Bored or just a whore?

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   Why do people cheat....is there anyone out there that can give a direct and honest answer?

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      Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      If someone can actually give you a single answer for this, I'd like to see them work on the cure for cancer next.

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         reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I believe that is being worked on....fyi:  as for cheaters, they need work on a cure for themselves as well, what it is.... only they individually know....now it's just a matter of whether or not they want to fix it by fessing up.

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      pylos26posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Because it gives one an unfair advantage. Uhh...thats what i heard.

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      Sherry Bakerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Oddly enough, I just wrote a hub in answer to another woman's question about this same subject. The link is here, if you care to read it:
      
      http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Deal-with-Cheating
      
      In a nutshell, cheating is the symptom of the problem...never the actual problem. There are a myriad of reasons behind the actual act of cheating, but the actual cause is the person is unsatisfied for some reason.
      
      I'm not saying it is their partner's fault they cheated. But it is something about how they are interacting that resulted in this outcome.
      
      Think of relationship problems as being a sort of cancer that is eating away at the both of you. Something isn't right and eventually, this cancer will start to cause physical problems in the form of symptoms.
      
      Cheating is a symptom of this cancer that is eating you both alive. Others could be jealousy, verbal and physical abuse, withdrawal, lack of a sexual relationship... there are LOTS of symptoms. We just have to see them for what they are and not treat the symptom, and treat the real PROBLEM that caused them.
      
      Only when you can get to the real underlying cause that the relationship isn't working, can you eliminate the symptoms and keep them from coming back.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I have written a lot of article about cheating.
      
      People cheat for various reasons..boredom, sexual excitement,insecurity, revenge, values..
      
      mostly women cheat for emotional purposes
      
      most men are involved in physical cheating (casual sex etc.)
      
      the reasons are multi faceted and case to case basis,

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         Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I couldn't agree more. There is no one single reason why people cheat or have affairs.

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      what do you call a man who cheats?

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         reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         "Call it like you see it", dear.....Whatever name you place on it, so shall it be!  It aint hard to tell, neither is it any kind of science.
         
         Vonda G. Nelson

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            cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            oh, ok.
            
            i thought YOU were implying that if a woman cheats she is a whore but if a man cheats he is just bored and "doing what guys do".

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         Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         a man. Ive been told its how they are wired, and we should just learn to live with it....
         honestly tho..there just isnt a simple answer to this question.
         People do not always cheat becuase thier partner drove them to it.

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         Betty Reidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I think "skanky bastard" has a nice ring to it.  Unfortunately, I have some good friends who have cheated, so I don't get to say this phrase very often.

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            reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            lmaool

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               darkprincessposted 14 years agoin reply to this

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            marcel285posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            A man who cheats = Tea-bag whore

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         Mrs.Nitaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         a whoremonger. I think I spelled that right.

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         logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Liberal!

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      Ghost32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Wild title!
      
      Since I'm hardly qualified to judge the entire human race, I'll limit my answer to me (!) and my wife (!!) and ex-wives (!!!).
      
      1.  Me.  Did cheat once, toward the end of my first (of 7) marriages.  Reason:  Flailing around emotionally, angry at wife, bitter, whole host of negativity goin' on.
      
      2.  Wife #2:  Did once, early in the relationship.  I hadn't quit trying to be a control freak (though I was working on it), and it was her way of saying, "Oh, no you don't!"  Which I understood.  Painful, sure, but got the point across.
      
      3.  Wife #4:  Did once, late in the relationship.  Her way of trying to sort of "push me out the door". 
      
      4.  Present wife:  Did with 15 to 30 different partners, early on.  Reasons:  (1) Hadn't bottomed out on alcohol yet, (2) Hadn't yet figured out (after being molested by her father) that she COULD say no.  Note:  That all went down during our first 2 years together.  None since, and we've now been hooked at the hip for 13 years and counting.

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         dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         WOW~ I guess Love does Conquer all! Continued Luck in Love!

