When do you give up on a dream?

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   HeatherH104posted 10 years ago

   When do you give up on a dream?
   
   How to you keep a "yet to be achieved" dream alive, even if the odds of the dream being attainable low? Should you ever resign to give up?
   
   

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   Toytastingposted 10 years ago

   There is no dream that remains underachieved, if we have worked hard for that.  If it is not fulfilled then either we didn't work hard or put in all our efforts. So for me there is no time to give up our dream. if we want something desperately we get that. if not sooner then later.

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   annartposted 10 years ago

   Your illustration says it all!  Never give up; some dreams might be far-fetched but even those are possible, given lots of effort and probably a lot of luck too. 
   If we don't have dreams, however small, then what's the point?  They are something to drive us on, to aspire to, to make the world a better place and to make us stronger, so my answer is 'Never!'

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   Steve Witschelposted 10 years ago

   Never give up.
   
   HP thinks that answer is too short, so I'll elaborate. If you have a dream; a passion; a burning desire to have or achieve something...never let go. There will be obstacles, challenges, hurdles, and struggles. But if it's a dream for you and it means something to you, then it is your birthright to keep it alive.
   
   Never give up.

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   suzzycueposted 10 years ago

   I am not a quitter. Picture it in your mind and it will become reality.

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   starsofeightposted 10 years ago

   Let's be practical -- life gets in the way. I wanted to be an artist, but the starving part was more than I could carry. I wanted to be a musician, but I had to get a job and pay the bills. I wanted to be a famous author, but the middle man wanted money I had already promised to the utilities company.
   
   Don't get me wrong -- I have achieved art, lost now to the tides of time. I have written for an audience locked away in someone's strongbox. I have achieved music which is farmed out over the internet for other artists to like in a points game that goes round and round.
   
   I have worked toward the dream, but now in my sixtieth year, I channel my remaining energies into what really works -- work. The dream is still there, but I know all too well that the world is peopled by the successful and unsuccessful alike.
   
   The dream is always with us. I have not stopped buying Power Ball tickets just because I am a loser.

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   Cyndi10posted 10 years ago

   Your choice of illustration is on point. My answer is never. Some dreams may not become a reality because life is too short and far too interesting to get to achieve everything you may have dreams about, but that is the one thing that can't be taken away from until you breathe your last. Some dreams actually continue on, taken up by others and finally fulfilled.

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   rambansalposted 10 years ago

   When I am cheated by a person related to the dream and I had trusted him. Hubpages admin is such an entity to force me to give up my dream.

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   cptjarumposted 10 years ago

   I think never. The thing about giving up on your dreams is that you will forever wonder what could have been and you don't want to be that person that always tell people what they could have been and what life could have been.

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    jada67posted 10 years ago

    A dream should never be given up on, there are no time phases on dreams. I feel that a dream is the one thing that truly belong to the one who is dreaming, it can be shared or kept to one self. jada67

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    liesl5858posted 10 years ago

    My answer to your question would be "Never Give Up" on your dream. If you fail once or twice, try again sooner or later you will achieve your dream but it needs all your effort, time and dedication too. Dreams are achievable by people who have determination and drive to get what they want in life. Good luck.

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    suzettenaplesposted 10 years ago

    I don't know.  I have never given up on a dream!

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    Ericdierkerposted 10 years ago

    To me this notion of a dream is a destination. If we think about that it is just really cool. I try to live by and teach my children that the destination is really good to arrive at but when you do the journey is over. I keep my dreams just out of reach. Giving up on dreams would be like reaching a final destination and stopping there. Yuk. Many dream of a concept of Heaven well I do. And I hope it remains unattainable for a whole lot longer. Funny I never dreamed about having a rich and full and abundant life.But here I sit.

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    ljonesmccloudposted 10 years ago

    Upon death. Our mind will hold on to ideas —right or wrong — until we change our mind about it or our heart stops beating.

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    JustCraftyposted 10 years ago

    I haven't given up on my dream of a different job but for almost 19 years I have been unable to get out of the career that I have been in and am close to giving up on it.  I can't advance in the field that I am in because I can't get the experience I need to do it.
    I've taken the training, got the education, and can't get the hands on experience to allow me to qualify for the next level job that I so desperately want to have.
    I ask every boss and apply to any companies that I see hiring for the position that I want but no luck or success and loosing the thought of my dream becoming reality.

