Height: a Touchy Issue for Women

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   apekshaposted 14 years ago

   I am now 25 and 5'4" and If i wan  to increase my ht now is that possible..I have asked to doctor but they says its only possible for grls before 20..

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      Uninvited Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Stop replying to spammers and keeping their links intact.

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   SweetiePieposted 14 years ago

   I am 5'3 and proud of my height .  My great grandmother was 4'10 and my great aunt was 4'11.

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      Uninvited Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      So, basically you are considered tall in your family I'm 5'3 also...and a quarter

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         lisafwg01posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Goodness, I feel like the Jolly Green Giant here, just as I do in my own family. I'm adopted, and at not quite 5'8" I tower over my Mom (whom we say is 5', but is actually under), my Sister (5'2") my Brother (5'4 and a bit) and my Dad (who has shrunk considerably from his original 5'9"). My Sister and Brother are my parents bio-kids and they get their height from them.

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         apekshaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I am 5'4" still wan be tall
         
         :0

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         countrywomenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I am taller than my mother who is 5 feet and I am 5" 3' (although I wish I was 2 inches taller). I always felt taller women could carry more weight unlike me(even a few extra pounds tend to show immediately). But now I guess I am used to my height. Btw I don't appreciate somebody I don't know personally telling me that I am inadequate because of my height.

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      apekshaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      

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   SweetiePieposted 14 years ago

   Actually I forgot to mention I am shorter than my dad, my mom, and my sisters.  However, I take after the women on my dad's side of the family, who are all about my height.  This was just one of the weirdest spam threads to be honest, and all it does is prey upon the insecurities a few women may have about their body.

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   Leta Sposted 14 years ago

   Do people actually sell such crap?  Really?
   
   I never thought that hard about this.  And actually, the above 'stats' are wrong.  Average height in the US for a woman is 5'4."
   Which, incidentally, is what I am. 
   
   Never felt really short, never felt very tall.  And I wear heels 9 times out of 10 anyway.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   Isn't it pathetic that people marketing crap will use the technique of trying to make people feel bad about what they are.  It's one thing when you're an adult and see these things for what they are.  It's another if you're an insecure teen (and most of are), and someone is willing to take advantage of that.
   
   The average height range for women is something like 5' 2" to 5' 6", with 5' 4" the "absolute average".  As long as petite women resign themselves to never becoming "super models", being within the average range is nice.

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   Rochelle Frankposted 14 years ago

   So we should wear high heels and vertical stripes?? Wow waht great advice, never would have thought of it-- then we take some magic tonic or something?
   I think I'll pass. I'm even through with the heels since I'm about 5'8", and it doesn't really matter one way or another.
   edit: Oh good it's gone-- except for the copy.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   and vertical stripes are such an appealing look to boot.   

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      Rochelle Frankposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      As long as the 'boots' have high heels.

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   Laughing Momposted 14 years ago

   I have no problem at all being 5'4". I've been that height most of my life. I've never had anyone really hassle me about it, but I figure we're all as God made us.
   Would I feel differently if it had been a source of torment by others? Perhaps. I don't know.
   But it seems like a very petty thing for people to judge others by.

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   Raven Kingposted 14 years ago

   That is a surprise.  You should live in Texas, they worship the shorties. I'm about 5'10 and that was never a plus or a minus. I think they love shorties in hollywood too.
   If they don't appreciate you just move on.

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      apekshaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed its true Just neglect people who asks u abt ht...

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    Sufidreamerposted 14 years ago

    My partner is 5'3" and I am 6'4", so you should not worry about height! Petite is beautiful.
    
    My girlfriend at university was 5' - made for some interesting photographs

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       Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       See!  Another advantage.  We can go for guys a variety of heights and it doesn't matter...  My current guy is 6,' which is just fine.  My grad school boyfriend was 5'8," though, and it was fine, too. He was still 4 inches taller than me!
       

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          countrywomenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I think it is a problem which cuts both ways. One of my cousin was  5" 5' and even girls who were 5"3' tend to have reservations about marriage proposals with our family. I have spoken to some of my friends and they all seem to like taller guys(even though we ourselves may not be tall). Now he is happily married(and his wife is 5"1'). He was one of the funniest cousins with a great sense of humor besides being brilliant in studies.

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             Rochelle Frankposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             There is an expression which asserts: "Good things come in small packages".

