Spider - We're not too far off. I live in southern PA. And, I must say I'm an east coast girl myself... haven't lived anywhere else, and I do love this part of the country.
Well, I don't think I can compete with last night's offerings. (especially considering that I can only offer virtual partnership anyway, what w/ the hubbie and kids at home) But, I had to make some small homage... Hokey, here's a homemade hot breakfast for you.
*leaves poached eggs, toast, and fresh squeezed orange juice*
Actually, I'd better leave some for everybody. I'm sure you're all famished from your night's.... um... "activities."
I'm delighted to see this thread still active and fun. However, I do believe Hokey is serious in his quest for a mate. Just look at his writing.
Ladies, this young man is a deep thinker with a gentle spirit. He appears kind and considerate. He is a nice looking guy and very articulate. If you possess these qualities, apply for the spot!
I can't take credit... wasn't ever really the one getting hit on, or doing the hitting, but I borrowed these from friends, and they always cracked me up. (Actually the lawyer one was said to me... but its one of very few pick up lines I've gotten.)
Hi! I'm doing better today. Miss my friend. He is gone but he would want me to live. Not be sad. Of course will miss him forever. I am working on the details to write his life story. My job to keep him alive.
I understand. You're dealing with his death in a very healthy way. Allowing yourself to go through the stages in your own way. I like the way you express yourself. You are a deep thinker.
I'm planning a tribute to my mother soon. Anniversary of her death a year ago is on March 25. I'm having mixed feelings.
Yeah - the musk of 'ladies' swooning and fluttering eyelashes at Hokey is almost overpowering. I hope deep down in a jealous place that the one he picks turns out to be a smelly old guy when the avatar is slowly peeled away, the sheer stockings he must be dreaming of now, turns out to be support tights and when finally he submits to the bondage of a marriage proposal it comes with handcuffs and a kick-ass whip
I'm feeling sleepy and lazy today, but still have chores to do
I spent about 11 hours on a final exam yesterday, and I just wanna curl up in bed, play on the forum a little, and doze in and and out of sleep...but I can't.
I was just trying to let everyone have some fun. Me included. After my best friend dying on the 4th I need to find ways to get out of myself. Besides this place is full of so many wonderful ladies!
Not pushing religion. Buddhism is actually less a religion and more a way of life. The principals and philosophy changed my life. I used to have major self-esteem issues. That is why I was hooked on drugs. It showed me healthy ways to deal with things. Thank you for your kind condolence.
All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him. Buddha
It's my understanding that Buddhism is a philosophy rather than a religion. I was taught that one could integrate Buddhist philosophy with their religion, if they were inclined. I always thought that was cool about it.
I like this very much. I've always identified w/ much that Buddhism has to say. I don't want to get too into my religious affiliations here... I sort of feel those choices are very personal, but in short... I consider myself a Christian, but have had an issue of sorts w/ organized religion for much of my life. The Christian moral system appeals to me, and I do pray and believe in God, but, as I said so many of the teachings of Buddha strike a chord as well. Not that I much craved approval on it... if something seems like a good idea, I never thought anyone would disapprove of me believing it, but its nice to know that adopting some of the Buddhist concepts into my life is something that fits in with that particular philosophy.
Now, back to the intent of the thread... Any new suitors for the young Master Hokey?
I like this very much. How do we handle when we speak, think, and act with a pure heart toward someone and they disregard or trash you instead? I know the Bible says to forgive, which I can do. But it still causes hurt feelings. Just my thought.
I generally try to remember that often things like that are not personal, or at least not entirely personal. People who attack have their own shadows following them as well. If you know that you have not spurred an attack, then the poison is inside of the other person, and it's their personal problem (and probably based in pain)--after all, one usually attacks to defend themselves--to keep from being hurt more than they already have. To me, an attacking position is one that begins in pain and fear, and it's most important to remember that when dealing with anger from other people.
This particular thing......It didn't spur an actual attack or event on me personally. Though it crushed my willingness. It's the LACK that really hurt....
I remember that I don't control people, places, or things. Only how I choose to react. Happiness is a personal choice. Also when we hold resentments we only allow the person to continue hurting us. You allow them to have that power over you.
Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule. Buddha
Absolutely not. The first lesson is Be an island unto yourself. That means self preservation. The only way to help others is if we are well. At the same timea n insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.
