Is it better to be honest or to keep it to yourself?

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   TheBlondieposted 12 years ago

   Is it better to be honest or to keep it to yourself?
   
   For smaller things like if people ask you how they look, etc.

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   PURPLECANDYposted 12 years ago

   I think if your opinion could cause a fight or damage your relationship,you should keep your thoughts to yourself.  In other words, do NOT be honest for the sake of the relationship - and maybe for the sake of the other person's feelings.  Like if you think your sister's haircut looks awful, don't blurt out, "wow, youlook like sh*(&t!"  How is that going to do any good?  Just say, "It's interesting!"  or "It suits your face!"  I believe in making people feel good about themself. Like what if this attractive woman was going by and your boyfriend said, "Man she is so hot, I wish you looked more like her!"  don't you wish he hadn't been so HONEST....because now you just feel bad about yourself.  We don't have to be honest about EVERYTHING.  Sometimes being kind is more important, I think.

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   jujanesterposted 12 years ago

   If I feel the need to say it,, then I will tell it...But If I dont feel like saying it,, then I won't..I'll just have to keep it myslef,,, well,, right now Im experiencing it,, at this very moment,,, I dont know,, I feel jealous right now,, Just checked my fb account,, and looked at my Bf's recent activities,, lol,,I found out he left some link to his " celebrity crush" with some message saying
   " can I be your body guard? my idol (Celebrity name)" lol..
   I felt jealous,, but iM  not  telling it to him....also when he told me that he had dreamed about his another "celebrity crush" which in that scene they're kissing! well he really told me his dreams! without realizing I was totally broken! and really jealous! I did not tell him!! but He noticed it....haiztttt.....

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   Ashantinaposted 12 years ago

   Honest.
   All the way..............................

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   Ancillottiposted 12 years ago

   Honesty is a virtue important, but should not be used if it is to hurt someone. If your opinion is at odds with what the people want and you want to be honest, look for nice words and be smooth in the telling.

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   Rastamermaidposted 12 years ago

   I keep it honest,but I also keep it real.
   
   Meaning sometimes is best to honestly keep your mouth shut,even on small things.
   
   Sometimes people ask questions they already know the answer to,just want to hear your opinion.
   
   My opinion should never mean more to you than your own.
   
   If a friend ask me how they look and it's horrible,I'll say look in the mirror,what do you think?
   
   Sometimes it pays to flip a question you really don't want to answer.

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   Edoka Writesposted 12 years ago

   You can be honest, but respectful. It's all about thinking your words through before verbalizing your opinions.

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   Dandraposted 12 years ago

   Best to be wise, and act according to the situation. It totally depends on what you deem as a "small" thing. Yeah but if people ask you how they look - well I'm honest often, I'll say "yeah that jacket's not working". Just be kind. And holistic.

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   easilymistaken4posted 12 years ago

   It depends on the situation. I think being honest is a good and bad thing at the same time. Just think before you speak!

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    ii3rittlesposted 12 years ago

    If my hair was messed up or an outfit was not flattering, I would want someone to be honest and tell me. I think its better to be honest with others and ourselves. Truth sometimes hurts but lies are worse.

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    Apostle Jackposted 12 years ago

    Oh what a tangled web we weave,when first we practice to deceive.It is better to get it out of the way,and move on,and you wont have to worry about it coming back to hunt you.

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    zduckmanposted 12 years ago

    The truth will set you free. It may seem difficult initially...but it is easiest in the end.

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    ravenlt04posted 12 years ago

    It absolutely depends on the situation/person!  It most cases honesty is the best policy, but if it will totally break someone's heart... find a nice but honest thing to say like about the color he/she chose to wear, for instance.  I generally tell my close friends the truth (for their benefit and own good)!  I definitely would want someone to tell me things like I have a boogie or a fly-away hair (you know, embarrassing things)!

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    Nancy Rubyposted 12 years ago

    Unless you have something nice to say...keep it to your self.

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    Melanie Trauschposted 12 years ago

    It's always better to be honest, but do so in a respectful way.

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    lovelife08posted 12 years ago

    Well if I asked my boyfriend how I look when we're about to go out, I would really rather him be honest, because I don't want to go out in public looking trashy or anything because he was afraid he would hurt my feelings.  As far as personal things that the public is forbidden from, it's okay if he exaggerates a little to make me smile.  I don't want to hear that he thinks I've got a little more body fat than he would like.  I'd rather hear that he likes how I look and thinks I'm cute, even on the days when I'm at my ugliest.

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