When Is It Right For A Girl To Sleep With A Boy For The First Time?

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   outdoorsguyposted 13 years ago

   as a father... Never.. girls listen up Men are gross avoid them.  LOL
   
   if they are of legal age.. I say take your time.. dont rush into anything.  its better to wait. but failing that, get to know them for a while.  if a guy cant hang around longer than four dates with out sex, he wants only one thing.    and dont fall for the I love you baby I really do and If you love me...  slap him, nail his ... Ummm , you know to the floor and leave the room   okay scratch that last.. slam a door closed on it a few times so he gets the hint.. Hmmm okay, forget that one too.   just leave but think real hard about those two options LOL

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   warrioRRposted 13 years ago

   After Marriage is the right time to this kind of work.
   But they can sleep together only if they sleep only!!!

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   gulnazahmadposted 13 years ago

   After marriage only I think there is no need to say any thing and this for both girl and boy no gender discrimination.

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   sterance2kposted 13 years ago

   it is only right, after you get married it even says it in the bible. people don't have sex before marriage it is wrong i am not trying to offend anyone here, i am just giving some helpful tips, that are true

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   casper18posted 13 years ago

   well you need to get married frist  then comes sex so many un planed things happen and depense on the situation the gril is put in too but other than that it is up to her

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   Ekpeesposted 13 years ago

   I dont know how old you are?but i wil advised you to concentrate on your studies and wait tii you get married.remember aids has no cure.dont despised thy youth.

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   phabsposted 13 years ago

   When you feel horny. Social constucts, morality, ethics are annihilated when you feel horny, the only thing between you and your boyfriend is your sexual attraction, embrace it and live it, but most importantly let it be. A lot of people say that it should be before marrige, but the reality is that the adolescent body is capable of having sex. The urges to have sex are seldom discarded, it is the social code that disorts perceptions of sex and petty traditions limit our nature to misery and frustration and religious taboos denigrate our instincive will. The contradictions to this very view will come from custom and religion, which proves its invalidity when faced with our indubitable way of being.

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   padmendraposted 13 years ago

   There is no compromise with the question. A girl when married to a boy  should sleep for the first time with her  bridegroom which is called the first night or honymoon night. This is never exclaimed to be a bad thing . and always regarded a welcome  step. by the family and society..

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   MzGe3posted 13 years ago

   Let's see...
   To start, I believe that parents can do their best to teach their children to make good decisions, and they will not always do this.
   
   Secondly, I dont believe that people should wait until marriage to have sex because what if they wait until their wedding night and it is not satisfying?...in more than one way? What if they figure out that they do not like sex with a person of that sex...then there may be a problem.
   
   Last, I think a woman should wait until she is ready. Whether it be with a guy or a girl, she should wait until she finds someone who makes her feel comfortable and safe. Whether its at 16, 18 or 30.
   
   Of course we dont think the same when we're 16 as we do when we're 18 or 21 but no one can prepare a girl for the emotions that come along with sex. As long as she has been informed of all of the risks envolved with sex AT ANY AGE, it will be up to her to protect herself.

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    edfishr911posted 13 years ago

    If they are both adults - it is a personal preference. No one can say...

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    OnlineHubposted 13 years ago

    It's only right for a girl to sleep with a boy after marriage. As much as possible, she should wait to become a woman to sleep with a man.

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    Bo Bixbieposted 13 years ago

    After her 3rd Zima. After the 2nd if she chugs them out of a beer bong.

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    schrimshposted 13 years ago

    The right time is your wedding night. Give him a unique and unforgetable gift that is very rare these days. Can you imagine the pride he will feel in saying his wife saved herself for him and she made him wait until their wedding night? I mean what other gift could you give him on your wedding night that could even come close? Sex before marriage is like sneaking into the closet and opening all your Christmas gifts and then rewrapping them and trying to act like it's a surprise on Christmas day.

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    Bikash jhaposted 13 years ago

    whenever she thinks or feel she need it and thats completly her decision. if she is feeling like she need it she should do it no need to get panicked and moral trauma drama, just be sure its your kind of guy, no need to make a long relationship if she dont want it or she dont like the guy, restrictive society can kiss her you know ........., and she is a girl she can get whatever she likes, torturing herself for stupid social rule is stupid

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    davidwagarposted 13 years ago

    well it is not right for a girl to sleep with boy at all before marriage

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    Daniel J. Neumannposted 13 years ago

    When it feels right.
    
    To me, it feels right after you've grown to love that person through a committed relationship... but, to each their own. I still haven’t had sex yet... darn it.

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    seekingaffairposted 13 years ago

    Is it really important for the men today? Before marriage. The couple had to understand if they can satisfy each other in sexual life before marriage. Until it's not late.

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    etymologicalposted 13 years ago

    When she's old enough and reasonable enough to make her own decisions, communicate (even with some stumbling) her desires and motivations, understand when to say "no" (and when to say "yes"!), and how to be as safe as physically possible. I've done sex ed for a few years, and I'll say - I've know a ton of women who have been married for years who still can't do all, or sometimes *any* of those.
    
