Sex involving men and women

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   Zaiden Jaceposted 14 years ago

   Why is it that men can have sex with as many women as they want and are considered all high and mighty but women are sluts if they do it?

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      pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm asking myself the same question. It's like an old and stupid cliche but the thing is I guess this is how men can prove their masculinity or something and the worst thing is that they also feel the need to let everybody know about it(I mean if they cheat they are not satisfied with just doing it, they have to  be applauded by their friends too).And I also believe that by being with many women they can feel more confident, but seeing women doing the same makes them feel less important and less confident. And I don't know why every man has a good impression about him!(I mean I have gorgeous female friends that have at least one complex and I see men with a bagpipe instead of a belly who walk as if they were at least Mr Perfect).I don't know I'm a little feministe maybe and I like to be treated as a man's equal(because I am, like every woman is).

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      Merlin Fraserposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      In spite of many of the other answers it has sod all to do with Christianity, Sin or any other religious tosh.
      
      It's an animal thing and it's in the genetic make up of every male. All males think of themselves as Alpha Males or the top dog, because only the Alpha of the herd or pack is allowed to breed.
      
      This is where male aggressive posturing and loud bragging talk comes in, it's a show put on to impress the watching females and a demonstration to other males of superior health and strength. Of course a more violent demonstration maybe required to make the other males back off.
      
      This purely animal instinct is nature's way of ensuring only the strongest and best survive. The female for her part used to be impressed by this show of strength as a way of ensuring her own offspring would inherit these strong genes and therefore produce strong healthy babies.
      
      Of course, in his supreme arrogance Man has completely managed to screw the whole thing up with centuries of uncontrolled copulation leading to the massive over population of the human animal species over the entire planet.
      
      Competition for breeding females has diminished leading to the free for all system we have today with any female being susceptible to any male who assumes an Alpha image....!       The urge to assume the stance of an Alpha male is still genetically strong in practically all normal males, although over time the female of the species has become less susceptible to this type of posturing and has now become more interested in material wealth than physical strength in their males.  (WAG’s and Bimbo’s are of course the exception still being attracted to the dumb athletic type who by sheer dumb luck makes mega bucks by hitting or kicking balls (not unlike his ancient ancestors did  !!!)).
      
      There is the other possibility that over the eons of time instead of merely a means of procreation of the species many of us have discovered that SEX is a lot of fun and seek out others who share the notion.  As long as it is done with due care and responsible attention to the health and wellbeing of both partners is there any need for name calling by either sex ?  After all is said and down for every willing male there has to be an equally willing female.....

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      NotPCposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That is more of a joke now than an actual stereotype lol

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   Because in Christianity:
   
   1. Sex is a sin
   2. Women is an inferior being to man.
   
   And the whole "western culture" is built on christianity.

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      pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Women are inferior to men ???What are we like in the Antiquity or something??Women can do everything men can and in most cases a lot more. Women can play men the way they want without them even knowing! You know what it's said: behind every strong man stands an even stronger woman.

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         MoneyCreator24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         And behind every strong woman is a man who looks at her ass.

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            pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            He can look, watching is free but can he touch?

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               MoneyCreator24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Within looking is much more erotic than in touching

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                  pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  Maybe watching is more erotic but for how long?I mean you just watch and go home alone for the rest of your life?I think at some certain moment you will wish for something else, something more palpable.

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                     MoneyCreator24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     For sure - I love to have something palpable. You have no clue how much I love it. But erotic is fantasy. It is like a picture in the water surface. The moment you touch it you destroy it. As I think.

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                  schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  that's why many women dress modestly as to not give men that pleasure. In Christianity........................It's a sin to dress imodestly
                  
                  nuff said

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         Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I did not say "I think woman is inferior to man", but it is certainly written all over bible.

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            pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Well then maybe I have a different version of the Bible. But I'm asking you something else : think for yourself, without taking something writen in a book two thousands years ago, and tell me one domain in which women can't equal men.

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               Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               You keep missing the point it seems. I personally do not share the Christian notion of women being inferior to man, therefore I certainly am not interested in searching for the arguments to support that notion.

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                  pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  So you agree that women are the best thing that could happen to men and that they can do everything better, they are smart, beautiful and fun, which leads to the fact that women are superior to men ?

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                     Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     Oh, absolutely! That's why I love every woman around, well, except for total bitches. Though Mark says it makes me a man-slut.

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                        luvpassionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                        Hello Mr. Misha happy Yule.
                        
                        B##ch here.

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                           Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           Hi Luv Nah, you don't qualify, at least based on what I see here.
                           
                           What is Yule btw?

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                              luvpassionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                              The winter solstice.

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                                 Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                                 Thanks

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               DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               hubby can spell his name in the snow better then I can. 

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                  Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  ROFLMAO DM, hard to argue against this one

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               LondonGirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Peeing up a wall?

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                  pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  )))))yeah...we're defeated!)

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                     LondonGirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     Which I can live with, to be honest (-:

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      Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Hey Misha, dont get to see you around  much anymore
      
      
      Many cultures see a man's worth as being higher,since traditionally they were /have been the breadwinner or the protector of the village....now
      
      Modern western men ,well , um....they just remind me of that Carly Simon song
      
      Youre so vain , lol lol

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         Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Most guys love the title 'slut puppy' like its really hard to achieve these days 

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         Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Hi Kiwi
         
         You don't seem to be a frequent visitor nowadays either. Well, work and other stuff certainly interfere, and then the amount of JC/government/google worshiping nuts here seems to be on the rise lately and it is often no longer fun to participate...

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      Brenda Durhamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Sex isn't a sin in Christianity.  I dunno where you got that idea.
      Perverted or unsanctioned sex is.

