How do you get over your ex if you're still hung up on them a YEAR later? I'm a

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   emmy1980posted 12 years ago

   How do you get over your ex if you're still hung up on them a YEAR later?  I'm a moron.

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   missoliveposted 12 years ago

   Depends - are you hung up on him, or on the idea of who you thought he was?
   
   not an expert - its just the first thought that popped into my mind

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   LADYGIRLposted 12 years ago

   Let me ask you this, are you very outgoing person?  If you are, by keeping yourself busy with different activities, you wouldn't even think about him so much.  If you was a outgoing person about a year ago he would probably be off your mind.  However you need to keep your mind occupied, sometime we tend to think about what has been.  Because the time is free.  So I suggest just keep yourself active by doing different things, eventually you will not think about him.  Oh yeah somebody new may come into your life during the process.  Thanks

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   The first thing one has to do is accept the relationship is over. Keep in mind an ex is an ex for a reason and it's usually for a very good reason. Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.
   One of the advantages to having close friends, family, and co-workers is they are available to spend time with. Getting on with your life also means picking up on things you may have neglected due to the relationship. (hobbies, socializing with people you haven't seen in a while, and setting goals for your future.)
   
   Keep things in perspective. (If he was "the one" he would have saw you as being "the one" and you'd never would have broken up.) The following hub may give you some additional tips. Best of luck!
   http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … in-General

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   truthfornowposted 12 years ago

   You will get over the relationship once you admit it is really over.  It takes time but soon you will start to think about other things and other people.  Give yourself time and space to let go, and don't be too hard on yourself.

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   Artist-For-Hireposted 12 years ago

   I actually have blogs/websites that deal with this - I have a lot of experience & research & I like to *think* that I know my stuff. Firstly, your not a moron - you have shared a history together, that's not something that's easily forgotten.
   
   Totally agree with the first comment about being hung up on the ideals rather than the man himself. I see that a lot. There's a few things that we recommend:
   
   ** Time heals NOTHING...it's what you DO with your time.
   ** To surround yourself with people that love you.
   ** To get rid of EVERYthing that is holding you back - there's no point sleeping in his old t-shirt or wearing the watch he gave you...you're just reminding yourself of him.
   ** Write it down - everything, the good, the bad, the ugly..before, during & the aftermath. Be as dramatic as needed. Then burn it (safely!!). Sounds silly but works, it represents moving on.
   ** Get out & meet new people. Not dating (unless you're ready) but hobbies & interests that you used to do or wanted to do & never got around to doing. This one is about filling in the spare time and meeting new people who will appreciate you for who you are.
   
   At the end of the day, it's called a break up because something was broken. You deserved to be loved wholeheartedly.

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   ubanichijiokeposted 12 years ago

   Tell yourself the obvious truth. Do you still want the relationship? What made it not succeed? Why did you seperate? If you listen to yourself and realize that these problem[s] still persist, call it quit and stop further stress on your life.
   Thanks

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   emmy1980posted 12 years ago

   Thanks uban.... well I was not the one who ended it, and didn't want it to. There were no problems really. He just decided my life was too difficult for him even though he "loved" me.  I guess if there had been problems, I wouldn't still feel this way. I've walked away from men who didn't treat me well many times. When it's not my choice is when I have the problem.
   
   Thanks to everyone else - well I have three children and they keep me busy. I have friends, just moved to a place I love, and even have a boyfriend (and he is well aware of these persisting feelings).  I've done all the stuff you're supposed to do. And no, I'm definitely hung up on the man and not the idea of who I thought he was.     I'm actually wanting to try hypnotherapy. I wish I'd never met him and would like his memory removed from my brain.

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   lostwithinmyselfposted 12 years ago

   You have to try and let go which will be hard but it can be done believe me!
   stay strong and keep yourself busy!! x

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