Would you keep breastfeeding a kid until they're 8 yrs old?

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   Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago

   I just saw a video online where a mom admits to still breastfeeding her kids even though they're 8 yrs old.  Why she allows it?  well, she believes a child should decide for themselves when to stop.  anyways, here's the video if you want to check it out
   
   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxv6R9fU … re=related
   
   would you continue breastfeeding your kids until they decided to stop, ladies?  Or do you think she's nuts?

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      NateSeanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Me personally, probably not. That would most definitely land me in jail.

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         Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yeah same here. I think if that lady were smart, she should definitely start waning her kids off...NOW...before people start to accuse her of something sick and perverted doing that.  Plus, I know it can't be good for the girls as they grow up.  What are they going to say to their future girlfriends/boyfriends when they grow up?  "sorry, but i just got to have some more of my mom's breast milk?" 

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         galleryofgraceposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         She needs to be arrested! plain and simple. Imagine what she's done to that child mentally.

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      A prime example that "stupid" people shouldn't breed.

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         Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         agreed!

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         CARIBQUEENposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Cagsil, I am with you on that view.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      depends if you are working or not. I breastfed my baby for three years because she is allergic to cows milk and soya. I need to sacrifice pumping milk, preserve them in a ref, then bring it home, but if she is not allergic to any milk, then I will only breastfed up to one year.

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         Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         im sorry to hear about your baby being alergic to milk.

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            prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I graduated already LOL. The only problem with this is when you have bf or husband then there is competition, (usually the bf/hubby doesn't have allergies.

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               Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I'm just going to say no comment on that one PD, but you do make a valid point there.  

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      create a pageposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The mother makes the decision to stop breast feeding, but nature dictates when is best.  A child is usually introduced to solid foods by three months and by six months he or she has a tendency to start biting or playing with the breasts.  Hence most mothers ween their children by six months and no later than one year.  I am sure breast milk has fulfilled its purpose by that time.  Therefore the mother should make the decision for the child.

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         Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yep,mummy aint right.

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      Baileybearposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      a child doesn't need breast milk at that age.  When does it become perverted?

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         Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Well if it's not considered perverted by..now...then I can imagine it would be when the girls start hitting puberty.  I can't imagine this doing the girls any good psychologically, as they grow up.

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            rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            It's already affected the girls.. the video was disturbing. I felt like I was watching some level of child porn..

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               Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               You know...now that you mention it....it kind of does...as I didn't even realize that until you pointed that out.  Gee, I hope for their sake, the mom makes a lot of money because they're going to need a lot of therapy bills later on, as these kids grow up.

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      Dim Flaxenwickposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      l couln´t bear to watch the video. It´s just plain wrong. How much longer does this mother think this can go on. ?  Into their teens?? 
      Since when do children set the rules. ???

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      chitrarekhaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No not till 8years. An infant should be exclusively breast fed up to 6 months and weaning food should start.I think it is unnatural and not good for mental development of the child.

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      Phoebe Pikeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That's strange. I wouldn't breastfeed that long! It seems like she has issues with letting her children go.

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   rkhyclakposted 14 years ago

   I'm going to go with nuts. I'm all for nursing until 1-1.5ish. When my child can come up, lift my shirt, undo my bra and say "boob" or whatever, that's where I draw the line. I realize it's a source of comfort and nurturing for an infant, but if gets to the age of awkward you're probably doing more harm than good. Really, what in the world is the benefit to any involved to be nursing at 8?

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      exactly.  i think she's a bit nuts for allowing her kids to still breast feed at that age.

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      Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You hit the nail on the head.
      
      I breastfed ,til they could hold a cup ,then it was Dairy Queen is closed til further notice 
      
      
      
      Oh my 8yrs old?
      Think momma might need the help there ..
      
      The kid has teeth !!!!

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         Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree 100 percent, and for one more sign of time to stop nursing...teeth.

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         DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         oops..ha ha ha EK, I missed your comment before.  yup...teeth means they are ready to chew. ouch.

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   Home Girlposted 14 years ago

   Is she using diapers too? Child might decide that he still needs it you know. And a pacifier. A crib might be much safer than a regular bed, just to order custom made one to fit that "baby". Breast milk is for babies. If your child is not a baby, stop being dumb.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, i heard of over parenting and babying your kids, but this is just freaking ridiculous.  what's she going to do when these kids hit puberty and they still want to breastfeed off her? it's just stupid if you ask me.

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   TLMinutposted 14 years ago

   If I was lost out in the jungle or living where there wasn't enough food and somehow it was keeping my kid alive, yes. Otherwise, not a chance! I nursed my kids for 18 months except for one whom I had to forcibly stop at 2 years (that's when it really hit home that his digestive system was way out of whack and he starved without breast milk). A neighbor from long ago breastfed her little girl until she was almost four - she said it was cultural, she's Mexican - but that boys shouldn't as long as a girl. That's the oldest I know personally, about 4. Still, in America, that's unusual and quite odd.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree it is quite odd, as I have to wonder why this woman hasn't at least tried to wane her kids off her boobs.  then again, who am I to tell a person how to raise their kid?

