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Would you keep breastfeeding a kid until they're 8 yrs old?

  1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
    Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago

    I just saw a video online where a mom admits to still breastfeeding her kids even though they're 8 yrs old.  Why she allows it?  well, she believes a child should decide for themselves when to stop.  anyways, here's the video if you want to check it out

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxv6R9fU … re=related

    would you continue breastfeeding your kids until they decided to stop, ladies?  Or do you think she's nuts?

    1. NateSean profile image78
      NateSeanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Me personally, probably not. That would most definitely land me in jail.

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol Yeah same here. I think if that lady were smart, she should definitely start waning her kids off...NOW...before people start to accuse her of something sick and perverted doing that.  Plus, I know it can't be good for the girls as they grow up.  What are they going to say to their future girlfriends/boyfriends when they grow up?  "sorry, but i just got to have some more of my mom's breast milk?"  hmm

      2. galleryofgrace profile image82
        galleryofgraceposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        She needs to be arrested! plain and simple. Imagine what she's done to that child mentally.

    2. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      A prime example that "stupid" people shouldn't breed. lol

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        agreed! lollol

      2. CARIBQUEEN profile image78
        CARIBQUEENposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Cagsil, I am with you on that view.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image62
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      depends if you are working or not. I breastfed my baby for three years because she is allergic to cows milk and soya. I need to sacrifice pumping milk, preserve them in a ref, then bring it home, but if she is not allergic to any milk, then I will only breastfed up to one year.

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        im sorry to hear about your baby being alergic to milk.

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image62
          prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I graduated already LOL. The only problem with this is when you have bf or husband then there is competition, (usually the bf/hubby doesn't have allergies.

          1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
            Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            lol I'm just going to say no comment on that one PD, but you do make a valid point there. wink  lol

    4. create a page profile image61
      create a pageposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      The mother makes the decision to stop breast feeding, but nature dictates when is best.  A child is usually introduced to solid foods by three months and by six months he or she has a tendency to start biting or playing with the breasts.  Hence most mothers ween their children by six months and no later than one year.  I am sure breast milk has fulfilled its purpose by that time.  Therefore the mother should make the decision for the child.

      1. Eaglekiwi profile image71
        Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yep,mummy aint right.

    5. profile image0
      Baileybearposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      a child doesn't need breast milk at that age.  When does it become perverted?

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Well if it's not considered perverted by..now...then I can imagine it would be when the girls start hitting puberty.  I can't imagine this doing the girls any good psychologically, as they grow up.

        1. rebekahELLE profile image87
          rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          It's already affected the girls.. the video was disturbing. I felt like I was watching some level of child porn..

          1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
            Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            You know...now that you mention it....it kind of does...as I didn't even realize that until you pointed that out.  Gee, I hope for their sake, the mom makes a lot of money because they're going to need a lot of therapy bills later on, as these kids grow up.

    6. Dim Flaxenwick profile image55
      Dim Flaxenwickposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      l couln´t bear to watch the video. It´s just plain wrong. How much longer does this mother think this can go on. ?  Into their teens?? 
      Since when do children set the rules. ???

    7. chitrarekha profile image60
      chitrarekhaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      No not till 8years. An infant should be exclusively breast fed up to 6 months and weaning food should start.I think it is unnatural and not good for mental development of the child.

    8. profile image0
      Phoebe Pikeposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      That's strange. I wouldn't breastfeed that long! It seems like she has issues with letting her children go.

  2. rkhyclak profile image60
    rkhyclakposted 6 years ago

    I'm going to go with nuts. I'm all for nursing until 1-1.5ish. When my child can come up, lift my shirt, undo my bra and say "boob" or whatever, that's where I draw the line. I realize it's a source of comfort and nurturing for an infant, but if gets to the age of awkward you're probably doing more harm than good. Really, what in the world is the benefit to any involved to be nursing at 8?

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol

    2. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      exactly.  i think she's a bit nuts for allowing her kids to still breast feed at that age.

    3. Eaglekiwi profile image71
      Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      You hit the nail on the head.

      I breastfed ,til they could hold a cup ,then it was Dairy Queen is closed til further notice  lol



      Oh my 8yrs old?
      Think momma might need the help there ..

