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i think he doesn't like me

  1. profile image41
    lost_destinyposted 9 years ago

    I met this guy online and we both go to the same school..we share the same interests and I felt that we are alike. After a month we met and he was shaking I guess he was nervous and he said we'll meet again, but then when I talked to him online he told me he has a busy week and will talk to me later.. I don't know if it's true or maybe he doesn't want to talk to me..i'm pretty but I'm not skinny and not fat but I need to work more on my body..do you think he didnâ��t like me because of my body? ..i really like him ,so I don't know what to do..the week didn't end yet but we used to chat daily and now it's been almost a week! 
    what should i do? should i talk to him again?
    plz help

    1. Mark Knowles profile image61
      Mark Knowlesposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Have you tried the Atkins Diet?  big_smile

      1. robie2 profile image97
        robie2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

        South Beach is good too:-) Maddie is right BTW

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      joy2blueposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      from joy2blue:
      I used to talk to many men on line , they would come and go,till i met the right one,now we have been married for five years,if he was interested he would keep in touch,its best to move on,men are like busses, if you miss one there is always another right behind it , lol

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      IMHustleposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      No, you shouldn't talk to him again. No, your body had nothing to do with it. IMO it sounds like the guy just flaked out. Do not, I repeat do not pursue this guy. I don't know how old you are LD, but there's been a massive increase in the number of flakes - both men and women - in the past 20 - 30 years. Whenever a guy flakes out on you, let him know you aren't going for that type of nonsense and move on.

      Another thing - as far as your body is concerned, you need to get a more positive, confident image of yourself. If you need to "tighten things up a bit", do it because that's what you want to do - not because of someone else or what society says. There are plenty of non-flakey men who like thick women. 

      I hope this helps you.

  2. Maddie Ruud profile image81
    Maddie Ruudposted 9 years ago


    I think you misunderstand the point of these forums.  These forums are meant as a community interaction tool for people who use the HubPages, not necessarily as a place to get advice on personal problems.

  3. topstuff profile image60
    topstuffposted 9 years ago

    Leave the guys.Start writing some hubs(articles) if you have come here,earn money give it to that poor guy who doesnot know how troubled you are and make him happy.

  4. DAND profile image51
    DANDposted 9 years ago

    No prob, don't worry  I m here  to help u. Mail me we can talk about that totally

  5. firetown profile image60
    firetownposted 9 years ago

    You know what? You need to be sure of yourself. You can be a whale for all I care, but if you're confident, and have a good attitude, I'd choose you over some hot chick that gets on my nerves. So be yourself!

    1. vietnamese profile image72
      vietnameseposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree totally! Hot chicks do get on your nerves most of the times ...hehehehee

  6. chantelg4 profile image82
    chantelg4posted 9 years ago

    Get the book "he's just not into you" perhaps you'll find some clues to his behavior. Personally, if I was interested, you bet I would be chatting every day, just my 2 cents.

    1. vietnamese profile image72
      vietnameseposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      You just lost your 2 cents.... Sometimes I go for weeks not chatting to the person that I am interested in but that doesn't mean that I am not into that person.... sometime I just need my space for awhile and also because I am busy with a lot of works.

      1. SweetiePie profile image82
        SweetiePieposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        Actually He Is Just Not That Into You is a very helpful book for single women and it was featured on the Oprah show when it came out.  This book helps women who are seriously looking for a lasting relationship find like minded people.  You may need your space and I dated men like that, but honestly in the long run they lose my interest because they choose space over spending time with someone.  Go to amazon and read all the reviews about the book to get more of an overall opinion though, but it does provide some very good information.

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    RUTHIE17posted 9 years ago


    Hon--take it from someone who has seen a lot over the years wink --there's more than one guy out there in the world!  If this one doesn't know a good thing when he sees it that's his tough luck and not yours!  If he's not that interested in you that he can't consider what you may be feeling, he's not worth losing any sleep over or shedding any tears over either!  Move on to the next one and don't look back!  It's his loss! smile

    sad Maddie--sorry to say this, but your reply to someone who was reaching out for help and advice was cold.  I thought we were supposed to be a close community, here to help each other with problems.  If some of those problems are of a personal nature, so be it.  A little compassion for your fellow Hubber's moment of need doesn't cost you anything but the few seconds it takes to type a couple of lines of sympathy or advice.

    1. Marisa Wright profile image99
      Marisa Wrightposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry if it sounds cold, Ruthie, but I agree with Maddie.  If this was a genuine Hubber - someone who had posted even one Hub - I'm sure the community would rally round and be supportive.  But this person - and others like her, recently - seem to be arriving at the forums purely to post about their "relationship problems".   In some cases, it's turned out that it's someone attention-seeking rather than a genuine cry for help.

      There are plenty of forums about relationships where these people can go, or they could try Yahoo Answers - places designed for people to ask questions and get answers.

    2. vietnamese profile image72
      vietnameseposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      RUTHIE, for a minute there, I thought you were biting a rat on your profile pix so I had to look closely and it was it.....scary thought, huh?