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   rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

   hmm, clearly they have some alternative beliefs from watching the video.  I did find it rather disturbing to hear how the girls talked about it and how the mother said her breasts basically belonged to the girls... do these girls go to school?  I wonder if it will affect their sexual preferences as they age?  I can't see that there would be long-term benefits of having an 8 year old child clinging to her mother's breast like a baby.
   
   With my oldest son, I breastfed until he was in his 2's. My second son stopped earlier.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, i think this just goes to show that some people really shouldn't ever have kids if you ask me.

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   DIYweddingplannerposted 14 years ago

   This is one of the cases where someone (the mom)can truthfully say, "It's not you, it's me."

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      yes, I think so, but it's certainly affecting them, when an 8 year old child walks up to her mom and flips her blouse open and wants her to have them easily accessible!

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   Mighty Momposted 14 years ago

   The only remotely positive thing I can say about this is breastmilk is healthier than a steady diet of McDonald's
   
   This lady needs to get a shrink... and get a life.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      As always Mighty Mom, you hit the nail right on the head. this woman definitely needs a shrink if she thinks her kids are just going to gradually wane off her boobs on their own.

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   kerrygposted 14 years ago

   I've heard of some traditional cultures doing it until the age of 5 (though more for the nutrition and birth control than because "the kid should decide when to stop," I think), and I think 2 or 3 years is totally reasonable in the developed world, which I know is longer than a lot of people here in the US go for, but 8 is weird.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, all i can say is it'll be even weirder if she continues breastfeeding these kids well into their teen years. that'll be just straight up weird.

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   NateSeanposted 14 years ago

   On the otherhand, playing devil's advocate, what are this kid's test scores like? Breast milk is supposed to aid in the development of brain function and they've even got formula that has some of the same vitamains in it.
   
   I'm just saying, if this kid aces the SAT's we may be on to a controversial yet widely growing trend.

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        I certainly hope not.

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    Mighty Momposted 14 years ago

    Holy crap. If the kid aces the SATs and word gets out, all hell will break loose. Already mothers are under societal scrutiny and pressure. We are told what to eat/not eat during pregnancy. We are pressured to deliver drug-free. We are made to feel guilty if we cannot or choose not to breastfeed. We are still considered "less than" if we work outside the home.
    
    These are all fairly new trends. When I was a child hardly any moms breastfed -- not to mention that they all smoke and drank throughout their pregnancies and had spinals that made them completely numb during delivery). Very few women (bohemians, mostly) breastfed back then.
    
    So if this takes hold, not only will mothers be shlepping their tween and teen kids to soccer, they'll be providing the "all natural liquid snacks," too!

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    maybe she watched "Grown Ups" too many times.....
    
    seriously,  this is sick in any culture.  I'm surprised CAS hasn't shown up on her doorstep

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       Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I know, right?  Hi Beth, hows it going?  long time no see.

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    Hey Steven!  I'm a whirlwind tornado today, well, past few months!    just popping in to check on you and make sure not causing any trouble!    but, I see that you are!!!   
    
    How are you?

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       Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       causing trouble?  nah, you know me better than that.  just obviously in a bit of a debate, as some hubbers misunderstood my post.  oh well. what can you do right?  anyways, im doing okay though.  how about yourself?  what have you been  up to lately?

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    too much...you know me.  Not enough writing or sleep but tons of work.  Feell like a dog chasing its tail! 
    
    I'm heading off in a bit but hopefully will jump in again tonight or tomorrow.  My scores are plummetting as well as my views.  I didn't think the Google change would affect me so much! 
    
    Love ya!

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       Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       aw thanks, i love you too, beth.   well hopefully your traffic picks up soon. i'm sure it will.  hopefully, i'll see you around later tonight, as i know everyone missed you while you were gone in forums.

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          Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks Stevie-Boo. We'll catch up later.  xox

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             Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

             I can't wait. i look forward to seeing you again then. xoxoxo

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    Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

    Hey this kids at school!!
    
    Oh mommy wheres the daddy at ? or is he on the bottle

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    CARIBQUEENposted 14 years ago

    My God, does she still have milk in those breasts.  What could possibly possess her to breastfeed an eight year old child.  Is she crazy? I can't imagine a school child spending a full day at school, playing and learning and then comes home and jump on my breast - YIKES!! - Disgusting!!

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       Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         my sentiments exactly!

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    Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

    Thought this thread had been milked enough already-ok who bumped it up:lol:

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          sharnasposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I can't believe it. Will continuie breast milk  for a long time as this???   
          I pray God  ' may i feed my baby till his second birth day '

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    Joy56posted 14 years ago

    how does she do it, they bite.... as soon as they get teeth..... I believe long long ago children were breast fed this length of time though.
    
    just watched the video it does  not look nice.  The children draw feature her nipples in lots of their drawings, that is strange.  Maybe they have it right and we have it wrong, who knows??????