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                countrywomenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Rochelle- Well that's good one for those of us who are still seeking those few extra vertical inches. Now I am happy with my height and only worry about horizontal inches gaining around me...LOL

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                Sufidreamerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                That expression has been a great comfort to me over the years.

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             Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Well, not me.  Within reason.  A guy 5'6,5'7,5'8 is just fine...  I only ever went out (extremely briefly, and that mainly for other reasons) with one guy I felt was 'too' short--and he WAS, for me--I'm small enough already.  He made me feel like I was a huge monster or that I was going out with a little kid or something, as he was an inch or 2 shorter than me and I mean TINY.  Long story--don't even ask--another bad dating experience, lol...  He was on a large bicycle when I met him.  God.  The whole thing is funny now.

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                countrywomenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Well I agree height shouldn't be an issue but I read somewhere that taller people earn more as they are perceived to some how have the leadership qualities. I agree those who have "ego or complexes" then it is altogether another problem. I was just mentioning about my sweet cousin and my views (which are strictly based on his individual case and can't be generalized).

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       Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hey Sufi, I love short girls too

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          Sufidreamerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          
          
          They are the best.
          
          Mind you, I don't have much choice

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             VioletSunposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             You and your sweetie must look cute together. It's interesting, I never considered height would be an issue with women, none of my friends of varying heights ever complained about their height, we were more obsessed with weight.

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                Sufidreamerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Thanks!
                
                There you go - you can see that there is a little bit of a height difference
                
                

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                   nazishnasimposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Such a cute, cheerful couple!

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                   VioletSunposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   I was just about to sign off but decided to check this forum, and aaaw, you two look so good together. Made my heart expand.

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                   apekshaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Oh! nice couple...
                   U dont hesitate to tell about that height disparity...so good...

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    Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

    My father was fairly short for a man, and all my girlfriends AND their mothers used to talk about how "handsome" or "attractive" he was.  I know it wasn't particularly his preference to be among the shorter men, but apparently it wasn't the "end of the world" as far as his "appeal" went.  Height (lots of it or not much of it) doesn't determine appeal.
    
    (One thing that my old fashioned, short, father of mine always used to say was, "Watch out for stuff sold from some countries.  They don't care about our kids or our health.  You don't know what they put in stuff.  All they care about is making money."  He's been gone for decades, but I couldn't resist putting his "advice" on this particular post.)

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    LondonGirlposted 14 years ago

    Can't see that height is a big deal, really. My immediate family's pretty tall - I'm 5 ft 7, and my father, mother, brother, and one of my sisters are all taller than me. The other sister is 5 ft 4, but it doesn't seem to have ruined her life thus far!
    
    I've got a great photo showing my mother as a child, aged about 6, with my grandmother, great-grandmother, and great-great-grandmother. My Granny is a good deal taller than the rest, which is odd, as I know she never topped 5 ft 3 even in her prime.

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    Marisa Wrightposted 14 years ago

    I always say quality is more important that quantity (I'm 5ft 3in too)

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    Hope Alexanderposted 14 years ago

    I can't say I have ever thought about my height as being an issue (5'7) - perhaps because I'm about average? Women usually worry about the size of various assets and relative proportion of curvy features rather than height, surely. I've certainly never heard of a woman being unattractive because she was short.. have a friend who is really short, maybe 5'2 or so and she never had any problem with guys. Being blonde, blue eyed and cute may have helped with that also...

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       Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I used to worry about being short when I was a teenager - but then I worried about everything to do with my appearance as a teenager!
       
       As an adult, I've never given my height much thought - until I joined an online dating site a few years ago. Members could create a standard search profile, including things like height, weight, hair and eye colour, interests, location, etc etc.  I was incensed to discover that almost all men (even short ones) set the minimum height for their prospective partner at 5ft 4in!  Nearly all men (even old ones) set the maximum age at 49.  So I wouldn't even make it into the search results!  The solution was simple of course - I deducted one year from my age and added one inch to my height, and you can bet none of the guys noticed...

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    Everyday Miraclesposted 14 years ago

    I've always quite liked being on the shorter side. I'm 5'2" and 3/4 lol

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    Gordon Hamiltonposted 14 years ago

    Ladies, I am sure each and every one of you is adorable. I am a man who would never presume to judge a lady with regards to her height - it is irrelevant! I just find it so amusing to find women talking on a forum about "size" in "this" respect.

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    Dame Scribeposted 14 years ago

    I am 5'8 n my sons are 6' + n they call me shorty lol ... thank you Gordon, very kind of you to share with us.