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      topgunjagerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      it's in our nature=)

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Because they want to

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      Anathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      adventure, lust, bare sexual attraction.  You don't really think about it, you don't go around thinking "I am going to cheat on him tonight".  It just happens because the circumstances are right, the flesh is weak and desire for the forbidden strong.

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         Poppa Bluesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I'll say! My legs wobbled just reading your response!

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            prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Hi POPPA, how are you?< how about your loyalty to your other ONE< hmmmm, the flesh must be strong not weak,

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               Poppa Bluesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Hi darlin! Oh yes, I can handle it but that doesn't mean I'm not tempted! I wrote a poem about temptation!

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               Anathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Don't be so harsh with PoPPa, pretty, life is too short to be commited to only one person...

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               tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Hey ! I didn't know Poppa have a 'one'!
               I thought he had a lot !!
               
               Who is it ?

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                  Poppa Bluesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  I love the new Avie! Very sexy!

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       Jeryposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think God created us with a strong desire to procreate and cheating is the result of these desires. Men of course have got it bad! While women not as much.Truth be known most men would have sex with a whole lot of women a whole lot of the time if they could. This is what's at the core of the issue (I feel) but of course there can be other variables involved in specific situations.
       My take on the subject for what it's worth.

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       marcel285posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       People cheat because they care more about their sexual urges than their partner.
       
       If someone cheats ONCE, yet they truly love their partner deeply, then they have made poor judgment. Perhaps due to intoxication? If so, this person might not be able to handle their piss. Alcohol changes people, that could be a reason.
       
       If one cheats being fully aware of what they are doing, this is pure selfishness. Selfishness may cause one to be unaware of how their actions might effect others, or maybe a selfish person simply doesn't care if they hurt others to get what they want. Perhaps a selfish person knows what their doing is wrong, and know full well that their partner would be devastated if they found out they had been cheated on..It doesn't matter THAT much to a selfish person anyway, because their needs and wants come first.
       
       If someone cheats reapeatedly, that person has no respect for their partner at all, and possibly no respect for themselves.

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       pylos26posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Both...ahhh...was just answering the hub...now wait just a minute!...you calling me a whore???

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       kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Ill have too tell u later....

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       shazwellynposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       because they feel loney and unloved.  They might be rejected in their existing relationship and have a need for love - to be appreciated and adored.
       
       Everyone wants to be loved, don't they?

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          Denno66posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Now that busy smiley face thingy is surely cheap Sex Education right there.

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             shazwellynposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Yes, well thought the smilies should have some fun too!  Thay've been at it all day, you know!!
             
             Great to see you bb!
             
             xxx

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                Denno66posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                They're like rabbits those two. Great to see you too, Shaz.

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       Rose Ella Mortonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       People are like walking flames, if they get to close a spark from the flame can caught you on fire.  After all that burning you just want to put the fire out.

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       Ghost32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       No clue, but love that title! 
       
       Um, seriusly?  Many different reasons.  Seems to me the worst mistake the non-cheating partner makes in many cases is to assume the reason is known.

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   floating mindposted 14 years ago

   I do not think it is possible to get a direct answer to your question.  Because, the reasons why people cheat can vary greatly from one person to the next.  Even if you place two different couples that cheat, in the same place, at the same time, you will find that each person will more than likely give a totally different reason as to why they cheated.
   
   Getting an honest answer is more doable, provided you are dealing with people who want to give a honest answer.
   
   Good luck.

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   Actually I find this pretty easy to answer- Romance is gone, trust issues, and a severe lack in communication in the present relationship.
   
   Therefore, one would easily cheat, because they probably feel it's already over. However, there are some who go into an affair, and feel guilty. Some don't.
   
   Either way, it's not a good direction for the relationship, no matter how you slice it.
   
   Hope I helped.

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      reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Very direct and honest....quite true in so many words

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      B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Agree completly, well said!