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    ajcorposted 14 years ago

    in a word - revolting....if the child is old to undo the mother's blouse to help itself to the milk bar then it is certainly old enough not to drink from her breast!!  and I too could not watch the video...however if this was the only way the mother could provide sustenance to child then OK...but surely that is not in this day and age!

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    Monisajdaposted 14 years ago

    I know many will not like what I have to say but extended breastfeeding used to be the only way humans survived. It was a standard to breastfeed at least until a child turned 3, in some cultures 4. Children who are breastfed longer than usual American average, that is about 6 months (if they are lucky),tend to take cues from their mom and don't bite. It is interesting that so many of you condemn the idea of extended breastfeeding but how many of you  actually have a remote experience with nursing a child older than a year old? I personally don't think I would be comfortable nursing a 7 year old and neither a 6 or 5 year old. But many of you frowned upon nursing a child that already has teeth. There are many poor infants who get their first teeth at an early age of 3 months, does that mean they need to be weaned onto a bottle of formula? 
    Breastfeeding is not the same as bottle feeding. There is much more to it than just feeding. It is love giving and that's why children are so attached to it.

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    Mommy Sposted 14 years ago

    Absolutely not. I also believe in baby-led weaning. However, you need to pay attention to your child's signals. There comes a time when a mother may ignore the signals because she's not ready to let go. I have no problem breastfeeding until the baby is 2, but by then you're looking at pre-school and playdates and you're baby won't want to be breastfeeding during those times. My baby is 11.5 months and weaning herself from day-time feedings. She may very well want to nurse before bed until she's 1.5yrs old, but no way would I allow her to go past 2. Sometimes kids just need a little push! 8 is far too long to allow it!

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    zampanoposted 14 years ago

    Well, it must depend of the pleasure she takes out of it.
    But she'd better feed him something else also because her milk would not be rich enough to guaratee the kid's harmonious growth.
    Nevertheless, she should be aware of the risk of being accused of incest, she's taking. There are people who see evil everywhere...
    She'd better have an adult suck her.

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    camloposted 14 years ago

    I just watched the video and ... I don't really know what I think about it. It certainly seems weird - to me.

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    Disturbiaposted 14 years ago

    This is just wrong on so many levels, and just plain creepy.   I so don't agree with this.

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hey Disturbia Always a pleasure to see you and I hope you're doing well.

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          Disturbiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Hi Cags, sorry I missed you.  Hope you are doing well as well

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       camloposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, on so many levels. I still don't know exactly what I think about it. I found seeing that 7- or 8-year-old girl suckling up to the mother's breast somewhat disturbing. It looked very unnatural, too. Grotesque.
       
       And how silly is this argument about the children deciding for themselves when they should stop feeding from the breast? Can small children decide such a thing? Isn't it the mother's responsibility to decide?

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    cheaptrickposted 14 years ago

    I'm sixty...and I still breast feed on occasion...Sorry,just couldn't resist:)

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       NateSeanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       It's the Internet. Nothing surprises me anymore.

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    Greek Oneposted 14 years ago

    18 years old should be the cut off date.
    It would be hard to enter military service if one's nutritional supply is still based back home while you are overseas

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       NateSeanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       On the otherhand, if the military determines it to create smarter soldiers...it goes back to the whole logistics thing. Logistics tends to outweigh morality.

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    amanda7878posted 14 years ago

    I dont believe it is right for a kid to breastfeed at that age even though she said it is up to tem I mean come on do you let your kids get away with everything all the time then

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       NateSeanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I suppose if it was a choice between letting the kid get into drugs and letting him drink milk from my breast, I'd probably lift my shirt too.

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    recommend1posted 14 years ago

    there was a movement some years back for breasfeeding older kids, from the same place as waterbirthing, and a host of other odd things that mostly have become 'normal' or disappeared.
    
    There is no practical reason why this mother should not do what she wants, except the teeth maybe.  There is no evidence that it might mentally harm the kid.  It is her body and her kid - just because it is not what you all consider normal does not make it bad ion any way - in fact study might show that you are harming your childrens development by stopping breastfeeding too early, something has to be responsible for so many under achievers around these days.

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       girlgonestrongposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       The lack of achievement is due to a lack of proper nutrition, physical fitness, and proper social structure.  Not a lack of breastfeeding.

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    breastpumpreviewsposted 13 years ago

    Two  is pushing it for me.  I wouldn't let my 8 year old drink milk from my breasts.

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    SanXuaryposted 13 years ago

    I think she should keep feeding them until they are 21 and he can man up and drink some beer. This mom needs some help maybe she should rent her jugs out or something.

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