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        RUTHIE17posted 9 years agoin reply to this

        Biting a rat?!!!!  What the---!  That's my kitty, Baby.  I can give you the name of a couple of eye doctors if you need them! 

        A rat, indeed!!

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      RUTHIE17posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Maddie--for some reason I stumbled across this thread tonight and I would like to apologize to you for the reply I made to your comment here several weeks ago.

      Maddie wrote:

      I think you misunderstand the point of these forums.  These forums are meant as a community interaction tool for people who use the HubPages, not necessarily as a place to get advice on personal problems."

      I now understand where you were coming from and what information you were trying to point out and I do agree with what you wrote. 

      Again, my apologies.  big_smile

  8. Bike Web Guy profile image61
    Bike Web Guyposted 9 years ago

    The shy guys if you can get them to get out of their shell can be great.  Just be friends with him and get to know him in person.  Invite him to go out with you "as friends".   

    Most men have a really hard time turning down an interesting suitor.  Coming at it from the friend angle takes the pressure off the shy guy.

    If he is really shy you will have to make the first move most of the time.  Build his confidence.  Go slow, guys are not used to being chased. 

    He is probably nervous that he screwed everything up at the first meeting.  Contact him now just like everything is fine...  No big pressure just keep contact like you were making last week.

    Make it easy for him.  The hurdles a shy guy has trouble getting over.   

    1.  Should I ask her out.

    solve that invite him for a coke between class or ....

    2. Should I touch her

    After spending some time touch him, get close to him.  That is why movies are great.  Physical contact.  Put your head on his shoulder and relax.  If you are tense then he will be too.

    There is probably a free educational movie at the school one night this week.

    3.  When should I hug her?
    After the next meet slide in and give him a hug...  break the ice for the guy.

    2.  Should I kiss her

    If he is still really moving slow
    Cure that.  After spending some time take things in your own hands....  Slide in there when he isn't quite expecting it.

    Good luck

  9. Bike Web Guy profile image61
    Bike Web Guyposted 9 years ago

    Miss Ruud
    I think you are wrong---It is an open Forum---I believe it is you that is out of line.

    Hub Pages isn't all money and business.

    My two cents

    1. Misha profile image76
      Mishaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Mr Bike Web Guy
      I think you are wrong---I believe it is you that is out of line. smile

      I think you misunderstood Maddie. She was just pointing out that registering to the site and asking total strangers usually is not the best way to get a personal advice smile

  10. chester chen profile image53
    chester chenposted 9 years ago

    Umm.. let's get back to the topic. Lol.

    Well, maybe you need to give him some time. He might be too nervous. Maybe his parents is controlling him and don't encourage him to think about committing into a serious relationship right now. Who knows..

    Btw, if he don't like you, maybe he's not the one. Someone else will come.

    You deserve someone better wink

  11. blissnow profile image53
    blissnowposted 9 years ago

    How about a simple chat message, Are you on holidays or something!. I am missing our chats.

  12. kmartel profile image29
    kmartelposted 9 years ago

    Honestly, I don't see what the fuss is about, if someone wants relationship advice, go for it, there are many people out there that would love to give some.  I was even thinking about sharing some of my online dating experiences over the last eight years! lolol...

  13. gamergirl profile image60
    gamergirlposted 9 years ago

    Kinda jerk-ish sounding, yes, but Maddie is a moderator and a highly respected and respectable individual.  I'm all for challenging authority in the pursuit of better interaction and all, but not in this case -

    Hubpages is not technically an "open forum" in the sense that, in order to post, one has to register to the site.  Registering to a site for the express purpose of finding relationship tips is something you do on Yahoo Answers.

  14. Catherine Behan profile image58
    Catherine Behanposted 9 years ago

    Just another reason I love this community!  You guys rock!  Thanks to Maddie for keeping us all on target and thanks to the rest of you for helping newbies feel comfortable in this fun community!  Catherine

    1. thranax profile image51
      thranaxposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I also love this community smile

  15. WPerez1000 profile image52
    WPerez1000posted 9 years ago

    Dear despite all the negativity you got here, stick to the topic, I believe this guy is either insecure or not into you.  If he really likes you, he will contact you, if not, forget about him and move on.  Also, if he didn't like you, so what.  I am certain that you have much to offer and trust me, there is someone there that would like and appreciate you for what you look like and who you are, so don't lose any sleep over this guy.  Good luck to you,

  16. thranax profile image51
    thranaxposted 9 years ago

    Looks suspicions..I mean someone of a different name posted a response out of nowhere, its a toy prank w\e.

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    allowloveposted 9 years ago

    u know he's busy ryt...
    and u know we pipol are not d sym...
    maybe u can accomodate pipol even if ur busy
    but how about him?
    try to understand things also...
    not becoz he cant talk 2 u ryt now doesnt mean he doenst like you
    most boys cnt stand a long talk wd one topic or w/o doing something extraordinary...
    just try to relax and think about his status...
    IT DOESNT MEAN he doesnt lyk you...

  18. patnamohan profile image60
    patnamohanposted 9 years ago

    Why should n`t everybody try her to write a blog here!!!!! everything will come under control!!!