      The kid has teeth !!!!

      1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lollol

      2. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol lol

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree 100 percent, and for one more sign of time to stop nursing...teeth.

      1. profile image0
        DoorMattnomoreposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        oops..ha ha ha EK, I missed your comment before.  big_smile yup...teeth means they are ready to chew. ouch.

  3. profile image0
    Home Girlposted 6 years ago

    Is she using diapers too? Child might decide that he still needs it you know. And a pacifier. A crib might be much safer than a regular bed, just to order custom made one to fit that "baby". Breast milk is for babies. If your child is not a baby, stop being dumb.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah, i heard of over parenting and babying your kids, but this is just freaking ridiculous.  what's she going to do when these kids hit puberty and they still want to breastfeed off her? it's just stupid if you ask me.

  4. TLMinut profile image60
    TLMinutposted 6 years ago

    If I was lost out in the jungle or living where there wasn't enough food and somehow it was keeping my kid alive, yes. Otherwise, not a chance! I nursed my kids for 18 months except for one whom I had to forcibly stop at 2 years (that's when it really hit home that his digestive system was way out of whack and he starved without breast milk). A neighbor from long ago breastfed her little girl until she was almost four - she said it was cultural, she's Mexican - but that boys shouldn't as long as a girl. That's the oldest I know personally, about 4. Still, in America, that's unusual and quite odd.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree it is quite odd, as I have to wonder why this woman hasn't at least tried to wane her kids off her boobs.  then again, who am I to tell a person how to raise their kid?

  5. rebekahELLE profile image87
    rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago

    hmm, clearly they have some alternative beliefs from watching the video.  I did find it rather disturbing to hear how the girls talked about it and how the mother said her breasts basically belonged to the girls... do these girls go to school?  I wonder if it will affect their sexual preferences as they age?  I can't see that there would be long-term benefits of having an 8 year old child clinging to her mother's breast like a baby.

    With my oldest son, I breastfed until he was in his 2's. My second son stopped earlier.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah, i think this just goes to show that some people really shouldn't ever have kids if you ask me.

  6. DIYweddingplanner profile image88
    DIYweddingplannerposted 6 years ago

    This is one of the cases where someone (the mom)can truthfully say, "It's not you, it's me."

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lollol

    2. rebekahELLE profile image87
      rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      yes, I think so, but it's certainly affecting them, when an 8 year old child walks up to her mom and flips her blouse open and wants her to have them easily accessible! lol

  7. Mighty Mom profile image90
    Mighty Momposted 6 years ago

    The only remotely positive thing I can say about this is breastmilk is healthier than a steady diet of McDonald's lol

    This lady needs to get a shrink... and get a life.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol As always Mighty Mom, you hit the nail right on the head. this woman definitely needs a shrink if she thinks her kids are just going to gradually wane off her boobs on their own.

  8. kerryg profile image86
    kerrygposted 6 years ago

    I've heard of some traditional cultures doing it until the age of 5 (though more for the nutrition and birth control than because "the kid should decide when to stop," I think), and I think 2 or 3 years is totally reasonable in the developed world, which I know is longer than a lot of people here in the US go for, but 8 is weird.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah, all i can say is it'll be even weirder if she continues breastfeeding these kids well into their teen years. that'll be just straight up weird.

  9. NateSean profile image78
    NateSeanposted 6 years ago

    On the otherhand, playing devil's advocate, what are this kid's test scores like? Breast milk is supposed to aid in the development of brain function and they've even got formula that has some of the same vitamains in it.

    I'm just saying, if this kid aces the SAT's we may be on to a controversial yet widely growing trend.

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      roll lollollol  I certainly hope not. wink lollol

  10. Mighty Mom profile image90
    Mighty Momposted 6 years ago

    Holy crap. If the kid aces the SATs and word gets out, all hell will break loose. Already mothers are under societal scrutiny and pressure. We are told what to eat/not eat during pregnancy. We are pressured to deliver drug-free. We are made to feel guilty if we cannot or choose not to breastfeed. We are still considered "less than" if we work outside the home.

