Human beings are not perfect anyway, If your friends or workmates doing bad to you, do you forgive him?
or you will angry forever or keep inside the heart forever?
I'm very forgiving... but I don't forget!
yes. life is short. Time is great for distilling down your anger factor. after a while you just don't care anymore and things that seemed so important once upon a time don't even register on your radar.
except if someone hurt my son. i don't think i could forgive that.
I am very forgiving, however people can go 'too far' with me, after which they are out.
you should forgive......unless they are complete jerk and not sorry then you report or avoid
Yes, I usually forgive people. Life's too short to hold a grudge. However, that doesn't mean I'd let them walk all over me..
Yes, I forgive them with the passage of time. I end up with a question, "Do I deserve to be free from that person or that situation?" The answer I get from myself is, "Yes, because I was innocent."
If God can forgive those who commit mistakes, then why not we humans? If we'll forgive them, we'll surely feel the presence of God. 'Forgiveness' is a trait of God.
We are human beings and it is an universal truth that humans commit mistakes. "To err is human." When we do mistakes, we want others to forgive us. Similarly, when they do mistakes, they want us to forgive them. So, one should happily embrace forgiveness.
By forgiving those who have hurt you, you will free yourself from anger, bitterness and ego. Forgiving them, you will welcome and embrace happiness, joy, satisfaction and peace. Alexander pope has rightly said, "To err is human; to forgive divine." Believe it!
People that do me wrong are banned from my life. I don't want them near me. I don't seek revenge, but if the occasion comes, I will do them some harm, probably.
I used to forgive people easily, but I've found it's better to do as JulesGerome - ban them from my life. If the wrong done to me causes me to lose something, I make sure I get it back - from them.
I'm talking about deliberate 'wrong-doing', of course, and I've learned that if somebody does it once, they'll do it again.
I try to separate a person's actions from their true being.
But sometimes when someone shows me hostile intent over and over, I find it's best to ignore and walk away.
I don't need to fight with someone; it's a waste of their energy and mine.
I forgive. If its something that happens over and over, or something very serious, it may end a relationship. But I try my best to not hold a grudge. let them go on, and hopefully learn from their mistakes. Just not make those mistakes in MY life.
I usually confuse those that do me wrong by beating myself up and then confronting them whilst my wounds are still fresh by shouting 'why did you do this to me?' they of course can't recall inflicting harm upon me which adds to their confusion, and preys on their mind as the guilt becomes a mountainous region that can't be climbed. This ensures a rapid descent into a haunting and tortured psychosis that requires immediate internment in a secure unit and a daily reliance on pills for several years.
Then my work will be done.
I too can be very forgiving - up to a point. I will always give someone a second chance but they had not better screw up again because they won't get a third. Forgetting - well, that is a whole other issue
you always want to try and forgive, whether you forget only time will tell.
Usually I forgive them. But now, I am angry with one of my mate for some days.......
I have no reason to forgive anyone. I've already come to face the fact that they will make mistakes and accepted them for it.
Therefore, nothing to forgive.
It took me 45 years to forgive the abuse I lived through. But I forgave. By doing so I freed myself. The chains of hate were finally broken and I was freed.
I don't forgive easily. I carry grudges. I work every day to let that old thinking go and remember how good it is to be free of hate and unkindness. It's a hell of a lot of work. I get tired of it. But I keep trying. It's worth it.
There are some people, however, who will never be more than who they are right now--selfish, users, abusive and more. I cut them off immediately. No use in enabling them.
I like the term acceptance over forgiveness. For me the term forgiveness has religious connotations. And in some sense forgiving is somehow validating another person's despicable behavior.
I'm probably mincing words but until I learn to accept the actions of another person, and de-charge the reaction it has brought up in me, then forgiveness won't happen. thank goodness I've done a lot of de-charging otherwise the festering would be terrible.
Empathy and compassion and the ability to not be a victim helps heaps.
It all depends to me on the grievance - how bad was the hurt because there all different degrees of hurt.
It also depends on the apology (if you ever get one). If it is superficial or made to sound like I made too big a deal of something, then I might forgive, but I surely won't forget.
I think people should always think about how things look to the other person but that is very Polyanna. A TRUE apology or a true understanding of how someone feels means more than all the superficiality in the world - or no apology.
Short answer - I forgive, but I have degrees with which I measure the 'wrong' - and if it is truly uncalled for and the person is arrogant about my feelings - I never forget it. I try not to dwell on it but I just remember the path we took!
The only person you can forgive is yourself. The reason is because only you are responsible for your actions, resulting in you being responsible for the reaction. If one is aware of themselves, one can feel how people are around them. This provides you the opportunity to choose how you react and act.
I have become more forgiving as I have gotten older. Time is too precious to waste on holding grudges.
I forget in the sense that I never kept alive the anger, but if this person disappointed me, for me changes the type of relationship. For example if a friend disappoints me, he will no longer have my trust, or must demonstrate his credibility (and will not be easy!)
I forgive easily, but it isn't always as easy to forget, but I try to as everyone makes mistakes and if the person is sorry for what they've done then they deserve a chance to redeem themselves just like I'd hope if I hurt someone they'd give me the chance to make up for it and forgive me
I'm more in the business of hoping people forgive me. I dream of the day when I can choose whether to forgive others.
Forgiving saves your soul.
Don't be hurt and angry for all the days you live,
Cry your share of tears then let yourself forgive.
I have a hard time forgiving. Some things are unforgivable, and there are other times I'm too stubborn.
Forgiving is the easy part, forgetting much harder. Esp. if you've been deeply hurt. Its an effort sometimes, but one must continue to make it. As so many have said, the worse thing you can do to yourself in life is to harbor grudges against someone - it only hardens hearts and fills us with bitterness. And as Milton said, "The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.."
by underhiswings 10 years ago
Reasons for or against?How many times do you forgive for the same thing?How many times have you been forgiven for the same thing?What kind of proof do you need in order to believe the offender really seeks forgiveness? What kind of forgiveness do you offer?Do you go to the offender or wait until...
by Elizabeth99 7 years ago
Do I really have to forgive the past to move forward?They always tell you to forget the past and live in the now, but I want to remember my past-it is what made me. But if I want to be happy now how can I heal myself without forgetting?
by deergha 7 years ago
Forget or forgive - which is easier for you and why ?
by Ultimate Hubber 9 years ago
How about some motivational quotes on forgiveness?
by Anan Celeste 8 years ago
Do you know how to forgive? Can you forget?It's rather easy to say I forgive you,but is it always so?
by est-1991 5 years ago
Why is it so hard to forgive???
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