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         Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         At least you don't object that woman is inferior to man in Christianity. So, shut up woman, I know better

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            Brenda Durhamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            hey now I didn't agree that women are inferior either.
            LOL
            
            A woman's silence doesn't equal agreement.  At least not always.
            We have much information and wisdom when read between the lines....

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               Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               LOL No doubt about that - though I could not stand the temptation to pull your leg

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      Anathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That is one of the reasons why I prefer clubbing than church going ;-) and btw... isn't it just delicious to sin

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         Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Surely it is delicious!

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   thirdmilleniumposted 14 years ago

   This started from cavemen who wanted to make sure that their off-spring were really theirs and though  jealousy and things have taken over the original contention, the notion has remained intact.

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   damian0000posted 14 years ago

   I don't think it's true...
   
   Is that not one of the big achievements of last 20 years --- to liberate women more? I am not saying things are now perfect but it is the same with religious equality or race equality, but surely things have improved a lot

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   ridposted 14 years ago

   if a key opens lots of locks its a master lock
   if a lock gets opened by loads of different keys its a shit lock
   
   lol

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 14 years ago

   ...i guess it all depends on who you ask....i don't really consider promiscuous men as 'all high and mighty' ....nor women as 'sluts'....that term really makes me cringe btw.....

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      someone said in another thead that  men differently like you said but I believe it's important for the woman to decide what she is comfortable with. Some women like the blonde in Sex in the City-samantha feel great having sex "like a man" and some need to be married.  It's sort of a personal choice I think just as men think differently- and some respect women regardless some don't on and on.
      
      I won't say how I feel. but i agree...

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   The common terms, "tom cats" or "alley cats" doesn't suggest "high and mighty" to me.

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   ahorsebackposted 14 years ago

   What makes you think that men or women having lots of partners is anything but stupidity anyway. Sex without the emotional ties? Wasted . There is no better sex than that loaded with emotion.

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   Mikeydoesposted 14 years ago

   I personally think girls need to look at themselves.
   
   In High School it seemed like girls would call each other sluts all of the time.  And when guys get with girls we slapped hands with each other. Guys usually like those types of girls, so.
   
   I can't tell you how many times I've heard "Eww you like that girl, she is such a slut!" (from girls, not guys)

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    MoneyCreator24posted 14 years ago

    Good question. What do you think? - Men are also celebrated as heroes when they return from a war where they killed many people. Is kind of strange too.

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       pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       This is a complicated and complex subject.They are heroes not because they killed people but because they fought for a cause, to save their country or something noble. It goes like...kill a number of people to save a country or the freedom of a nation.

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          MoneyCreator24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          What could be a noble reason for killing people?

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             pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Defending your country as I said. In some moments there was no other way. History had funny ways to pass on...

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    MoneyCreator24posted 14 years ago

    I think this has much to do with the fact that men need a goal. Men must fight for something valuable, to feel good. And women have always been extremely valuable. Men need the effort if they want to get something. They want and need to do something for their goal. Only then will they appreciate what they achieved or received. Without struggle no appreciation. And if a man can have a woman just like that, without the need to fight for it, he can not appreciate this treasure. And it does not matter how many men the woman had.
    I think that's behind it.

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       pink flavourposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I agree with you that without fighting you can't really enjoy what you achieve. And I wasn't talking about women who give themselves from the very first moment. And this is available for men too. No woman desires a man who has no mistery surrounding him(or at least a little). But the problem is that sometimes a woman is called a slut by a man who can't have her even if he fights hardly for her. So if he can't have her she is a slut, but if he somehow achieves his goal and starts a relationship with her, it doesn't matter, as you said, how many men she was with before.  Is that fair?

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          MoneyCreator24posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I know what you´re talking about. But life is nothing about being fair at all.
          
          And I see now I interpreted the word "slut" different.

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    richtwfposted 14 years ago

    Double standards - Isn't it? Women have never really been treated fairly in many respects. You can see this through all areas of our lives from the work place to the point that you've raised here. If men behaved and acted in a better way and respected women more then some women needn't play the same game as men and get criticised. So men should first set a better example and the women then might follow!

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    Ben Evansposted 14 years ago

    There really isn't too much of a stigma anymore.  I don't believe that people really care that much.
    
    This used to be something that was more prevalent. Years ago most people were more chauvinistic.

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    nomorerackposted 14 years ago

    i think this has something to do with earlier days when men are higher in rank in the society wherein they have full control of the society they abused their power and whenever they thought that their girl is cheating on them, they condemned them as a result society stereotype that men could have all the women in the world then women if they have more than 1 men they are a slut.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

    Women are not inferior in the Bible ?
    
    In fact Jesus liberated them. Maybe some people are confused about the role of Religion ( Man-made) and Christianity ( Christ led)
    
    
    
    
    Yea Misha I agree its not so much fun anymore ,although I cam back to write a hub and participate in the community a lil bit.
    
    Even spent a couple of hours hub hopping ,but my scores gone down ,so Im better off staying away

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    awesome77posted 14 years ago

    You must understand that guys are not that emotionally tied to the act, it is a hormone thing!
    
    Your question is not completely accurate! Women do sleep around, only they are more discreet and sneaky about it!
    
    Just to prove my point, most women have had more sexual partners than guys! Women do lie about how many guys they've slept with, while guys inflate the numbers! Take a poll if in doubt!

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    know oneposted 14 years ago

    For innocent pecks she turns out her cheek,
    yet longs for the tongue that turns all resolve weak.
    But nice girls don’t ask for - and rarely will get -
    what bad girls demand and almost never regret.
    
    

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    ssaulposted 14 years ago

    more and more people are being casual in all parts of the world, no one seems to have a problem with it!

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