    These are all fairly new trends. When I was a child hardly any moms breastfed -- not to mention that they all smoke and drank throughout their pregnancies and had spinals that made them completely numb during delivery). Very few women (bohemians, mostly) breastfed back then.

    So if this takes hold, not only will mothers be shlepping their tween and teen kids to soccer, they'll be providing the "all natural liquid snacks," too! sad

  11. Beth100 profile image84
    Beth100posted 6 years ago

    maybe she watched "Grown Ups" too many times..... tongue

    seriously,  this is sick in any culture.  I'm surprised CAS hasn't shown up on her doorstep

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I know, right?  Hi Beth, hows it going?  long time no see. smile

  12. Beth100 profile image84
    Beth100posted 6 years ago

    Hey Steven!  I'm a whirlwind tornado today, well, past few months!  lol  just popping in to check on you and make sure not causing any trouble!  lol  but, I see that you are!!!  smile 

    How are you?

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      causing trouble?  nah, you know me better than that.  just obviously in a bit of a debate, as some hubbers misunderstood my post.  oh well. what can you do right?  anyways, im doing okay though.  how about yourself?  what have you been  up to lately? smile

  13. Beth100 profile image84
    Beth100posted 6 years ago

    too much...you know me.  Not enough writing or sleep but tons of work.  Feell like a dog chasing its tail!  lol

    I'm heading off in a bit but hopefully will jump in again tonight or tomorrow.  My scores are plummetting as well as my views.  I didn't think the Google change would affect me so much!  sad

    Love ya!

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      aw thanks, i love you too, beth. wink big_smile  well hopefully your traffic picks up soon. i'm sure it will.  hopefully, i'll see you around later tonight, as i know everyone missed you while you were gone in forums. smile

      1. Beth100 profile image84
        Beth100posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks Stevie-Boo. We'll catch up later.  xox

        1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
          Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I can't wait. i look forward to seeing you again then. wink xoxoxo

  14. Eaglekiwi profile image71
    Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago

    Hey this kids at school!! hmm

    Oh mommy wheres the daddy at ? or is he on the bottle lol

  15. CARIBQUEEN profile image78
    CARIBQUEENposted 6 years ago

    My God, does she still have milk in those breasts.  What could possibly possess her to breastfeed an eight year old child.  Is she crazy? I can't imagine a school child spending a full day at school, playing and learning and then comes home and jump on my breast - YIKES!! - Disgusting!!

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lollol  my sentiments exactly! lol

  16. Eaglekiwi profile image71
    Eaglekiwiposted 6 years ago

    Thought this thread had been milked enough already-ok who bumped it up:lol:

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image83
      Stevennix2001posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol

      1. sharnas profile image58
        sharnasposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I can't believe it. Will continuie breast milk  for a long time as this???   
        I pray God  ' may i feed my baby till his second birth day '

  17. Joy56 profile image61
    Joy56posted 6 years ago

    how does she do it, they bite.... as soon as they get teeth..... I believe long long ago children were breast fed this length of time though.

    just watched the video it does  not look nice.  The children draw feature her nipples in lots of their drawings, that is strange.  Maybe they have it right and we have it wrong, who knows??????

  18. ajcor profile image60
    ajcorposted 6 years ago

    in a word - revolting....if the child is old to undo the mother's blouse to help itself to the milk bar then it is certainly old enough not to drink from her breast!!  and I too could not watch the video...however if this was the only way the mother could provide sustenance to child then OK...but surely that is not in this day and age!

  19. Monisajda profile image80
    Monisajdaposted 6 years ago

    I know many will not like what I have to say but extended breastfeeding used to be the only way humans survived. It was a standard to breastfeed at least until a child turned 3, in some cultures 4. Children who are breastfed longer than usual American average, that is about 6 months (if they are lucky),tend to take cues from their mom and don't bite. It is interesting that so many of you condemn the idea of extended breastfeeding but how many of you  actually have a remote experience with nursing a child older than a year old? I personally don't think I would be comfortable nursing a 7 year old and neither a 6 or 5 year old. But many of you frowned upon nursing a child that already has teeth. There are many poor infants who get their first teeth at an early age of 3 months, does that mean they need to be weaned onto a bottle of formula? 
    Breastfeeding is not the same as bottle feeding. There is much more to it than just feeding. It is love giving and that's why children are so attached to it.