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   caravalhophotoposted 14 years ago

   Well, 1st I hope the word "whore" is describing either cheater.
   
   Okay...I found from my ex-husband, he cheated because he wasn't happy, wanted more, thought the grass was greener.
   
   That extra curricular affair ended in a 3 month marriage and a daughter he pays through the nose for...love it!
   
   He should of considered the 80/20 rule.

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      reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Oh WELLLLL.....I guess it doesn't pay to cheat lol

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      DeltaSecposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yep he totally deserved it, what happened to prenap ?>

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   getitriteposted 14 years ago

   I think it's because people are not really a monogamous species, particularly males.

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      reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Bad excuse!  DOn't get this twisted in feeling that because I am a female I have been cheated on....this is not the reason for my question.

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         getitriteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         OH!

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            tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            
            Take care !
            

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      mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      and those whores are so damn delectable!

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   Because they absolutely want to, not need to but want to.  Not that I know anything about this or anything :

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   Ivorwenposted 14 years ago

   From what I have seen, it is because the person cheating wants to get dumped.  They don't like who they are with anymore, and decide to make the other person hate them.

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      danielthorneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That is the most precise answer that I have ever heard...

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   Beth100posted 14 years ago

   From what I have gathered from some friends (male and female) this happens because they are not receiving what they would like from the relationship.  Without clear communication and a solution to the problem(s), they seek counsel, support as well as physical/emotional/mental contact outside of their relationship.

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      reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      your response makes sense.....that definitely can happen

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   EYEAM4ANARCHYposted 14 years ago

   It could be both.

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    By whore you are insinuating women which then leads me to believe you already have your answer and just wanted to post your opinion.  You should have posted it this way.  How sad it is that you feel a need to call a fellow woman a whore because of circumstances you know nothing about.  Look outside the box, there's a world of scenarios.  I hope you find some one day.

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Don't take it upon yourself to tell me what I really wanted to post!  I posted it the way I wanted to post it, don't try to get in my head neither jump to conclusions.  This question is not coming from a personally experience.  I am a woman, if it is hard for you to see that. Neither do I have a one track mind ...........get a grip--- you sound crazy!

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    caravalhophotoposted 14 years ago

    I know this sounds like an excuse, but maybe it has some kind of meaning, as far as using your past as an excuse.
    
    As a child, he was abused, neglected and molested.  Has had a very happy marriage however he does cheat...his reason, he likes to have forbidden sex...he enjoys the thought of being caught but sincerely does not want to be caught.
    
    Thought I would throw that out there...thoughts on his excuse and need?

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    If I have in the past been unfaithful to find comport due to abuse, am I a whore? Are you calling me a whore?

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       No one is calling you anything. Chill?

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       Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Lyricsingray, in my book anyone who is unfaithful could potentially qualify for that epithet.
       
       If you're unhappy in your marriage, leave.  To go on using your partner as a crutch, or a paycheck, or a f*ckbuddy until you can find something better, is just plain cowardly and unfair on your partner.

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          Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Well said

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          reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Yes ......tell em Marisa.....some folk can't handle the truth!  They'd rather make excuses or blame it on the rain. THen again you got to get on those people who allow people to get away with using them.  Maybe if they can't abuse or use, they may come to their senses and "change"!!!

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       unreal!

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       thirdmilleniumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       What I do not understand is why the sex part of it enters comforting! We seek comfort in blood relations often. Do we have sex with them? (Some do but that is another topic).

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          reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I didnt see this before.....if you are being abused in your relationship you don't venture out to find "comfort" and love through sex with someone else (a stranger).....You just LEAVE your abusive relationship altogether- PERIOD!!!!

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    Black Lillyposted 14 years ago

    Some people like having a crush from time to time, they just like the state of mind then.
    Others are bored and want a bit of fun and adrenalin - spice up your life
    Yet others want to change a partner, but are too afraid to say that straight.