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       HeatherH104posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I'm really sorry to hear of your situation. I hope someone finally takes a chance on you. I wish there was something I could do to help.

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    Barbara Kayposted 10 years ago

    I was given the good advice to never give up on a dream. Just keep working at it, even when it looks impossible. You'll enjoy trying to achieve it as much as having the dream and you never know what can happen in the future.

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    carol7777posted 10 years ago

    Not all dreams come true, but many do.  Many years ago I wanted to be locally famous...I was relentless..It came true, but I forgot to put making money in that dream

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    Eileen Hughesposted 10 years ago

    Never ever give up, even when everything is against you.  You have to get right back up and work towards that dream. You have to take it baby steps in the beginning then step by step until you achieve more and more.
    
    Never think negative- always think Positive.

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    Sri Tposted 10 years ago

    If you give up, substitute the old dream with a better dream. It really comes down to getting the right answers and taking the right actions if one has acquired the proper training. One should never be bound to one dream. Some people have several businesses, hobbies and crafts.

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    cygnetbrownposted 10 years ago

    Never give up! You may need to change your strategies, but never your dream!

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    The Examiner-1posted 10 years ago

    I would think that the only time for you to give up on your dream is if you stop having it. If you keep having it then it means that you should not give up on it. It may be a daydream or dream which you have at night but if it keeps appearing, even parts of it, then it means you should not give up on the dream. You may just need to build the dream slowly simply by adding something, or things, like income, accessories, etc.

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    emilynemchickposted 10 years ago

    It depends on the dream. If you dream of bumping into Channing Tatum in your local supermarket and living happily ever after with him, you should give it up.
    
    If your dream is something which will help you be true to yourself, my answer is never give up!
    
    I've been struggling to become a successful writer for about a year, and I'm still fighting. It's an unlikely dream, but I am focused on it and try hard every day to get closer to my goal. From square one a year ago I've come a long way but it's going to be a long, hard road - and I might never reach my goal. Even so, I'd rather work hard trying to achieve the impossible than do a job I hate and just give up on it.
    
    My other dream is to one day live in Japan. It's something I can't do right now or in the foreseeable future - my marriage and finances both make it impossible - but still I won't give it up just yet. I keep this dream alive by learning a little Japanese on the side where I can and just enjoying life as it is now until it is a possibility.
    
    Dreams aren't supposed to be easy to attain - you have to chase them, but it's the chase that makes the accomplishment worth the while. I tend to think people give up on their dreams if they don't have enough faith in themselves or aren't willing to work for what they want.
    
    Others might say that sometimes it is logical to give up on a dream and live in reality. That can be true too - sometimes you can be so busy chasing a dream you don't see what you have now. That is why I think that you should enjoy the process of getting there too.

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    CraftytotheCoreposted 10 years ago

    There are always going to be obstacles.  But what is there to look forward to if there is nothing past the road block.

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    Carola Finchposted 10 years ago

    Sometimes we chase dreams that don't fit our talents and aspirations.  You see it all the time on reality shows like "American Idol" and "X-Factor."  There are a number of signs that it is time to give up:
    
    - you are constantly frustrated because you feel like you are a square peg in a round hole
    - you don't feel the satisfaction of a job well done
    - you get a lot of negative feedback and little or no praise and encouragement
    - you aren't willing to work hard and make sacrifices to fulfil your dream
    - you are hounded by a desire to give up

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    HeatherH104posted 10 years ago

    I'm so glad I asked this question, all of you have given thought provoking and insightful answers. I'm starting to think that even with talent and drive dreams are not always attainable. I am a song writer and spent a little money years ago making demos of two of my songs. Hundreds of music publishers either said "thanks but no thanks" or didn't even bother to respond. I don't have a name or connection and so far no one will take a chance. I've put my songs up for sale on iTunes, amazon, and a few others but other than me promoting through social networks they are not getting noticed. It's fine - just disappointing. I was hoping to write and sell music from home because I love it and it would allow me to stay home.
    Thanks for all of your responses - I've learned something from each of you.