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    bgpappaposted 14 years ago

    Giant:  I am six foot five.  If only I could jump

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    Profmaggyposted 14 years ago

    Actually it is possible to increase your height but not by much.  I teach yoga and my students grow an average of 1/2 to 1 inch in the first year.
    It's due in part to correct posture and stronger muscles enabling space to occur within the body and the spine.
    The students were astounded when the first student to report this came back from her annual physical.  They have all found this to be true for themselves now.
    My students are dedicated (1-3 times per week) and range from 24 to 80 years so the height growth does not happen for someone who only does yoga say once a month.

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    Dame Scribeposted 14 years ago

    Bgpappa ...what did your parents feed you? I had to feed steaks to my sons..still do lol

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    Leta Sposted 14 years ago

    No, it cannot be generalized.  And, well, besides the fact this guy turned out to be a weirdo (the story is so funny, but I'm not going to relate it here), he WAS too short for me.  I couldn't be attracted to a guy who looked like a little kid and had smaller feet than me...  I know that might be bad of me, but, ?  That's what I felt like.
    
    But I believe there is a big difference with people in the actual normal range and those who really are very very short, etc.

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    Rochelle Frankposted 14 years ago

    Well it is an issue-- but then there was a rather short guy: Napoleon. On the other hand, the Saul was chosen as king  of Israel because he was tall.

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    Moonchild60posted 14 years ago

    Well, well, well...I am 5 ft 3 and clearly in very good company!!  I always say I never wanted to be tall and I prayed to God when I was 9 or 10 to please let me be short and cute....now when I tell people that I say I must have prayed too hard....But I like my height.  My son is 6 ft. 1 inch tall, I have no clue how that happened, but when I need things from the upper shelves I just ask him.

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    Shirley Andersonposted 14 years ago

    5 ft. 3 and 3/4" but I always just say 5'4".  One of my grandmas barely reached 5' and my great grandmother was 4'11" in her prime.
    
    My daughters are my height, a teensy bit shorter, and my son is 6'.
    
    We really haven't had any probs regarding height, aside from not being able reach things up high ourselves.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    Shirley, love your new pic

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       Shirley Andersonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks, Misha.  I get tired of looking at the same one after awhile.

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    VioletSunposted 14 years ago

    I am 5 ft 7in tall and I comfortable with my height. My immediate family is tall, but most of my cousins are not.

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    VioletSunposted 14 years ago

    Sufidreamer: I love that necklace your s/o is wearing, my style!

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    Sufidreamerposted 14 years ago

    Thanks Nazish - it was my little sister's wedding, so it was a good day.
    
    Cheers Violetsun - I think that I bought that in Monemvasia - an old Greek town with lots of nice craft shops.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 14 years ago

    Lovely photo, was that taken in Preston or Greece?????

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    Sufidreamerposted 14 years ago

    Hi Brenda - at the registry office in Lancaster - my wee sister's wedding!

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 14 years ago

    your wee sister.... so she is younger or not as tall or both..

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       Sufidreamerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Both, although my wee sister is also tall - we are from a tall family! I have two nephews who are already as tall as me, and they are only 17 and 18.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 14 years ago

    Sounds like you could have a basketball team in your family..
       Have you drunk any freshly squeezed oranges from the tree this morning.......??????

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       Sufidreamerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       We did indeed - fresh orange and a pasta salad for brunch.
       
       Apeksha - just goes to show - these height programs are the biggest scam of all. Height is irrelevant when compared to a beautiful smile or sparkling eyes

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          apekshaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Thats true..I agree....
          It all varies from person toperson..I think u are good humanbeing...
          

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    Susan Ngposted 14 years ago

    I'm 5'2", but I've never really wanted to be taller since most of the men I know aren't that tall. I do want to be thinner though.  I'm 115 pounds and I want to lose 10-15 pounds. Anybody have any weight-loss secrets?

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    LondonGirlposted 14 years ago

    At 5 ft 2 and 8 stone 3lb, your BMI is about 21 - lower end of the healthy range (18.5 to 25).
    
    If you lost 15lb, and were 7 stone 2lb, your BMI would be below 18.5, and underweight rather than healthy.

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    Princessaposted 14 years ago

    I do not think as height being a touchy issue, I am barely 5'3" if I stretch it, and I love it
    
    I like wearing high heels but it is not to look taller, I just like it! Even more I love to be shorter -even wearing high heels- than the men I go out with. I would hate to be taller and go out with someone my own size or worst even, with someone shorter than me.

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