  20. Mommy S profile image60
    Mommy Sposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely not. I also believe in baby-led weaning. However, you need to pay attention to your child's signals. There comes a time when a mother may ignore the signals because she's not ready to let go. I have no problem breastfeeding until the baby is 2, but by then you're looking at pre-school and playdates and you're baby won't want to be breastfeeding during those times. My baby is 11.5 months and weaning herself from day-time feedings. She may very well want to nurse before bed until she's 1.5yrs old, but no way would I allow her to go past 2. Sometimes kids just need a little push! 8 is far too long to allow it!

  21. profile image0
    zampanoposted 6 years ago

    Well, it must depend of the pleasure she takes out of it.
    But she'd better feed him something else also because her milk would not be rich enough to guaratee the kid's harmonious growth.
    Nevertheless, she should be aware of the risk of being accused of incest, she's taking. There are people who see evil everywhere...
    She'd better have an adult suck her.

  22. camlo profile image85
    camloposted 6 years ago

    I just watched the video and ... I don't really know what I think about it. It certainly seems weird - to me.

  23. Disturbia profile image60
    Disturbiaposted 6 years ago

    This is just wrong on so many levels, and just plain creepy.   I so don't agree with this.

    1. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hey Disturbia smile Always a pleasure to see you and I hope you're doing well. smile big_smile

      1. Disturbia profile image60
        Disturbiaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hi Cags, sorry I missed you.  Hope you are doing well as well big_smile

        1. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          smile big_smile

    2. camlo profile image85
      camloposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, on so many levels. I still don't know exactly what I think about it. I found seeing that 7- or 8-year-old girl suckling up to the mother's breast somewhat disturbing. It looked very unnatural, too. Grotesque.

      And how silly is this argument about the children deciding for themselves when they should stop feeding from the breast? Can small children decide such a thing? Isn't it the mother's responsibility to decide?

  24. cheaptrick profile image73
    cheaptrickposted 6 years ago

    I'm sixty...and I still breast feed on occasion...Sorry,just couldn't resist:)

    1. NateSean profile image78
      NateSeanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      It's the Internet. Nothing surprises me anymore.

  25. Greek One profile image77
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    18 years old should be the cut off date.
    It would be hard to enter military service if one's nutritional supply is still based back home while you are overseas

    1. NateSean profile image78
      NateSeanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      On the otherhand, if the military determines it to create smarter soldiers...it goes back to the whole logistics thing. Logistics tends to outweigh morality.

  26. profile image55
    amanda7878posted 6 years ago

    I dont believe it is right for a kid to breastfeed at that age even though she said it is up to tem I mean come on do you let your kids get away with everything all the time then

    1. NateSean profile image78
      NateSeanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I suppose if it was a choice between letting the kid get into drugs and letting him drink milk from my breast, I'd probably lift my shirt too.

  27. recommend1 profile image66
    recommend1posted 6 years ago

    there was a movement some years back for breasfeeding older kids, from the same place as waterbirthing, and a host of other odd things that mostly have become 'normal' or disappeared.

    There is no practical reason why this mother should not do what she wants, except the teeth maybe.  There is no evidence that it might mentally harm the kid.  It is her body and her kid - just because it is not what you all consider normal does not make it bad ion any way - in fact study might show that you are harming your childrens development by stopping breastfeeding too early, something has to be responsible for so many under achievers around these days.

    1. girlgonestrong profile image60
      girlgonestrongposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      The lack of achievement is due to a lack of proper nutrition, physical fitness, and proper social structure.  Not a lack of breastfeeding.

  28. breastpumpreviews profile image86
    breastpumpreviewsposted 5 years ago

    Two  is pushing it for me.  I wouldn't let my 8 year old drink milk from my breasts.

  29. profile image67
    SanXuaryposted 5 years ago

    I think she should keep feeding them until they are 21 and he can man up and drink some beer. This mom needs some help maybe she should rent her jugs out or something.

 
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