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What separates love from lust for you?

  1. K9keystrokes profile image93
    K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago

    So often I have heard about "love at first sight" but, how does one differentiate between the lust born from chemical response (Pheromones) and love that will last a lifetime?

    1. earnestshub profile image87
      earnestshubposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Love at first sight is caused by seeing one's anima or animus in the person one falls in love with. The infatuation lasts as long as the projection........ usually about 6 weeks in my opinion and that of Carl Jung's.
      Some people remain stuck in the projection for a whole lifetime as in the song "Delta Dawn"  smile

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        klarawieckposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        When my husband fell in love with me at first sight he wasn't exactly noticing my animus. hmm

        1. earnestshub profile image87
          earnestshubposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          Hi Klara!
          Any husband fool enough to admit what I just did is suicidal. lol lol lol

          I know one can fall head over heels in love with the anima and then discover that they love the person when they get to know them.

          You are a lucky gal to have that happen, it is like winning the lotto. smile

          1. K9keystrokes profile image93
            K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            earnest, what is the signifigance of  the "six" weeks?

            1. earnestshub profile image87
              earnestshubposted 6 years agoin reply to this

              Well, with constant contact it takes about that long for the projection to fail in enough ways for the veil of mind fog to lift. smile

              After that little annoyances emerge, he/she doesn't look as stunning first thing in the morning or vomiting over the toilet any more, and the love bug gets up and leaves. smile

        2. dutchman1951 profile image60
          dutchman1951posted 6 years agoin reply to this

          lol

        3. K9keystrokes profile image93
          K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          @klarawieck~ Hilarious!! smile

    2. BRIAN SLATER profile image88
      BRIAN SLATERposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      What seperates love from lust-answer-about 6" smile

  2. knolyourself profile image59
    knolyourselfposted 6 years ago

    Maybe the love of being with someone and talking about everything and anything.

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Good point. Communication has to be a very large part of any lasting relationship. Although, my oldest brother has been known to have some pretty deep conversations with women only to leave them with a broken heart after taking care lust. It's like he knows women need that mental and emotional connection, so he gives them what they need, only it's really a convincing manner to achieve conquest. He is a nice guy, but I'm not sure any guy can find that true unconditional love...

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    klarawieckposted 6 years ago

    That first reaction where you are physically attracted, head over heels, butterflies in your stomach... that is LUST

    LOVE grows. It doesn't hit you on the head like lust does. For you to fall in love you need to give the relationship time. It comes with interaction, getting to know each other, supporting each other, and so on.

  4. knolyourself profile image59
    knolyourselfposted 6 years ago

    "it's really a convincing manner to achieve conquest"
    Common it's pretty low-life and cannot be called nice, even if he is in every other way. Anyway - speaks to the individual and not to the concept.

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Nicely said, "speaks to the individual and not to the concept."
      @ klarawieck: I tend to find your explanation for love vs lust to be something women appreciate more than men; I may well be wrong. I have found in speaking to the men in my life (and from ALL walks of life) that the lust is first in line for them. Married guys, single guys, gay guys, and even guys who profess celibacy are haunted by some level of need to quench lust.  For them, love only becomes important after this need is met. I'm not sure I have encountered many women who feel the same?

    2. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      He actually is a nice guy now, he learned that love is much better than lust;  still he does harbor that lingering lust thing that guys carry with them throughout their lives.

  5. knolyourself profile image59
    knolyourselfposted 6 years ago

    At my age I am just glad I still have my lust. I am no lust buster, but strictly vicarious of course.

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      LOL! And that's exactly what i'm saying! You may now be vicarious in your lust, but it still lingers for you.

  6. Neil Sperling profile image82
    Neil Sperlingposted 6 years ago

    That's a great question -- I'll let you know after my next "lucky" night (or afternoon - who cares time of day) :-)

    Actually -- lust happens fast and easy, love grows.... yet I've experienced Love Growing "almost" as fast as lust.

    Is there an answer that fits every circumstance? - I think not as each circumstance is different!

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Neil, you may have the best point of all; finding a single answer for this is going to be near impossible because answers are going to be vastly different from one compared to another.
      I really dig your description, "lust happens fast and easy, love grows"...brilliant, and possibly (if there is one)  the only right answer.

  7. recommend1 profile image72
    recommend1posted 6 years ago

    Lust is natures way of getting us together with random people to propogate the species, love is why we keep one now and then.

    1. Neil Sperling profile image82
      Neil Sperlingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      LOL - love is why we keep one now and then...... so true

    2. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      @ recommend1; I admire your truthful response... LMAO...and cringing a little at the same time!

  8. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 6 years ago

    lust is usually ruled by the senses; love is always mindful

    we all really need both - but at certain times in life one is better than the other, I think, although I admit it has been hard for me to tell them apart sometimes.  Now I would settle for some mindless lust in a heartbeat

    would I be pondering it ?  is this lust?  or love? hmmmmmm . . .  oh no, I'd just be jumpin on it!

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      "I'd just be jumpin' on it!"...Absolutely awesome! Funny stuff!
      I appreciate your remarks that lust is ruled by the senses and love is always mindful. Very deep.
      Do you think these two extremes can cross paths on their way to the other? Meaning, can love become lust? or does lust only become love?

      1. mega1 profile image80
        mega1posted 6 years agoin reply to this

        I like my love seasoned liberally (and I do mean "liberally") with lotsa steamy lust.  But that's just me.  I have no idea what is good for me.  Can't you tell?  How about you?  love with the other, or without? 

        Oh - and its always best if all of it is mutual!  smile

        basically, I have never attempted to separate lust from love - if it isn't there, that's ok, but if it is, hummmmm baby!

        1. K9keystrokes profile image93
          K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          I live for the moments when the two become one! Nothing better.
          You are hilarious btw, and I am so grateful for your "Diva-eloping" humor throughout HP! Thanks for playing along. wink

          1. mega1 profile image80
            mega1posted 6 years agoin reply to this

            Thank you so much! made my day

            1. K9keystrokes profile image93
              K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

              Very cool!

  9. Rochelle Frank profile image96
    Rochelle Frankposted 6 years ago

    Love gives. Lust takes.

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Very well said RF.

      1. Rochelle Frank profile image96
        Rochelle Frankposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks . . . I think it is basic.

        A little give and take can be ok, too, in some cases.

  10. R.S. Hutchinson profile image83
    R.S. Hutchinsonposted 6 years ago

    We can recall Vivian Ward would not kiss on the mouth because she said, "It's too personal". I believe this is true and for me and would answer your query as to what divides lust from love.

    I'd agree with Julia Robert's character and expound that if I do not want to kiss you, then I know deep down I do not love you.

  11. shampa sadhya profile image83
    shampa sadhyaposted 6 years ago

    I firmly believe that claiming to love somebody without having any respect for that person is lust.
    Love has to have respect for that someone special. Loving somebody just for money, style, power and other materialistic things demeans the value of the most beautiful feeling called love. In my opinion demeaning love is lust.

    1. K9keystrokes profile image93
      K9keystrokesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Quite an interesting concept shampa. Demeaning anyone for any reason has to come from a truly weak place within someone. If a person needs to cause another discomfort or pain on any level it is time to take a good look at the eyes within the mirror. The value of love can not be measured by these mean spirited individuals, that would only dampen its grace.

  12. Bard of Ely profile image84
    Bard of Elyposted 6 years ago

    Love to me means a lasting relationship and lust is more a one night stand which I would personally never want!

 
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