Excuses that we use in our daily life and the underlying truths
We often make excuses to avoid dealing with unpleasant and underlying problems. The truth is that, as long as we buy into those excuses, we won't be able to overcome them. To accelerate your personal growth, in any area of life, you need to uproot excuse-making habit and face the real issues behind the excuses. Many times we tempt to hide the symptoms rather than addressing the problems faced by us.
Giving below some of the most common excuses and the underlying truths:
Don’t know how.
I don't know How to write a blog. I don't know how to get a job. I don't know how to make a website. I don't know how to change a CFL bulb. These are some of the excuses we make in our daily life. I don't know how to do this... I don't know how to do that... The truth behind this excuse is " I am not willing to learn. Have you ever made an excuse after learning to crawl "I don't know how to walk." No. Never. We are learning new things every day. No one born as a genius or experts like Michael Jackson or Michelangelo. They mastered the art of their respective fields. They spent a lot of time practicing in their respective fields. They learned the art and that made them expert in their field. Willing to learn new things can make a huge difference in your life. The underlying truth is that you are not willing to learn new thing. Instead of saying "I don't know how to do it" you need to say, "I love to learn how to do it". Ask someone around you for information and start to do it yourself. Have a heart, which is eager to learn new things.
It is better to teach others to do things than do it for others. Instead of changing the bulb for your wife every time, it is better to teach her how to do it. Even in your absence, she can feel good by replacing it herself. She will be confident after a few times doing it.
Learning new skills or new languages will add your value. It will accelerate your personal growth.
I don’t have enough time.
Another excuse we hear in our daily life is that "I don't have enough time". The underlying truth of this statement is that they are not considering it worth to spend time on learning new skills. Or they don't understand the importance of spending time for doing that work. So we make a lame excuse that "I don't have enough time. You know that American President Barack Obama and the least beggar you meet at the street have same 24 hours a day. Rich and the poor, scholar and the uneducated, wise and the foolish all on this planet has the same 24 hours a day. The thing is that how you use it. Where you spend this 24 hours. I know people who come to the church very late regularly. At the same time, there are people who come on time regularly. If someone ask the late comer "why are you so late?" They have many excuses. "I have to do this. I have to do that and you know that there is none to help me out" etc.
The underlying truth is that they are not considered it worth to worship God as compared to their household work. Simply saying, their household work is more important than worshiping God. If you have to reach the office at 09.00am will you be late for work regularly? In some exceptional causes or emergency, you can be late. But normally the boss expect you to be on time. That means you treat your work as important than any other engagements. You make sure to reach the workplace on time.
"I don't have time to write a blog" That means, you are not considering it worth to spending a little time for writing a blog. You know that writing blogs can attract passive income. Others are doing it and earning a lot of money. Everyone who does that has the same time as you have. They have given priority to financial freedom than watching TV or doing other least important things. That is why they are successful. "I don't have time to start my won business." That means you are not giving importance to starting your own business.
I don't have time to exercise. really? Are you too busy to exercise? Or are you lazy? The underlying truth is that you are not considering it worth to spend some time to exercise and bring your body into shape. There are people who are starting their own business, doing exercise, writing blogs and many more thing every day. They have time as you and me have, only 24 hours in a day. But those who are doing it considering it worth to do it. That is the key to success. Prioritize your work/time. Spend an important time for important tasks. Weed out the unimportant task from your schedule. Learn new skills.
It is strange to note that many who says I don't have time find a lot of time for marginal activities like watching TV or gossiping or engage in endless talks. If you don't have time to write a blog, surely you don't have time to gossip at all.
I don’t have the money.
When you can always earn the money you want, how can you say I don't have the money. If you really want something you can get it at a reduced cost. The underlying truth is that, you don't want it badly enough. Earning the money you need is only a matter of time. As I stated above not having enough time is an excuse. When you find enough time to earn money, you will have enough money for your other activities.
If you are not successful, sit back and find out the root cause of your failure. Then work on it. Soon you will find success follows you. You don't have to run after success. Success will follow you when you straighten your way of doing things.
Do not let excuses run your life. If you find yourself using any of the above excuses, replace it with the statement of real truth. It is easier for you to say "I don't know" than "I am unwilling to learn". When you find or admit your laziness, unwillingness or lack of motivation, from that point on you will have the opportunity to grow. You know some work are really hard, but if you really want it, you can accomplish it.
There are internal and external blocks that come in the way of our growth. We cannot control the external blocks. But the internal blocks like laziness, ego issues, lack of motivation and unwillingness to learn can be controlled by us. When we change and do our part, external blocks will disappear. We can not control the time. But we can prioritize our time. We cannot control the circumstances. But we can control our actions at that particular circumstances.
Till you admit your laziness or lack of motivation, you cannot work on it. When you admit it, that is the point where you can start building your personal growth. Until you find it, you cannot build it. I would like to repeat the words of Jesus who after giving a lot of instruction said: "Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”
Find the rock and build up on it.
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