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       If that is the case stay single and have as much fun as you can whenever you can, then in the end the only person you end up hurting is yourself.  Not someone you deem a clueless fool because you are getting away with disrespecting them.

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          Black Lillyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          That's just choices - you get what you choose.
          And you can call a cheater whatever you like - a whore, a sinner, a lost soul - that's you choice too. Just think about the words that come to your mind about the person whom your partner cheated with... should be quite spicy
          All those words, attitude (whore), tears, etc. is just your psychological defence - there's nothing you can change about it, no shortcut - you'll have to live with it. That's a big injustice, such whores should be set on fire straight away (remember how they did it in middle ages?), but it happens.
          
          The life on the other side of the fence also goes on, sometimes with "sorry" and roses, sometimes laughing at it when in bed with the next partner.
          
          No personal reference in the above. I'm a woman too, and would not like to be cheated on. But for now there is no insurance to get you covered on this.
          
          PS. As much as I've concerned, the most fun you get is cheating on cheaters. Requires a lot of time and energy though.
          Sometimes regret I'm now...retired from this

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             reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

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                Black Lillyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                I think you didn't quite get it...there's nothing painful in that.
                Saying "cheating on cheaters" I did not have in mind my partner cheating and me then cheating back (back and forth drama). Not the case.
                What I meant was dating a cheater (cheating on his partner), and then finding someone else on top of that (someone else who would also be cheating on his partner), whom he would know, but won't be able to do anything about it - like his boss (the first one knows, but has no control over it, and the second one has no clue).
                The most fun you have when after a long period of time everyone starts to understand what's going on and who has feelings for whom (on condition that the one in love is not you, and your own partner does not know about this "triangle"). Most of the times the first cheater gets in too deep.
                And if you involve yet someone else, like cheater No.3 or No.4...it gets really complicated
                
                Like I said, it's very intense, you learn a lot about people. And you do not judge or condemn on these grounds anymore.

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                   Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   You call playing with people's emotions, like a cat playing with a bird, "fun"?  ?????

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                      Black Lillyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      The same people play with your emotions to the extent beyond immagination. Plus they are cheating already - and take the risk once more.
                      It's no cat-bird thing. It's poker - everyone knows what bets they make.
                      The only bad thing here is cheating on your own partner. And I'm really not proud of this part, but the others...just fun.
                      
                      As I said, I'm retired

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                   rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   hmmm, why would any of that be fuN???

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    What's wrong in being a whore?
    I have friends that are.
    
    A cheater is not a whore. It's a human being doing something wrong.
    Or not.
    It depends on the circimstances.

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    logic,commonsenseposted 14 years ago

    Which is your preference?

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       preference regarding...What!

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    cheaptrickposted 14 years ago

    Because they have a Hole in there Soul and are trying to fill it by any means possible.Cheating is a symptom of lack of Integrity.If a person cheats in one way they will eventually cheat in all ways.Dignity is the foundation of integrity when a person surrenders there dignity by cheating the whole house will fall...

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       WOW!!!  Amazing! you got deep there...thanks for your honesty as well as insight!

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Betrayal of trust is a serious issue, I can't think of a time when it would be appropriate.

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    fishtiger58posted 14 years ago

    I think people cheat because they are unhappy in their present relationship. But I do believe that once a cheater always a cheater. It's the same with addiction, some people have addictive personalities and some don't. Back in the 70's, I had a friend and we partied. We tried various drugs and she became addicted to cocaine and I didn't. She lost everything she had before she got her act together. It took her over 20 years to give up all the junk and booze and that whole scene, while I tried some stuff and didn't become addicted. I guess it's a different mind set or life experience or something.

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    iantoPFposted 14 years ago

    Unfortunately there is a tendency to get married before being ready for the committment. This has nothing to do with physical age or depth of emotional feeling. Before getting married you have to ask yourself,
    "Am I prepared, that for the rest of my life, this is the only person I will ever have sex with?"
    Unless that question can be honestly, from deep down, answered with an affirmative, then marriage is not the answer.
    It is important, for our own happiness as well as the happiness of those we love, that we be true to ourselves in this regard. If it means never getting married so be it. This must be addressed first.