I know all this...I just don't feel it yet. I keep speaking it...out loud...I release it, I release it. Still too fresh. It's like knowing that heroin rush is bad for you yet you still crave it like a rat craves cheese.
{{{HUGS}}} It might sound hollow, but it's exactly this kind of pain that makes us more aware of the impact we can have on others. And that helps us to grow.
Also...don't forget, as harsh as it sounds...what makes us think we are entitled to anything from anyone else?
Oh boy, here I go again. And this is supposed to be about finding a lady for Hokey, here I am crying my eyes out cause of ...something. I thought I got it out in group the other night. It's part of healing.
Maybe I can share it privately sometime. I just don't feel comfortable with it being public on here. And there hasn't been enough trust for me to share yet. I do have several friends close to me who are standing by me acting as 'sponsors' to guide me. But you know how it is. I just had a weak moment.
I doubt Hokey minds. Sometimes a wound is deeper than we anticipate. Like a festering sore, it will drain its noxious infection in due course, as long as we let it free. And it will feel better once the nastiness has flowed completely out.
No shame in feeling this pain...no shame in letting your emotions flow like a river. Obviously they need to. {{HUGS}}
Perhaps you need to examine why you cannot let it go? Is there some other, unresolved emotion in there that perhaps you haven't allowed yourself to see/feel? I hear sadness about the situation...but I don't hear anger (although I suspect it may be there underneath...) Don't be blind to what's gnawing at you or give it another name and expect it to go away unacknowledged.
Yes, we are working on the actual problem and the hidden 'inner child' issue (which may be one of the tap roots) in group. I've acknowledged it all. I just have a problem letting go of certain things that have touched me so emotionally.
All my problems started when my dad left. That was the first thing I wrote in my path with heart series. All about how my dad left when I was 3 and it left a gaping hole that I used everything I could find to fill it.
You know...I learned something this semester that I think is very interesting. This will be the last thing I say about this here...
I wonder why we're all so obsessed with "letting go."? Perhaps it's too soon for that. Pain is an indicator, and there's something your subconscious mind is trying to tell you. I was obsessed with letting go too, before my group therapy encounter, don't get me wrong. But sometimes, that just doesn't work. In that case, why not do the opposite?
Embrace "it." Whatever it is. Give yourself some time to really live with it, re-live it. Amplify it even. Totally immerse yourself in it for a little while. Whatever emotions are attached to it, feel them and try to make them even bigger for a time.
Obviously you won't be able to keep this up for too long...But maybe try it and go as long as you can with it.
Then take a nap. You'll need it. You might be amazed at how much you let out and what you learn about yourself in the situation.
I would not suggest doing this, by the way, unless I had found it helpful myself. I know it sounds sort of counter-intuitive.
That is actually what you should do. Accept the pain. Don't push it away. Experience it. Let it come in and feel it fully. When you have done this then you can begin to let it go. It's a practice. Feel fully. Let things pass naturally. Then let them go naturally. Don't hang on/ Don't attach to the pain. Let it run it's course.
Aww, no need to thank me. I learned it from the Gestalt therapists...who probably learned it from the Buddhists It's just an experiment to try and see if it helps you. It helped me a ton! I'm happy to share. I do hope you get to feeling better.
Well, it's a lot better and more fun than arguing about whether or not God exists, or if the health care bill is a gov't conspiracy to turn America into a communist country, or whether or not Mark Knowles is an atheist...Especially on a Sunday.
Besides, it's Hokey...he's a sweetheart; how could such a thread NOT draw a crowd?
I'm working as a freelance editor/writer...this person was one of my editing clients. I worked with him for about 90 days and his lack of professionalism was just appalling (and frankly his MS was crap, and he refused any constructive criticism). So...I need to find someone else willing to pay an editor.
Thanks! I usually manage to find them when I need them...I was really hoping this person would be different. But they were the biggest pain in the rear end I've ever experienced while freelancing.
Now...I must away to my nap...My eyes are falling closed, and if I'm not careful I'll end up asleep sitting up with my face in the keyboard. That'd be a sight.
Um so yeah got any ideas on why men are so weird sometimes?I mean seriously some men really need to get a life. I went to the gas station this morning and a guys was starring at me in a rather odd matter (maybe provocatively?) Well lets just say at my "chest" I looked up from the pump and...
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