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    edhanposted 10 years ago

    I make my dreams as my goals and I had achieved most of what I was looking for. Now it is my final phase of my life where I look forward to the day my children start their own families. It is good as not to set your dreams too far to be reached. I am always realistic and my goals are well within my reach.

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    yankeeintexasposted 10 years ago

    Dreams that we have when we are younger are much different than the dreams we have when we are older. The dreams that I had when I was in my 20's are very different now! You just need to look at your dreams and figure out which one just silly, and which others you really want to achieve.

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    LongTimeMotherposted 10 years ago

    Keep writing your songs, HeatherH104. You don't fail until you stop trying.

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       HeatherH104posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you LongTimeMother. A little encouragement really goes a long way.

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    desaiamarjeetposted 10 years ago

    NEVER.......... I never give up my dream. Since childhood I am passionate about cars and even after 30 years I am still dreaming to own one.

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    lone77starposted 10 years ago

    Sometimes!
    
    When you find that your dream is undesirable, drop it!
    
    What if Hitler found that murdering millions of people wasn't such a hot dream, after all?
    
    Always do a self-assessment. Where am I relative to my goal? Is my goal still worthy? Why did I choose my goal in the first place?
    
    I've had lots of goals and have given up on many of them, simply because there's only one of me and not enough time in this universe to accomplish them all. And that's saying a lot, because I am an immortal child of God with plenty of memory of numerous past lives and between lives, too.
    
    Choose your goals carefully. And then go after them as if your life depended on it. Fearlessly. Generously. Lovingly.
    
    Right now, my goal is spiritual rebirth. I've been working on it for several lifetimes. And I'm getting close. I discovered that ego is the biggest barrier. Now, I'm going in for the kill. (Die, ego, die!)

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    PoeticFailosophyposted 10 years ago

    Tuesday is my designated day for giving up on dreams.

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    wittywanderer42posted 10 years ago

    You don't. Sometimes our dreams are what keep us going. It is like we see it there at the end of the line. On the way, we encounter obstacles: realities of life that we have to face. My dream? A college diploma. I was not able to finish college for financial reasons. I got married and now have a daughter who is in high school. But i can still see that diploma at the end of the line. Problems beset our family, financial problems mostly. But giving up has not crossed my mind. I never once thought that life will always be this way. I always think of that diploma and it wills me to go on. I will have that diploma, even if I get it the same time my daughter does. Notice that along the way, as we look far ahead to that end of the line, as we try chasing that dream, we have accomplished things that we never thought we would. If we stop dreaming we confine ourselves to the here and now, and in the end we will be left wondering about "What could have been" and the "What ifs" in our lives.

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    Tyler Funkposted 10 years ago

    The best time to give up on a dream is when it no longer excites or inspires you.
    
    Many people would suggest giving up on unrealistic dreams, but I disagree with that sentiment. If a dream is unrealistic in the present but it still inspires you then for the time being put it aside and pursue more realistic - if more short term - goals.
    
    The beauty of a dream is that it doesn't have to be realistic or practical. It can be the most ridiculously unreachable of goals - the fantastic nature of a dream is what makes it a dream rather than a specific concrete goal.
    
    Your dream doesn't have to be the center of your universe. Take your dream job, for example. You can pursue a realistic career in the food services industry while you dream of becoming an internationally best selling author. Many people who can write well know that writing does not necessarily pay much, but you can always write on the side while you make your real living by other means. The same holds true for dreams of making a living singing, acting or playing professional sports.
    
    The best part of having a dream that you never give up on is that it can inspire you to have more fun and be more optimistic in your daily routine, including in your current less than dreamy job.
    
    A waitress aspiring to be an actress may get more tips for having a generally upbeat personality and brightening people's days with her optimism. Having an inspirational dream may help her earn more money in her current profession by inspiring her to a great attitude to whatever she does.
    
    No matter how unrealistic your dream may seem, don't give it up until it no longer inspires you. Having a dream is a sign that you believe in yourself and can help you reinforce your self esteem, which is always practical in your current circumstances even if the dreams in your heart are not.
    
    When your dream finally ceases to amaze and inspire you, it is time for a new dream. Until then, dream on!

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