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       Black Lillyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Respect - very well said.
       Just be responsible for your own actions - that's the key.

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    Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

    It's the Heightened Buzz of knowing that you can; when you really know that you shouldn't

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       riske'  okay........

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    Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

    Im thinkin people cheat for different reasons ,but mostly because the thril (or lust) is pretty self indulgent...and self serving...serve me..me..me..me because I want what I want , and I want it now

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       okay...okay....okay, I got that makes sense! lol

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    History lesson : back in the late 60s early 70s (I read somewhere) the natives were restless after all that "wife-swapping" in the 50s and early 60s.  So - some of them had this idea to eliminate "cheating" by just taking "swapping" a tad further.  It was called "open marriage"  Remember?  Now, that turned out well for, oh, maybe 3 people.  Oh wow.  But I think of it wistfully, something in me would like to believe it possible to live in a world where there is no cheating, thus no whores, love is free - everyone free to have sex with whomever (except maybe, chickens - yuck) and children would still know who their father is because now - now we have DNA tests!

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       Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Whatever name its called , its basically advocating sex without committment right?  which works if one beleives we are 'animals' I guess.
       
       The chicken thing reminds me just last week a guy was arrested for having sex with his previous employers horse...apparently his second offence...
       
       So Im thinkin ...on one hand its abhorant, on the other , freedom to choose??  except of courseI daresay the horse had no say

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          iantoPFposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          But the Horse said "Neigh!"

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          mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Doesn't necessarily mean there is a lack of commitment to each other just because you agree to have sex with other people (responsibly, I add hastily)  I don't know why I brought it up, the one time I was in a relationship like that where we agreed (sorta) to have an "open" relationship I got insanely jealous and moved to a city on the other coast!  So . . . I just wanted to see what people thought of it.  I try to have an open mind
          
          as for bestiality, it really sickens me - and I don't want to talk about it - I love animals too much! no really, it is mole-estation!  or it could be, with moles.  Dam  I didn't want to make jokes about this. 

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             Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             I agree, you can't say someone is unfaithful if they're open and upfront about it with their partner, and their partner approves.  However as you say, approving in principle and coping with it in practice can be two different things!

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                Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                So what of vows etc, or are they just for a season ,after all who knows how or who we gonna feel later on...me me me thing again ...and heres what I dont get ..if its an open relationship , then its not a marriage...( or did that defination get rewritten too)?

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                   Marisa Wrightposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   I believe we should live and let live. I would never want an open relationship but if it works for some people and all parties are genuinely happy with the arrangement, what business is it of mine?

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    cindyvineposted 14 years ago

    Bestaility is a little sick I agree

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    Bovine Currencyposted 14 years ago

    In most cases I would say neither bored nor whore.  Communication issues is more likely.

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    GeneralHowitzerposted 14 years ago

    Its lust my dear why there are whores (sorry for the word)

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    sex or lust is abated once you release already, how about thereafter..

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    I'm sure every situation is unique, sometimes it's rather simple, sometimes it isn't. I know marriage is supposed to be for better or worse, but I don't think too many people can live for too long under worse conditions. The short answer is, if there is true love there won't be cheating, if there isn't then it's time to move on and accept the fact that sometimes people fall out of love.

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I'll second that !!!!!!!!!!!

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       reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Thankyou for that mature response!

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    womne and men cheat for various reasons, they are usually insecurity, excitement, boredom, and revenge, but as I said it is multi faceted,,
    
    Hi POPPA

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       Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Couldn't agree more...there is no ONE reason why men or women cheat.

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    dmyers7usposted 14 years ago

    I think sometimes it's "the grass is greener" syndrome rearing it's head.  If you're happy in your relationship you may be tempted but you don't want to ruin what you've got so you resist.  If you're unhappy you may continue looking, even subconsciously, for something more.  Sometimes it's the rush.  I think it depends on the person and their relationship.

