Pay for your boyfriend,is it stupied?

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   tristawuposted 13 years ago

   nowadays,some of the people will considers that pay for boyfriend,the man is not a real man.
   what do you think of it?
   i dont think so in fact.not both of them are borned in the same familiy.some times, he needs help on finacial,you just want to help him.and at the same time,you really love him,never calculate the money you spend on him.just want to help him.
   what do you think of it?

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      puridydaiziposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      To me  it is more gentleman like if the guy pays.  I do understand there maybe a time you might would have to pay for your boyfriend, but don't give him  the advantage of it.  you might end up being used.

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      jxb7076posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      personally, I don't think you spend a penny on a man or woman you're not married to with the exception of an engagement, or a very long term relationship.  If the relationship is too long without engagement then you need to ask yourself where its going?  If he can't afford you, how can he afford a child?  Think about it!

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   ilmdamailyposted 13 years ago

   You can spend money on me :-P
   
   But seriously, I don't think it's a big deal. I can see why some guys prefer to "pay for everything", but I don't think that sharing the expenses of a relationship equally lessens either party...

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   Sunny_Sposted 13 years ago

   I buy everything my girlfriend desires. A guy always has to pay unless you are married. Be Gentlemen MEN!!

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   Dame Scribeposted 13 years ago

   I wouldn't pay if $$ requests was a regular event otherwise yes, I dont mind 'loaning' a few bucks out to a guy friend, cousin, or brother

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   Flightkeeperposted 13 years ago

   I think it's fine if the girl pays as long as they take turns.  Especially if you earn more than him.

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   virtuenoteposted 13 years ago

   No, not stupid. But if it is you who must always pay, then, yes, it is stupid

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   Anjiliposted 13 years ago

   Love is a two-way traffic. Money doesn't count here.

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   truebluewriterposted 13 years ago

   I don't think its stupid. If a girl feels that paying for her boyfriend is ok or the right thing to do then who  am I to tell her otherwise. Just do what you want.
   
   Having said that though the boyfriend better feel like crap when the girl does this hehe. Or at the very least feel that he has to make up for it.
   
   Splitting expenses is good but freeloading never has been and never will be.

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   kirstenblogposted 13 years ago

   Why is it OK for the man to pay for everything but not for a woman?
   When this is the case something seems very out of wack to me

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    Paul Wingertposted 13 years ago

    I personally think that the man and woman should take turns paying. That's always how my relationships were. Sharing is a good thing.

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    perfectperceptionposted 13 years ago

    Personally, I do not believe in paying for a man; however, I will take him out to dinner or on a weekend from time to time in appreciation for all he does.

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    tarkishatposted 13 years ago

    Paying for a man is okay only if you know in fact that he will do the same for you. It does not matter what background he came from. We must not vacate our role as the woman. The man should be the one that wines and dines you. Don't fall for the Okey Doke Ladies, some men try to play you, just because he knows that you have money. Times have changed, that is true, but they haven't changed that damn much. If he's not paying for nothing at all, then you need to kick his broke azz to the side. He has nothing for you and he is use to a woman taking care of him. If he knows that you have money and he doesn't, then he would be out there trying to find a way to match what you are bringing to the table. Ladies don't get it twisted because of a change in time. A real man will still get out there and make it happen for the woman he loves. Please Believe It!

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    logic,commonsenseposted 13 years ago

    Let's see, how does that song go?  "Everywhere I go, I'm just a gigilo!"

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    You can pay for a boyfriend now? How much does one cost? Where do you order one??

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    stefferposted 13 years ago

    i don't see, why it would be stupid to pay for a man on a night out, specially when he's your boyfriend or husband.
    
    times has changed, of course when you take him on a date and getting to know each other, i think it's normal that the man should pay.
    
    But, let's say, every time you go to a restaurant, bar, the movies, and the man needs to pay, believe me in the end he get's tired of it. In most cases, the man and woman both have a job, and an income, both have their expenses, so why shouldn't a woman pay sometimes?

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