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Should you say something, if the same guys are starring at you in naughty ways w

  1. Jenneez profile image59
    Jenneezposted 6 years ago

    Should you say something, if the same guys are starring at you in naughty ways while you workout?

    Okay, there are a some guys, a few really cute, that keep starring me down while I workout in the gym. It's okay to look and that's fine, I don't mind that, but when they huddle up over by their area where they are working out and keep looking as though they could stare a whole through you and hungry like a starved lion should you pretend you don't see it, or should you say something? Smiling and saying hello, isn't doing it? However, I didn't say it's a bad thing,but when they keep looking at you in ways like they can't stop, it's a little creepy! Any suggestions would be great!


  2. Neil Sperling profile image83
    Neil Sperlingposted 6 years ago

    LOL - One thing you could do is count your blessings that you look good enough to attract attention....

    If you want them to stop looking your way, make sure you avoid noticing them.... and or, wear very ugly baggy yucky gym cloths and eat lots of garlic every day!

  3. Pollyannalana profile image87
    Pollyannalanaposted 6 years ago

    Nah, just take your husband with you once, he will take care of it. I think Neil is trying to deal with it and he hasn't even seen you, lol.

  4. Writer David profile image78
    Writer Davidposted 6 years ago

    Well, I'm not saying I recommend you do this.  But, my wife (ex-wife now) had this same exact problem playing tennis when she was in her early 20s (this was before we married and she was very well built also I might add).  Guys on the adjacent courts would not pay much attention to their game.  They were gawking at her and snickering together at the net.  Finally, she got enough of it. She walked over to them grouped together.  She told them, "You know, I think it's cute that you guys stare at me the way you do. It brings back memories of the way boys stared at me at middle school soccer practice. They snickered and laughed just as you do now.  Of course, they were 12 and 13 years old.  How old you guys?'  They were speechless. 

    She told me they never gave her any more problems.

  5. Alastar Packer profile image85
    Alastar Packerposted 6 years ago

    Jeeneez. That is terrible gym etiquette. Those dudes need a lesson. Short of reporting them here's one possible solution: Find a man you think would look intimidating in the gym and ask him for a favor. Ask him if for one or two times when you see the boys doing that, would it be alright if you walk over to him, chat a little and have him throw the boys a direct glance. If your up for something like that it'll work. Good luck with your situation whatever you decide to do.

  6. Matt in Jax profile image69
    Matt in Jaxposted 6 years ago

    Definitely have to confront them in a smart @$$, but funny way of putting them down and telling them at the same time that it's over the top and creepy. But Neil's kind of right also...but sweat pants can be sexy so beware.

  7. Wayne Brown profile image84
    Wayne Brownposted 6 years ago

    I would re-evaluate what I was doing first.  If their attention is undesired, look objectively at your workout outfits and question whether you are sending a message that you really don't want to send.  If that is not the case, then you need to find ways of ignoring them...any little morsel you toss their way just encourages them to continue in their behavior.  Change the spot where you work out...i.e. change the treadmill location, face the other direction...there are lots of ways to send the message.  These guys are like construction workers standing on the corner watching pretty girls...those who offer any encouragement at all get more than they want back from them...cast them off gently. WB

  8. Loveslove profile image58
    Lovesloveposted 6 years ago

    Take a photo along to your next session..if they are there give it to them and say something like..'You seem to find me fascinating,have a picture it will last after im gone home ''
    It might work .....it worked for me once many moons ago !!

  9. nightwork4 profile image61
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    walk up to them and say " shake your head, your eyes are stuck" if they don't get the hint from that, tell them to f-off.