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    bloodnlatexposted 14 years ago

    People can cheat for any number of reasons. 
    Their current relationship could be all but over, and they are looking to move on.
    While they still may love their partner, they maybe bored with the physical aspect of it.
    They may be looking for some sort of affirmation that they still can get the attention of a younger generation.
    They may be into certain fetishes that their partners will not comply to, or that they are too embarrassed to confess to their partner.
    Then you always have to take into consideration the moment of weakness situation.
    
    In the end, there is no one reason that someone cheats.  People do what they do for thier own reasons.

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       Anathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That was profound BnL.  I've never really analized my reasons before (I suppose I was not looking for an excuse) but all your reasons are valid.  Boredom with the same hanky panky, desire to try new things that your current partner doesn't want to, reaffirmation that you can still get attention from someone younger and good looking, fetishes...  and of course there is also the UPS! "not sure why I did that" LOL

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          bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Then there is always my excuse for a fling with you, 'Look at her she's goregous, I wouldn't respect myself in the morning if I didn't at least try.'

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             Anathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             I wouldn't respect YOU if you didn't ;-)

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                bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                My point exactly!

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    In any case if your woman has cheated on you that doesn't make her a "whore". For whatever reason she strayed and it's best to let her go and remember the good times you had together and to now seek more of the same with someone new.

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    iamcoolguyposted 14 years ago

    Why people cheat eh? Hem... I didn't cheat, so I didn't know what I should tell you. But from what I heard from my friends, it's not about being bored, it's just that they want to "have some fun". And of course, since it's just to "have some fun", it's not considered as cheating until... yeah, they cheated.

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    bloodnlatexposted 14 years ago

    Hey Tantrum, great new pic!  Wanna cheat?

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       tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Why not ?
       I'm a great cheater !

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          cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          haha
          
          hmm let's see if the 'gorgeous scantily-clad woman avatar driving up hub scores' theory is really true
          
          anyway, i like it! it's so tantrumy
          
          (and yes i know it is you. wooHOO)

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             tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Lol!
             Lets see !
             

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          bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Good times, what do you say I stop by for a nooner?

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             tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Only that ?
             I'm dissappointed !

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                bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                I just said I'd stop by at noon, I never said anything about leaving....

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                   tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Love Blood...and latex !

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    BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years ago

    It totally depends on circumstances. Perhaps an old love seems new again and is simply too tempting to resist. Perhaps the person doing the cheating feels like they've been wronged and the relationship has been soiled anyway so screw it! Maybe they're tired of being second on the list of importance and the new person makes them feel like they are the only one one on the list.
    
    Not that i would know or anything. I am not a whore or bored, though.

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    BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years ago

    and btw, tantrum, that is a completely hot new avatar! i'm jealous.

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       tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Don't be !
       this is my best pose. Really I'm kind of fat
       Don't tell anyone !

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          BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Skinny bitches are ovverated!!! Girls with curves are hotter! I know, I am one!!!

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             BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Overrated. duh.

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             bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             The times I've been with skinny model chics, I've been afraid I'd break them or something.  There is nothing worse than sending them home with exrta pieces.

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                BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                

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          reeltaulkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Don't worry next time I will do a HOOK UP! Forum....place your info here Forum, if you are looking for a quick fix!

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          Mrs.Nitaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          R u crazy! Fat where. I'm trying to get my body to look like that.lol!

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    Bored or just a whore?
    
    What do you think ?
    

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       bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hmmm...Well do you charge?  Because after all Whores charge and Sluts do it for free!

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          bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I'm just kidding, I'm really not calling you either... It's just a saying

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          tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I am only bored, sorry !

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             bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             That's cool!  That's why I love ya!

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                tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                
                ( I love you too ! Shhhhhh!! )

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                   prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   HMMMM< hear no gossip, I know all along, wheres MOW, blood?