    I was not in love, I was under 18... I wasn't even in a relationship. That was years ago, and I don't regret it at all, because it was awesome. I knew what I wanted, and even more importantly, I knew how to tell my partner what I wanted. I also bought my own condoms, got tested, and had a few hundred dollars in savings in case of any catastrophe.
    
    I disagree with waiting until marriage, simply due to how many marriages I've seen dissolve due to sexual incompatibility. Maybe she's into flogging, and he's a lights-off-sheets-on vanilla sort? Maybe she wants to have sex once a day, and he's the every-other-week sort? Maybe she can only come from direct stimulation, and he won't let her use a vibrator in bed?
    There are a lot of sexual things you just don't learn about yourself until you've had more experience, so it's not really even possible to communicate them prior to marriage if you've never done anything before.

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       Lady Guinevereposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Right On!!

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    deefosterposted 13 years ago

    i think you just answered that question....with the simple fact the are a "girl" and a "boy"..... so there is not a right time.  however when a man marries a women. that is the right time

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    sir_tallestposted 13 years ago

    Its hard to say these days....kids do it so fast and they make it sound like it can be done without any feelings attached....i would say kids should wait till they are old enough to bear whatever outcome their actions result to but they never......no matter when is written,it will be done when they feel like doing it instead of waiting for when they are old enough

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    Ella90posted 13 years ago

    When she feels ready, which is different for every girl and depends on the relationship she's in. Some girls don't feel ready or safe enough until after marriage whereas other girls feel mature enough, ready and that they are with the right persons when there 18 years old. The only common rule in all cases is it should be after adolescene and after the legal age of consent, and I personally believe after 18 years and after high school as personally that's the time I feel I matured most and became more independent and less likely to just do something because everyone else is doing it or allow myself to be pressured into doing something.

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    getitriteposted 13 years ago

    I certainly don't think she should wait til after marriage, but she should wait until after she reaches sexual maturity.

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    sid_candidposted 13 years ago

    Well the important thing to consider here is that the girl should be ready herself both physically and mentally. When to sleep with a boy for the first time should be completely her decision but I think she should be at least 18 to have any idea what she is getting into.

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    Liberateposted 13 years ago

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    A la carteposted 13 years ago

    I would think that sex should only happen when the girl is ready and certainly not before the legal age. Having said that it has to be a personal decision made without pressure.

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    pueblomanposted 13 years ago

    Yes it is right. I would say it was absolutely essential

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    JohnBarretposted 13 years ago

    If she want to Sleep only, she can sleep at any time.

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    Randy Simonatoposted 13 years ago

    Intensely debatable and overwhelmingly controversial and to be honest depending on the recipient who is asked this question there will never be a concrete answer.  What an amazing question and my best guess would be when they are both confident and trusting of each other.  I don’t think time plays a factor, marriage is typical but when you are both confident and trusting of each other the timing might seem appropriate.

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    mdlawyerposted 13 years ago

    It depends on the social and legal principles of the place in which the two reside.  The boy and the girl should be physically and emotionally mature for the union and it should be sanctioned by law and the social customs and traditions of the place.

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    iamalegendposted 13 years ago

    After they married properly.But if they are brother and sister there is no problem

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    Smaridge01posted 13 years ago

    I think it should be at some point AFTER they stop referring to themselves as Boy and Girl, and come to be Man and Woman.

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    Mark Upshawposted 13 years ago

    When the timing is right.  It is an internal thing.  It could be right without even knowing his name.

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    PMS9posted 13 years ago

    From my opinion It should be after Marriage, so it will maintain life-long married and happy life.

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    meantforseaposted 13 years ago

    Honestly, I would say after she's eighteen, because face it, no one knows what they're doing (even at eighteen). Marriage is just a piece of paper, people can cheat, lie, what-have-you. I guess when she thinks she's found a non-scumbag that she actually has feelings for and trusts. I know, it's hard. If every girl followed that, I think most women would still be virgins.

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    Abhaque Supanjangposted 13 years ago

    After marriage. This is the perfect place for a girl to make it. There will be no hesitation between her and her husband. She can make it whenever and wherever she want. Having a child is happiness in this relationship. Blessing by the God.

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    kat11posted 12 years ago

    Hopefully after they are at least 18, although girls are usually more mature emotionally they really need to take their time before sleeping with a boy. When they do decide to sleep with a boy they really should be ready to take responsibility as an adult.

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    Emily Sparksposted 12 years ago

    After, and only after marriage.  The Bible says that everyone who does so before marriage is a fornicator/adulterer.  The Bible also says that God will judge those who are.  Why take something(purity) or give it away to anyone?  This is for marriage only.

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    Hezmyjoyposted 12 years ago

    It is never right for a girl to sleep with a boy. Your question implies that these two are children. I think sex is entirely too emotional and intimate for children to engage in. There are entirely too many unwanted pregnancies and STD's in adults that wish they could turn back the clock and can't. If teachers were really teaching sex education, they could have the children listen to the cries of those who wish they abstained.

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    beatmakersnetposted 10 years ago

    probably on the 2nd date. if a girl doesnt sleep with m on the 2nd date she's toast it means she's too frigid and not geeenerous.

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       Lady Guinevereposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       ...and what if she gets pregnant, will you be responsible and raise that child?  It's boys like you who contribute to abortion and other irresponsible things and blame the girls.

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