    Don't ever think or write anything about harming someone.Negative thoughts can become addictive and can lead to negative actions.Why don't you just forgive straightaway ? Count ten and forgive.

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    TheDailyMessengerposted 12 years ago

    I admit if I feel the person wants to intentionally hurt me in anyway or treat me less then them, I do like  the idea of returning the favor but, deep down I know that there is no justice in revenge because, no matter what you do to someone in he end you are no better then them if you do the exact same to them.
    
    This is how I see it. Someday, they will pay their due. So, with that in mind I just forgive and forget. It is hard at times but, if you believe in mercy it's easier to forgive. Not as easy to forget but, in time you forget.

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    HERBCYCLOPEDIAposted 12 years ago

    To think about hurting someone and to really wish something bad would happen to that person is something different. If you really wish to hurt someone and this happens often (otherwise I don't see the point to seek for advice) you should probably look for help.
    
    If it happens very seldom it means you're just human.

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    An Aberrant Tasteposted 12 years ago

    "Those who hold onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." Siddhartha Gautama

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    cubeszposted 12 years ago

    I feel that it's good to let off steam once in a while, you can;'t just let it boil underneath.

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    sugzposted 12 years ago

    i think eveyrone who lives and breathes has thought about this or even acted on it sometime in their lives.. i have, not to a big degree.. but i am guilty of it and have also had it dome to me.. now, if something bothers me i tell someone point blank, say my piece, let them say theirs and move on. end of dispute, discussion or expression, other times i shuddup an move on. occasionally it comes out through my writing if i am annoyed at someone, but no one would every guess who or why or where. then i get over it without harming anyone.

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    slobertsposted 12 years ago

    It is very easy to turn to destructive thoughs.  I rty and catch myself i those weak moments and look for a lesson or blessing in the experience.

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    Tracie Morrisposted 12 years ago

    Absolutely! But I know it isn't the answer. Some people can make you really angry sometimes, but it's best to just let it go and move on, it's a waste of time and energy. We can only control what we do - not what others do.

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    myinjuryattorneyposted 12 years ago

    in this case, it really sounds weird. me, i also express my feelings through my writings but I never used it to hurt the feelings of other people. Just a fair game.

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    walterchapmanposted 12 years ago

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    lsin82posted 12 years ago

    I get angry and upset with people and have found that writing does help ease that frustration. I don't typically form scenarios of what I want to do them, but I may use those emotions to write a spoken word piece or play. I use that frustration towards them and focus it on something positive....

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    john-veganposted 12 years ago

    I don't know if i am going to get of my love or someone what i have not ,if i am going to cry in front of that person i am hurting or not .If i am hurting then what about my hurt ? What about me ?
    
    Both have to understand this.
    
    If you ask for forgive then you are the best.
    If that person forgives you then what is hurting. i don't know
    
    Honestly.....

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    sanura2011posted 12 years ago

    Almost every day and then I vent on paper allowing the anger to leave my mind and then I burn the page so that the negative energy does not linger.

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    Lisa4posted 12 years ago

    You asked if anyone could answer honestly... Well honestly I have never had thoughts of harming another.
    
    Keep writing and vent your feelings out on paper. I hope it helps and your thoughts do not become actions!
    
    Good luck to you.

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    Hui (蕙)posted 12 years ago

    Only after I have hurted people who I love, I realized that hurting people that I love is actually hurting myself. I did tend to express in writing or other forms, but I cannot figure out where I should start. So hard feeling! Just tell myseft "Never hurt people that you really love. Try to calm down in moments."

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    whiplashinfoposted 12 years ago

    Negative things can greatly affect our outlook in life. Avoid those things, enjoy life.

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    seichepreyposted 12 years ago

    I do, every single day.  I never ask for forgiveness though.  If I want to hurt someone, then, they've earned it.

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    Melovyposted 12 years ago

    I suspect most people have had these thoughts at some time. There’s a huge difference between thoughts and actions however and trying to suppress the feelings and thoughts are more likely to lead to acting them out, so your method of writing is actually a very healthy one. The mind has a tendency to run around in circles if left unchecked, and putting thoughts in writing stops that to an extent. Asking for forgiveness sounds healthy too.
    If you’d like to do even more towards healing the feelings,  then my suggestion would be to look up the Work of Bryon Katie - it’s a great tool for becoming more forgiving of others and yourself.

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    Escobanaposted 12 years ago

    To Princess g:
    
    I voted your answer down. That honest I am, just to let you know that answers like this can be very hurtful to someone, who's just trying to find a way to release some negative energy through her writing.
    
    There's always more to the story when you don't know Bellawriter in person. I don't even, but I can relate to her question. Everyone learns how to deal with negative energy the best they can.
    
    Some need more time than others. I can tell you honestly that I'm glad I learned how to deal with worse things, than just thoughts. Prison wasn't that far away in fact but ofcourse there's more to my story too.

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    bellawritter23posted 12 years ago

    So here it is Bellawritter23 is just like every other human dealing with the woes of life. I am a survivor of Domestic Violence and I do mean SURVIVOR. I have been places many have not gone. If you wanna know who I am and where I have been then read my hubs they will reveal my land living HELL. I have found a sound and sane place and have taken the steps to rehabilitate my mental state of being and working on a better today tomorrow and the day to follow that. We all have flaws and deal with our emotions differently. I am no better than anyone I have jus accepted and embrace my trials.
    
    Have I had bad thoughts of hurting someone either emotionally physically or mentalyy yes I am guilty so throw the stone. The thoughts come from a dark place that held me captive for a lil over 9 years by one particular person. My thoughts are only directed at that one person who caused me to be just a breathing dead corps. Until you know my full story judge me. but until then you know nothing other than what you have read in my question. I thank all of you who have taken the time to reply to this question either with a positive or negative outlook. You all have set an opinion that I cherish. Reason being is cause we are all individuals with an opinion and a mind and we are very blessed to continue living.
    
    smiles, love and respect to all
    bella

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    Nelly A.posted 12 years ago

    It's really hard to get rid of our anger but we must try to because we'll end up to be the loser. We keep awake all night, thinking about how to hurt the persons we hate... and there they are... resting and sleeping like babies. Well, honestly, I hate someone and I feel like her slave because I'm thinking about how to hurt her (emotionally)... and she's just there laughing with friends.

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    dparadiseposted 12 years ago

    I have thought about it but I don't take action. I just keep it to myself and say to myself that I need to be the better person in situations where i feel the need to hurt someone.

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    Jarnposted 12 years ago

    I have regular fantasies about hurting people; but only those people who have, by their actions and decisions, gone out of their way to hurt me and mine and otherwise make earning a living difficult if not impossible. Of course, I don't intend to actually go out and hurt these people until my livlihood is gone completely and I'm homeless. At that point, I see I have very little to live for, so why not find the people who did this to me, do unspeakable things to them involving fishhooks and a beltsander until they're begging to die, and then turn myself in to the police? I'll get my own cell and three meals a day then. Plus I'll finally have the time to write.

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    kdawsonposted 12 years ago

    Actually my mind doesn't seem to act that way, by this I mean I get angry, hurt, but I rarely have any need to get back at them.  Just doesn't come to me and I think this is a weakness.  How do you know if you have virtue if it's never tested?  I am completely at odds with the pure mind/pure thought people.  If you are tempted and turn away, you are strong.  If you never have a wrong thought, you'll never know if you're a good person or not.

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