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                      bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      She ..Umm..Went away for awhile....

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                         tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         You cheater !!!!

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                            bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                            It's cool she just likes to watch anyway, so I'll set up a cam and show her when she gets back

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    cosetteposted 14 years ago

    haha!

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    Friendlywordposted 14 years ago

    I'm a Bored Whore.

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       tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       

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          alexandriaruthkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          LOL,

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    Anamika Sposted 14 years ago

    I have written Hubs on why men/women cheat
    
    Why men cheat in relationships
    http://hubpages.com/hub/Relationships-C … ds-Spouses
    
    why women cheat in relationships
    http://hubpages.com/hub/Cheating-Husban … ationships

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    cindyvineposted 14 years ago

    Anamika is an ace relationsjip expert, she'll fix all the manwhores and bored whores, eh Anamika?

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    habeeposted 14 years ago

    My ex and I both cheated. I think it was like a drug addiction - a "sexual high." Now I'm older, hopefully wiser, and I'm in a stronger, happier marriage.

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       prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       good for you habee, wazz up?

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       lorlie6posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Same here, habee, though we toughed all of it out and stayed together.  Now we're old and dull.  And drug-free.  Love every minute!

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    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Hi, PDH! I'm taking a break from decorating the house for Christmas. Wazzup with you?

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    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Hi, Lorlie. I think at my age -51- old and dull are good things! I no lika da drama.

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    lorlie6posted 14 years ago

    G'mornin' habee!  I'm 53 and couldn't agree more.  Drama used to be another addiction I think, but now my motto is "The Less the Merrier!"

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    habeeposted 14 years ago

    I totally agree. I used to thrive on the D, but now, I avoid it like the plague.

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       lorlie6posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I like that, 'the D,' mostly because it is swirling 'round me since my son and his girlfriend and their dog, 2 cats, 5 newborn kittens, snake and hamster have moved in temporarily.  It's a veritable madhouse at the moment.

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    Mrs.Nitaposted 14 years ago

    I agree people cheat for many reasons.  To be quite honest, i've thought about cheating on my husband.  Mainly when we are bumping heads which is often or for other more personal reasons.  I don't because no one made me get married to him, it's what I chose so I feel like I have to deal with the consequences.  But if he cheats on me and I find out, it's over plain and simple.

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    jennafawposted 14 years ago

    They cheat because they're bored with you [whoever the person is] .

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    dashingscorpioposted 14 years ago

    There are different reasons why people cheat.
    More often than not it's to fill some type of void which may or may not reside in his or her relationship.
    
    Cheating is a cowardly selfish act committed by those who lack the courage to ask for what they want or leave their current relationship.
    
    Cheating is about being unable or unwilling to communicate a change of heart.
    Once you determine you no longer want to keep a promise or vow you have made to someone... You owe it to them to let them know.
    
    Monogamy is NOT NATURAL.
    It's a "Life style choice" which requires maturity, self-discipline, and a personal moral code which places honesty as the top priority when dealing with loved ones.
    
    Making any promise "for life" will have it's challenges.
    "Forsaking all others". Exchanging vows are akin to promising to eat low fat foods, lean meats, and working out 3-4 times a week forever.
    
    Most people making the promise actually mean it at the time. The gyms are always packed in January but by May or June the numbers are down to the die hard and truly committed regulars.
    Temptation is all around and those who are weak will slip easily.
    As I mentioned before monogamy requires self-discipline.
    Maturity is also needed to be able to communicate a change of heart before stepping out on someone.

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       cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       well spoken, i agree with all the bolded parts.

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    Countess Batulaposted 14 years ago

    I cheated once before. The rel was dead and clearly over ( I broke up with him but he refused to leave my house)and I wasn't getting what I needed so I went to get it somewhere else.

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       Betty Reidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Wow.  I'm not sure that counts as cheating.  Sounds more like tolerating a trespassing ex.

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